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Yesterday on the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month we remembered the fallen by taking part in a two minute silence to remember those who have fought and died for their country. Across the country, people young and old, in a wide variety of places and circumstances, paused just for a few minutes, just to remember the men, women and children who have died in wars the UK has participated in. They sacrificed their all so we may have the freedom to live our lives in this country. We should never forget what they gave for us, and we must never forget their sacrifice.

Just as many have given their lives for the freedom of this country, Jesus also paid the ultimate sacrifice by giving His life for us. The difference with Jesus is that not only did He die so we could be free, but He died so that we would be forgiven of our sins.

I vow today not only to never forget those who have died in conflicts around the world, but also to serve Christ always as way of repaying God for sacrificing His only son, just so I could be forgiven.

There are thousands and thousands of words in the English language, but isn’t it funny how we still can’t find the right ones sometimes.

If a friend is hurt or upset by someone else it’s not easy to know how to make them feel better about themselves.

When someone is bereaved it can be hard to know what to say to them, not because we don’t care, but because we understand their pain and heartache.

Likewise, when struggling with life in general, telling someone just to ‘give themselves a shake’ or ‘snap out of it’ is not helpful, however it doesn’t make finding the right words any easier either.

When we are that person I described above who’s in need of help or support, it can difficult for us also to find words to explain how we feel. Unfortunately others can’t fully understand our feelings/emotions or what’s in our heart if we can find the words to express them. However God can!

Even when we are silent and find we have no words of prayer to say to God, He knows and understands what’s in our heart and on our minds. He will therefore take those unspoken prayers and answer them in His own way and in His own time.

Here’s a song which expresses all those thoughts/feelings perfectly:

Once again news of another shooting in America hit the news headlines on Sunday night. Just about the time I heard of this latest atrocity, I read the following by Nicky Gumbel, and never did these words seem more appropriate:

You are never more like God than when you are helping hurting people, lifting up the fallen and restoring the broken.

Please join me in praying for the family and friends of all those caught up in the events at the First Baptist Church of Sutherland Springs in Texas last night.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ~ Psalm 34:18

Saying goodbye to a loved one is never very easy – Whether it’s saying farewell to them at train or bus station, or the airport; or leaving home for the first time to live on your own or go to university.

There are of course other far more difficult situations that we sometimes have to cope with, such as leaving a loving one in hospital, a care home or a hospice, knowing it’s unlikely they will ever come home again.

Then there is of course the worst of all, when we have to say our final farewells to a loved one when they pass way, that can be one of the most difficult things any of us ever have to deal with.

So how to we get through those times? We trust God.

Whatever the situation, God will watch over our loved ones, just as he watches over us, so trust God!

 

There’s a song I’ve used several times in the last few weeks that talks about our beliefs as Christians. The song is called We Believe and it was written and performed by the Newsboys.

I make no apology for using the song again today, as ever since I came across it again a couple of weeks ago, I’ve found the words and the melody of this song going through my mind almost constantly.

On days when I’ve felt down, just listening to the words/melody again have brightened the day. On days when I felt there was no point in doing specific things, listening to the words/melody have given me more energy. On days when I’ve felt alone and missing my Mum and Dad, even then this song has helped as it’s reminded me that Mum believed – and because they brought me up in the Salvation Army, I too believe, and therefore I know I will see them both again someday.

I believe, do you?

Out of sight, out of mind.

For some things this is definitely true, but when it comes to those we love, they are definitely not out of our mind when they are not around.

Whether we have loved ones who are working far from home or moved to another country, they are in our mind, even if we don’t speak to them as often as we used to do.

For those loved ones who have passed away, they too are definitely not far from our mind even although they are no longer here. If anything they are on our mind more, because we miss them, and wish we could have more time with them.

Do we feel the same when it comes to our friends, neighbours, colleagues and fellow christians? In other words, if we don’t see any of these people one day, do we just ignore that and carry  on, not bothering to check they are ok, or do we keep them in our mind, check up on them, and pray for them?

