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Rule

  • One of a set of explicit or understood regulations or principles governing conduct or procedure within a particular area of activity.
  • Control of or dominion over an area or people.

Let’s take a closer look at the second definition – control of or dominion over an area or people.

How is your life? Is your life controlled by others, say your kids, or your work?

When it comes to our relationship with God, He is always in control. And if we’ve given every part of our life to God, we have given him control of our life, so he can use us as He needs to tell others about His unconditional love for every one of us.

So let God rule your life, because that’s the only way we will ever experience true happiness, when He is at the centre of all we do.

All you need

Posted: February 14, 2019 in family, friendship, love, music, Relationships, religion, words
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All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

Do you think that true, is all we need, love?

Love is certainly a good start, as when we love one another, all sorts of good things start to happen.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:6-7 (NIV)

God loves each of us unconditionally, regardless of anything we may have said or done in the past. So do the same, love your friends, neighbours, work colleagues, team mates, family etc unconditionally, expecting and wanting nothing in return, that way you will honour God, and his love for you.

How many times have you heard or been told that you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family?

If you were given that option, would you choose the family you have? And secondly, do you think your family choose you?

When in comes to God’s family, we are all chosen. God made every one of us individually and uniquely in his image, so it’s no surprise God will always choose us. The question is, based on our words and our actions, do we deserve to be chosen by God?

Let’s do all we can do to deserve God’s unconditional love. And just as God loves us unconditionally, let’s make sure we everyone we meet unconditionally.

We all have times in our life when we face challenges. e.g. the death of a loved one, unemployment, serious illness. Based on some of the things I’ve learned about myself and from talking to others, I want to share with you some things to think about when you’re facing some tough situations. I hope you find this helpful:

Admit you’re struggling

You may not realise just how much you’re struggling. However I’m sure your family or friends will have noticed a difference in you. So if someone asks you if you’re ok, don’t just say ‘yes’ really look at yourself, and be honest with yourself. After all, if you don’t know you’re struggling or in trouble, how can you start to help yourself?

Don’t hide

When you’re struggling you’ll probably feel like you want to hide away from everyone in a darkened room or in a corner. That is one of the worst things you could do! The best way to keep your emotions under control when you’re struggling is actually to keep busy. When you’re busy there’s more chance you’ll focus on the task in hand instead of continually thinking about all your problems, as that will bring you down even more.

Say ‘No’

Are you the kind of person who always says ‘yes’ when someone asks you to do something? If you are, this one might be very difficult for you, but please consider it as I believe it really is quite uplifting to say ‘No’ sometimes. You may be struggling to do everything you’re already trying to do. So remember you do not need to do everything you’re asked to do. So say ‘No’, and use that extra time to take control of your life and your emotions.

Help

You probably think I’m just suggesting you seek help for yourself from either a friend or a help care professional, however I’m also suggesting you also help others too. One of the times I was struggling, I discovered a friend was also going through a really tough time and I definitely found that by talking with them, and trying to help them, it helped me focus on someone else’s problems instead of my own. Being able to offer support and help to someone else raised my spirits, as it showed me I was still useful and helpful to someone. So speak to others about how you’re feeling, as you may be surprised to find they too may be going through a difficult time and would be grateful for your support too.

Trust

This may be my final suggestion, but it is in fact the most important one – Trust God! God is with us all the time even when we ignore him or forget him. God will always answer your prayers – Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he’ll answer them. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected, but he will answer your prayer. So trust Him! Believe in God!

When you’re going through a tough period of time, it really can feel like you are completely on your on – Not necessarily that there’s no one living with you or around you day-to-day, but no one really understands how you feel, or even seems to care how you feel.

Maybe you’re being told to “give yourself a shake” or “things aren’t that bad”, but both those statements (plus others) are not helpful when you feel at rock bottom.

I have found in those situations that even at night when I tried to sleep, my mind was constantly active reiterating to me how hopeless things were, or how bad things looked. This usually resulted in me not getting much sleep, which in turn made it more difficult to concentrate on standard everyday tasks, again making it feel like I couldn’t do anything right anymore.

Hang on in there though, as even through those difficult times, God is still by your side. It may not feel like he is, but I can assure you he is always there, and will help you during those days. You probably won’t realise during those times that God is helping you, but believe me when you get through that time, you’ll look back and you’ll see God’s part your survival.

