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30 years ago today, the worst disaster in British sporting history happened during an FA Cup semi-final football match between Liverpool and Nottingham Forest at Hillsborough Stadium in Sheffield.

With 96 fatalities and 766 injuries, so many families were affected by what happened that day. So many people left their homes to go and watch a football match, and never got to return home. It was a desperately sad day for everyone involved, and even for those of us who watch the TV as news of the terrible events unfolded.

Today, 30 years on, we remember not only the 96 people who lost their lives, but those who were injured and the families of all those who were caught up in the those awful events.

When I discovered that a band I’ve seen a number of times had written song specifically to remember this tragic event, I felt I had to share it with you. I not only remembers those who were killed but it’s also a great song.

So as you listen to The Christians sing Big Red Sky, remember those who were killed or injured at Hillsborough 30 years ago today.

 

Have you ever looked back in your life, and wished you could relive a time in your life over again, but this time you’d say/act differently?

I have often thought about the person I used to be, and have often wished I could change the person I was into the person I am now. Don’t get me wrong, I’m far from perfect now, but I really don’t like the person I used to be.

Nicole Nordeman has a song called Dear Me, in which she sings about writing a letter to her younger self to help her younger self understand better the life they are leading. The main thing from this is, she finishes by saying, “But Jesus loves us, this I know, And there are no exceptions”.

So whatever stage of your life you’re in, never forget that Jesus loves you!

Dear Me by Nicole Nordeman

Dear Me
This is a letter to the girl I used to be
Dear Me
There are some things that you should know
It’s not my intention to embarrass or to shame you
What’s inside the rear-view mirror is closer than it appears
We do the best that we know how, with what we have been given
And the difference between you and I is, I’ve been given time
In time, you’ll seeDear Me
This is a letter to the girl I used to be
Some things are not as simple as we said
Remember when we thought there were a handful of some magic words to pray
A guarantee and a down payment on a mansion
Remember all the rules we made about the Body and the Blood
The hoops we made them jump through
Though He offers it to everyone
I’m so sorryDo you remember now the things I said I thought that I deserved
My flag, and safety, a place to learn
The things I know I didn’t earn
And bless their hearts, I’m sure it’s hard
But handouts don’t help anyone
And all the talk about the system
I sure hope someone can fix them
I said those things

Dear Me
This is a letter to the girl I used to be
You’ll see, you’re gonna take the long way
And there is nothing you could do or say to separate you
From the love of God who made you just exactly as He meant to
And you cannot imagine all the places you’ll see Jesus
But you’ll find Him everywhere you thought He wasn’t supposed to go
So, go!.. Go!..

And hold all the mothers, whose babies bleed from bullet holes
And feel all the hunger, the bellies and the bones
Shout for the prisoner, cry for justice, loud and long
And march with the victims, as Jesus marches on
And sit at all the tables, ’cause Jesus eats with everyone
And dance to the music, if you can’t sing its native tongue
And cry for the wombs, the mothers and the empty arms
And hold high the warriors, fighting now for freedoms’ song

And love, love, love, love
Like it’s your own blood
And love, love, love, love
As you have been loved
Love, love, love, love
Like it’s your own blood
Love, love, love, love
As you have been loved
Love, love, love, love, love
Like you have been
Love, love, love, love, love
It’s all about love!
Love, love, love, love, love
His name is love
Love, love, love, love, love

Dear Me
You did not learn this in a day or two or three
So ask a lot of questions
But Jesus loves us, this I know
And there are no exceptions

Today in the UK it is Mother’s Day or Mothering Sunday. It is always celebrated on the 4th Sunday of Lent, exactly 3 weeks before Easter.

Although these days today is seen as a day for celebrating our mothers and all they do for us. It was traditionally a day when people returned to their ‘mother’ church. The place they were baptised, or the parish where they grew up and were nurtured in faith and where people cared for them as they grew up.

I wonder who those people were for you? A family member, a member of your church, maybe your mother.

For those whose mothers have passed away, Mother’s Day can be a difficult day. While for those who have children, it can be a joyful occasion where their family celebrate all mother does for them.

I must admit, while it’s great to celebrate the life of our mothers, there always seems to me to be little consideration given to those whose mother’s have passed away, those mother’s who have lost a child, and those who would love to be mothers but it either has never happened for them, or other reasons have prevented them from having a family.

However you feel about celebrating Mother’s Day today, I pray that whether it be celebrating with your mother, celebrating with your family, or simply remembering your mother or child who have passed away, that you find some joy from your time with family, or remembering those loved ones who are no longer with us.

Life can be hard to cope with at times, particularly when we have a number of difficult or stressful situations to deal with at the same time.

The best way to cope when you’re stressed or struggling to deal with life issues is to give all your stresses and problems to God and let Him take care of all of them. That’s easy to say, but can be incredibly difficult do because when we’re going through a tough time we can forget to pray, thinking God has abandoned us. The worst thing is, it’s during these times that we need God most.

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. (Matthew 11:28 – King James Version)

Be assured that God will give you all you need when life gets tough. Give all your problems to God today.

