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We all have limitations, although of us may have different types of limitations – maybe we have health problems, lack of work employment, no support within a family situation, financial concerns.

Ultimately whatever limitations we have, even though they may limit what we can do, but we must make the most of the situations we’re in, no matter whether these issues severely limit our ability or have little impact on our day-to-day life.

Remember that for some, their limitations mean managing to walk just a few steps is a huge success, while for others getting through their day without falling apart emotionally is their goal.

Limitations help us set goals and targets for ourselves, not for others, so be happy when you reach your own goals and targets and don’t be too concerned about what others think your goals should be, as only you know the full extent of your limitations.

Rule

  • One of a set of explicit or understood regulations or principles governing conduct or procedure within a particular area of activity.
  • Control of or dominion over an area or people.

Let’s take a closer look at the second definition – control of or dominion over an area or people.

How is your life? Is your life controlled by others, say your kids, or your work?

When it comes to our relationship with God, He is always in control. And if we’ve given every part of our life to God, we have given him control of our life, so he can use us as He needs to tell others about His unconditional love for every one of us.

So let God rule your life, because that’s the only way we will ever experience true happiness, when He is at the centre of all we do.

There will be those in your life who know you well, and there will be those who know little about you other than in the context they know you. e.g. your work colleagues, your friends from the gym or sports club etc.

Even those who know you well will not know every single detail about you, as we all have experiences, thoughts or emotions which we have never shared with another human being. In other words no-one really knows everything about you…or do they?

Each one of us has one person who knows us better than we know ourselves, and we can read about this in Psalm 139. Here’s verses 1-5 taken from the Passion translation:

Lord, you know everything there is to know about me.
You perceive every movement of my heart and soul, and you understand my every thought before it even enters my mind.
You are so intimately aware of me, Lord.
You read my heart like an open book and you know all the words I’m about to speak before I even start a sentence!
You know every step I will take before my journey even begins.
You’ve gone into my future to prepare the way, and in kindness you follow behind me to spare me from the harm of my past.
With your hand of love upon my life, you impart a blessing to me.

We all have times in our life when we face challenges. e.g. the death of a loved one, unemployment, serious illness. Based on some of the things I’ve learned about myself and from talking to others, I want to share with you some things to think about when you’re facing some tough situations. I hope you find this helpful:

Admit you’re struggling

You may not realise just how much you’re struggling. However I’m sure your family or friends will have noticed a difference in you. So if someone asks you if you’re ok, don’t just say ‘yes’ really look at yourself, and be honest with yourself. After all, if you don’t know you’re struggling or in trouble, how can you start to help yourself?

Don’t hide

When you’re struggling you’ll probably feel like you want to hide away from everyone in a darkened room or in a corner. That is one of the worst things you could do! The best way to keep your emotions under control when you’re struggling is actually to keep busy. When you’re busy there’s more chance you’ll focus on the task in hand instead of continually thinking about all your problems, as that will bring you down even more.

Say ‘No’

Are you the kind of person who always says ‘yes’ when someone asks you to do something? If you are, this one might be very difficult for you, but please consider it as I believe it really is quite uplifting to say ‘No’ sometimes. You may be struggling to do everything you’re already trying to do. So remember you do not need to do everything you’re asked to do. So say ‘No’, and use that extra time to take control of your life and your emotions.

Help

You probably think I’m just suggesting you seek help for yourself from either a friend or a help care professional, however I’m also suggesting you also help others too. One of the times I was struggling, I discovered a friend was also going through a really tough time and I definitely found that by talking with them, and trying to help them, it helped me focus on someone else’s problems instead of my own. Being able to offer support and help to someone else raised my spirits, as it showed me I was still useful and helpful to someone. So speak to others about how you’re feeling, as you may be surprised to find they too may be going through a difficult time and would be grateful for your support too.

Trust

This may be my final suggestion, but it is in fact the most important one – Trust God! God is with us all the time even when we ignore him or forget him. God will always answer your prayers – Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he’ll answer them. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected, but he will answer your prayer. So trust Him! Believe in God!

Yesterday I gave you a definition of a Christian provided by Frederick Buechner. Today I have another quote for you about what it actually means to be a Christian, this time from C.S. Lewis.

We all do and say things which are wrong. We sin.

Our friends, our family, our colleagues, may forgive us when we say and do things which hurt them. That’s forgiveness.

God goes even further than any friend, family member or colleagues would ever go – He’s prepared to forgive everything we do that is wrong, regardless of how heinous or inexcusable it may be.

It’s because God is prepared to forgive all our inexcusable wrongs, that we too must try to forgive even the inexcusable. It’s hard, I know, but if God can forgive us for all the wrongs we do, surely we can try to forgive everyone else?

