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You see your neighbours out in their garden, or in the street. You see your work colleagues in the office. You see your friends in your house or theirs. But do you really know any of them?

We can all be very judgemental of others at times simply because of what we see when we look at them. However what we see of people in public is often just a small part of them, so remember what you see of someone is probably not the “real” person.

Sometimes the strongest people are the ones who love beyond all faults, cry behind closed doors and fight battles that nobody knows about. ~ Nicky Gumbel

Struggles in life can be hard at the time, but they definitely make us stronger people, and make us the people we are today. Don’t judge someone by what you see, as they may be fighting a battle behind closed doors that you know nothing about.

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At a time when many have just received their school exam results, this quote from Nicky Gumbel seems particularly applicable:

Your age doesn’t define your maturity; your grades don’t define your ability; and what people say about you doesn’t define who you are.

So if you or your children or friends have received your exam results i these last few weeks, please remember that no matter how good, or bad, those results are, they will not define who you are today or the person you will become in the future.

Your exam results may have been exactly what you wanted and that is great. But if they weren’t, it’s not a disaster, it simply means you may need to make a few changes to how you want your future to unfold, but you can do it, and you can achieve exactly what you want to achieve.

When you’re in love it doesn’t mean the rest of your life will be full of happiness all the time. Life will be just the same, with ups and downs, however it does mean you’ll have someone you love to share all those times with.

Yesterday I spoke about the postcards we used to send our family and friends when we went on holiday, and how many times they would tell them “wish you were here”.

There are of course other times when we say “wish you were here”, and sadly at those times, that wish will never come true. When someone we love dies, it is of course a very emotional and difficult time, and so we may find ourselves saying we wish they were still here with us.

While we may wish those we love and care about will be with us forever, in reality it isn’t going to happen, because the only certain thing about life is that we will all die at some point. I don’t mean to make this a really morbid post, so I simply want to remind you that even through the hurt and heartache of losing someone we love, we must hold onto the precious moments we have spent with them. It won’t take away our heartache, but it will help you remember them just the way you loved them.

So yes, we wish our loved ones were still here with us, but if we keep focused on our memories, when we close our eyes, they will almost be here with us again.

Do you still send postcards when you go in holiday?

I guess most people probably don’t send postcards anymore when they’re on holiday as there is a much quicker and easier way to show your friends and family how your holiday is going, and that’s via social media such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter to name but a few.

Now that we share photos and info about our holidays immediately with our friends and family, so we still have the same sentiment of wishing they were ‘here’ with us?

I suspect while we might be happy for some of our friends and family to be with us, we actually enjoy our time away from everyone, and away from our everyday lives. We would miss our friends and family if they weren’t with us, so I’m sure in reality, in our everyday lives, we do wish our friends and family to be with us.

How many times when you were younger did your parents shout to you, “Are you ready to go?”

Throughout our lives we have to get ourselves ready for time for specific events or meetings. Are you the kind of person who likes to be ready on time, or are you someone who rushes around at the last minutes, or are you the person who always turns up a few minutes late?

When I was younger I used to always be running at the last-minute to get to events or meetings, but these days I’m the complete opposite as I always try to be early for everything I’m expected to attend.

However, just because I like to be ready in time for events, doesn’t always mean I’m fully prepared! I might have got myself to the events or meeting place on time, but it doesn’t mean I’ve done all the preparatory work I should have done. When this happens, I never quite get out the event or meeting what I hoped, and that is the lesson I’ve learned…that I need to make sure I’m fully prepared.

It seems like only a few weeks ago it was Christmas 2017 and we were heading into 2018, so how are we nearly half-way through August already!

I know some say that time seems to pass quicker the older we get.

I’m not sure I necessarily agree with that, as I think it’s just that everyone is so busy these days that our days go by much quicker than they used to.

In a time where technology allows us to communicate with others 24/7, keep up to date with news and events both home and abroad throughout the day and night, is it any wonder we all find ourselves living busy lives?

It’s always at the back of my mind though that there are so many people who don’t have any family or friends to call on, or talk to.

Isolated, alone and feeling like no-one cares about them.

Isn’t it time we start to care about everyone in the community?

It’s our responsibility as neighbours, colleagues, friends, to look out for those who have no-one else.

I therefore challenge you today to be the person who makes a positive difference in someone else’s life today – Will you take up my challenge?

Love is… #1

Posted: August 9, 2018 in family, friendship, life, love, quotes, Relationships
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When you love someone you don’t want to be apart from them. You don’t want to leave any space between you. So why not sit close to them even when there is plenty of space on the bench you’re sitting on.

We’ll do anything for those we love, won’t we?

Today I want to share another post I shared with my Facebook friends a few days ago.

If you’re struggling with some issues, crying all the time, but people just keep telling you to “stop crying”, you’ll understand that these suggestions would be far more helpful!

If you have a family member or friend who’s going through a tough time, and you find they are crying all the time, here’s some suggestions of what to say to them instead of just telling them to “stop crying”.

I mentioned in yesterday’s blog that the following song is quite special to me:

O Love that will not let me go,
I rest my weary soul in thee;
I give thee back the life I owe,
That in thine ocean depths its flow
May richer, fuller be.

O Light that foll’west all my way,
I yield my flick’ring torch to thee;
My heart restores its borrowed ray,
That in thy sunshine’s blaze its day
May brighter, fairer be.

O Joy that seekest me through pain,
I cannot close my heart to thee;
I trace the rainbow through the rain,
And feel the promise is not vain,
That morn shall tearless be.

O Cross that liftest up my head,
I dare not ask to fly from thee;
I lay in dust life’s glory dead,
And from the ground there blossoms red
Life that shall endless be.

It’s a song that reminds me that no matter how I feel, or what I’m going through, God is with me. It makes me feel like God is surrounding me with his love, holding me close so no harm can come to me, protecting me, just like a mother or father would do with their child.

yesterday I shared a new setting for this song, but today I share with you one of my favourite Salvation Army band pieces, William Himes’ Procession To Covenant by Regent Hall Salvation Army band.