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In the run up to Christmas each year millions of pounds are spent on gifts. So in the last few weeks I, like many of you will have started to think about what gifts to buy my family and friends for Christmas this year. So out of curiosity I wondered how much on average we spend on Christmas presents each year, in the UK. It turns out that the figure varies dramatically depending on who you ask or where you look, but the average seems to range from between £350 to just under £1000!

Whether we are planning on spending anything like those amounts of money on gifts this year, or our budget is much less, the gifts we buy can still be fantastic and memorable for the receiver.

The most meaningful presents we receive might not come wrapped in shiny paper or frilly ribbons. They are often the ones that lift your spirit, brighten your day or trigger your imagination or memories. So I wonder what was the most memorable or best gift you have ever received for Christmas?

I decided to ask some of friends what was the best gift they ever received for Christmas. Here’s some of the answers I got.

  1. I would say for me it has to be between the laptop I got last year or the ps4 I got two years ago.
  2. I was given a gift bag filled with little stuff (a cd, stud earrings, a little book etc) that probably wasn’t worth much to anyone else. But each gift had a little post it note explaining why they’d brought that or what it was about the thing that had made them think of me. It was so thoughtful and made me feel special.
  3. A Levi red tab denim jacket I got when I was 12.  We didn’t buy or wear “things that had labels”. I remember sleeping in it in case my parents decided to return it. We also didn’t have masses of money and I had an idea that it must have been quite expensive. Honestly, best present ever – I still have it and I’m now 40! My nieces now fight over who gets to wear it as it’s now ‘vintage’.
  4. The huge big teddy bear I got when I was 7 – it was almost bigger than me – I still have him.
  5. A few years ago in my last job I had a really tough year because of a serious health problem but carried on working when I could. When I was in the office some of the guys would put bits of paper on my desk with positive quotes, and I loved that. Then that Christmas, one of them sent me a Happy Box – It’s a box containing lots of bits of paper with lots of positive quotes. So now whenever I am feeling low, I just open the box and take out one of the. And yes, it’s not solving my health problems but at least I always end up with a smile on my face.

Have you thought of the best Christmas gift you’ve ever received?

The real message of Christmas is not the gifts that we give to each other. Instead it is a reminder of the gift that God has given to each of us, the gift of Jesus. There is one final ‘best gift’ story from a friends that I want to share with you

  • My mother-in-law gave my family a stocking with the name “JESUS” written across it. Each year on Christmas morning my family writes a letter to Jesus and puts it into the stocking.
  • This is a tradition my husband and his family have been doing since he was little. They have yet to open and read any of these letters, but they are a constant reminder each year as we begin to decorate our tree and wrap our presents, that the greatest gift we have is Jesus.
  • This gift has guaranteed my family will take time to focus on the Lord during the festive season.

I was really touched this – the way they start each festive season by focusing on Jesus is such a great way to ensure they never forget the reason we celebrate Christmas.

2 Corinthians 9:15 (TPT)

Praise God for his astonishing gift, which is far too great for words!

The best Christmas gift we will ever receive isn’t a gift someone placed under a Christmas tree for us, but was a gift of great sacrifice, the best gift from God, of His Son, Jesus Christ, who came into this world in the simplest and humblest of surroundings.

Romans 6:23 (NIV)

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

1 John 5:11 (NIV)

This is the true testimony: that God has given us eternal life, and this life has its source in his Son.

This year as we look forward to opening the gifts we’ve received from our friends and family on Christmas morning, remember that no matter how great or meaningful those gifts may be, they will never be comparable to the best gift we can ever receive – God’s gift to us of his Son. So next time you’re asked what the greatest gift you’ve ever received is, I hope like me your answer is

‘Tis the Lord, O wondrous story!
‘Tis the Lord, the King of glory;
at his feet, we humbly fall,
crown him, crown him Lord of all!

Praying our way through the day is equally as important as devoting set-apart time to prayer. I believe God wants us to offer up acknowledgments of Him, make requests, and offer thanksgivings throughout each day. Learn to let prayer be as comfortable as breathing!

~ Joyce Meyer Ministries

Praying shouldn’t be a chore, in fact it should be the complete opposite – It should be something we do naturally because we want to, rather than something we do just when we can fit it in to our busy lives.

Just as we always want to talk to our friends and family, so we should want to talk to God whenever we can. So pray each day about everything and anything, whenever and wherever you are. God hear every one of your prayers.

