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Today, the 25th April is another sad day for us, as today would have been my Dad’s 86th birthday.

Dad at our weddingIt’s now just over 2 months since my Dad passed away, but just typing these words have started my tears flowing again. It really doesn’t seem like 2 months since Dad died, mind you a lot of that has to do with the fact in that interim time as many of you know, my Mum’s older sister, my Aunt Mae, also passed away. My Aunt Mae’s funeral was just over 2 weeks ago, so I’ve found that since then, I’ve finally been able to grieve for my Dad, as up until then I never really got a chance to grieve because my Aunt Mae was so ill.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not mean I am not grieving for my Aunt Mae as well as my Dad, as I most definitely am, but as you can probably understand, I am really missing my Dad.

I have thought of my Dad every day since he died.

I have shed many tears every day since Dad died.

I have missed my Dad every day since he died.

Yes, Dad’s illness in his final few years meant he was never really the Dad I knew and loved during, but even in those days when his vascular dementia meant he rarely knew us, or had any kind of conversation with us, there was still the odd time when he’d look at me and say, “Hello my lovely young lady” – something he often called me for many years. The days he said that to me became fewer and further apart, but when he did day them, they always brought tears to my eyes…and they most certainly have again tonight as I typed this post. The sad thing is no sooner would he uttered those words than he would become that vacant vessel again which didn’t understand what was going on around him, who was with him or indeed understand that he knew us.

These have been incredibly difficult months for my family, and my Mum in particular – Mum’s struggling to come to terms with the death of my Dad and Aunt Mae over these last couple of months. Therefore I’d ask today, as we remember my Dad on what would have been his birthday, that you continue to pray for us as we continue to grieve the death of two much-loved members of our family.

I love you Dad, and I miss you so much. You’ll always be in my thoughts and firmly in my heart. Dorothy xxx

It’s been another sad day today, as just 5 weeks after saying our final farewells to my Dad, we said a final farewell to my Aunt Mae, Mary Waddell Gilchrist (23/10/1922 – 03/04/2013).

Aunt Mae (Aug 2011)

My intention again today, just at it had been on the day of my Dad’s funeral (see the blog post Farewell), was to write a tribute to my Aunt Mae, but I’m afraid again it’s just too soon for me to be able to write anything that would do her justice. At some point in the coming weeks I hope to write tributes to both Dad and Aunt Mae, but for today I simply want to say thank you.

Thank you to so many of you who have offered words of comfort and solace to me, Mum and Sandy over these last few weeks as first we lost my Dad, and then my Aunt Mae. I really can’t express strongly enough just how much your support in person, by phone and/or card, has meant to us all.

To those of you who have helped us get everything sorted out for today, I’d like to say a huge thank you to you.

To the many of you who shared with us today at Rutherglen Salvation Army for the service of thanksgiving, then at Rutherglen cemetery, and then afterwards back at Rutherglen Salvation Army for refreshments, thank you for taking the time to support us on this most difficult of days, as I’m sure it was very much appreciated by all my family. I’m sure my Aunt Mae would have been embarrassed by all that has been said about her today, but as far as I’m concerned, it simply shows the huge impact and influence Aunt Mae had on the many people she met during her lifetime.

I’ll miss you Aunt Mae, and just as I said about my Dad a few weeks ago, I will never ever forget you.

Rest in peace Aunt Mae xxx

check listAt 7.13am last Thursday morning, about 15 minutes before my alarm was due to go off, our phone rang – Phone calls at that time in the morning are never good news, and sure enough this particular phone call was to let me know that just a couple of minutes earlier, my Dad had passed away.

So it’s now one week one since that phone call we all dread, and to be honest, I’m only now beginning the grieving process having spent most of the last week supporting Mum, letting people know about Dad’s passing and when the funeral was, as well as actually getting everything sorted for the funeral. So this last week has really been a bit of a blur leading up to yesterday, Dad’s funeral, so it’s probably no surprise that today I’ve been feeling very emotional, shedding a lot of tears, and thinking about Dad a lot.

As I said in Stress and Strain a couple of days ago, Dad professed no faith, however he was always supportive of Mum and me as we attended the Salvation Army. I have certainly found great strength from my faith in these last days, and can only reiterate to you words which I have said many time before…God is more than just enough to get us through everything.

Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Please listen closely to the beautiful words of the song More Than Just Enough by Sara Luneack:

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It’s been a sad day today, as we said a final farewell to be Dad, Edwin (Eddie) Robert Johnson (25/04/1927 – 21/02/2013).

Dad at our wedding

My intention had been to write a tribute to my Dad today, but I’m afraid it’s just too soon for me to be able to write anything that would do my Dad justice, so I’ll save my thoughts for another day once Mum, Sandy and me get back to some kind of normality.

So today, I simply want to express my gratitude to everyone who has offered support and love to us during these difficult days either by phoned, in person or have sent us cards. You will never now how much your support has meant to us all.

