Posts Tagged ‘Recreation’

Managing Grief #7

Posted: May 16, 2013 in bereavement, death, family, friendship, Health, life, love, pets
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It may be a cat, a bird, a ferret, or a guinea pig, but the chances are high that when someone close to you dies, a pet will be there to pick up the slack. Pets devour the loneliness. They give us purpose, responsibility, a reason for getting up in the morning, and a reason to look to the future. They ground us, help us escape the grief, make us laugh, and take full advantage of our weakness by exploiting our furniture, our beds, and our refrigerator. We wouldn’t have it any other way. Pets are our seat belts on the emotional roller coaster of life–they can be trusted, they keep us safe, and they sure do smooth out the ride.

by Nick Trout, Tell Me Where It Hurts: A Day of Humor, Healing and Hope in My Life as an Animal Surgeon

Grief can be even tougher to cope with if you are on your own. However, as Nick Trout says above, even the company of a pet, can be the comfort and companionship you need to help you through the difficult days after a bereavement.

So if you have a pet, I hope you realise they can be your companion during these days, but if you haven’t, why not consider getting a pet to keep you company. After all, not only will you enjoy their companionship, I’m sure they will enjoy you company just as much, if not more.

Not First Thing In the Morning, Please!

Posted: May 13, 2013 in Employment, Food, friendship, life, management, personnel characteristics, words, work
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quiet_pleaseI’ve never been much of a morning person and I am sure I never will be.

Having said that, despite working flexi time and not actually having to be in until 10am, I’m usually at work sometime between 8.30 and 9.15. Even so, I still like a bit a quietness then…at least until I’ve had my first coffee of the morning!

It’s funny how some of us like to get up early in the morning and just get on with things right away, while others of us like to have a long lie and like to slowly get into things. I definitely fall into that second category, how about you?

Just because I’m not a morning person and like to slowly move into my day, doesn’t mean I don’t get much done, it simply means I probably finish things a bit later. e.g. In a work sense, I’m often one of the last to leave the office at night.

So please, for those of you who are morning people, please remember some of us are not morning people and we like a quiet peaceful start to our mornings, thank you.

It’s Too Quiet

Posted: May 11, 2013 in blogging, family, friendship, life, love, words
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enjoy-the-silenceI know I’ve talked before about how some folk just seem to have their volume control turned up to full all the time, but there are in fact some times when the quietness can be just as uncomfortable…

Ever noticed how many of us don’t like it when it’s quiet, when no-one is talking? Funny how someone always feels the need to break that quietness…usually with something completely unrelated to any previous discussion, and in many occasions trying to be funny but completely failing!

Have you ever noticed how there are some people you can sit in silence with for ages and never feel uncomfortable with? They are the folk you love and trust, and that is why silence is so easy to cope with and not uncomfortable at all.

So, yes, there are some times when quietness or silence is uncomfortable, but then there are also some situation where the silence is just so natural. Hold onto those relationships where silences are comfortable as they are your important and valuable relationships.

silence-speaks

Stand Out

Posted: March 5, 2013 in Facebook, friendship, life, love, religion
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fitting in

I really liked this picture when I saw it on Facebook a few days ago, probably because it’s so true…many of as are very guilty of spending our lives trying to fit in with the crowd because we think that’s the right thing to do. When actually all God wants us to do is stand out from the crowd.

Let’s all try to stand out for Christ each day instead of blending in with the crowd.

Happy People #1

Posted: February 18, 2013 in blogging, friendship, life
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The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything but they make the most of everything.

As I said yesterday (in Keep Smiling), smiling can be infectious as if we smile, those around us will also feel like smiling. One thing helps make it easier to smile sometimes, is when we have all we need. That doesn’t mean we have the best of everything, but we don’t need the best of everything to be happy, as happiness is a very subjective feeling and as such can often be fulfilled simply by having all we need in life. e.g. loving family, good friends, a roof over our head, food to eat, clothes to keep us warm etc..

Note: To have everything we need does not include life’s luxuries, such as a car, lots of money, all the latest gadgets, but instead it is simply life’s necessities to live.

The First

Posted: February 12, 2013 in friendship, life, love, music, religion, words
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The first to apologise is the bravest
The first to forgive is the strongest
And the first to forget is the happiest

Are you “the first”?

God can help you to become “the first”. Just ask Him because He can help you be brave, He can help you forgive, and He can also help you be happy.

What more could you ask for!

