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We can often be guilty of expecting too much of ourselves or others, but are we actually guilty of expecting too much from God?

We can be guilty of taking the small, trivial things in our life to God, and ignoring some of the major situations/events/decisions in our life. But then when those more major things become real issues, we take them to God almost as a last resort.

I wonder why we do that? The simplest answer is probably because we’re human! We think we’re stronger or better than we actually are, and think we can deal with things on our own. It’s then only when things go wrong that we end up almost pleading with God to help us.

Is it because we know we should take our problems/worries to God that out of duty, we just take the small/trivial things to God rather than the big things?

This sounds like me sometimes, does it sound like you?

Why not join me today in acknowledging that we must take everything to God, big or small, because He has promised to hear all our prayers.

The last couple of days I’ve been talking about the fear of failure that affects so many people. Having talked about why some fear failure, I now want to focus on some possible ways to help overcome a fear of failure.

It’s all about goals and targets!

Start by setting small achievable goals that will help you build your confidence. Having set a goal, start thinking about all the possible outcomes, positive and negative, and rationally consider what may happen, developing contingency plans as you go. As you go through these possible outcomes you’ll hopefully find answers/solutions to all possible negative scenarios, in turn helping you thinking positively.

Repeat these steps by setting another goal, and then another goal. By moving forward slowly and steadily, you’ll begin to overcome your fear of failure.

Good luck!

Fear of failure – A scary feeling, but what causes us to be scared of failing?

There can be multiple reasons why we feel afraid of failure – Some may be because of something thing which happened in our childhood, or maybe an event which has happened more recently, in our adult life.

Is there something in your past that you can identify as your trigger which has subsequently caused you to be afraid of failure? There may not be a single event, but a series of events or situations that together cause you to fear failure.

Whatever our mistakes in our past that have triggered these feelings in us, we need to move on, wipe the slate clean, and remember we can make a new future full of positivity and confidence. We can choose to be afraid, or we can choose not to be.

Have you ever been so afraid of failing at something that you decided not to do it at all?

Have you ever felt that you’ve subconsciously undermined your own efforts, simply because you’ve been trying to avoid a failure on an even greater scale?

I certainly can answer yes to both those questions! How about you?

Without even realising, we can find the fear of failing stops us in our tracks, causing us to do nothing. When we let that happen we stop ourselves from being able to move our life forward, meaning we can miss out on opportunities to learn and grow.

We mustn’t let our fear of failure stop us from moving forward. We can choose to be afraid, or we can choose not to be. Which do you choose?

I don’t think most of us realise how amazing we are – We focus on all the things about ourselves that we don’t like, and would want to change; We see the negatives and ignore all the positives about ourselves.

For me, as a perfectionist, and therefore expect me to do everything perfectly all the time, or I am disappointed and annoyed at myself. Having recognised this a while ago, I’m not nearly as hard on myself as I used to be, however I still do not considered myself to be amazing, as I continue to see all my imperfections.

How about you, how do you see yourself? Amazing, imperfect, a work in progress…

A much as we are all different, with different personalities, underneath we’re all the same – God created each of us individually, with amazing personalities and amazing prospects for our future!

Cos we are amazing
If only we could believe that it’s all in His hands
We’re a part of a plan that’s much bigger than us
Yes we are amazing
There’s nothing we can’t achieve
and we don’t need to change
So I’m gonna stay, just the way God made me

Let’s celebrate how amazing we are today!

I am amazing by Philippa Hanna

I don’t wanna waste anymore time in the mirror
Watching my face never change I don’t feel beautiful today
I don’t waste anymore hard earned cash on these ‘miracles’
That never change the way I feel, don’t make me beautiful today
How long can I hide-away beneath this disguise?
And what drastic measure do I have to take to realise…

That I am amazing, in spite of what I can see,
When I look at myself wishing I could be anyone other than me
Cos I was created
With everything I could ever need
So I’m not gonna change
I’m gonna stay just the way God made me

I’m not gonna take
Anymore of these lies they’ve been feeding me
Not gonna listen to the voices of my enemies today
With my feet on solid ground
I’m gonna turn it all around
Because it’s time I realised I’m truly beautiful inside
How long can I hide-away beneath this disguise?
And what drastic measure do I have to take to realise…

That I am amazing, in spite of what I can see,
When I look at myself wishing I could be anyone other than me
Cos I was created
With everything I could ever need
So I’m not gonna change
I’m gonna stay just the way God made me

And who am I to say that I could do a better job than him?

Cos we are amazing
If only we could believe that it’s all in His hands
We’re a part of a plan that’s much bigger than us
Yes we are amazing
There’s nothing we can’t achieve
and we don’t need to change
So I’m gonna stay, just the way God made me

Not gonna listen to the voices of my enemies today

Ever felt like your life is a complete disaster? That everything you do goes wrong and everyone you thought was a friend, let you down and disappoint you?

