Archive for the ‘communication’ Category

No matter what anyone else thinks, I truly believe that what we say and how we say it really does matter.

I suspect we’ve all been hurt at some time or another by what or how someone has said something to us. I know I have been guilty of saying things to others in a way that I shouldn’t and for that I am sorry – I pray daily that God will help me to be more understanding and patient towards others, so that I do not speak to others in a way that may hurt or offend them.

Just as we need to be careful what and how we speak to other adults, it’s just as important, if not more so, that we are extra careful what and how we speak to and in the presence of children. After all I’m sure we’ve all witnessed a child saying or doing something which they have copied from an adult or another child. Be careful what we say and how we talk to our children as this is how they will talk to others!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue. ~ Proverbs 18:21

Technology is everywhere these days, and in many instances it helps make our lives that little bit easier. Here’s some examples:

  • Turn on your house lights when you’re away from home.
  • Speak ‘face-to-face’ with friends and family who live on the other side of the world whenever we want.
  • Send an alert to health care providers when you have a problem.
  • Let us keep up to date with world events as they happen.

However, it struck me towards the end of the football season just finished, that while in many football matches we now have the love it or hate it, VAR, as well as goal line technology to tell us if a ball as crossed the line or not, there’s another part of the game I find it incredible that we’re still using the same system as was used many years ago.

Have you any thoughts on what I’m thinking about?

Assistant referees!

They still run up and down the line with just their flag to wave to try and capture the referee’s attention when they spot a free kick, offside, throw in, goal kick, substitution etc.

Surely in this day and age there must be a better way to get the referee’s attention that by waving a flag?! How about some technology that the assistant referee presses a button to indicate what they’ve seen and that immediately alerts the referee, not just to the fact that the assistant has spotted something, but also what type of offence or situation they’ve spotted.

We don’t need to rely on the referee spotting their assistant flagging, we can do this much more effectively. What do you think, are you with me?

Have a look around you. Look at the people you see. How many are on their phones, not necessarily talking to anyone, but simply on some social media site ‘chatting’ with friends or family?

Next time you’re outside, do the same, look around and see what many around are doing. Again I suspect you’ll find the majority are probably using their mobile phone.

We’re probably all guilty of being ‘on’ our phones far more these days than we should be, so I’m sure we all make sure we never get into a situation where we get the dreaded ‘low battery’ message.

But consider this

We try to do so much these days, running around from one thing to another, keeping going because we don’t want to let anyone down. We put on a ‘public face’ so others won’t see how much we’re struggling with life, even when we’re exhausted and find we’ve no energy to carry on with life.

We’re guilty of taking better care of our phones than we do ourselves sometimes, aren’t we? So please stop, have a think about what percentage you’d say your own personal battery would register at. If you’d say your battery would say ‘low battery’, it’s time for you to take a time out from life, and look after yourself, your health and your well-being, because you need a break.

When we shout, people hear.

When people hear you shout, do they understand why you are shouting? Do you they respond to your shouts, or do they turn away and pretend they haven’t heard you?

As I’ve said in earlier posts this week, being in a crowd when you feel alone, can be one of the loneliest places in the world – No matter how loud you shout, no-one hears you; No matter how friendly everyone seems, you feel isolated and alone.

When you hear someone cry for help, no matter how loud or how quiet, listen and act as someone needs you. Someone needs you to be the true friend they are desperately in need of.

If you go into a coffee shop or cafe and there’s no spare tables but there are some vacant seats at a table someone else is already sitting at, what do you do? Do you

  1. Leave the cafe/shop
  2. Wait until a table becomes free
  3. Get your coffee and go and sit down in one of the vacant chairs

If you went for option 3, what would you do? Would you

  1. Ask the person(s) already at the table if the seat was free so you could use it
  2. Just sit down without speaking to those already sitting at the table

Well in the last few weeks I’ve experience both those options. The first, it was me who was sitting at a table with 3 free seats (it was the only free table when I had gone there), when a woman and what I assumed was her mother, came over and sat down at the table with me, piling their bags on the other vacant seat. When they sat down I looked up and the daughter said quite angrily to me, “You are sitting at a big table all by yourself!” I calmly responded to her that she hadn’t asked if I was waiting on anyone, but had assumed the 3 unused seats were free. I told her I was happy to share the table with others, but it would have been polite to ask if the seats were free rather than assuming they were. The daughter then swore and thumped her tray into the table. I was quite annoyed at her for that, but thankfully I had just about finished my coffee so didn’t need to sit with them for very long (their conversation included swearing almost every alternate word).