Do you have people in your life who, no matter how much you try to like them, seem to always do things which make it so difficult for you to like them?

We all make snap judgements about others within the first few seconds of meeting them, however those initial judgements are based on nothing more than looks and what others have told us. That’s probably why it can be hard to like someone when our initial impression of them is not a favourable one.

Having said that, basic courtesy tells me that we should be pleasant to others even if we don’t know them, or we do know them but are not friends with them. It can be particularly difficult to like someone when you continually try to be friendly toward them, maybe smiling at them when you see them or saying ‘good morning’ or just ‘hi’ when you meet them.

So when someone continually ignores your efforts to be pleasant or courteous towards them, it can be very frustrating. So much so we can question ourselves, and why we even bother to be pleasant to these people, but how long should we keep trying?

My answer – forever!

Forever is a long time, so you’re probably wondering why you should try for that long! Remember you have no idea what may be going on in those peoples’ lives just now, just as they don’t know what’s going on in yours. They may be going through a tough time so are focusing all their efforts on trying to ‘keep it together’ in public. So no matter how frustrating it might be to continue being pleasant and welcoming towards someone who continually ignores or blanks you, keep smiling at them, and keep saying ‘good morning’ or ‘hi’. By doing so, you may just convince them that they do matter, and so you may yet get an acknowledgement or response from them, one day!

Mental health is gradually becoming a less taboo subject than it used to be, which has to be a good thing.

When you first face the diagnosis of a mental health issue, it can be scary, as you’ll feel like you’re on your own and no-one understands or knows what you’re going through. The thing is, when we actually open up to others, you’ll gradually discover that in face even those you’d never have ever though would suffer from a mental health issue, have at some time, faced the same struggle you currently face.

You may be surprised by the support they offer you and the reassurance you feel, as you’ll suddenly realised what you’re feeling is perfectly normal, and you’re definitely not the only person who has ever felt that way. That does not of course mean I am in anyway am dismissing how someone with a mental health issue feels, as I myself have been there, have felt entirely on my own, where no-one understood how I felt, so I really do understand.

In my experience talking to someone really does help, so if you can talk to someone, as talking really i the best medicine.

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I don’t know about you but sometimes I just want a bit of peace and quiet, with no interruptions from anyone or anything. It doesn’t mean i don’t care about anyone but myself, it’s just an indication that I’ve exhausted my own physical or mental strength.

The very fact I can can recognise when I need that break is a step forward for me as in the past I’d have carried on pushing myself until I was almost at breaking point – until I was no longer able to put on my public face anymore.

Maybe putting on a public facing papers over the cracks and helps us (and others) think we’re ok, even although we’re not. In these days where mental health is talked about more openly than it’s previously been, not putting on our public face may be the best thing we can do for ourselves, as then others will truly see us as we actually rather than the false public face they usually see of us.

Showing my true feelings and emotions publicly with those around me scares the living daylights out of me as I am not someone who likes anyone to see my raw emotional times. Maybe it’s time for me to open up and show that side to others, maybe then others will really understand me.

In yesterday’s blog (Not good enough)I shared how some think of themselves as a nobody, often because that what others have continually told them. But the good news is, not everyone thinks

Nobody but Jesus, loves everyone who others think are nobodies.

Nobody but Jesus, accepts everyone who others consider nobodies.

Nobody but Jesus, knows and understands why you feel like a nobody.

Nobody but Jesus, can rescue you.

Nobody but Jesus, know what you are capable of.

So believe in God, because He always believes in you, and knows you are not a nobody.

Why You ever chose me
Has always been a mystery
All my life I’ve been told I belong at the end of the line
With all the other Not-Quites
With all the Never-Get-It-Rights
But it turns out we’re the ones You’ve been looking for all this time

‘Cause I’m just a nobody
Trying to tell everybody
All about Somebody who saved my soul
Ever since You rescued me
You gave my heart a song to sing
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus

Moses had stage fright
And David brought a rock to a sword fight
You picked 12 outsiders nobody would’ve chosen
And You changed the world
Well, the moral of the story is
Everybody’s got a purpose
So when I hear that devil start talking to me, saying
“Who do you think you are”
I say…

I’m just a nobody
Trying to tell everybody
All about Somebody who saved my soul
Ever since You rescued me
You gave my heart a song to sing
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus

So let me go down down down in history
As another blood-bought faithful member of the family
And if they all forget my name, well, that’s fine with me
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus

So let me go down down down in history
As another blood-bought faithful member of the family
And if they all forget my name, well, that’s fine with me
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus

‘Cause I’m just a nobody
Trying to tell everybody
All about Somebody who saved my soul
Ever since You rescued me
You gave my heart a song to sing
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus
I’m living for the world to see
Nobody but Jesus

Have you ever been told you’re not good enough, or that you’re a nobody? It hurts doesn’t it?

