Archive for the ‘Health’ Category

Can you imagine what it must be like to not have any food in your house – Not because you haven’t had time to do the shopping yet, but because you haven’t go any money to buy food?

Sadly for many, that is exactly what life is like for them every day, which is so sad this day and age in the UK. In just under a week a general election will be held here in the UK, but as this news item on the BBC website yesterday, it’s clear that those who struggle to put food on their table, are completely fed up of all the promises the various political parties have made year after year that they will tackle poverty in this country and ensure everyone has a roof over their head and food to eat.

Here’s the BBC news article: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/election-2019-50663879/general-election-2019-how-do-grimsby-s-food-bank-users-want-to-vote

The election next year however seems to be focusing so much on Brexit that it’s not really any surprise that those who struggle to put food on their table, are struggling to decide if they should bother to vote, and if they do, who they should vote for.

In this day and age, no-one should have to make choices about whether they heat their home, or eat each day. It’s not just the politicians that need to do something to help end poverty in this country, each of us who can afford to eat each day and heat our homes, can reach out and help those less fortunate than ourselves. We can make a different in so many peoples’ lives if we all just help one person!

Do you have people in your life who, no matter how much you try to like them, seem to always do things which make it so difficult for you to like them?

We all make snap judgements about others within the first few seconds of meeting them, however those initial judgements are based on nothing more than looks and what others have told us. That’s probably why it can be hard to like someone when our initial impression of them is not a favourable one.

Having said that, basic courtesy tells me that we should be pleasant to others even if we don’t know them, or we do know them but are not friends with them. It can be particularly difficult to like someone when you continually try to be friendly toward them, maybe smiling at them when you see them or saying ‘good morning’ or just ‘hi’ when you meet them.

So when someone continually ignores your efforts to be pleasant or courteous towards them, it can be very frustrating. So much so we can question ourselves, and why we even bother to be pleasant to these people, but how long should we keep trying?

My answer – forever!

Forever is a long time, so you’re probably wondering why you should try for that long! Remember you have no idea what may be going on in those peoples’ lives just now, just as they don’t know what’s going on in yours. They may be going through a tough time so are focusing all their efforts on trying to ‘keep it together’ in public. So no matter how frustrating it might be to continue being pleasant and welcoming towards someone who continually ignores or blanks you, keep smiling at them, and keep saying ‘good morning’ or ‘hi’. By doing so, you may just convince them that they do matter, and so you may yet get an acknowledgement or response from them, one day!

Some people will always try to do their best at everything they do both at work and in their personal life.

Some will make sure they adhere to the policies and procedures of their employer.

Some people will always do all they can to do as little work as they possibly can, and in doing so will stretch policies and procedures to their limit.

Some people see sickness absence as additional days holiday that they are entitled to each year, even if they aren’t unwell.

Do those that try and do as little work as possible realise the impact their lack of application has on their colleagues?

Stretching policies and procedures to their limits, results in the policies and procedures being tightened so means the majority who haven’t abused the system, end up being penalised.

Taking sickness absence when not unwell or claiming to be more unwell or unfit for work than you actually are again impacts on your work colleagues.

What makes all these things worse, is when those concerned

  • are oblivious to the impact their actions have on their colleagues;
  • have no shame it openly lying about their circumstances or the severity of their illness;
  • make no attempt to try and return to work;

Let’s be honest, we all know or have known people who take advantage of rules/regulations or policies/procedures. It can be very annoying for those who have not abused the system, and find themselves watching while those with much lesser need lie and stretch the rules just so they can claim all the non-working time or sickness absence they possibly can.

It’s sad when people feel they it’s ok to exaggerate the truth (i.e. lie) just so they can personally benefit. But have you noticed how it’s always these people who always feel they’ve been hard done by, and have been victimised? They are definitely not the victims

  • those who have to pick up the work of those who fail to do their job are the victims.
  • the victims are those who end up not getting paid leave in the future, because policies and procedures are changed because a small number of people abuse the rules.
  • their work colleagues are the victims as ultimately your organisation may be unable to meet work deadlines because of absences, so they end up having to make people redundant.

If you are one of those who have abused the rules, I hope this post makes you stop and think about the impact your actions have on yourself and your organisation. Your actions can cost jobs and demotivates your colleagues.

 

Mental health is gradually becoming a less taboo subject than it used to be, which has to be a good thing.

When you first face the diagnosis of a mental health issue, it can be scary, as you’ll feel like you’re on your own and no-one understands or knows what you’re going through. The thing is, when we actually open up to others, you’ll gradually discover that in face even those you’d never have ever though would suffer from a mental health issue, have at some time, faced the same struggle you currently face.

You may be surprised by the support they offer you and the reassurance you feel, as you’ll suddenly realised what you’re feeling is perfectly normal, and you’re definitely not the only person who has ever felt that way. That does not of course mean I am in anyway am dismissing how someone with a mental health issue feels, as I myself have been there, have felt entirely on my own, where no-one understood how I felt, so I really do understand.

In my experience talking to someone really does help, so if you can talk to someone, as talking really i the best medicine.

Imagine your life was in real danger, and just when you thought all hope of survival had gone, someone found you and rescued you from the danger you faced. You would be grateful to the person or people who saved you wouldn’t you?