So keep on believing God is with you, as he will help you through your storm.

Keep the Candle Burning by Point of Grace

You think you’re alone there in your silent storm
But I’ve seen the tears you’ve cried falling down and trying to drown
The flame of hope inside
Let me tell you now, tell you now
When you’re walking in the dead of night
And your soul is churning
When your hope seems out of sight
Keep the candle burning
All it takes is one steady heart in a world that’s turning
Shine a light and pierce the dark
Keep the candle burning
Keep the candle burning
When you’re down and you’re discouraged
When the darkness clouds your view
You’ve got to gather up your courage
You know the lord is gonna see you through
Let me tell you now
Tell you now
One ray of light always breaks through
Follow wherever he takes you
Wherever he takes you

 

How far would you go to help someone you love? Would you do anything and everything in your power to help them? I’m sure you would.

But if it were someone you didn’t know, but you knew they needed help, would you do anything for them?

Here’s what God wants us to do:

God would do anything for you, that’s why he gave his only son. So let’s make sure we do anything and everything to help those who need help.

Yesterday I gave you a definition of a Christian provided by Frederick Buechner. Today I have another quote for you about what it actually means to be a Christian, this time from C.S. Lewis.

We all do and say things which are wrong. We sin.

Our friends, our family, our colleagues, may forgive us when we say and do things which hurt them. That’s forgiveness.

God goes even further than any friend, family member or colleagues would ever go – He’s prepared to forgive everything we do that is wrong, regardless of how heinous or inexcusable it may be.

It’s because God is prepared to forgive all our inexcusable wrongs, that we too must try to forgive even the inexcusable. It’s hard, I know, but if God can forgive us for all the wrongs we do, surely we can try to forgive everyone else?

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. ~ Matthew 6:14-15 (NIV)

I’d like to take this opportunity to wish you all a very happy and blessed 2019!

Thank you for following my blog. I pray that in this coming year I may challenge and inspire you, as well as giving you a laugh sometimes. Thank you for your support.

We may not know what lies ahead of us this year, but whatever 2019 may bring our way, I pray you will find the love, strength and support to face it all, both from your family and your friends, but even more so from God.

A new day and a brand new year has come, bringing with it opportunities to shine.

 

So today is the last day of 2018, and me, like many others I’m sure, have been thinking about this last year – the highs and the lows, the memorable events and the immediately forgotten events, the friendships strengthened and those posted missing.

I discovered that in my first blog post of 2018 I said:

We may not know what lies ahead of us this year, but whatever 2018 may bring our way, I pray you will find the love, strength and support to face it all, both from your family and your friends, but even more so from God.

Little did I know when I wrote these words, what 2018 was going to have in store for me! 2018 for me has been a very unusual year, as having not felt great since the start of the year, I was told at the start of June I needed major surgery, so from then until my surgery it was a struggle as I didn’t feel great and had to watch what I wasn’t overdoing thing. Then since my surgery at the start of October I’ve spent the remainder of the year off work recuperating and gradually trying to build up my strength and get back to my ‘normal’ (whatever that is!).

So for me this had been a difficult year health wise, however on other levels it’s been a great year, as my faith has probably never been stronger.

So now as I look forward to 2019, I pray for a health and happiness in this coming year for myself, my family, my friends and each of you who follow and read my blog.

Christmas viewing

Posted: December 29, 2018 in Christmas, family, religion, television
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When I was younger, I remember always looking forward to the Christmas season for many reasons: time with family, presents, remembering the birth of Jesus and of course Christmas TV.

Maybe it’s just my imagination now, but the programmes on TV then were so much better than they are these days. I remember there being lots of Christmas specials of all the favourite TV shows, very few repeats, and lots of great Christmas films.

That is definitely not what we have had this Christmas is it? There have been so many repeats of old Christmas shows which now look so dated, loads of animation films that don’t relate to the Christmas season at all, and when it comes to the soaps, they certainly haven’t been particularly cheery once again!

 

I have to say that, for us, this Christmas has been one of the worst for TV that we can ever remember – we’ve struggled to find any more than just a few great Christmas films or new Christmas specials.

So how do you rate this year’s Christmas TV?