Archive for the ‘friendship’ Category

I know we can’t actual make more time, but we can manage our time.

Have you noticed how regardless of how busy you are, if you really want to speak to someone, you will find time in your busy schedule? Others will do the same for you as well, won’t they?

If they don’t, I think you have to consider that you are not that important to them, and maybe they aren’t the kind of friend you thought, or wanted them to be.

If you care about someone, make sure you make time to be with them, talk to them and just as importantly listen to them.

Wow! That certainly got me taking a much closer look at myself. Am I living my life in a way that others will see Christ through me? If I’m honest with you and with God, no, it doesn’t.

Today I pray that God will help me to be the person He wants me to be, so others can see Him through the way I lead my life.

How about you, can others see Christ in you?

What are you focusing on these days? Your job, your family, friendships, your job or maybe yourself?

So where does God fit in? Is He in your focus at all, or does He just come into your life when all other things are complete?

If we don’t focus on God each day, we will not achieve all the things we hope to achieve. We need God’s help to succeed, so focus on Him, and He will focus on you, always.

Out of sight, out of mind.

For some things this is definitely true, but when it comes to those we love, they are definitely not out of our mind when they are not around.

Whether we have loved ones who are working far from home or moved to another country, they are in our mind, even if we don’t speak to them as often as we used to do.

For those loved ones who have passed away, they too are definitely not far from our mind even although they are no longer here. If anything they are on our mind more, because we miss them, and wish we could have more time with them.

Do we feel the same when it comes to our friends, neighbours, colleagues and fellow christians? In other words, if we don’t see any of these people one day, do we just ignore that and carry  on, not bothering to check they are ok, or do we keep them in our mind, check up on them, and pray for them?

Don’t let anyone you know fall out of your thoughts just because you don’t see them as regularly as you used to.

There is only one certainty about life, and that is death.

The death of a loved one will touch us all at some time in our lives. And when it hits us, we all cope with grief in a different way, and for different lengths of time.

Grief isn’t something that can easily be described, as it’s different for everyone – some people take years to work through their grief, others take a few months, while some are able to acknowledge their loss and move on almost immediately.

Even then though, you may find times when you think you’ve worked through your grief, but the next moment it’s right there in front of you staring at you, and wrapping itself around you again.

No matter how hard you try not to let grief take over your life, it will demand you feel it and acknowledge it. There may be days when you’ve made it through the day without your grief, but then the second your head hits the pillow, your grief comes flooding back and it lies heavy on your heart all night.

Grief is natural, but have you noticed how no-one really knows what to say to you when you’re grieving, even though all you want is for someone just to hug you or hold you while you let your grief pour out.

Grief is natural, but when you’re experiencing it, it can seem like the hardest thing you’ve ever had to deal with. Grieving shows us just how deeply we care about or loved the person who has died. It may even be that it’s their death that actually makes us realise just how much they meant to you.

Don’t let another day pass without realising how much those around you truly mean to you, because when they are gone, you will never get another chance to tell them just what they mean to you.

Images of celebrities and models on TV and social media, seem to be adding to the increasing number of youngsters who seem to think they have to look perfect to be accepted by their friends and family.

I find that so very sad and very worrying – We all look just as God made us, perfect in His eyes. If people can’t accept us for who we are and how we look, that is their lose.

Our imperfections make us who we are. Just as we are is how God loves us – Those we call friends will also accept us just as we are, imperfect.

We all glibly say ‘I hate such-and-such’ when we fall out with someone or dislike something.

We hear children saying ‘I hate you’ when they’re angry or annoyed that they haven’t got their own way.

 In reality in both these scenarios what we really mean is we ‘dislike’ someone or something. Hatred is such a strong powerful word that means intense dislike or abhorrence. I.e. Not ‘I’m just not very keen on something.

How many times have you said you hate something or someone? Did you really mean ‘hate’?

I think you’d agree that most people do not really ‘hate’ anyone. We may dislike them but we don’t really hate them. Hatred suggests we are completely opposed to a persons standards or ethics, we disagree with their beliefs or religion and that we simply despise them just because they are different from us.

I don’t know about you, but that’s not the kind of person I want be. Sadly there are many in our world today who do actually hate others, and will do absolutely anything to ensure others know they hate them.

Let’s pray for peace, and an end to hatred in this world we live in. It’s become a very dark and unwelcoming place to live. However there is still a ray of hope and light trying to burst through, and that is God’s love for us. We must therefore spread that light in this world so that the darkness can be eradicated, and there is an end to hatred and war.

We all have people in our lives that we call friends.

If we use the following quote from Nicky Gumbel, how many of your friends do you consider to be a real friend:

A true friend knows your weakness but shows you your strength; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but stresses your abilities

It can be scary knowing that there is someone who knows exactly how you’re feeling without you having to say a word. However it can also be so reassuring. So tell your friends how much they mean to you, in return be a real friend to them too.

When you call out to someone to get their attention, but they don’t hear you (or pretend not to hear you), it can be disappointing and/or frustrating. Similarly if you send a text/IM/email to someone, it can also be disappointing and/or frustrating if you receive no response.

I love the Lord, because He hears my voice and my prayers. I will call on Him as long as I live, because He has turned His ear to me. ~ Psalm 116:1-2 (NIV)

God never frustrates us, He is always with us, and always listens when we speak to Him. So call out to God and He will hear you, and will answer your prayers.

We cannot love people if we are afraid of being hurt or taken advantage of. Perfect love casts out fear! ~ Joyce Meyer
Life can be tough sometimes can’t it? We make friends, we get into relationships, we become good friends, but then something happens which leaves us feeling hurt or taken advantage of. In turn this makes us reluctant to get into future relationships because we’re scared we will get hurt all over again.

True love however can help us overcome any fears we may have of being hurt again. The purest love is that given to us by God, and therefore His love can help us overcome any of our fears.