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How it should be

Posted: August 18, 2017 in music, life, religion, depression, words, stress
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Could it be that on my worst day
How you love me still will not change
What if it’s really not about
What I do but what you did, oh what if
This ain’t wishful thinking it’s just how it is

 

When you’re having a really bad day, have you noticed how all you can think about is how you feel and how all the bad things are affecting you? Everything and everyone else seem incidental, your focus is on you…God simply doesn’t come into your thoughts.

These are the days we particularly need to remember how it should be

What if it’s really not about
What I do but what you did
Do you need to remind yourself that everything is about Christ and the sacrifice he gave for us?

A couple of days ago in Vulnerable, I spoke about how we shouldn’t let ourselves become spiritually vulnerable, because God is always there for us. But maybe we need to look a bit more closely at what being vulnerable means – Here’s the dictionary definition:

Exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.

Emotionally vulnerable…

That’s a phrase that sends a cold shiver down my spine, as that’s something I really find difficult to cope with, even though I know God is always with me.

I’ve never been comfortable showing my emotions publicly. In fact I’d go as far as saying it’s one of my worst nightmares, to fall apart in public! Therefore, when I’m feeling emotional, I feel vulnerable, and when I feel vulnerable, I feel more emotional…a vicious circle.

I know I’m not the only person who doesn’t like feeling vulnerable. So I’m guessing I’m not alone feeling isolated, alone and embarrassed when I’m emotional and vulnerable.

When we feel vulnerable we must remind ourselves that we are never ever alone, even when it feels like the world is ignoring us, because God is always at our side. We simply need to trust Him…I just need to remember to take my own advice!

Whether you play or watch sports, I’m sure you’ve heard players or teams talking about finding and targeting their opponent’s weaknesses or vulnerabilities. Yes players and team target their opponents vulnerabilities in an attempt to gain an advantage over them, so they can beat them.

Just as our sporting opponents target our weaknesses, so the devil targets our vulnerabilities. He sees when we are weak and places doubts and obstacles in our way so that we question God’s plans for us.

The devil is good at targeting our weaknesses, but we must always remember God is even better at helping us to learn from our weaknesses and in doing so become stronger in our faith.

 

I came across the following on Twitter a few days ago, and it struck me how apt it was, give recent events. We’ve seen the emergency services work continuously in horrendous circumstances, for hours and days. We’ve seen communities working together despite their differences, and despite the difficult circumstances they themselves may be facing.

Strong people do what’s right and show up to help others. They may be tired and going through a tough time, but they find a way to be there.

When it comes down to it, I believe that in the worst of circumstances that is when the best of us will show itself. What would you do if you found yourself in the midst of some kind of disaster, such as those that have happened in the UK in the last few weeks?

What kind of world do you want to live in?

Do you want to live in a world where:

  • We shut ourselves away from friends and neighbours because we too frightened to go outside;
  • We would rather cross the road and ignore someone in need, rather than reach out and them because we don’t want to get involved;
  • Men kill other men simply because of the colour of their skin, their nationality or their religion;
  • God has been forgotten, and only the minority still believe in Him.

Or do you want to live in a world where:

  • Where everyone automatically reaches out to help others in need, without a second thought for themselves;
  • Everyone lives in peace, tolerant of other’s beliefs – where we all get on with one another, regardless of the colour of their skin, their nationality or their religion;
  • We feel safe to be out of our homes, on our own, no matter the time of day or night;
  • War and conflict are words from a past life, and are no longer needed in the world we now live in;
  • Everyone believes in God’s existence and there is hope for the future of this world.

I’m sure the second scenario is much more appealing to us all than the first one, but what can we do to make the second scenario become reality?

In 1 Chronicles 1:18 we read

Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done.

So it’s up to us folks, we need to proclaim His name so that we tell everyone we meet how great God is; how much He loves and cares for each of us; how we can always rely on God to be with us, even through very tough times.

