Archive for the ‘friendship’ Category

I don’t know about you, but when I’m not feeling so good, or feeling low, emotional or alone, I just want to hide from the world and everyone in it. The last thing I want to do is run to someone for help, I prefer to be on my own, and cope with whatever I face by myself.

I know I don’t ever need to face anything on my own, as God is always with me, and will always help me. But when it comes to interacting with the world and the people in it, sometimes I just don’t want to, especially when it feels like no-one even notices when I’m not around.

At those times, that’s when I do run to God, because He’s the only one who truly knows and understand me, and how I feel. He gives me peace and hides me under His wings.

Hide Myself by Michael W Smith

I’ve heard the thunder before
I’m not a stranger to storms
Even in the flood
I can always run
To where You are

I’ve had to wait in the dark
And hold the truth in my heart
Even in the night
Still You open wide
Your faithful arms

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
Find only peace
Beneath Your wings

You are the refuge that stands
You hold my world in Your hands
The quiet in the noise
The stillness of Your voice
Will be enough

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
I find only peace

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
Find only peace
Beneath Your wings

And it’s Your presence alone
That changes all that I know
‘Til all that I know
Is just Your presence alone
I’m safe in Your shadow

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
I find only peace

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
Find only peace
Beneath Your wings

Even in the flood
I can always run
To where You are

If ever you start to doubt Him,
He’d say, there is more to you than this.

Have you ever felt that people misjudge the person you are, because they only see or know about a small part of your life? We are human, and human nature tells us that within just a few seconds of meeting someone, we form an option of them.

How ridiculous is that! How can we possibly form understanding about a person based on just a few seconds?

God has known us all our lives. He know how we feel, He knows what we’re thinking, even before those thoughts have even formed in our minds. God is therefore best qualified to understand the person we are, both publicly and privately. So please remember we can never know every little thing about a person, therefore do not form opinions of how that person feels or who or what they care about, or even how good or bad they are at something, because you do not know that person in full, like God does – There is always more to a person than what you can see.

More to you than this by Mark Schultz

I know you’re compared to some image on a page, but it’s fake.
And you spend your life just to try and look that way.

Oh but there’s a girl crying out inside you,
and she’s longing to be heard.

[Chorus:]
Cause there is more, there is more, there is more to you.
Than the lies you believed they were never true.
If ever you start to doubt Him,
He’d say, there is more to you than this.

So maybe you thought if you gave yourself away, he would stay.
And maybe you felt it was worth the price you’d pay.
And you tell yourself, it doesn’t really matter.
But your heart will start to break.

[Chorus]

And all the love you need, you cannot find it.
Inside a magazine, you cannot buy it.

Don’t let ’em pull you in, don’t let ’em sell you.
Your God hung on a cross. He died to tell you…

[Chorus]

More to you than this.

I know you’re compared to some image on a page, but it’s fake.

 

When you feel alone you can feel isolated which can be frightening. But even we really have nothing to fear, because God has promised to be there for us and strengthen us at all times. All we need to do is trust Him.

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

 

Everyone struggles with loneliness at some point. Whether you are going through something hard that you don’t think anyone else understands or you are facing a change in life where you just feel alone, God’s Word provides hope and strength. There is someone who is closer than a brother and is always with You – Jesus Christ is our friend and comforter!

This is backed up by what we’re told in the bible. In Deuteronomy 31:6 we read:

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Words of comfort, words to reassure us of God’s presence, even when we feel everyone has deserted us.

Have a look around you. Look at the people you see. How many are on their phones, not necessarily talking to anyone, but simply on some social media site ‘chatting’ with friends or family?

Next time you’re outside, do the same, look around and see what many around are doing. Again I suspect you’ll find the majority are probably using their mobile phone.

We’re probably all guilty of being ‘on’ our phones far more these days than we should be, so I’m sure we all make sure we never get into a situation where we get the dreaded ‘low battery’ message.

But consider this

We try to do so much these days, running around from one thing to another, keeping going because we don’t want to let anyone down. We put on a ‘public face’ so others won’t see how much we’re struggling with life, even when we’re exhausted and find we’ve no energy to carry on with life.

We’re guilty of taking better care of our phones than we do ourselves sometimes, aren’t we? So please stop, have a think about what percentage you’d say your own personal battery would register at. If you’d say your battery would say ‘low battery’, it’s time for you to take a time out from life, and look after yourself, your health and your well-being, because you need a break.

When we shout, people hear.

When people hear you shout, do they understand why you are shouting? Do you they respond to your shouts, or do they turn away and pretend they haven’t heard you?

As I’ve said in earlier posts this week, being in a crowd when you feel alone, can be one of the loneliest places in the world – No matter how loud you shout, no-one hears you; No matter how friendly everyone seems, you feel isolated and alone.

When you hear someone cry for help, no matter how loud or how quiet, listen and act as someone needs you. Someone needs you to be the true friend they are desperately in need of.

Have you every felt completely alone? If you have you will probably be able to relate to the this

If you’ve never felt lonely, you probably do not understand how anyone can possibly feel even lonelier when other people engage in conversation with them. Just because someone talks to you, it doesn’t mean they have realised how lonely you feel, or that to you, their words seem empty because all you really need is a friend, someone who sees your struggle and just holds you to help reassure you that all will be ok.

Will everything be ok?

How many times have you asked yourself that? How many times have you asked God that?

When we’re children and we fall and hurt ourselves, our mothers or fathers will pick us up, cuddle us, and we feel better. These days who do you turn to when you need someone to just hold you?

It’s great when we have someone who will ‘just hold us’ when we need the reassurance of a hug, isn’t it.? But spare a thought for those who have no-one they can turn to for a hug, when they need someone to be there for them.

Maybe we each need to be that person that others can turn to when they need someone to just hold them. Maybe we can take those opportunities to tell them that God is more than just enough for them, as He will hold them safe in His arms forever.

When you’re really struggling because you’ve hit rock bottom, have you noticed that many either don’t notice you’re struggling, or pretend they haven’t noticed and just walk by you?

It’s at those times you discover, if you have any real friends, and if so, who they are. Take care of your friends.

Loneliness comes in all shapes and forms, it doesn’t care who you are or how weak or strong you are emotionally when the deep feeling of loneliness hits you.

For some loneliness comes because of certain life events, such as the loss of a partner or family member. That’s not the case for everyone though, as for some loneliness is something they live with on a daily basis, and not necessarily because they are actually alone – it may be they feel as is no-one truly understands them, or that they don’t fit in – all of which can cause deep feelings of loneliness.

If you’re lucky enough never to have experienced true loneliness, you will not know how difficult it can be to cope with. When loneliness takes over, we can build a protective wall around ourself, to try and stop those around us from seeing how we really feel.

Loneliness is real. Just because someone is always surrounded by lots of people, doesn’t mean they don’t experience loneliness. In fact I’d go as far as saying, one of the worst places to be when you suffer from loneliness is actually in a crowd.

So look out for those who exhibit signs of loneliness, because they need you – they need you just to reach out to them, and maybe give them a hug to reassure them you are always there for them.