Posts Tagged ‘Mother’s Day’

Managing Grief #7

Posted: May 16, 2013 in bereavement, death, family, friendship, Health, life, love, pets
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It may be a cat, a bird, a ferret, or a guinea pig, but the chances are high that when someone close to you dies, a pet will be there to pick up the slack. Pets devour the loneliness. They give us purpose, responsibility, a reason for getting up in the morning, and a reason to look to the future. They ground us, help us escape the grief, make us laugh, and take full advantage of our weakness by exploiting our furniture, our beds, and our refrigerator. We wouldn’t have it any other way. Pets are our seat belts on the emotional roller coaster of life–they can be trusted, they keep us safe, and they sure do smooth out the ride.

by Nick Trout, Tell Me Where It Hurts: A Day of Humor, Healing and Hope in My Life as an Animal Surgeon

Grief can be even tougher to cope with if you are on your own. However, as Nick Trout says above, even the company of a pet, can be the comfort and companionship you need to help you through the difficult days after a bereavement.

So if you have a pet, I hope you realise they can be your companion during these days, but if you haven’t, why not consider getting a pet to keep you company. After all, not only will you enjoy their companionship, I’m sure they will enjoy you company just as much, if not more.

A Mother’s Day Request

Posted: March 18, 2012 in children, English Premier, family, football, friendship, Health, heart, hospital, life, love, Mother's Day, pray, prayer, sport, television
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Today in the UK, it is Mother’s Day, so I’d like to wish all mother’s a very happy Mother’s Day!

I’m sure like me, you thank your Mum often for all she has done, and continues to do for you, and have given your Mum an extra special present today to celebrate Mother’s Day.

Tonight thought I’d like you to spare a thought for those for whom this Mother’s Day has not been the joyful occasion it is for so many others…

There are those who would love to have family of their own, however may have found, for a variety of reasons, they cannot have children. For them Mother’s Day can be a sad reminder for them that they cannot have children of their own.

Mother’s Day can also be very tough on those whose mother is no longer with them. It must be particularly hard for them today and the build up to today with all the advertising and commercialism that surrounds today. Obviously though, the toughest part must be the reminder that their mum isn’t with them anymore. It must leave quite a void in their lives, which must make today difficult.

There is of course another person for whom Mother’s Day must be tough in some circumstances, and that the mothers who have had to cope with the death of a child. Mother’s Day is a celebration of mother’s everywhere, however for mum’s who have lost a child it must be a stark and painful reminder of their lose.

Mother’s Day is a celebration of all mother’s, and all they do for their children, but I’d ask you today to please spare a thought for those for whom today will not have been a happy one.

 

Finally, there is one other family that I feel I have to mention today, and that is the family of Fabrice Muamba. For those of you who don’t know Fabrice Muamba is a 23 year old professional footballer who plays for English premiership team Bolton Wanderers. Yesterday during an FA Cup game at White Hart Lane against Tottenham Hotspur, Fabrice collapsed with no other players near him. He subsequently received immediate medical attention, and was then rushed to a local hospital where he is now in intensive care in a critical condition having suffered a heart attack.

We were watching the FA Cup game on TV last night when Muamba collapsed and I have to say it was obvious from the reaction of the supporters and players of both teams immediately that Muamba was seriously ill. It is on occasions like that when football pales into insignificance and players and supports alike from all clubs, come together to support and pray for the stricken player.

I’d like to take this opportunity to say that I am praying for Fabrice Muamba and his family at what must be a very difficult time. I’d ask that you too pray for Fabrice as he is still seriously ill. I’d also ask that we all pray for all those who witnessed the events at White Hart Lane yesterday as it must have been very traumatic for them too. Finally I’d like to ask you to say a pray of thanks for the medics who rushed onto the pitch to help Muamba as from the reports I’ve read, it seems they had to resuscitate him on the park, and obviously managed to get him breathing again.

Please continue to pray for Fabrice Muamba.

Mother’s Day – Positives and Negatives

Posted: April 3, 2011 in family, friendship, Health, heaven, holiday, life, love, Mother's Day
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Maybe I’ve surprised you by the title of today’s blog post, as you’re maybe surprised that I think there are any negatives to Mother’s Day. Unfortunately I see many negatives as well as positives about Mother’s Day and the way in wish we celebrate it, so let me explain further…

Personally I’m not a big fan of Mother’s Day. Not because I don’t love my Mum or don’t think she deserves recognition for all she’s done for me, but simply because I feel, like so many other events or holidays, it’s become too commercial. For me Mother’s Day should be a personal and private thing between mother and child(ren), and therefore I hate the way all the shops and TV adverts at this time make me feel pressurised into buying flowers, a card and all sorts of others things for my mum just because it’s Mother’s Day.

