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…who do you turn to?

…who do you choose?

Friends and family may do their best to support and help us when we struggle with life issues, but they never really know or understand just how we feel unless they have been through the exact same experiences as us.

God however knows every part of us – he knows our thoughts and our feelings even before we know or comprehend them ourselves. Therefore, God is the only person we can confidently say we can rely on to understand our every feeling and emotion. So choose God as your confidant, as he will love and support you through every difficult life situation.

When at school no matter how good I was at sports, I was always one of the last people to picked to be in a team during the sports lessons (though I was picked in the school teams). I never quite got that at the time, as I was always quite good at racket sports, football, volleyball etc, but still never got picked until there was nobody else left. Looking back these days, I now realise that while maybe my focus would have been on picking people to help my team win, others were simply picking their friends to be in their team, and that explains why I was always left to the end!

While I may not have been chosen to be part of a team chosen by my so-called fiends, and that hurt, I do know that I have still been chosen.

Ephesians 1:4-6 (The Message)

Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his beloved Son.

God has chosen me to be me. He’s chosen me to be part of his family. He doesn’t care what I’ve done in the past. All he wants is for me to seek Him as my friend and saviour. I’ve done that and the good news is, He has also chosen you – All you have to do is seek him.

How many time has someone said to something like, “You wouldn’t know what it’s like to suffer, as you’re a Christian”? Just because we believe in God, doesn’t mean we are immune from facing problems or difficulties in our lives. In fact, we’re just the same as everyone else, we can experience hurt, bereavement, ill-health, depression, abuse etc.

For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him ~ Philippians 1:29 (NIV)

Just because we’re Christians, doesn’t mean we’ll have an easy life where every relationship will be great, or our health will never fail us, or others won’t hurt us. But, because we believe in God, we are assured that we never have to face any problem on our own, because He will give us the strength to get through every difficulty we face.

Wounds can cause severe pain. When they start to heal the pain normally tends to subside. However that is normally only true for physical wounds.

Not everyone suffers severe physical wounds during their lifetime, but everyone suffers severe emotional or psychological trauma during their lifetime. Its those wounds which often never really heal – The severe pain may dull over time, but the emotional distress or trauma never really goes away.

Many physical wounds or the consequences of them can be seen by others in the way someone walks or moves. However emotional wounds are often not visible to others, and often not even known by others. We can all be good at putting on our public face, and ‘hiding’ how we really feel from others. In doing so that can often stop our emotional wounds from healing, as often sharing our pain or wounds with others, can help us – It never stops the wounds from hurting, but just knowing someone else knows how we feels, and cares about us, can be enough to help our emotional wounds heal just a little bit.

 

It’s not about trying to change everyone and everything, as there’s no way we can achieve all that, even with God’s help. However we can make a difference in individual lives – When we change one life for the better, we have done a good job.

Go on change a life today by making someones day, then do the same tomorrow, and then the same the next day, and the next again. We can make a difference!

 

Yes, I’ve been called a lot of things over the years, some I couldn’t repeat on here, but these words are true, and I would never deny it, I am bonkers!

Why you think I’m bonkers may vary from one person to the next – but one thing is for sure, I’m still me!

If you recognise that I am bonkers, maybe you see a bit of me in you, so maybe you’re bonkers too! 

What is the purpose or aim of our time here on earth?

Are we here to simply get by, or only do things which we can see will benefit ourselves?

I hope and pray that I can be the kind of person described in this picture

Let’s all try and add value to every situation we find ourselves in by being or doing just what those around you need you to be.

Have you ever thought someone was avoiding you? Or maybe you’ve been the person that’s avoiding others?

Well maybe this might help you understand what might be going on.

I’d say I could say “Yes, that’s me”, to each of the 5 scenarios in this quote – Although some seem to have been full-time for a while.

The bottom line is, we never really know what others are going through, so don’t assume you know why someone is acting the way they are. Instead ask them if they’re ok, and when they tell you they’re fine, ask them again is they are ok. If they still tell you they’re fine, tell them you want to help them and ask them again if they’re ok.

Admitting openly to someone that you’re struggling, if often the hardest thing, even although you could do with the emotional support others may be able to offer you.

I’ve heard the word grace used a number of times when describing several individuals recently. You may think that’s a strange word to use, but if you knew the people concerned I’m sure you’d agree that they are great examples of God’s grace.

Maybe you don’t know what I mean by that, well let me explain.

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” ~ Ephesians 2:8-10

These verses from the bible describe God’s grace better than I could ever define it. Those who possess God’s grace have the following qualities

  • humble
  • always available and willing to help those in need
  • forgives without question
  • shares their love of God with others
  • supports and encourages others
  • expects nothing in return from anyone
  • show real love to everyone unconditionally

I’m sure there are plenty of other words/phrases you can think of to describe someone you know who are filled with God’s grace.

I pray that I may try to gain some of these characteristics, and in doing so can be become a great example of God’s grace working in someone’s life.

I don’t know about you, but when I’m not feeling so good, or feeling low, emotional or alone, I just want to hide from the world and everyone in it. The last thing I want to do is run to someone for help, I prefer to be on my own, and cope with whatever I face by myself.

I know I don’t ever need to face anything on my own, as God is always with me, and will always help me. But when it comes to interacting with the world and the people in it, sometimes I just don’t want to, especially when it feels like no-one even notices when I’m not around.

At those times, that’s when I do run to God, because He’s the only one who truly knows and understand me, and how I feel. He gives me peace and hides me under His wings.

Hide Myself by Michael W Smith

I’ve heard the thunder before
I’m not a stranger to storms
Even in the flood
I can always run
To where You are

I’ve had to wait in the dark
And hold the truth in my heart
Even in the night
Still You open wide
Your faithful arms

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
Find only peace
Beneath Your wings

You are the refuge that stands
You hold my world in Your hands
The quiet in the noise
The stillness of Your voice
Will be enough

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
I find only peace

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
Find only peace
Beneath Your wings

And it’s Your presence alone
That changes all that I know
‘Til all that I know
Is just Your presence alone
I’m safe in Your shadow

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
I find only peace

And I hide myself
Where I find my help
And I hide myself
I find only rest
Find only peace
Beneath Your wings

Even in the flood
I can always run
To where You are