Archive for May, 2016

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As a perfectionist I must admit that it can be difficult to be ok with what I do sometimes when it doesn’t measure up to the high expectations I place on myself. Over the years I have come to realise that this is both a curse and a blessing which I know might sound like a complete contradiction, so let me explain…

  • A blessing because in expecting perfection in all I do it drives me to do my best in everything.
  • A curse because in expecting perfection from myself, I set my expectations far to high so I fail which in turn means I chastise myself because I’ve not don’t things perfectly.

I am still a perfectionist, and I guess I always will be, but I try not to be as critical of myself when I don’t succeed as I maybe used to be…though I am still feel disappointed with myself when I don’t do things 100% right!

How can I expect other’s to accept me for who and what I am, if I can’t accept myself, faults, failures and flaws!

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Move a meeting outside                                                                                                                                                 

Obviously best to choose the day you do this carefully! However as we’re enjoying what is hopefully the start of a long dry and warm summer, I thought today was an ideal time to suggest you take your meeting outside.

 

Just by changing the norm without completely disrupting your day, it can refresh you and your co-workers and allow everyone to enjoy some of the good weather.

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Do you do everything in God’s name?

Living with it

Posted: May 28, 2016 in Health, life, personnel characteristics
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It’s funny how we all deal with illnesses or injuries differently, regardless of how minor or severe they may be.

I recently was part of a conversation with a couple of folk where one was talking about how they’d been bothered by a particular ailment for about 4 months , and how “awful” it was “having to cope with this every morning”. The ailment in question is nothing serious, and is something which many suffer from, and in fact I have had since I was very young.

I made no comment when this conversation was going on, but inside I’m was thinking to myself this person really didn’t know what “awful” was! I certainly would not consider my ailment “awful” and from the detail provided by the other sufferer, their ailment is less severe than mine.

I’m am definitely not looking for sympathy or anything as I have never really considered this ailment to be particularly “awful”, just a bit uncomfortable and annoying at times – The whole conversation just reminded me just how different we all are, and how we all feel and react differently to situations and circumstances we face in life.

Thank goodness we’re not all the same!

everyone is different

 

Following on from yesterday’s blog post, Lonely #3, I want to consider how other people’s behaviour affects how we feel. More specifically, how other’s negative behaviour can add to our feelings of loneliness and feeling like a nobody.

Sadly there are people in this world who seem to be intent on getting through life any way they can, even if that means trampling over others, overlooking and ignoring anyone who obstructs their attempts to achieve their personal goals. The trail of destruction and rejection these folks leave behind themselves is full of people who feel like a nobody.

It hurts when you feel like a nobody, but even when we’re in that darkest of places, God is still there:

” I don’t view you that way “….. ” I know your pain, I know what you feel, I know your mistakes, your  feeling of inadequacy, rejection and loneliness and I care about you more than you will ever know,and more than anyone else will ever know “

It’s just as well isn’t it that in a world that sometimes makes you feel like you are a nobody, God sees us as a somebody.

When someone feels as if no one cares about them, they can feel like a nobody, and that is another lonely place.

There is good news though – Even although you may feel like a nobody, and others may treat you like a nobody, God still sees you as a somebody.

So am I a nobody? Maybe!

Are you a nobody? Maybe in your eyes.

But thankfully for you and me, we are all somebody in God’s eyes end He loves us no matter what we or anyone else thinks of us.

 

 

Just to expand on yesterday’s post Lonely #1, I want to give you another example of when people can feel particularly lonely.

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When you are struggling and someone you care about doesn’t seem to notice or even care that you’re in need, can be heartbreaking and can make you feel particularly lonely.

So again today, remember to reach out to those in need, as you may just be the lift they need to get them through the day.

I came across this picture last week about loneliness, and I wanted to share it with you.

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I must be honest and say I can completely relate to this. I don’t know exactly what the above quote meant when it says “feeling that no one cares”, as it stops there. For me, I’d say “feeling that no one cares, even though I know they do”.

There have been times in my life when I have felt like no one cares. Even then I think deep down, I know I really am not alone because others do care – I just need to remind myself!

It can be difficult to feel others care when there’s no one around you, or no one notices when you’re struggling, or no one wants to talk to you, so let’s make a point of doing all we can to ensure we don’t let anyone we know ever feel alone.

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Have a clear out                                                                                                                                                 

 

When a say have a clear out, I mean have a look through your wardrobe and take out anything that you’ve not worn for over 6 months. If you’ve not worn it in that amount of time, are you really going to wear it again?

I’m sure we’ve all got things in our wardrobe that we’ve kept because once we “lose a bit of weight” it’ll fit us again. But let’s be realistic, how long was it since it last fitted you? Are you really going to ever fit in it again?

Once you’ve been through your wardrobe and taken out the things you’ve not worn for a while, bag then up and take them to your local charity shop. Not only will you help the charity shop, but clearing out will help you feel you’ve achieved something worthwhile.

clear out your wardrobe

 

 

We’re taught from a very early age to say sorry when we say or do things which we shouldn’t. When we say sorry as a child, do you think we truly understand what saying sorry means and how we should feel when we say sorry?

How about now? As an adult do you say sorry to others out of habit or simply because you think it’s the right thing to say, or because it’s what the other person wants to hear, or is it because you really feel remorseful and sorry for your words or actions?

It’s the same when we ask God for forgiveness, there’s no point just going through the motions of asking for forgiveness, we must be prepared to accept God’s forgiveness. Are you ready?