It’s not just when your life is in physical danger that we can be in need of a rescuer, because let’s face it, life can get on top of us these days. I have been there. I’ve had some very dark times and felt I couldn’t face another day physically or emotionally, but someone kept telling me to keep going. God kept telling me to hang on because he was there for me, through it all. I may be in a better place these days, but I still have days when I find it physically and emotionally difficult, but the difference now is I have no doubts that God is with me. I know he is my rescuer and has saved me.

Came to My Rescue
Falling on my knees in worship
Giving all I am to seek Your face
Lord all I am is is Yours

My whole life
I place in Your hands
God of mercy
Humbled I bow down
In your presence at Your throne

I called You answered
And You came to my rescue and I
I wanna be where You are

In my life be lifted high
In our world be lifted high
In our love be lifted high

What do you do when either you realise someone is struggling or going through a difficult time, or they tell you they’re finding life difficult?

I hope you don’t try and make a quick escape, but instead, speak to the person, and try and reassure them they are not on their own. The person may or may not be willing and/or able to speak to you about what is troubling them, but if they are, we need to be able to recognise when we’re out of our depth.

While we must be willing and able to offer our support to those in difficulty, we must be aware that if we try to give help or advice about something we have little or know knowledge of, we can actually do more harm than good. So be willing to recognise when you are out of our depth – maybe the person is troubled by something we know nothing about or have no personal experience of. In those circumstances, don’t just tell the person you can’t help and then walk off and leave them, instead reassure them that you want to help them but feel you don’t have the knowledge or expertise required to help them. Always either introduce the person  to someone else who you know might be able can help them, or direct them to an organisation or company that can help them. Never leave them thinking they are on their own and no-one cares or understands their situation or how they feel. Remember reassurance and suggested sources of help, are always welcomed by those who are in need of help.

Never let someone drown in their own difficulties, instead help them and reassure them, even if that means you need to direct them to someone else to give them the help they need.

unnecessary-friendships

I don’t know about you but sometimes I just want a bit of peace and quiet, with no interruptions from anyone or anything. It doesn’t mean i don’t care about anyone but myself, it’s just an indication that I’ve exhausted my own physical or mental strength.

The very fact I can can recognise when I need that break is a step forward for me as in the past I’d have carried on pushing myself until I was almost at breaking point – until I was no longer able to put on my public face anymore.

Maybe putting on a public facing papers over the cracks and helps us (and others) think we’re ok, even although we’re not. In these days where mental health is talked about more openly than it’s previously been, not putting on our public face may be the best thing we can do for ourselves, as then others will truly see us as we actually rather than the false public face they usually see of us.

Showing my true feelings and emotions publicly with those around me scares the living daylights out of me as I am not someone who likes anyone to see my raw emotional times. Maybe it’s time for me to open up and show that side to others, maybe then others will really understand me.

When I think about the word ‘pieces’, I think of a jigsaw puzzle, or something broken into lots of individual parts. Our lives can sometimes feels as though it’s broken into many pieces when we’re having to deal with concerns or troubles in different areas of our lives. For example, maybe we’re having problems getting a job, or faces redundancy; maybe you or family members have health concerns; maybe you are struggling to pay your bills or find enough money to buy food for yourself and your family.

Whatever the issues or concerns you face, God keeps his promise to us to never turn his back on us, and to always love us. So give him all the pieces of your life, and God will accept them all, and help you with every part of your life.

Uncontrolled, uncontained, you love is a fire
Burning bright for me
It’s not just a spark , its not just a flame your love is a light
That all the world will see

A couple of weeks ago in Clear Out, I spoke about how we’d been clearing out desks and cupboards in our office. Well last week we moved from one floor in our building to another, all so the floor we were on could get a lick of paint and a new carpet.

Even the day before we had to be empty the floor we were on, we were still uncovering more papers/documents/items which no-one had claimed or gone through. We even came across some documents down the back of a cabinet from someone we didn’t know, who must have previously used the cupboard – we discovered the documents must have been there for a when one of my colleagues told us that she knew the person named in the document had left the organisation a number of years ago.

Once again this reminded me that sometimes, even when we say we’ve ‘cleared out’ all our troubles, all our concerns by giving them all to God, there is often still a few deep seated things that we hang onto and take with us.

Just as we sometimes have to dig deep into cupboards to clear out everything in them, so we have to dig deep into our lives and our hearts, and truly let go of all things which cause of pain or trouble us by giving them all to God.

Light is used to symbolise God, faith or holiness throughout scripture.

Restore us, O God, and cause Your face to shine upon us, that we may be saved.

Psalm 80:3

Shine on us

Lord, let Your light
Light of Your face
Shine on us (repeat)

That we may be saved
That we may have life
To find our way
In the darkest night
Let your light shine on us

Lord, let your grace
Grace from Your hand
Come over us (repeat)

That we may be saved
That we may have life
To find our way
In the darkest night
Let Your grace come over us

Lord, let Your love
Love with no end
Come over us (repeat)

That we may be saved
That we may have life
To find our way
In the darkest night
Let Your love come over us
Let your grace fall on us
Let Your light shine on us

Shine on us, O Lord

When we’re lost, a light can be all we need to guide us to safety. When we’ve lost all hope, a light can be all we need to reassure us that there is hope for us.

Let God shine on us, today and every future day.