All I want to say to this is, why should I do this on one particular day of the year? Think about those who have can’t afford to buy their Mum’s a present or a gift for Mother’s Day, how do think they feel? It’s not just that though, our Mother’s are our Mother’s all year round, not just on Mother’s Day, so be good to them buy them gifts (if you can afford to) all year round, not just on Mother’s Day.

I also feel deeply for those on Mother’s Day whose Mum’s are no longer with them – particularly those whose Mum’s have died within the last year.

Then there are those who have never known their real mother – maybe because their mother died very early in their  life, or because they were given up for adoption as a young child/baby – Think of those people too at this time, as I know that they have probably have many unanswered questions and lots of what if questions in their mind, particularly around Mother’s Day.

Finally there are many women who would love to have children but either find they are unable to have children or for health reasons, are unable to have children – Mothering Sunday for them (and this includes me) can be tough as it reminds them of what they will never have.

So all that said, despite having taken all my Mum does for me for granted for many years, I do of course love my Mum very much and am so very thankful for all she has done, and continues to do for me.

However for me a number of the things I’ve mentioned above refer to me, so while it’s good to show love for our Mum’s on days like today, just remember it’s not necessarily such a happy day for everyone.

So whether you love or hate mothers day, or whether you dislike Mother’s Day for any of the reasons listed above (several apply for me),I hope you don’t take all your mum has done/continues to do for you for granted, after all, she’s your Mum, and always will be!

Thank Goodness It’s The Weekend

Posted: April 2, 2011 in animals, family, Glasgow, Health, heart, life, love, music, pray, religion, Shopping
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All I can say is thank goodness it’s finally the weekend so I can actually rest!

If you’ve been reading my blog posts recently you will know that I just returned to work 3 weeks ago after being off sick since last year. Having said that, I’m not back at work full-time in the hope that returning to work this way will allow me to build up my strength again before having to face a full week at work.

Despite not working full-time this has still been a week full that has totally drained and exhausted me, both physically and mentally. So what has made this week such a tough one? Well here’s a very brief summary…

Monday

am - I was at the Golden Jubilee Hospital for tests
pm - I was working from home
 

Tuesday

am – I was at the Golden Jubilee Hospital for more tests
pm – I was at work
 

Wednesday

all day – I was at work all day
 

Thursday

all day – Hubby at the Royal Infirmary for an operation
 

Friday

am – I was at work
pm – With Mum to check on Aunt Mae’s house, visit Aunt Mae, then had a coffee before doing our shopping
 

So that has been my week – It’s been a very tough one for me, though maybe to you all this doesn’t sound like a very busy or stressful week, but to me, who’s still recovering from illness, it has been a very very long and exhausting week which has left me feeling totally exhausted and drained both physically and emotionally.

I’ve felt so tired it’s been difficult to even find the energy to get up from the sofa and go to bed and then vice versa. So I’m hoping that a weekend of rest (other than heading over to Mum/Dad’s to see Mum on Mother’s Day on Sunday), will help me feel better, because at the moment I don’t think I can face next week.

I just hope and pray that next week and the following weeks start to be a little easier to cope with as this was one tough week.

Mother’s Day

Posted: March 14, 2010 in life, love
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In the UK it is Mother’s Day today, so I’d like to wish all mothers everywhere a very happy Mother’s Day!

Although many families all over the UK will be celebrating with their mothers, there are those who will be finding today very difficult and possibly a very sad occasion too. To me there are three groups of people who need our special prayers today

Children
  • Whose Mum is no longer with them, especially those who have been recently bereaved
  • Who have lost touch with their mother
  • Whose mother is unwell and/or in hospital
Mothers
  • Who have been bereaved of a child
  • Who have lost touch with a child
  • Who have a child who is unwell and/or in hospital
  • Whose have a missing child, or a child that has been kidnapped
Other Females
  • Who would love to be a mother, but are unable to have children
  • Who would love to a mother, but for health reasons have been advised not to have children
  • Who have suffered a miscarriage
My Story

You’ll have seen from my profile that we do not have any children, so I find today quite difficult. Although I must admit, I’ve found previous years even more difficult when I’ve attend my church on Mother’s Day,  as the focus is all about family and mothers. My church is Bellshill Salvation Army and as well as my difficulty coping with Mother’s Day as we have no children, it’s also difficult for me as I have no family members there either. 

My Request

Many people will have been struggling in the build up to Mother’s Day, including those in the situations mentioned above. So pease take some time out from your busy day to pray for them today, particularly anyone you know in these circumstances. I truly believe that bringing them before God in prayer today, will make a difference.