Archive for January, 2014

So tomorrow is February, and as the title of this blog post suggests, it’s a month I wish I could just miss out completely. To be honest it’s been a month that I haven’t looked forward to for a number of years now, but after last year, it’s now a month I just want to completely forget about.

Why does February make me feel like this?

Sad-memory21 years ago this February, my husband’s sister died – We weren’t married at the time. February would also have been her birthday, and this year  she would have been 50.

11 years ago this February my mother in law suffered her 2nd stroke and spent much of February that year in hospital before passing away on the 2nd March. February would also have been her birthday, and this year she would have been 80.

Last year my Dad was admitted to hospital on 4th January and on 1st February we were told there was nothing more they could do for Dad. On the 4th February Dad was transferred from hospital back to his nursing home on end of life care. He died several weeks later on 21st February and his funeral was on 27th February.

As you can see February holds lots of sad memories for me, and this year will be particularly difficult as it is the first anniversary of my Dad’s death. So if it’s possible, can I just miss out February this year please?

 

We’re all guilty of talking too much at times aren’t we? However some of the best relationships and friendships are based on being interested in what others, your friend, has to say, and listening intently to them. It may be you can’t physically help your friend in any way, however I’ve found from experience that often just really listening to what someone has to say is all someone needs sometimes…I still find that sometimes, all I need is someone to truly listen to me, and how I’m feeling…that is often more than just enough for me…

In our prayers, we talk to God, in our Bible study, God talks to us, and we had better let God do most of the talking. ~ D.L. Moody

So let’s not be guilty of talking so much that we fail to listen to what God has to say to us, because He is always More Than Just Enough (Sara Luneack):

Yesterday in Inspiration I spoke about what, or should I say, who, inspires and guides me in every situation I find myself in. But today I want you to think about who inspires you.

It’s good to be inspired, and it’s good to have someone who inspires you, so don’t be afraid to be inspired to do great things!

Sometimes I put myself under pressure to write a blog post every day, and that’s when I find it difficult to know what to write about…then I feel under more pressure…and then I struggle even more to know what to write about…

That’s when I stop myself, and remind myself that I have the greatest inspiration anyone could ever wish for, God!

I know my blog posts aren’t always about God, however He is always part of my life, at the centre, and therefore whenever I need inspiration for a blog post, or for advice on a life situation, I know I can rely on God to guide and direct me.

I lift up my eyes to the hills…
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth.
Psalm 121:1-2

struggleHave you ever been really struggling with life and expected or wanted someone you thought was a friend, to phone, email or text you to check you’re ok…and waited…and waited?

Funny isn’t it how friends who tell you they will always be there for you, are nowhere to be seen when you’re struggling and in need of a friend. How has it made you feel when you’ve been in that situation? When this has happened to me, I’ve gone through a range of emotions, from hurt, to despair, from anger to resignation that I’ll just need to go it alone.

Funny isn’t it how in these darkest of time we seem to turn to God almost as a last resort, when in fact He should be the first person we turn to in our hour of need.

In the Love of Jesus there is all I need,
While I follow closely where my Lord may lead;
By his grace forgiven,
In his presence blest,
In the love of Jesus,
In the love of Jesus, is perfect rest.

alone3I don’t know about you but when I’m struggling to stay in control of my emotions I feel even more alone than usual, but conversely it’s also at that time that I want to be more alone too! Does that make any sense to you, or can you relate to that?

Maybe that feeling of loneliness is because it scares me to show my emotions in public and let others see how I’m really feeling – I’ve spoken before about how my worst nightmare is falling apart in public; Maybe it’s because subconsciously I know that the only person I can truly count on during these days is God and therefore I know no-one else will “measure-up” – As even in times of need, our closest friends/family aren’t always there for us, but God always is.

So in your darkest and loneliest of times, just remember God is there for you and His Strength Is Perfect and can get you through these days:

Today is all about options again – I’m going to give you two items at a time, and you have to choose which either best describes you or which you prefer:

  1. Dyson or Vax?
  2. Talker or listener?
  3. Ford or Citroen cars?
  4. Fawlty Towers or Only Fools and Horses?
  5. McDonalds or Burger King?
  6. Jazz or classical music?
  7. Electric or gas?
  8. Lions or tigers?
  9. Rolling Stones or The Beatles?
  10. Analogue or digital clock/watch?

A variety of questions, some about your personality, some about your preferences. Whatever your answers, together they define who you are.

In case you’re wondering here’s my answerslogo_your_preferences_final

  1. Dyson
  2. Listener
  3. Citroen
  4. Fawlty Towers
  5. McDonalds
  6. Classical music
  7. Electric
  8. Tigers
  9. The Beatles
  10. Analogue

God's LoveDo you love you family and friends? Of course you do, but do you love the people who dislike or hurt you or who you consider to be their enemy? I’m obviously not talking about love in an intimate way, but love them as a friend – showing them compassion, friendship, support and understanding, where you are there for them in their hour of need regardless of what time of the day or night it might be.

Those who aren’t loving don’t know God, because God is love – 1 John 4:8

Do you know God? Do you show your love and compassion for others?

If your answer to either of those questions is “No”, you can talk to God right now and change your “No” to a “Yes” by asking God into your heart today.

I’ve done a few Word Associations with you over the last few months, and today, it’s time for another one. So as usual I’m going to throw some words at you  and I want you to note down the first word that comes into your mind when you read each word.

So here goes…

  1. Povertywords
  2. Heaven
  3. Microsoft
  4. Wedding
  5. Pothole
  6. Pepsi
  7. Formula 1
  8. Voicemail
  9. Social media
  10. Barcelona

So how did you get on with those words? Did you find it easy? Did your answers surprise you or were they just as you expected?

Well here’s my responses to my questions:

  1. Ashamed
  2. Eternity
  3. Office
  4. Family
  5. Accident
  6. Thirst
  7. Speed
  8. Message
  9. Facebook
  10. Lionel Messi

Were any of your answers the same as mine? Did any of my answers confuse you? Did any of your own answers confuse you?

I’ve said in previous word association posts that I find I get a bit stressed when I’m doing them as I put a lot of pressure on myself not to over think my answers! Are you relaxed when you do them or do you find it stressful too?

I still believe that when we respond with the first words that come into our minds, our answers tell us a lot about our emotional state, and what’s important to us at that particular point in time.

Bearing all this in mind, review your answers, does my theory hold true?

 

In the last little while I’ve noticed there are a number of things which many of us will put in the category of either “love them” or “hate them”. So today I thought I’d share with you some more of my love or hate things and see if you can guess which category they fall into for me:

  1. Chocolate
  2. Black pudding
  3. New car smell
  4. Smoking
  5. Christmas shopping
  6. Facebook
  7. Indian food
  8. Twitter
  9. Packing to go on holiday
  10. Ironing

A bit of a mixed bag of things there isn’t it, but I wonder how many of them you correctly worked out that I love or hate, and how many we have in common…scroll down to find out my answers…

  1. Love
  2. Hate
  3. Love
  4. Hate
  5. Hate
  6. Love
  7. Love
  8. Love
  9. Hate
  10. Hate

So there you go, how many of my answers matched yours?

“Love” and “hate” are two very strong and very different emotions and if we are honest with ourselves I think we will probably find that rather than “loving” or “hating” the items I listed above, we really just “like” or “strongly dislike” them – Does that sound about right?.