My second experience was where I had just bought a coffee and then realised there were no free tables. I spotted a lady sitting on her own at a table with 4 seats, so I went over and asked her if one of the seats was free so I could sit down. She said, “Thanks for asking, and of course you can sit down”. This lady then proceeded to chat away with me for the next 5 minutes before she finished her coffee and left the cafe. Just a few minutes after she left a man came over and asked if he could share at the table with me, and after I told him it was fine, he sat down.

Two completely different experiences, but I certainly know which was the more pleasant one! A little bit of politeness and manners goes a long way. My parents always taught me to have manners and be polite, and based on my experiences in the last few weeks, those who were polite and had manners were definitely the best.

How will others know how God can change their lives if we don’t show them what He’s done in ours through our actions and our words?

If ever there was a reason why we must live our lives as God desires us to, that is it! If we don’t show others God’s love through the way we live our lives, others will never believe God loves them and can change their life.

For this is what I’m glad to do
It’s time to live a life of love that pleases You
And I will give my all to You
Surrender everything I have and follow You
I’ll follow You

Do you regularly attend a church?

Are you inspired by the services when you attend?

If you don’t feel inspired by the worship at your church, have you wondered why?

  • Do you go out of habit not expecting to be challenged or inspired?
  • Do you go feeling there’s no way anything anyone says or does can possibly challenge you?
  • Do you go ready to be challenged, but find nothing in the service relates to you?
  • Are others in at the service challenged and inspired by the worship?

Depending on your answers to those questions, it sounds like there may be two possible solutions to why you get nothing from attending church:

  1. Maybe you need to be open and receptive to God’s message when you go to church.
  2. Maybe you should try attending a different church to see if you are more receptive to their way of worship.
  3. Suggest changes to the format of worship at your church, so that you and others can find the inspiration and challenge you are all looking for.
  4. Pray for your church; Pray for your church leadership team; Pray!

However and wherever you worship, the main thing must always be that you focus on God and make Him the centre of worship. So do what you need to do to make sure He remains at the centre of your worship.


Posted: October 22, 2018 in belief, communication, cross, life, love, Relationships, religion, words
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When someone does something wonderful for you, do you pay them back?

Here’s the dictionary definition of the word ‘Payback’

  • Profit from an investment equal to the initial outlay.
  • An act of revenge or retaliation.

God did the most wonderful thing anyone could ever do for us when he gave his only Son for us at Calvary. For many this wonderful gift from God is means nothing, but for those of us that this means the world, we must payback God for his gift to us. We can do that by telling those who aren’t aware of God’s gift to us, about this wonderful gift, and just how much God loves us.

Is this what other’s think when they look at how you live your life? If it’s not, we’re not living our life in the way God wants us too.

Let’s make sure that we cause unbelievers to question their unbelief when they see how we live our lives.

Are you the type of person who likes to turn the tv or radio on as soon as you get out of bed and chat to the rest of your household or do you like quiet and time to ‘come to’ slowly and peacefully?

I’m definitely the later, I hate noise or talking when I get up in the morning, and by that I mean for about the first hour of two after I get out of bed!

Are there specific things you like or want to include in your morning routine? For me having some quiet time after I awake gives me that time to just be, to think about the day ahead, to pray for the day ahead and the other people or situations on my prayer list.

So even if you like your noise in the morning, make sure you still find some quiet time with God, making him not just part of your every day, but the centre of your day.