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Start again!

Those are probably some of the words you least want to hear when you feel broken. However if you turn around, you’ll find God is right by your side, ready to help you start over.

When Life Gets Broken by Sandi Patty

Hands reaching out with no one to hold
You’ve been abandoned with no place to go
Wounded and wanting, such desperate times

Cold bitter tears are filling your eyes

Get a glimpse of Jesus for He is right there with you
He knows just what you need

‘Cause when life gets broken, when you’re in despair
He’ll carry your burden when it’s too much to bear
It’s down in the valley where He’ll give you strength
And there is nothing you have lost that He can’t replace
He’ll help you start all over again
When life gets broken

You hoped God would heal it, but the storm raged and raged
Now it’s hard to imagine how you’ll make it through the day
Weeks turn to years, time’s passing you by
But you’re still holding on to the how’s and the why’s

So get a glimpse of Jesus for He is right there with you
He knows just what you need

‘Cause when life gets broken, when you’re in despair
He’ll carry your burden when it’s too much to bear
It’s down in the valley where He’ll give you strength
And there is nothing you have lost that He can’t replace
He’ll help you start all over again
When life gets broken

Healing waters heal our troubled souls
Jesus, sweet Jesus will cleanse and make us whole

When life gets broken, when you’re in despair
He’ll carry your burden when it’s too much to bear
It’s down in the valley where He’ll give you strength
And there is nothing you have lost that He can’t replace
He’ll help you start all over again
He’ll help you start all over again
He’ll help you start all over again
He’ll help you start all over again
When life gets broken

When we’re asked a question, we can often give elaborate answers which really tell the questioner nothing. So for the following questions I’m looking for single word answers only :

  1. Who do you wish you were with, right now?
  2. If you could meet anyone living or dead, who would you want to meet?
  3. Has your heart ever been broken?
  4. Have you ever felt you couldn’t go on?
  5. Have you read the bible today?

Whatever your answers, did you answer honestly or did you give the answers you think you should be giving?

If you didn’t answer honestly, can I suggest you try again, but this time be honest with yourself, because if you are, you might get an insight into the ares of your life you need to change.

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In the UK, today is Mother’s Day, so for many today is day to say thank you to our Mum’s for all they have done/do for us, and just generally spoil them for at least today!

For those of us whose mother’s have passed away, the lead up to Mother’s Day with all the adverts on TV can be difficult, nevermind Mother’s Day itself when all around there are people celebrating with their Mums. It can also be a difficult day for those who have wanted children but who for whatever result, have been unable to have children.

A couple of months ago we went to the Liv On concert with Amy Sky, Beth Nielsen Chapman, and Olivia Newton-John. Here’s some of what their website tells us about this project:

The LIV ON Project and CD came to fruition the way many of the best collaborations do…via a series of conversations between friends about what matters most in life: Love, loss, hope and healing.

All three had endured profound, life-altering losses and yet each remained committed to one thing: a desire to transform individual grief into healing via music… for all.

This very special collection of songs will help lift the hearts of others going through their own hardship, whatever the cause.

The songs on the “LIV ON” CD take the listener on a journey of remembrance, toward one of inspiration and hope.

As well, the three mega-stars have created several brand new songs, including the title track, “Live On,” which born of their own exploration into the pain of loss, the growth that follows and eventually, the journey toward renewed joy.

“We found that any time we shared a vulnerable part of us, we felt such an overwhelming feeling of kinship and relief… that we were not alone with our pain. We hope these songs that came from the depths of us, will offer a place of comfort to others.” ~ Olivia Newton-John

I found the words and the music of all the songs presented at the concert very inspiring, so I just wanted to share with you today the title track from the Liv On CD, entitled Live On:

Live On by Amy, Olivia and Beth

I’m waking up this morning
Grateful for the gift of one more day
The light of hope is dawning
It fills my heart and lifts my fears away
Sometimes there’s a miracle just beyond the pain
When you can see the rainbow in the rain

Live on, live on
Brighter skies will come again
Cry the tears you cry and then live on, live on
Love is all we leave when we are gone live on

We’ve shared so much together
Think of all the mountains we have climbed
Sorrow joy and laughter
Woven through the tapestry of time
Even as we’re letting go we will not lose faith
All the precious memories we make

Live on, live on
In the hearts of those we touch
All the dreams inside of us live on, live on
Love is all we leave when we are gone live on

Live on, live on
More than just survive my friend
We learn how to thrive and then live on, live on
Shining like the words inside this song, live on

Love is all we leave when we are gone live on
In every heart of those we touch
In every dream that means so much
Yes I believe that all of us live on

When we’re asked a question, we can often give elaborate answers which really tell the questioner nothing. So for the following questions I’m looking for single word answers only :

  1. Who do you trust most?
  2. Have you ever had a day when all you did was cry?
  3. Have you learnt anything today?
  4. Who can you rely on in every situation?
  5. Where do you wish you were right now?

