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All you need

Posted: February 14, 2019 in family, friendship, love, music, Relationships, religion, words
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All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

Do you think that true, is all we need, love?

Love is certainly a good start, as when we love one another, all sorts of good things start to happen.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:6-7 (NIV)

God loves each of us unconditionally, regardless of anything we may have said or done in the past. So do the same, love your friends, neighbours, work colleagues, team mates, family etc unconditionally, expecting and wanting nothing in return, that way you will honour God, and his love for you.

How many times have you heard or been told that you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family?

If you were given that option, would you choose the family you have? And secondly, do you think your family choose you?

When in comes to God’s family, we are all chosen. God made every one of us individually and uniquely in his image, so it’s no surprise God will always choose us. The question is, based on our words and our actions, do we deserve to be chosen by God?

Let’s do all we can do to deserve God’s unconditional love. And just as God loves us unconditionally, let’s make sure we everyone we meet unconditionally.

When you see people at their most vulnerable, you realise each and every one of us, no matter their background or lifestyle, are just the same – they each have to rely on someone else to save them.

I recently watched a medical programme on TV where one of the doctors said those words. They were such powerful words I had to write them down when I heard them so I didn’t forget them.

When we are at our most vulnerable we really need those who love us and who can do something to help us, to be there with us – After all if you came across a building on fire, you wouldn’t call the coastguard to put out the fire would you, you’d call the fire brigade.

So when we’re feeling vulnerable we should turn to God, as he is the only one who can provide us with the love, support and help we need at that time – His answer may be to send us a friend to share our worries with; or give us direction when we there seems too many choices ahead of us. Whatever we face, God is the answer, so should be the one we turn to in our time of need.

You are all around me on every side; you protect me with your power.
Your knowledge of me is too deep; it is beyond my understanding.

Psalm 139:5-6 (Good News translation)

Yesterday I shared verses 1-6 of Psalm 139, where we are reminded that God knows absolutely everything about us, even before we’ve thought or done it ourselves.

It’s amazing to know there is someone who knows us so well isn’t it? It’s even more amazing when we acknowledge that not only does God know everything about us, He’s also there with us through every step of our life, protecting us and guiding us.

We can only truly experience that wonderful protection and guidance from God when we fully accept Him as our Lord. Only then will we understand just how much He loves us. So I urge you today, let Him be your everything.

There will be those in your life who know you well, and there will be those who know little about you other than in the context they know you. e.g. your work colleagues, your friends from the gym or sports club etc.

Even those who know you well will not know every single detail about you, as we all have experiences, thoughts or emotions which we have never shared with another human being. In other words no-one really knows everything about you…or do they?

Each one of us has one person who knows us better than we know ourselves, and we can read about this in Psalm 139. Here’s verses 1-5 taken from the Passion translation:

Lord, you know everything there is to know about me.
You perceive every movement of my heart and soul, and you understand my every thought before it even enters my mind.
You are so intimately aware of me, Lord.
You read my heart like an open book and you know all the words I’m about to speak before I even start a sentence!
You know every step I will take before my journey even begins.
You’ve gone into my future to prepare the way, and in kindness you follow behind me to spare me from the harm of my past.
With your hand of love upon my life, you impart a blessing to me.

We all have times in our life when we face challenges. e.g. the death of a loved one, unemployment, serious illness. Based on some of the things I’ve learned about myself and from talking to others, I want to share with you some things to think about when you’re facing some tough situations. I hope you find this helpful:

Admit you’re struggling

You may not realise just how much you’re struggling. However I’m sure your family or friends will have noticed a difference in you. So if someone asks you if you’re ok, don’t just say ‘yes’ really look at yourself, and be honest with yourself. After all, if you don’t know you’re struggling or in trouble, how can you start to help yourself?

Don’t hide

When you’re struggling you’ll probably feel like you want to hide away from everyone in a darkened room or in a corner. That is one of the worst things you could do! The best way to keep your emotions under control when you’re struggling is actually to keep busy. When you’re busy there’s more chance you’ll focus on the task in hand instead of continually thinking about all your problems, as that will bring you down even more.

