It’s been a few weeks since I posted anything in my “Managing Grief” series, but it’s not because there was nothing more to suggest, simply I couldn’t write the words down. As many of you will know, there have been two bereavements in my own family in the last couple of months (my Dad and my aunt), and I think it’s only been in the last few weeks that I’ve begun to truly grieve for them.
Anyway, onto today’s thoughts on how to manage your grief…
Be realistic in your expectations.
In Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies by Marta Felber, Marta writes the following:
My loved one died on January 25. Almost immediately, I began to dread the next Christmas without him, exactly 11 months away!
The way in which she coped with her anxiety about the coming Christmas was to plan carefully and keep her expectations realistic:
“Try to have reasonable expectations. There are important ways in which celebrations will not, and cannot, ever be the same again. So it is okay to plan for them to be different. Be realistic about what you can handle, both physically and emotionally. Be kind to yourself and nurturing.”