Disaster by Newsboys

I thought that I could fix it on my own
The sickness deep in my heart
I thought that I could find the healing deep inside of me
Underneath all these scars

I had to fall, had to fall apart, to find that You-

Love me even after
I am a disaster
And everything is shattered
On the floor
You pick me up and hold me
God, You are the only
Remedy my heart’s been lookin’ for
You’re the cure

Ah ah ah ah

I had my kingdom here, I had my thrown
Had everything I could need (Oh oh!)
I put my world on empty promises, empty things
It ripped apart at the seams (Oh oh!)

I had to crash, had to crash and burn, to find that You-

Love me even after
I am a disaster
And everything is shattered
On the floor
You pick me up and hold me
God, You are the only
Remedy my heart’s been lookin’ for
You’re the cure, the cure, the cure, You’re the cure
You’re the cure, the cure, the cure, You’re the cure

Since the day that I was born
I was broken and torn
So human, so incomplete
But You never gave up
Never lessened Your love
That’s the way that You’ll always be

I had to fall apart to find You,
Love me even after I am a disaster
And everything is shattered
On the floor
You pick me up and hold me
God, You are the only
Remedy my heart’s been lookin’ for
You’re the cure, the cure, the cure, You’re the cure
You’re the cure, the cure, the cure, You’re the cure

You’re the cure!
(I thought that I could fix it on my own)
You’re the cure!

Sometimes all it takes is for us to completely fall apart before God, to show Him all our weaknesses, so that He can be the one who puts us back together and cures us.

Have you ever felt as if God wasn’t there? That He wasn’t listening when you prayed?

When you’ve most been in need of God, have you ever tried to go it on your own, thinking you don’t need Him?

Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy can’t we – So run to God instead of turning away from Him when you are struggling.

Take away the blindness
Lead me through the dark
Don’t let me fall apart
Save me from my bitterness
Show me who I am
Make me who You want me to be
I know I pushed You away
Lookin’ for someone to blame, yeah
Now I can see, I’ve been my own worst enemy

If someone is strong enough to bring you down, show them you are strong enough to get up. — Unknown

Sometimes when someone hurts you and brings you down in front of others, it can be crushing. You just want to give up or hide away. But isn’t that just letting these people win?

It’s time to take control. Don’t let other people’s opinions and thoughts about you discourage you…that’s the devil working through them. Be strong, keep going, as God is directing you in the way He wants you to go, and will get you through whatever anyone else will say or do to you.

Be strong!

When hope is gone, what do you do, or where do you go?

We will all have times in our life when we can feel as if there is no hope for us, or someone we love. It’s at times like these that we are most in need of the reassurance and knowledge of God’s presence in our life. Sadly though, this is often the time when to us, God seems further away.

How wrong we are! God is always with us, and is there to help and support us, we just need to believe in Him!

So when things seem hopeless, you’re struggling with pain and sorrow, remember God is the greatest healer.

When the Tears Fall by Newsboys

I’ve had questions, without answers
I’ve known sorrow, I have known pain
But there’s one thing, that I’ll cling to
You are faithful, Jesus You’re true

When hope is lost, I’ll call You saviour
When pain surrounds, I’ll call You healer
When silence falls, You’ll be the song within my heart

In the lone hour of my sorrow
Through the darkest night of my soul
You surround me and sustain me
My defender, forevermore

When hope is lost, I’ll call You saviour
When pain surrounds, I’ll call You healer
When silence falls, You’ll be the song within my heart

And I will praise You, I will praise You
When the tears fall, still I will sing to You
And I will praise You, Jesus praise You
Through the suffering still I will sing

When hope is lost, I’ll call You saviour
When pain surrounds, I’ll call You healer
When silence falls, You’ll be the song within my heart

Oh yes, You are good to me
You’ve always been good to me
So trustworthy

When hope is lost, I’ll call You saviour
When pain surrounds, I’ll call You healer
When silence falls, You’ll be the song within my heart

And I will praise You, and I will praise You
When the tears fall, still I will sing to You (I will sing to You)
I will praise You, Jesus praise You
Through the suffering still I will sing

How faithful and true
Sustain me through and through
You are hope and truth
You must bring a little water
You must bring a little water

In the lone hour of my sorrow

Who springs never fail
Be faithful and true
Like…
Like a spring it never fails
You’re my spring never fails

…is it really?

When we’re going through tough times, it can take us every bit of our strength to pretend all is well. However, no matter what ‘mountain’ is right in front of us, we must keep believing all is well, because God is with us.

Far be it from me to not believe
Even when my eyes can’t see
And this mountain that’s in front of me
Will be thrown into the midst of the sea

Through it all, through it all
My eyes are on You
Through it all, through it all
It is well