To those of you who have helped us get everything sorted out for the funeral today and helped with the funeral itself, a huge thank you.

To the many of you who shared with us today at the crematorium and then afterwards at the hotel, thank you for taking the time to support us on this most difficult of days, again it was very much appreciated by us. I’m sure my Dad would have been embarrassed by all that has been said about him today and also by the number of you who attended his funeral, but as far as I’m concerned, it simply shows the huge impact and influence my Dad had on so many lives.

I miss you Dad, but I will never ever forget you.

Rest in peace Dad xxx

Just for you Dad, one of your favourite jazz musicians, Tommy Dorsey, playing I’m Getting Sentimental Over You:

Take from our souls the strain and stress and let our ordered lives confess, the beauty of your peace

I could really do with some of that these last few days!

kneelAs many of you will know, my Dad passed away last Thursday morning after suffering from vascular dementia for a number of years. In many ways it’s  a relief that Dad has passed away as in these last few years, he’s had no life, and there was no chance of him ever getting better, only worse. Dad’s last few days were painful for us to watch, and he would never have wanted to live like this, so it’s probably for the best that he has passed away

My Dad professed no faith, but as my cousin said the other day, “He (my Dad) had many other qualities”. God has never wanted or expected us all to be good at the same things, so I believe that although Dad professed no faith, God’s qualities and talents were God-given.

It’s been a difficult time for Mum and me, so I’d like to take this opportunity to ask those of you who are praying people, to say a prayer for us tomorrow afternoon (Wednesday 27th February) as we say our final farewell to Dad. Many thanks for the love/support you have already shown my family during these difficult days, it has been very much appreciated by all of us.

Rest in peace Dad xxx

Revelation 21:4 (Good News Translation)

He will wipe away all tears from their eyes. There will be no more death, no more grief or crying or pain.

Well known words from Revelation, but ones I’ve found myself drawn to several times in the last week or so. I don’t know about you, but I’ve found it quite reassuring knowing that those I love who have passed away recently are now free from the pain they suffered during their latter time here on earth.

don’t get me wrong, I’m still upset by their passing, and have shed countless tears, however knowing they are now pain-free and are at peace, somehow makes it a little easier to cope with.

The loss of a loved one is painful and upsetting, but please remember that whatever difficulties they may have had while they were with us, they have nothing to fear any more as they are at rest now.

Well that was a long week!

Maybe it was just because it was my first week at work since before Christmas, but that seemed an exceptionally long working week…and that’s with me being off on Wednesday as well!

Monday

My week didn’t start well as despite going to bed at a reasonable time on Sunday night, I got only about 2 or 3 hours sleep that night. I remember lying awake getting more and more annoyed that I couldn’t sleep, checking the clock at midnight, 1.40am, 3.20am and 4.30am…thankfully I must have finally fallen asleep as the next thing I knew was the alarm going off at 7am!

First day back at work after being off, was as always a busy day, catching up on emails, dealing with requests/emails that had come in while I was off, and just getting to grips with the current status of everything my team were working on. It was a long day and the amount of yawning going on in the afternoon increased dramatically!

Was I going to get a better sleep this night? No!

Tuesday

I sleep very badly, although I did get a little more sleep than I had on Sunday night – This time the last time I checked the clock before I fell asleep was 2.45am.

There was no way Tuesday was going to be a good day after two night’s off little sleep. However it turned out to be not too bad a day even though the afternoon was one interrupted by lots of yawning again!

Was I going to sleep well tonight? Yes!

Wednesday

After a fantastic night’s sleep it was still a disappointment when the alarm interrupted my dreams.

Both hubby and me weren’t working on Wednesday as one of hubby’s cousins died on Hogmanay and the funeral was through in Alloa on Wednesday and we were both going through to it.

I knew the cousin that had died had quite a big family but we were both still very surprised to hear at the funeral that she had 9 children, 28 grandchildren and 33 great-grandchildren! Wow! Given Christmas was just a few weeks ago, hubby and me got talking after the funeral about how mad Christmas and New Year must have been for his cousins with so many in the family. Imagine the number of presents that would need to be bought…mind you on the plus side, imagine how many presents they all received!

We also reckoned that it must have worked out that they would probably have been celebrating someone’s birthday just about every week of the year!

After the funeral we headed into Stirling for a wee wander round the shops as it had been a while since we’d last been there. Then after we got back home I headed over to my Mum’s and took her for her weekly shopping.

By the time I got home and sat down I was completely knackered and my ankles and knees were throbbing.

An early night was called for, so it was a great relief that I managed to get a full night’s sleep.

Thursday

Back at work again today. Several meetings but on the whole a reasonable day.

Still feeling shattered after the previous day.

Friday

Great start to the day, I had to scrape the car and it was solid ice on the windscreen grrrrrr….

