Posts Tagged ‘emotion’

It’s About Reaction

Posted: April 5, 2013 in friendship, language, life, management, words
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You can’t control what people say about you but you can control how you react. So let them talk, keep your head held high and know that you are the better person! Now that is being in control!

It’s not always easy to stay in control of both your words and your emotions when someone is shouting at your are saying things about you which aren’t true. However it can sometimes help they calm down quicker and reassess their reaction, if they realise you are not going to get dragged into a slagging match with them…after all it could just be the person was just looking for an argument!

So be the bigger person, stay calm and stay in control of your emotions and your reaction.

Selfcontrol

 

The Problem With Emails…

Posted: November 20, 2012 in friendship, life, love, words
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…is you don’t know the emotion or feelings the writer was experiencing when they wrote the email. Which in turn means it’s entirely up to the reader to determine how they think the writer intended the email to come across.

I’ve experienced this myself first hand a number of occasions, where people have completely misunderstood an email I have sent them, simply because they read the email thinking I’d meant to emphasis entirely different bits of the email than I actually did, or that I wrote it with particular thoughts and emotions in my mind. The result in a couple of occasions was devastating – People got annoyed and friendships where irreparably damaged, and even now, years on, I feel the pain.

Last week I was reminded of this again when someone commented to me about an email they had received, quoting the content to me and emphasizing particular words in it. They were annoyed at how the writer had worded the email, however having been told what the email said, I pointed out that I wouldn’t have taken the email to mean the same as they had. I asked if there were any words in the email underlined or emboldened, and was informed that none were. I then questioned why the person who was telling me this, had emphasised specific words in the email, as in doing this they had completely changed the meaning of the email.

So the problem with emails is that we rely on our own interpretation of the emotion put into the typing. When we are talking to someone, we subconsciously use what we see, in the speaker’s expression and what we hear in their voice, along with the actual words they are saying, to determine how we think they feel and the emotion they want to impart in their words. Unfortunately, when we send an email, the recipient only has our words to determine what they think we’re trying to express.

I’m continuing to try to be more careful when I write emails, and would urge you to do the same – Be careful when you’re writing emails that you leave no room for the recipient to misinterpret your words.

Help Someone

Posted: October 14, 2012 in blogging, family, friendship, life, love, music, religion
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In yesterday’s blog post Helping Isn’t Always Easy I spoke about a situation I’ve been in recently where I been finding it quite difficult to help someone in need. So I wondered, was it just coincidence that today I came across the following quote?

Stop talking about what everybody has done to you and start talking about what you can do for somebody else.

Life isn’t about the past and what has happened in it, it’s about living in the present and looking to the future. Therefore forgive those who have hurt you in the past, move on, and find things you can do to help others. After all there are so many people in need in this world it’s not difficult to find someone who needs your help!

Helping isn’t always easy however there are plenty of people in this world in need of help so don’t be put off just because some may not react in the manner you’d expect when you try to help them.

You Can’t Be In Pain! #3

Posted: October 9, 2012 in blogging, depression, friendship, Health, life, management
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The last couple of days I’ve give you some examples of situations where the physical pain being experienced by someone, can be easily overlooked or ignored by others. Today however I want to remind you that although I’ve focused on physical pain for the last couple of days, it’s not just physical pain that people overlook.

Physical pain can be debilitating and draining but emotional pain can cause just as much pain and fatigue. Unfortunately though, emotional pain is often dismissed something the sufferer can just turn off when they get in the way. However those sentiments couldn’t be further from reality!

Having struggled both physically and emotionally on a number of levels for some time, I can honestly say that I’m not entirely sure which is worse, physical or emotional pain. In some ways physical pain is actually easier to cope with because normally there is at least a reason for the pain and pain killers can often help ease the pain to some extent. However when you’re suffering emotionally, there is no quick fix, as there no “emotional pain-killer” that can just turn off your feelings and suddenly make the world seem brighter and more appealing again.

So please remember that just because you can’t see anything physically wrong with someone, doesn’t mean they are necessarily well physically or emotionally. So don’t judge others, particularly when you’re simply doing it based on what you can see.

It’s Not About Feelings

Posted: September 2, 2012 in depression, Health, life, love, music, religion
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Do you serve God or do you serve your own feelings?

What do I mean by that? Well do you truly live your life for God, following His instructions and trusting Him in all situations, or do you let your life be controlled by your own feelings and emotions?

As a Christian, I try to lead the life God wants me to live, and with His help, I try not to let my own feelings and emotions dictate how I live my life. That doesn’t mean I find it easy to keep my emotions from ruling my life sometimes, particularly during times when I’m struggling to stay emotionally strong because of the circumstances in life I’ve having to deal with.

That’s why, during our most difficult times, when our emotions and feeling are threatening to take over our life, we must continue to trust God, and believe in His Word, and not let our feelings rule us.

Let’s all try to stay focusing on God and not let our feelings and emotions control our lives.

Happiness Is A State of Mind

Posted: August 23, 2012 in friendship, life, music, religion
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Have you every come across someone who seems to be habitually unhappy? I guess we’ve all known someone like that at some time in our lives…aren’t they a bit of a misery!

I read the following quote from Abraham Lincoln yesterday that reinforces the fact that happiness can often be a state of mind:

Most of us are just about as happy as we make up our minds to be

I guess those who are habitually unhappy, do not try very hard to be happy. After all, take a look around you, I’m many of the people you work with, attend school or college with all have things going on in their lives which could make them unhappy and upset if they let it. However most of us do our best to be happy when we’re in public and “pretend” all is well.

