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When something is broken, it can be heartbreaking.

When we are part of a broken relationship, it can take us to breaking point.

Thankfully, broken things (including relationships) can be mended. If we let God do the mending, these broken relationships can can become blessings – they can become some of the strongest and closest relationships we ever have.

So let God do the mending.

Touch my mind – I’ll remember today; touch my heart – I’ll never forget.

We all have many relationships in our lives, some with people where we challenge one another on a work/employment level; some where we’re challenged physically, through taking part in a sport together; some where we support one another emotionally; some we’re lucky enough to find challenge us in more than one of these areas.

It’s true though, it’s those who reach out and touch our hearts, maybe because they support us or are a confidant, that we never forget.

Think about it, look back over your life, how many people who touched your heart at some point, are still either part of your life, or are still on your mind regularly?

What about those who maybe challenged your brain power, maybe a teacher/lecturer, I suspect you’ll either struggle to remember those in this category or if you can remember them, I doubt they’re people you think about very often.

You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can change is how you react to it ~ Nicky Gumbel

When people treat you badly, say things about you or to you which are hurtful or untrue, it can be so very easy to react in anger.

When you’re emotions get the better of you, we can all be guilty of saying or doing things we regret, either immediately or later once we’ve calmed down. However it’s usually more helpful to both ourselves and the others involved if we all just take a few moments to calm down and reassess the situation before you get dragged into a shouting or slagging match.

So be the bigger person, stay calm and stay in control of your emotions and your reaction, and more than anything, think before you respond.


Posted: July 12, 2017 in communication, friendship, life, words
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RSVP is a term I’ve always found a little confusing as it’s usual used in conjunction with invitations to a social event. It is the initials of the French phrase ‘Repondez s’il vous plait‘ which means ‘Please respond’ – in other words asking you to confirm your attendance at the event you’ve been invited to.

What always got me about RSVPs is that if someone invites you to an event, isn’t it common courtesy to let the person who invited you know whether you can make the event or not, so why do we need to write RSVP on invitations?

Also why not just write, ‘Please respond’ or ‘Please reply’ instead of going for the initials of a French phrase?

Ever felt like this?

We’ve probably all had days like this. I guess this usually happens when  there’s something or someone on our mind which causes our mind to focus on that/them rather than on where and what we’re meant to be doing.

Have you ever been caught out during one of these times? Maybe someone asked you a question which you didn’t really hear because your mind was elsewhere, but you were aware you’ve been asked something!

Sometimes we probably should not be where we physically are, as we should be with the person or situation our thought are focused on, as they are obviously in need of us. Make sure you make the right decisions to be where and with who you need to be, forget where or what other expect you to do, do what you need to do.

We can talk about forgiving people who wrong us, but do we really forgive and forget?

We can say our lack of action in a particular situation hasn’t haunted us, but do we ever really get that regret out of our consciousness?

We may put on our ‘public face’ so others can’t see our true feelings, but that doesn’t mean we don’t feel overwhelmed by our emotions in public.

Are you the kind of person who sees the best in people, or are you wary of people until you get to know them and only then trusts them?

Just like others, I know I don’t always give others the benefit of the doubt, or forgives and forgets, but I pray daily that God will help me to be the person described in this picture.

Following on from yesterday’s blog post, Lessons, here’s another lesson we could each do with remembering sometimes:

It can be hard to accept that some relationships just aren’t meant to be, but we have to be honest with ourselves and with each other, and move on.

Take a few minutes to consider the people who have been part of your life at any time, now or in the past, who have brought you blessings…

Now take another few minutes to think about those who came into your life, but instead of being a blessing,  ended up teaching you a life lesson…

Which made you feel better, thinking of those who brought you blessing, or those who taught you a life lesson?

I hope and pray that I treat every person who comes into my life the same, regardless of how they treat me. It may be hard at times, but I know with God’s help I can treat everyone equally.

I’ve never been a big Michael Jackson fan, but I’ve found the words of one of his song, going through my head quite a lot in the last few weeks:

There’s a place in your heart
And I know that it is love
And this place could be much
Brighter than tomorrow
And if you really try
You’ll find there’s no need to cry
In this place you’ll feel
There’s no hurt or sorrow

There are ways to get there
If you care enough for the living
Make a little space
Make a better place

Heal the world
Make it a better place
For you and for me
And the entire human race
There are people dying
If you care enough for the living
Make it a better place
For you and for me

If you want to know why
There’s love that cannot lie
Love is strong
It only cares of joyful giving
If we try we shall see
In this bliss we cannot feel
Fear of dread
We stop existing and start living

The it feels that always
Love’s enough for us growing
So make a better world
Make a better place

Heal the world
Make it a better place
For you and for me
And the entire human race
There are people dying
If you care enough for the living
Make a better place for you and for me

And the dream we were conceived in
Will reveal a joyful face
And the world we once believed in
Will shine again in grace
Then why do we keep strangling life
Wound this earth, crucify its soul
Though it’s plain to see
This world is heavenly
Be god’s glow

We could fly so high
Let our spirits never die
In my heart I feel you are all my brothers
Create a world with no fear
Together we cry happy tears
See the nations turn their swords into plowshares

We could really get there
If you cared enough for the living
Make a little space
To make a better place

Heal the world
Make it a better place
For you and for me
And the entire human race
There are people dying
If you care enough for the living
Make a better place for you and for me

There are people dying
If you care enough for the living
Make a better place for you and for me