It was a strange day at work full of random questions, strange coincidences and my half year appraisal!

Maybe it was a strange day because it was Friday the 13th, maybe it was just one of those days – Either way it was good day with lots of positives so all in all it was a good finish to my first working week of 2012!

So week #1 of work 2012 is complete, let’s hope the remaining weeks are positive and successful ones.

So we’re now almost at the end of the last day in February of 2011, so how’s 2011 been for you so far?

Personally, this year’s not been the best so far for various reasons (some of which I’ve talked about in other blog posts this year). Here’s just a few things that have made this year disappointing so far:

  • I’ve not been at work yet this year, beacuse I’ve been off sick
  • Worries about the health of various members of my family
  • Concern for a relative who is now in care

Added to this, February is always a particularly difficult month for hubby as, both his mum and his sister died on February – his sister died 19 years ago and his mum 8 years ago. In addition, both their birthday’s would have been in February.

Just to make this February even worse, one of my uncle’s died and Mum, Dad, hubby and I weren’t well enough to travel to Ipswich for the funeral. I was also shocked and deeply saddened by the murder of 19 year old Reamonn Gormley in Blantyre at the beginning of February, particularly as he was the nephew of my manager at work.

So as you can see even from this very brief overview of my year so far, I’ve not had the best of years.

Whatever this year has held for you so far, I pray that we may all find the coming months ones full of happiness and joy, or if that is not God‘s plan for us, that we will rely on God for all we need in times of difficultly and stress.

Bring on the rest of 2011!

A Day of Contrasts

Posted: April 27, 2010 in life
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Today turned into a day of great contrasts, both in events and emotions…

Not long after I got to work this morning I got a text from a friend to say his wife had given birth to a gorgeous wee baby boy and both Mum and son were well. My friend was understandably delighted at becoming a dad for the first time. It’s particularly special as they’ve had to cope with two previous miscarriages.

Thank you God for this wonderful gift of life. One which I know has already brought such abundant joy and happiness to his parents, and I’m sure as he is loved, nurtured and taught about your love, will continue to bring joy to all who know him.

 So that was this morning – This afternoon couldn’t have been more different…

This afternoon I attended the funeral of one of my neighbours. She died a few days ago following a short battle with cancer.

What a day of contrasts: first the high of hearing about the birth of a new baby, then the low of attending the funeral. Fortunately I believe Christ was present at both events, firstly bringing baby into the world safe and well (and making sure his mum was ok too), and then surrounding everyone who knew my neighbour with His love and comfort, as only God can.

Thank you God for being present through all of life’s events.

Great is the Lord by The Martins:


Romans 8:38-39 (New International Version)
For I am convinced that neither death nor life,
neither angels nor demons,
neither the present nor the future,
nor any powers,
neither height nor depth,
nor anything else in all creation,
will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord

Ever since I attend a funeral of an ex-colleague last Thursday, I’ve found myself thinking about death and heaven. I bit morbid I know but everything about that funeral service challenged me: From the number of people at the service who Jim had touched in some way, the personal tributes given my Jim’s closest friends, the beautiful poem and Powerpoint presentation put together by his daughters and sons-in-law, to the songs we sang as a congregation.

My thoughts have been focusing on all the wonderful selfless deeds Jim did for those he knew and how ne always acted in a way fitting of a man of God. I’ve found myself examining my own life and realising how far from being that kind of person I am. This as very deeply upset me but also challenged me to try to be a better person, one who focuses more on others needs than my own. I know God will give me the strength and help to be all He wants me to be.

I feel so unworthy of God’s love as so often when He has presented me with opportunities to do selfless acts, I’ve turned away from Him, and done my own thing. I know that is so wrong and my reasons for doing so are so inadequate, as God would not ask me to do anything He didn’t think I could achieve with His help.

Today I pray that God will forgive me for my selfishness and help me to do His will, no matter how much I feel I am unable to do it in my own strength. Help me Lord to be a true Christian focusing on others needs rather than my own.

 The words of the hymn Take My Life, sum up my prayer to God today. This is one of my favourite hymns and I particularly like this arrangement of this song, performed here by Gemma Gunn from my corps, Bellshill Salvation Army:


Take My Life

Take my life and let it be
Consecrated, Lord, to Thee;
Take my hands and let them move
At the impulse of Thy love.

Take my feet and let them be
Swift and beautiful for Thee;
Take my voice and let me sing,
Always, only for my King.

Take my lips and let them be
Filled with messages from Thee;
Take my silver and my gold,
Not a mite would I withhold.

Take my moments and my days,
Let them flow in endless praise;
Take my intellect and use
Every pow’r as Thou shalt choose.

Take my will and make it Thine,
It shall be no longer mine;
Take my heart, it is Thine own,
It shall be Thy royal throne.

Take my love, my Lord, I pour
At Thy feet its treasure store;
Take myself and I will be
Ever, only, all for Thee.