 

What Did You Say? #1

Posted: February 9, 2013 in death, family, language, life, Scotland, words
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Today it’s time for a lesson…in Scottish words and/or phrases. I wonder how many you’ll understand, nevermind know!

  1. Haud yer wheesht
  2. Dinnae teach yer Granny tae suck eggs!
  3. Is the cat deid?
  4. Do yer dinger
  5. Ma heid’s mince
  6. It’s a dreich day
  7. Wallies
  8. Bahookie
  9. Eejit
  10. Glaekit

Any ideas what any of the above means, or are they all a foreign language to you?

Here’s the meaning of each of the above:

  1. Be quiet!
  2. Don’t try to teach someone something they already know
  3. Has the cat died? Which is usually asked of someone when their trousers are a bit short. i.e. Their trousers are like a flag flying at half mast
  4. Loudly express disapproval; Go mad
  5. My head’s a bit mixed up
  6. It’s a cold, damp and miserable day
  7. False teeth
  8. Bottom, backside, butt
  9. Idiot!
  10. Stupid!

So how did you get on? Confused or feeling quite pleased with yourself for knowing them all?

It’s Funny

Posted: January 23, 2013 in family, friendship, life, love
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It’s funny how hello always ends with a goodbye,
it’s funny how good memories can start to make you cry.
It’s funny how forever never really seems to last,
it’s funny how much you’d lose if you forgot about your past.
It’s funny how friends can just leave you when you’re down,
it’s funny how when you need someone they’re never around.
It’s funny how people change and think they’re so much better,
it’s funny how many lies can be packed in one “love letter”.
It’s funny how people forgive even though they can’t forget,
it’s funny how one night can contain so much regret.
It’s funny how ironic life turns out to be
but the funniest part of all, none of that’s funny to me.

 

Don’t let the things of life, like those mentioned above, get you down, because if you concentrate on all the bad things of life you won’t enjoy life to the full!

Fear of Rejection

Posted: October 11, 2012 in depression, feedback, friendship, language, life, management
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If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you may or may not have realised by now but I’m the kind of person who fears rejection. It’s not a fear of rejection in a particular thing, it’s a fear of rejection in general.

To be honest I’m not quite sure how my fear of rejection started, as I’ve kind of always been aware that it existed, but only truly identified it as a fear over the last 10 to 15 years. Let me just say this, it’s scary constantly fearing rejection in everything you do, but like so many other “ailments” in life, it’s just something I need to deal with on a daily basis.

I know my fear of rejection is often unfounded, but I also acknowledge that this fear may have come about as a result of me being a perfectionist. i.e. I expect myself to do everything perfectly. I know this is not possible as none of us are perfect, but it doesn’t stop me from continuing to aim for perfection. I think being a perfectionist actually makes the fear of rejection seem even more daunting, as I guess being rejected just reinforces to me that I have not achieved perfection.

I’m sure we all fear rejection at some times, but it’s how we deal with that rejection that makes us who we are. For me, I try to reassure myself that although I may be rejected, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’ve not done a good job, or delivered what’s been asked of me, it simply means there’s some for improvement from me, after all, who’s to say the person rejecting me has got it right!

Rejection is a horrible feeling, and one I’ve expereienced not just in a work environment, but also in mt personal life, and it hurts, but unfortuantely in life, we all suffer hurt and pain, but as I’ve already said, it’s how we deal with those setbacks that make us the people we are today.

Respect Me!

Posted: September 22, 2012 in depression, friendship, life, management, words
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A little while ago, someone  told I didn’t show respect to someone. What that person seemed to forget is that respect is not something that can automatically be acquired, it’s something you must earn!

I was not aware of having said or done anything wrong, and was deeply hurt and upset, to be accused of being disrespectful to someone simply because I showed concern for one of my family member. To me that is disrespectful, not taking a phone call from a family member who was attending the hospital!

Anyway, rant over, now to consider the whole issue of respect!

So what is respect?

  • to have an attitude of esteem towards; show or have respect for to respect one’s elders;
  • to pay proper attention to;
  • to show consideration for; treat courteously or kindly;
It’s all well and good to say you pay proper attention to someone, but that is really only part of the story isn’t it! Respect is a two-way thing, after all, how can you respect someone if they show no regard for you or your family and friends? If someone shows no compassion or concern for you or the things that are important to you, it makes it very difficult for you to respect them.
Respect is something I guess we all want from others, so to enable that to happen, make sure you show compassion, care and concern for your fellow human beings. Then and only then are others likely to show you respect!
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