That moment when after waiting for weeks for your school or university exam results, the postman finally delivers them, but you’re too scared to open them!

Yes that was me when I was waiting for my school and university exam results. On each occasion I had convinced myself I had done really badly, even though at the time I knew I had studied well, and on the days of the exams, I’d understood and remembered most of what I needed to on the day.

But when you’ve had weeks to reflect on the questions asked in the exams and consider how you answered each question, I found I convinced myself each time that I had failed to provide critical information or made incorrect calculations for each questions, which in turn got me really doubting whether I had done enough to pass each exam.

When the letters finally popped through the door – each time several hours after some of my friends had received theirs and already contacted me to tell me how they had done – I insisted on taking the letter up to my bedroom. I then sat on my bed staring at it for what at the time seemed like ages, before I finally plucked up the courage to open it. I think I was so scared to open the letter for two reasons, firstly, I knew I should have passed, as out with exam conditions I knew I would have done more than enough to pass; Secondly, I knew my Mum and Dad would be disappointed if I didn’t do well – Not that they wouldn’t have been supportive regardless of what my results were, but I knew they expected me to do well based on my performance during the school/university year.

So when I finally did open the letters, I needn’t have worried, I had done ok – On a couple of exams, maybe not as well as I’d hoped, but the results still satisfied the grades I required each time.

My panic over opening these letters was unfounded. Sadly since then I can think of a number of situations where I’ve convinced myself I’ve not done well at something, and got all stressed and worried, only to find again that my fears were unfounded. I’m obviously just a worrier!

That moment when you’ve gone out somewhere, look down at your feet and realised, you’ve got two different shoes on!

Have you ever done that? I have! A number of years ago I went to work with two different shoes on – I only realised as I was getting out my car after I parked the car at work. The stupidest thing about it was they were different colours, different styles and had different sizes of heels, so how on earth did I not notice they were different when I put them on! I remember I felt so stupid and immediate jumped straight back into the car, imagining ‘everyone’ had noticed.

Needless to say I don’t think anyone actually noticed even although there were a few others around, getting out their cars and heading into the nearby offices. Of course me being me, I couldn’t possibly go into the office with two different shoes on could I?

Well you’re right, I didn’t go into the office with two different shoes on…but what did I do? Well I realised I had a pair of old tatty shoes in the boot of my car, which I’d taken out the office a number of weeks beforehand. The choice was two different shoes, or a pair of tatty worn shoes…I went for the tatty old shoes as at least they were a matching pair!

 

Have you ever gone out anywhere wearing different shoes? If so when did you realise and what did you do?

Crisis! A word that strikes fear and alarm when we hear it.

However as this quote from JFK states, even in a crisis, we need to remember that there is still time for opportunity.

So whenever you face a crisis in your life, be alert, stay safe, but also remember to reach out and grab the opportunity that the crisis presents to you.

 

When we’re faced with lots of choice, it can be difficult to make a decision sometimes. However imagine you’ve been facing difficult situation after difficult situation, and you’ve just had to keep going, no matter how you feel…Have you ever considered that maybe you didn’t have a choice?

You simply had to be strong because it was your only option!

So don’t put yourself down when you’re facing difficult times, because I’m sure if you stop and truly look at yourself, you’ll see just how strong you’ve had to be to get this far!

Be kind to yourself because you are stronger than you think you are!

When we’re asked a question, we can often give elaborate answers which really tell the questioner nothing. So for the following questions I’m looking for single word answers only :

  1. Do you feel you are missing thing in your life?
  2. Are you missing someone in your life?
  3. What do you worry about most?
  4. When did you last do a random act of kindness?
  5. When was the last time you told someone you love them?

Whatever your answers, did you answer honestly or did you give the answers you think you should be giving?

If you didn’t answer honestly, can I suggest you try again, but this time be honest with yourself, because if you are, you might get an insight into the ares of your life you need to change.

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