Archive for April 5, 2014

I’m not complaining but…

It’s not a criticism but…

I hear what you’re saying, but…

I’m sure we’ve all heard those phrases, so I’d like you to have a think about how you feel when someone starts a sentence directed abut-with-blue-reflecting-glowt you, with any of the above phrases.

I must admit that I tend to think, why can’t folk just be honest and say what they think rather than trying to soften the blow with “I’m not complaining, but”, when clearly they are complaining; or “It’s not a criticism but”, when clearly the criticism is just about to be said; or “I hear what you’re saying but” when we all know they are about to completely disagree with what you’ve just said!

Sentences like the ones above, really give confusing messages to the person they are directed at, as either you are complaining or you’re not, criticising or giving praise, disagreeing or agreeing with someone, so please don’t give mixed messages, be clear and concise it’ll save confusion and possible hurt.