Archive for October 11, 2012

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you may or may not have realised by now but I’m the kind of person who fears rejection. It’s not a fear of rejection in a particular thing, it’s a fear of rejection in general.

To be honest I’m not quite sure how my fear of rejection started, as I’ve kind of always been aware that it existed, but only truly identified it as a fear over the last 10 to 15 years. Let me just say this, it’s scary constantly fearing rejection in everything you do, but like so many other “ailments” in life, it’s just something I need to deal with on a daily basis.

I know my fear of rejection is often unfounded, but I also acknowledge that this fear may have come about as a result of me being a perfectionist. i.e. I expect myself to do everything perfectly. I know this is not possible as none of us are perfect, but it doesn’t stop me from continuing to aim for perfection. I think being a perfectionist actually makes the fear of rejection seem even more daunting, as I guess being rejected just reinforces to me that I have not achieved perfection.

I’m sure we all fear rejection at some times, but it’s how we deal with that rejection that makes us who we are. For me, I try to reassure myself that although I may be rejected, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’ve not done a good job, or delivered what’s been asked of me, it simply means there’s some for improvement from me, after all, who’s to say the person rejecting me has got it right!

Rejection is a horrible feeling, and one I’ve expereienced not just in a work environment, but also in mt personal life, and it hurts, but unfortuantely in life, we all suffer hurt and pain, but as I’ve already said, it’s how we deal with those setbacks that make us the people we are today.