Don’t let anyone you know fall out of your thoughts just because you don’t see them as regularly as you used to.

There is only one certainty about life, and that is death.

The death of a loved one will touch us all at some time in our lives. And when it hits us, we all cope with grief in a different way, and for different lengths of time.

Grief isn’t something that can easily be described, as it’s different for everyone – some people take years to work through their grief, others take a few months, while some are able to acknowledge their loss and move on almost immediately.

Even then though, you may find times when you think you’ve worked through your grief, but the next moment it’s right there in front of you staring at you, and wrapping itself around you again.

No matter how hard you try not to let grief take over your life, it will demand you feel it and acknowledge it. There may be days when you’ve made it through the day without your grief, but then the second your head hits the pillow, your grief comes flooding back and it lies heavy on your heart all night.

Grief is natural, but have you noticed how no-one really knows what to say to you when you’re grieving, even though all you want is for someone just to hug you or hold you while you let your grief pour out.

Grief is natural, but when you’re experiencing it, it can seem like the hardest thing you’ve ever had to deal with. Grieving shows us just how deeply we care about or loved the person who has died. It may even be that it’s their death that actually makes us realise just how much they meant to you.

Don’t let another day pass without realising how much those around you truly mean to you, because when they are gone, you will never get another chance to tell them just what they mean to you.

The sun comes up, it’s a new day dawning
It’s time to sing Your song again
Whatever may pass and whatever lies before me
Let me be singing when the evening comes

Sometimes no matter how many reasons others give us, to encourage us to do something, it’s still not enough.

There are millions of reasons why we should trust God, but for me it come down to one, the fact that he sent His only son to earth to live as one of us. And then pay the ultimate price for that, by sacrificing himself for us.

Who needs 10,000 reasons when one is good enough! 

Oh, the glorious day when we arrive
And heaven’s gates are open wide
All our fear and pain will fade away
When we see You face to face
Our great and awesome King

We’re only on this earth for a limited time, yet we don’t often spend time thinking about that glorious day when we will meet our maker. God has promised us eternal life, if we simply give Him our all. Not just eternal life, but a life free from all suffering and all pain – What a glorious day that will be

In Your City

Oh, the glorious day when we arrive
And heaven’s gates are open wide
All our fear and pain will fade away
When we see You face to face
Our great and awesome King

You will reign in brilliant light
Forever glorified in Your city
And we, Your daughters and Your sons
Will see Your kingdom come in Your city

Love will reign and joy will have no end
When the cites go marching in
God we pray that You’d come soon
Cuz we will wait to be with You
Our great and awesome King

You will reign in brilliant light
Forever glorified in Your city
And we, Your daughters and Your sons
Will see Your kingdom come in Your city

When we’ve been there for ten thousand years
Our song will be the same
Praise the One who has brought us here
Jesus is His name, Jesus is His name

You will reign in brilliant light
Forever glorified in Your city
We, Your daughters and Your sons
Will see the kingdom come in Your city
My city
This is Your city, my city

That moment when you have to agree it’s time to say goodbye to your family pet.

When I was growing up we had a cat who was 1 year older than me…yes, my Mum and Dad got a cat before I came along. Most of my childhood we had that same cat, as I was 15 before that cat had to be put to sleep because she wasn’t well.

When I got married, we got a cat on our 1st wedding anniversary, and so that cat became a huge part of our married life. After having that cat for almost 20 years, we finally had to make that heart wrenching decision to put him down as he was so unwell.

It was awful. There was a huge emptiness in our home, as other than the first year of our marriage, the cat had been part of our married life. It was a big change for us not having a cat around the house anymore.

Some of you who have never owned a pet, will probably think we were daft getting all upset when we had to say goodbye to our furry family friends. However those of you who have had a pet at some time, will totally understand that our pets just become another member of our family. Therefore, when our pets die, it is ok that we get upset, just as we do when a person we love dies.