Archive for January, 2013

There are some situations when no matter what you say or do, you can never say enough to offer the comfort and reassurance needed by someone.

In a similar way, sometimes when we are so upset about the things that are affecting our life or the life of those around us, our tears just do not seem to offer the comfort or the help needed.

So sometimes our tears just simply aren’t enough so what do we do? We turn to God. No matter how senseless of hopeless a situation may seem, God is there, and He understands our tears and knows our pain.

Tears Are Not Enough by Northern Lights 

As every day goes by
How can we close our eyes
Until we open up our hearts

We can learn to share
And show how much we care
Right from the moment that we start

Seems like overnight
We see the world in a different light
Somehow our innocence is lost

How can we look away
‘Cause every single day
We’ve got to help at any cost

We can bridge the distance
Only we can make the difference
Don’t ya know that tears are not enough

If we can pull together
We could change the world forever
Heaven knows that tears are not enough

It’s up to me and you
To make the dream come true
It’s time to take our message everywhere

C’est l’amour qui nous rassemble
D’ici ?l’autre bout du monde
Let’s show them Canada still cares
You know that we’ll be there

If we should try together you and I
Maybe we could understand the reasons why
If we take a stand every woman, child and man
We can make it work for God’s sake lend a hand

When I’m struggling I go all quiet and don’t really want to talk to anyone. I also try not to look anyone directly in the eye for any more than a brief second at a time.

Comforting a friendWhy? Because I’m scared that if anyone looks me straight in the eyes for more than a second or two, they’ll see my deepest feelings and emotions, and therefore know exactly how I feel. That in turn will make me fall apart and that, you may remember if you’ve been reading my blog for a while, would be my worst nightmare…falling apart in public.

Many people I’ve spoken to about my fear of falling apart have told me it would be good for me just to “let go”…they really do not understand how scary a thought that is for me. To be honest I’ve always felt I’d rather sit in a room by myself for hours than fall apart in public, and despite being told repeatedly it would be good for me to “let go”, I will continue to do all I can to stop my nightmare coming true in public!

Just because I don’t fall apart in public does not mean I never “let go” because I do. However I do agree it might me nice if someone was there to give me a hug and reassure me when I do fall apart – But the thought of doing that in public it so scary for me I’ll be trying my best to make sure that doesn’t happen!

How do you cope when…

  • You or someone close to is diagnosed with a serious illness
  • You are made redundant
  • You or someone close to is involved in a serious accident
  • A member of your family dies
  • Someone you trust, betrays your confidence

The best way to cope in all these situations is to trust God, let Him support you and give you the strength you need to get through each day.

Reminder: It’s when we’re finding life hardest that God can seem so distant and silent, but as I said in yesterday’s blog post, Teacher, God is still there, and He is looking after you and helping you.

ExamsDo you remember being at school and sitting exams? It was always so quiet in the exam halls wasn’t it!

Personally I always found the silence quite intimidating, so rather than it helping me concentrate, I found it distracting as every little noise seemed to be magnified 10 fold!

Could it be that life is just the same as school exams…when we’re being tested in life, our teacher, God, stays silent while we’re being tested. That of course doesn’t mean that our teacher doesn’t care how we are getting on in our test.

When we were at school, I’m sure if we’d tried to walk out on our exams, our teacher would have tried to convince us to stay and battle on through the test. Likewise in life, God may seem silent when we most need Him, but He is always there, and will help us when we need Him.

Are you a 24/7 Christian?

Being a Christian is about living every moment of your life for Christ, not just the couple of hours on a Sunday when you attend church. i.e. Following Christ should not be your Sunday hobby, it should be your 24/7 job.

I’m sure we all know people who profess to be Christians, but when you see them outside of church, say and do things which you would never say were Christian things to say or do.

I pray that I may not just be a Sunday Christian, but a 24/7 Christian. I pray that you are also a 24/7 Christian, so that others will be able to see in Christ in everything we see and do, who ever we are with.

We all have particular things/events that make us happy – What makes you happy?

Here’s a few things that make me happy (in no particular order):happy people

  1. Listening to one of my favourite pieces of music
  2. Getting positive feedback about my blog
  3. Watching a good comedy
  4. Waking up thinking it’s time to get up, but finding there’s another few hours before the alarm will go off
  5. Finding something I thought I’d lost
  6. Making something (food) I’ve never made before and finding it’s delicious
  7. An ice-cold drink on a hot day
  8. Looking out on a snowy day knowing I don’t need to go out in it
  9. Getting a bargain in the sales (this doesn’t happen to me very often)
  10. Being told presents I’ve bought others are “just what they needed”

Have any of these things made you smile or think of a similar situation that you were in?

If your answer is Yes, I’ve done my job and made you happy, just by talking about my “happy things“.

Keep thinking happy thoughts!

There are a lot of situations in life these days, where the focus seems to be all about numbers. i.e. The number of people who attend, the number of people who “like” something etc. While ultimately it is the aim of every Christian, that everyone believes in Christ, our churches SimplyChurchPeoplemust not become too focused on the numbers that come through their doors, but instead focus on spreading God‘s message to the uninformed.

Mother Teresa once said,

Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest you.

and this I think backs up my earlier statement…that our focus should be on spreading God’s message, and not necessarily on counting numbers in our churches – Although obviously the more who accept God in their life, the more likely it is that more people will attend our churches.

Let’s just make sure we get our priorities right and make winning others for Christ our priority.

saints and sinnersEvery saint has a past and every sinner has a future ~ Oscar Wilde

It’s reassuring to know, isn’t it, that no matter what we have done in our past, that God can still use us to be great examples for Him in the future. Therefore, do not worry that your past means God cannot use you, because that could not be further from the truth. In fact, it’s often because of our past transgressions, that God can use us best, because other will be able to relate to our past.

It’s funny how hello always ends with a goodbye,
it’s funny how good memories can start to make you cry.
It’s funny how forever never really seems to last,
it’s funny how much you’d lose if you forgot about your past.
It’s funny how friends can just leave you when you’re down,
it’s funny how when you need someone they’re never around.
It’s funny how people change and think they’re so much better,
it’s funny how many lies can be packed in one “love letter”.
It’s funny how people forgive even though they can’t forget,
it’s funny how one night can contain so much regret.
It’s funny how ironic life turns out to be
but the funniest part of all, none of that’s funny to me.

 

Don’t let the things of life, like those mentioned above, get you down, because if you concentrate on all the bad things of life you won’t enjoy life to the full!

A Creed To Live By

Don’t undermine your worth by comparing
yourself with others.
It is because we are different that each of us is special.
Don’t set your goals by what other people
deem important.

Only you know what is best for you.
Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart.
Cling to them as you would your life, for without them
life is meaningless.

Don’t let your life slip through your fingers
by living in the past or for the future.
By living your life one day at a time,
you live all the days of your life.

Don’t give up when you still have something to give.
Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect.
It is this fragile thread that binds us to each other.
Don’t be afraid to encounter risks.

It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find.
The quickest way to receive love is to give love.
The fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly;
and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
Don’t dismiss your dreams.

To be without dreams is to be without hope;
to be without hope is to be without purpose.
Don’t run through life so fast that you forget
not only where you’ve been, but also where you’re going.
Life is not a race, but a journey to be savoured
each step of the way.

~ Nancye Sims ~

What a beautiful poem.

Life is indeed a journey, a journey that has already been planned out for each us by God before we are even born. That doesn’t mean we cannot impact our own life, because we still have choice to make about our future and the direction we want our life to go in.

Don’t think you know better than God what is best for you or your family and friends, but instead trust God today and tomorrow and the day after that to provide all you need in this life.