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. ~ Matthew 6:14-15 (NIV)

I’ve done a few Word Associations with you, and today, as the title of this post suggests, this word association is all about New Year and what it means to each of us. So as usual I’m going to throw some words at you and I want you to note down the first word that comes into your mind when you read each word.

So here goes…

  1. Hogmanay
  2. Resolution
  3. End
  4. January
  5. Holidays
  6. Shortbread
  7. Ceilidh
  8. Christmas tree
  9. Food
  10. Work

So how did you get on with those words? Did you find it easy? Did your answers surprise you or were they just as you expected?

Well here’s my responses to my questions:

  1. 31 December
  2. Broken
  3. New start
  4. Winter
  5. Over
  6. Scotland
  7. Social
  8. Away
  9. Fat
  10. Sad

Were any of your answers the same as mine? Did any of my answers confuse you? Did any of your own answers confuse you?

I’ve said in previous word association posts that I find I get a bit stressed when I’m doing them as I put a lot of pressure on myself not to over think my answers! Are you relaxed when you do them or do you find it stressful too?

I still believe that when we respond with the first words that come into our minds, our answers tell us a lot about our emotional state, and what’s important to us at that particular point in time.

Bearing all this in mind, review your answers, does my theory hold true?

I chose some words we probably all associate with New Year as well as some that I suspect if you’re not Scottish, you won’t understand (including some of my answers), maybe it’s time to find out a bit more about our Scottish New Year traditions!

That’s Christmas and New Year over, and before we know it, we’ll all be back at work or school, and we’ll be back in our daily routine again. Before we know it Christmas will seem like a distant memory as we head into what is usually the coldest, iciest and snowiest part of winter in the UK.

Now that I’ve completely depressed you all by what lies ahead of us as far as the weather is concerned, let’s go back to thinking about this new year and what it means to us.

Are you one of those people who makes one or more new year resolutions? Or have you been there done that in the past and now think they are a waste of time?

I’ve made new year resolutions in the past, but for a number of years now I haven’t made any resolutions. Why? Not because there’s nothing about my life I want to change this year, but because I don’t need the start of a new year to be determined to make these changes. Also what may be my targets or aims for this new year may change during the year because of circumstances, so where would that leave a resolution I made at the start of a year when circumstances were potentially different, so would never achieve them.

Yes I still  make a new start each year, but I make my targets and aims as I go through the year and I find this works best for me. It allows me to focus on what is important to me at the time, rather than focusing on goals set a number of month previously.

How about you, have you set new year resolutions? How achievable do you think your resolutions are?

A reminder for all programmers out there!

Always code as if guy who ends up maintaining your code will be a violent psychopath who knows where you live. ~ Martin Golding

It might be a little over the top, but it is true, when you write code, it’s always good practice to make sure you write it in a way that makes it easily understandable to the next person who has the unfortunate task of having to amend it…otherwise your name will become mud!

Happy programming 🙂

Have you ever felt like this? Bored!

We’ve probably all felt like that sometime. For the last few weeks, and the next while I am not working. This doesn’t mean I’ve been free to do what I want or go where I want as I’ve been very limited in what I am able to do physically. This has meant that I’ve had to find lots of things to do which involve limited physical activity at the very most, and that’s hard! You’ve got to be really desperate to watch day-time TV, and there’s only so much you can read, so yes, I have found myself feeling bored and frustrated at times.

So out of interest I googled ‘bored’, and had a look at some of the images it offered me that relate to being bored. This one was definitely my favourite

Don’t worry folks, I haven’t (yet!) done this 🙂

My lesson from this is that if ever I need cheered up, just google how you feel and have a look at the images it suggests, you’re sure to see one that amuses you and brightens your day.

The most meaningful presents we receive might not come wrapped in shiny paper or frilly ribbons. They are often the ones that lift your spirit, brighten your day or trigger your imagination.

I’ve been curious what others consider to be their ‘best gift’ so have been looking at other people’s stories about their ‘best gifts’, so here’s one I want to share with you.

I volunteer at San Quentin State Prison and spend many days there including my 50th birthday. At the time, I was working with a group of men on a radio project. We were being interviewed and the reporter asked us about the sounds of San Quentin. There was talk of alarms, sounds of the shower, voices out on the yard and then one of the men said, ‘But the best sound of all is …’ and they broke in to a beautiful rendition of Happy Birthday. It was lovely and emotional and I knew at that moment I found the work I wanted to dedicate the second part of my life to. ~ Artist and podcast host Nigel Poor

Sometimes the most precious of gifts will come from the most unexpected of sources, as it did for this person. So always expect the unexpected, as these moments may be some of the most precious you will experience.