When we see someone smile, it can often make us smile even if inwardly we really don’t feel like it. So let’s endeavour to make happiness our state of mind and spread a little happiness wherever we go.

The Healer

Posted: June 6, 2012 in dementia, depression, family, friendship, Health, heart, life, love, music, pray, prayer
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The Hurt and the Healer by MercyMe

Why?
The question that is never far away
The healing doesn’t come from the explained
Jesus please don’t let this go in vain
You’re all I have
All that remains
 
So here I am
What’s left of me
Where glory meets my suffering
I’m alive
Even though a part of me has died
You take my heart and breathe it back to life
I’ve fallen into Your arms open wide
When the hurt and the healer collide
 
Breathe
Sometimes I feel it’s all that I can do
Pain so deep that I can hardly move
Just keep my eyes completely fixed on You
Lord take hold and pull me through
 
So here I am
What’s left of me
Where glory meets my suffering
I’m alive
Even though a part of me has died
You take my heart and breathe it back to life
I’ve fallen into your arms open wide
When the hurt and the healer collide
 
It’s the moment when humanity
Is overcome by majesty
When grace is ushered in for good
And all our scars are understood
When mercy takes its rightful place
And all these questions fade away
When out of the weakness we must bow
And hear You say “It’s over now”
 
I’m alive
Even though a part of me has died
You take my heart and breathe it back to life
I’ve fallen into your arms open wide
When The hurt and the healer collide
Jesus come and break my fear
Awake my heart and take my tears
Find Your glory even here
 
When the hurt and the healer collide [x2]
Jesus come and break my fear
Awake my heart and take my tears
Find Your glory even here

 

It can be difficult at times when you’re hurting or struggling with life, and that’s why some of the words in this song as so real to me, particularly at the moment…

Breathe
Sometimes I feel it’s all that I can do
Pain so deep that I can hardly move
Just keep my eyes completely fixed on You
Lord take hold and pull me through

The song mentions pain, and in life that pain can be physical and/or emotional, however whichever it is, they are both equally difficult to cope with.

Yes, I’m struggling, and yes I’m struggling physically and emotionally, but I do still believe God is with me and despite my pain, He will keep hold of me, and He will pull me through.

If you’re struggling, please don’t forget that God can heal your hurt if you just keep your eyes completely fixed on Him.

Letting Go

Posted: June 5, 2012 in cross, friendship, life, love, music, prayer, religion
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I’m sure many of you are like me and hang onto possessions, memories and emotions which you really should have thrown out long ago.

Sometimes we hold onto people and/or emotions which are negative or detrimental to our Christian growth, but that doesn’t seem to bother us. Why?

Is it because we think we know better than God about what’s good for us?

Today please take a few minutes to review the belongs, emotions and people that are in your life, and identify those which you really shouldn’t hang onto any more. After all I’m sure we can all think of people in our lives who, for want of a better way of putting it, bring out the worst in us! I’m sure we all let our mind wander to events/memories which maybe caused us pain or anger at the time, and when we think about them even now, they still cause us pain or anger.

These are all things we need to let go of by giving them to God, and leaving them there.

I know that can be very tough, but take it from someone who has let past hurts and angers continue to affect me years after they occurred, keeping hold of them is poisonous both to our life and our faith. I finally realised this after many years of pain and anger over one situation, that I really had to “let it go” and give it all to God. I can honestly say, that having done that it made a huge difference to me, as although I still think about the situation sometimes, I now look at the positives that came from that situation, rather than focusing on the pain and anger I felt in the immediate aftermath.

So in conclusion, let go and let God!

Why Oh Why

Posted: March 20, 2012 in bible, friendship, life, love, music, religion
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Why does life always have to be so complicated?

You think everything is going along ok, maybe not perfectly, but your surviving and getting by, and then out the blue someone says or does something that knocks you for six.

I had one of those days recently and I’m still full of emotion because of it. To be honest I’m not sure yet whether I’m more annoyed or upset by it, but one thing for certain is that it has affected me and I’m struggling to understand why the situation was handled the way it was by others.

Psalm 18:16-18 (New Living Translation)

He reached down from heaven and rescued me; he drew me out of deep waters. He rescued me from my powerful enemies, from those who hated me and were too strong for me. They attacked me at a moment when I was in distress, but the LORD supported me.

Yes, we all question what happens in our life at times. However it’s those times that make us stronger people, and it’s by God‘s help we can get through those testing times. All we have to do is trust in Him.

Wounded

Posted: February 16, 2012 in family, friendship, Health, hospital, life, love, music, news, politics, pray, prayer, religion, terrorism, Travel
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When we take about wounds, I personally tend to think of soldiers and their battle scars. However soldiers are far from being the only people who have “battle-scars” – Yes, it’s true the majority of us have never fought in a war or conflict, however I’m sure we’ve all had our fair share of battle-scars, maybe just a few of us with physical scars, but I’m sure we’ve all got loads of emotional scars.

Think about some of your own scars, I’m sure regardless of whether you are thinking about a physical or an emotional scar, they were very painful at the time you received them…and I’m sure some of them are still very raw and painful even now.

Imagine you had never received any of those scars, would your life still be the same today?

I’m sure that if I hadn’t experienced the physical and emotional scars I carry today, my life would be very different – I think if your honest, you’d agree with me on this one.

Every experience we go through, physical and emotional, makes us the person we are today. Every experience we go through builds or breaks our faith in God. I pray that your life experiences have brought you closer to God. If they haven’t, give God another chance, as He can make your every experience a God-filled one.

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