Imagine you are continually told those things by someone who others think love you or care for you, by someone who should have your best interests at heart.

You’re never alone and you really do matter!

The song Fear is a liar by Zach Williams was co-written by Jonathan Smith. Zach stated that “Fear is a Liar” is a declaration of encouragement and some scriptural reality that he wanted to communicate to fans.  He explained what the song for about

We were calling out the devil for who he is, and reminding him that he was a liar, and that he has already been defeated. That was the idea for that song. I wanted something that people would relate to, and find hope in.

For anybody who was struggling with fear or going through something, I hope this song gives them hope, to call the devil out.

So if you’re frightened or scared, don’t give up, turn to God because he does care about you.

Fear Is a Liar

When he told you you’re not good enough
When he told you you’re not right
When he told you you’re not strong enough
To put up a good fight
When he told you you’re not worthy
When he told you you’re not loved
When he told you you’re not beautiful
That you’ll never be enough

Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
Cause fear he is a liar

When he told you were troubled
You’ll forever be alone
When he told you you should run away
You’ll never find a home
When he told you you were dirty
And you should be ashamed
When he told you you could be the one
That grace could never change

Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
Cause fear he is a liar

Let Your fire fall and cast out all my fears
Let Your fire fall Your love is all I feel

Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
Cause fear he is a liar

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Posted: October 30, 2019 in belief, clothing, faith, finance, Food, friendship, life, love, music, religion
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What do we really need in life?

Food, water, air, clothes, a roof over our head, money, love, a friend?

Some of those things are necessities for us to live, but some are not essential they are just things that would make life a little easier or happier for us.

Maybe all we really need is God!

Maybe all we really need is to believe!

Why is it when you’re tired or fed up and can’t wait for a particular time to come, it feels like time has stopped? Every clock or watch you look at seems to taunt you by moving extra slowly.

Tick..tock…tick….tock…..tick……..tock……….tick………….tock…………….

How you noticed that even when the seems to be passing extra slowly, you still struggle to get anything done? Probably because you’re too busy watching the clock tick and time pass so slowly. Even your brain seems to be working against you as you’re struggling to concentrate on anything.

Finally the clock reaches the time you’ve been waiting for all day, so you rush off home so you can relax and chill, but does this mean time continues to pass very slowly? Of course not! Now that you’re doing something you were really looking forward to, time starts to pass extra quickly! So much so, that before you realise it, you time for relaxing has passed, and it’s time for you go back to your daily routine again, where time seems to pass so slowly.

Watching the clock on the wall seeming to tick very slowly the other day, it reminded me that we spend much of our time wishing time would go by quickly because we’re looking forward to something. But conversely, we also spend a lot of our time wishing time wouldn’t go by so quickly because when we’re doing something we enjoy or are spending time with loved ones, time seems to go by quickly.

Do we make the best use of our time each day? We spend our lives wishing our time away, but have we actually made the best use of each moment we have on this earth? I’ve found in my own life that it’s not until those I love have passed away that I wish I had spent more quality time with them. So please don’t make that same mistake as me, use your time carefully, and live for now instead of always wishing the future to become the present.

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Some people will lie to make them seem more important. Some will lie to cover up their mistakes. Others will lie to play on your sympathy. While some will lie for their own gain (financially or professionally).

Some people lie thinking their lies will never be found out, but from experience I suspect we can all think of people who have lied to us, or our friends and family, but who have ended up catching themselves out in their own lies.

Some are even more blatant than that, some tell lies to people to their face then post contradicting statements or photos on social media which these same people can see. Do they think those they lie to are blind or don’t comprehend the contradictions the person lying is posting?

It’s true what many say, when people lie, those lies will catch up with them. Usually because they forget the details of the lies they’ve told, so end up telling different people different ‘stories’ or versions of their lies. All that will happen is those you’ve lied to will no longer trust you or respect you.

Lying will never get you anywhere. In fact it’s more likely to lose you friends, and opportunities or support from your work colleagues. The bottom line is just don’t lie!