Come just as you are by Sydney Staff Songsters

Imagine you had no constraints. i.e. Money is no issue, you have no time constraints, no responsibilities, no health issues. In other words you can go where you want, what you want, when you want. So what would you do, where would you go?

Would you go on holiday?

Perhaps you’d buy yourself a new car or a new house?

Maybe you’d learn to do something you’ve never had the time or the money to do before, such as learning to fly a plane?

Even if you have unlimited resources, it doesn’t mean they will last forever. So whether you have little money or lots of money, have lots of health concerns or as healthy as you could be, have family or work responsibilities or on your own and unemployed, we still need to look after what we have.

We need to take care of ourselves, our possessions, our friends and family, and make sure we use our time wisely.

I remember when I was young, my gran used to beckon me to “come close so I can…”. I would get all excited when she said that to me, as often it was to give me a some sweets or some coins from her purse. It maybe doesn’t sound like much now, but at that time, and at that age, it really meant something to me.

There is another person who beckoned to me to “come close” many years ago, and I responded, and that is God. God continues to call me to Him after all these years, because He knows that sometimes I just need reminded to go to Him when I’m in trouble.

As you come close to God in prayer, He brings purpose even from the brokenness of your life. You can’t remain downcast when you turn your face upward to God. He reaches down to your lowest pit, but He doesn’t leave you there. Women Who Move Mountains – @SueDetweiler

We all have limitations, although of us may have different types of limitations – maybe we have health problems, lack of work employment, no support within a family situation, financial concerns.

Ultimately whatever limitations we have, even though they may limit what we can do, but we must make the most of the situations we’re in, no matter whether these issues severely limit our ability or have little impact on our day-to-day life.

Remember that for some, their limitations mean managing to walk just a few steps is a huge success, while for others getting through their day without falling apart emotionally is their goal.

Limitations help us set goals and targets for ourselves, not for others, so be happy when you reach your own goals and targets and don’t be too concerned about what others think your goals should be, as only you know the full extent of your limitations.

I recently heard the word ‘runaway’ on a TV programme which I wasn’t particularly watching, it was just a noise in the corner. I’ve found since then that since then I’ve thought about ‘runaways’ on a number of occasions since then, but wasn’t entirely sure why.

So I decided to think about this in more detail and find out why this word was nagging at me. First I though I’d think about ‘runaway’ situations:

  • Children or teenagers running away from home.
  • Running away from a dangerous of hazardous situation.
  • Not running away in the physical sense, but in an emotional sense when you try to distance yourself from emotional or stressful events or situations.
  • Again, not running away in the physical sense, but in an emotional sense when you try to distance yourself from a work situation you don’t want to get involved in.
  • Believing God exists and knowing you should trust Him, but failing to full give Him your all, means you’re running away from Him and His abundant love.

Running away can sometimes be the only option in some circumstances, for example when you’re in danger. However when it comes to running away from God, is there really a good reason to run? God has only ever offered each of us his love, forgiveness of our sins and everlasting life – All he wants in turn is our all. When we give him our all we can find that perfect peace we’ve been seeking for so long.

When we’re young, I’m we all were read stories by our parents at bedtime. When we go to school, we’re given stories to read ourselves and encouraged to read more stories ourselves.

I love reading, I always have, I think it was the fictional stories I was told or read that really caught my imagination and made me want to read more.

Were you inspired by the stories you read as youngster? Did you ever think you could write a bestseller or maybe I should ask did you ever wish you could write a bestseller?

I said the stories I read as  youngster, were fictional stories, and they are still my favourite – I like crime/detective stories best.

But stories don’t have to be fictional to be best sellers. In fact the best-selling books ever was not fictional, the bible! You may find some lists of best sellers do not include the bible, which I don’t understand, as if it’s not a book what is it!

Stories of love, hatred, instructions for life, adversity, parenting, deceit, war, life lessons, miracles…you name it, the bible has a story about it! So if you’ve never read the best-selling book of all time (or even if you have), why not start reading it today. Don’t be put of by the language in the bible, as many of the versions that are now available read just as stories, so you’d never realise you were even reading the bible if it wasn’t for all bible characters being mentioned!

I saw a post on Facebook which read,

Having a daughter is God’s way of saying “Here I thought you could do with a lifelong friend”

The post went on to say they loved their daughter and to share the post if you agreed.

It’s great saying you love your daughter, but to me, the post got me questioning, can you

  1. only get a lifelong friend by having a daughter?
  2. only have a daughter if you need a lifelong friend?

Personally thought this post was a bit inconsiderate and even a bit hurtful to those who, for whatever reason, do not have children.

It also felt as if it completely dismissed those who have no real friends so would love to have even one friend, never mind a lifelong friend.

There are many people in this world who are on their own, and have no-one they can call a friend – If the statement is true, do they not deserve a lifelong friend because they don’t have a daughter?

Similarly, there are many people in this world who would love to have a daughter, but for many reasons do not have one – If the statement is true, do they not have a daughter because they don’t deserve a lifelong friend?

I’ve noticed on many occasions, how insensitive others can be towards those who don’t have children – They can be treated like lepers, even although it’s not through choice that many don’t have children. So be sensitive in your words and actions when it comes to comments about people without children, because you probably have it completely wrong about why they don’t have any.