Say ‘No’

Are you the kind of person who always says ‘yes’ when someone asks you to do something? If you are, this one might be very difficult for you, but please consider it as I believe it really is quite uplifting to say ‘No’ sometimes. You may be struggling to do everything you’re already trying to do. So remember you do not need to do everything you’re asked to do. So say ‘No’, and use that extra time to take control of your life and your emotions.

Help

You probably think I’m just suggesting you seek help for yourself from either a friend or a help care professional, however I’m also suggesting you also help others too. One of the times I was struggling, I discovered a friend was also going through a really tough time and I definitely found that by talking with them, and trying to help them, it helped me focus on someone else’s problems instead of my own. Being able to offer support and help to someone else raised my spirits, as it showed me I was still useful and helpful to someone. So speak to others about how you’re feeling, as you may be surprised to find they too may be going through a difficult time and would be grateful for your support too.

Trust

This may be my final suggestion, but it is in fact the most important one – Trust God! God is with us all the time even when we ignore him or forget him. God will always answer your prayers – Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he’ll answer them. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected, but he will answer your prayer. So trust Him! Believe in God!

When you’re going through a tough period of time, it really can feel like you are completely on your on – Not necessarily that there’s no one living with you or around you day-to-day, but no one really understands how you feel, or even seems to care how you feel.

Maybe you’re being told to “give yourself a shake” or “things aren’t that bad”, but both those statements (plus others) are not helpful when you feel at rock bottom.

I have found in those situations that even at night when I tried to sleep, my mind was constantly active reiterating to me how hopeless things were, or how bad things looked. This usually resulted in me not getting much sleep, which in turn made it more difficult to concentrate on standard everyday tasks, again making it feel like I couldn’t do anything right anymore.

Hang on in there though, as even through those difficult times, God is still by your side. It may not feel like he is, but I can assure you he is always there, and will help you during those days. You probably won’t realise during those times that God is helping you, but believe me when you get through that time, you’ll look back and you’ll see God’s part your survival.

So keep on believing God is with you, as he will help you through your storm.

Keep the Candle Burning by Point of Grace

You think you’re alone there in your silent storm
But I’ve seen the tears you’ve cried falling down and trying to drown
The flame of hope inside
Let me tell you now, tell you now
When you’re walking in the dead of night
And your soul is churning
When your hope seems out of sight
Keep the candle burning
All it takes is one steady heart in a world that’s turning
Shine a light and pierce the dark
Keep the candle burning
Keep the candle burning
When you’re down and you’re discouraged
When the darkness clouds your view
You’ve got to gather up your courage
You know the lord is gonna see you through
Let me tell you now
Tell you now
One ray of light always breaks through
Follow wherever he takes you
Wherever he takes you

 

How far would you go to help someone you love? Would you do anything and everything in your power to help them? I’m sure you would.

But if it were someone you didn’t know, but you knew they needed help, would you do anything for them?

Here’s what God wants us to do:

God would do anything for you, that’s why he gave his only son. So let’s make sure we do anything and everything to help those who need help.

As I said yesterday, some people may think we’re crazy because we believe in God. It’s ok to be crazy about God, because he’s actually crazy about us too!

When you love someone, what do you do? Do you keep a picture of them on your phone, and give them gifts to show how much you love them? Well image God did the same kind of things so show us how much he loves us.

Remember God has shown us just how much he loves us…

In the last week, I’ve noticed on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram that number of friends have taken on the ’10 year challenge’ which requires the person to post a photo themselves as they are now, and one from 10 years ago. It’s been interesting to see the difference (or not) between the two photographs, but it also got me thinking about how when we think of ageing and the changes it brings to us, we tend to think about the external or visible changes, rather than how the person has changed on the inside.

When I look back at myself 10 years ago, I see a different person looking back at me from the one I see in the mirror today – The difference is not just in how I look but in who I am today. I’ve experienced many different events and emotions over the last 10 years which have changed my perspective on life, and also the kind of person I am.

How about you, how have you changed over the last 10 years? Are you more loving, empathetic, relaxed, positive or more grumpy, cynical, critical, negative?

I simply pray today that we don’t concentrate so much on our outward appearance that we forget to see the beauty within ourselves and others.