Whatever your answers, did you answer honestly or did you give the answers you think you should be giving?

If you didn’t answer honestly, can I suggest you try again, but this time be honest with yourself, because if you are, you might get an insight into the ares of your life you need to change.

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In Colossians 1:17 (NIV) we read, “He is before all things, and in him all things hold together”.

I’ve read this verse a number of times over the years, and have turned back to it each time have had “one of those days” when everything just seems to go wrong. Those words just remind me that no matter how bad my day may be, God is there with me, and will get me through it.

Whenever you have “one of those days”, what do you do and who do you turn to?

I pray that no matter what your day may bring you, you will always believe and trust that God is there with you, through it all.

 

Everyone is different; Everyone has different hopes and dreams; Everyone reacts differently to every situation and feels different emotions.

Just as we are all different, so are the reasons people feel lonely.

Some go through their life constantly feeling lonely – A loneliness that doesn’t seem to be related to any other events or circumstances. Why some people feel lonely and others don’t, is difficult to determine but here are a few circumstances/reasons that may contribute to their feelings of loneliness:

  • They have no self-esteem and lack confidence.
  • They don’t like themselves so feel no-one else can like them either.
  • They may feel that when they were a child, they weren’t loved, and therefore when they become adults they continue to feel alone and unloved in all relationships

i hate feeling aloneWhen people feel lonely they may cut themselves off from friends/family and may stop socialising or attending gathering whether they will be forced to face many people, so that they don’t have to face a world of people they feel unconnected to.

Others may react completely differently, and can try to avoid being on their own, by always trying to have someone in their company, so they are not on their own. They can even make a point of , and will seek out other people to avoid having to face their own company.

If you find you are hiding away from others, avoiding social activities, please remember that you are not the only one who feels like this, many others feel the same way. There are understanding people and organisations that you can talk to. They can help you overcome these feelings of loneliness so you can get back to getting on with your life.

Get living!

During depression, the world disappears. Language itself. One has nothing to say. Nothing. No small talk, no anecdotes. One’s real state of mind is a source of shame. So one is necessarily silent about it, leaving nothing else for subject matter.

Kate Millett, The Loony Bin Trip

Everyone is different; Everyone has different hopes and dreams; Everyone reacts differently to every situation and feels different emotions.

Just as we are all different, so are the reasons people feel lonely.

Are you aware of anyone in your friendship group who seems quieter than usual, who’s maybe not socialising with the group as they used to do? Is it possible they may be feeling lonely?

Don’t think just because someone is always surrounded by other people that they can’t possibly feel lonely, because as I’ve said before, it is definitely possible to feel lonely in a crowd!

Make today the day you reach out and help someone who is suffering from feelings of loneliness.reach-out

 

Everyone is different; Everyone has different hopes and dreams; Everyone reacts differently to every situation and feels different emotions.

Just as we are all different, so are the reasons people feel lonely.

aloneFrom an early age we start learning/understanding that we need time on our own, just as much as we need intimate/quality time with those we love. We start to realise quite quickly how difficult it can be to balance time with our loved ones against time for ourselves.

At various stages in life, we reach milestones in life, that often accentuate these needs and make us vulnerable to our feelings and emotions making us feel insecure or lonely: adolescence; adulthood; thirty-something; mid-life crisis; menopause; and old age are often all linked with changes we feel to both our physical and emotional being.

Remember each of these phases will pass, and while it can feel painful and scary at the time, it can also be an opportunity to become more self-aware giving us a change to improve our overall wellbeing as a result.

When we’re asked a question, we can often give elaborate answers which really tell the questioner nothing. So for the following questions I’m looking for single word answers only :

  1. Where is your spiritual home?
  2. Have you ever felt that your life could not get any worse?
  3. What is your biggest worry?
  4. Are you happy?
  5. Have you achieved your dreams?

Whatever your answers, did you answer honestly or did you give the answers you think you should be giving?

If you didn’t answer honestly, can I suggest you try again, but this time be honest with yourself, because if you are, you might get an insight into the ares of your life you need to change.

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Everyone is different; Everyone has different hopes and dreams; Everyone reacts differently to every situation and feels different emotions.

Just as we are all different, so are the reasons people feel lonely.

alone2When our circumstances change – e.g. move to a new area, start a family, divorce, bereavement, unemployment – some find it exciting and positive while others will find it painful, emotional and very lonely.

If your partner or job boosted your self-esteem and made your life meaningful is suddenly no longer there, everything, you may find life feels hopeless and futile.

While we can be in control of some of our circumstances, others are just part of life – it’s these circumstances that can contribute to feelings of loneliness. As I mentioned yesterday, identifying the real cause of your loneliness is the first step to you overcoming it, and that is true if the cause of your loneliness is your circumstances.

Good luck!