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People can think what they want about me, but I know I am not the strong unemotional person many seem to think I am. Here’s why

And as I found the strength to face each day, I found a way to ‘put on’ a public face that gives the illusion that I’m a strong individual who is in control of their life and their emotions. If you remember nothing else, remember looks can be deceiving!

While writing yesterday’s blog post A Reason To Live, I Googled “A reason to live” – Here’s the results I got

It got wondering how many people have Googled exactly the same thing as me, but who have Googled that phrase because they are in dire need as they are considering suicide.

I then found the report for the Samaritans in Scotland in 2018 – Samaritans_Scotland_Impact_Report_2018

It is sober reading – So many lives lost to suicide, so many people in desperate need to someone to listen to them, and understand how they feel. What really touched me most was this statement

Research by Samaritans found that nearly 2 in 3 Scots have first-hand experience of suicide – whether through their own experience of suicidal thoughts or from supporting someone with suicidal feelings or the loss of a friend or family member.

That’s some statistic isn’t it! In a room of 6 people, 4 of them will have been affected by a suicide or considered suicide themselves. Multiplying that out, 400 out of every 600 people will have been affected by a suicide or considered suicide. I certainly wasn’t aware suicide affected so many lives.

I’m not quoting these figures to you just for affect but to highlight the scale of the problem.

The good news is suicide is preventable, and we can all help. So I encourage you to reach out to a friend, a neighbour, a family member who seems to be struggling with life, and just ask them if they are ok – Remember just because someone says they’re ok doesn’t mean they really are, so trust yourself when you feel there is something wrong – Just be there for someone when they are at their lowest point, and support them.

I did, at one point in my life, wonder if there really was any reason to carry on living. There seemed to be one problem or issue after another in every aspect of my life, that I just could see how I would ever get through that time.

Having got through that very difficult time, I realised that those days when I should have let God take full control of my life, were the days when I completely ignored God, because it seemed to me as if he had forgotten me. I really should have known better, after all I’d heard so many time before how God is always with us and has a plan for each of us. I forgot God’s timing wasn’t necessarily my desired timing, and so instead of trusting God, I turned away from him.

My faith is now stronger than ever as I know now I only got through those difficult days because God did not desert me. I also am now confident that God really does have a plan for me, and therefore I want to fulfil his plan for my life – I therefore have a reason to live because I believe in God.

So believe in God because He alone gives us a reason to live!

No matter what anyone else thinks, I truly believe that what we say and how we say it really does matter.

I suspect we’ve all been hurt at some time or another by what or how someone has said something to us. I know I have been guilty of saying things to others in a way that I shouldn’t and for that I am sorry – I pray daily that God will help me to be more understanding and patient towards others, so that I do not speak to others in a way that may hurt or offend them.

Just as we need to be careful what and how we speak to other adults, it’s just as important, if not more so, that we are extra careful what and how we speak to and in the presence of children. After all I’m sure we’ve all witnessed a child saying or doing something which they have copied from an adult or another child. Be careful what we say and how we talk to our children as this is how they will talk to others!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue. ~ Proverbs 18:21

When we are in trouble or struggling with life, that’s when we are most in need of God. Sadly though, that is often the time when we’re most likely to think God has deserted us.

Why do we think during our most difficult times that God has deserted us when the rest of the time we fully believe God is always with us? Probably because we’re human, and during those times we’re most vulnerable, so the devil finds it easier to get into our lives and our minds.

Keep on believing in God, even through the difficult days.

Yesterday in Celebrate! I encouraged you to celebrate your own life, because you alone know the challenges and difficulties you’ve had to go through to get to where you are now.

Today I want to suggest that having celebrated our own lives yesterday, we celebrate God today, as he was the one who gave us life. Not only did he give us live, he lives each moment of it with us. He guides and directs us, He forgives us and comforts us, and provides everything we need.

Thank you God for giving us life.

Thank you for sacrificing your only son.

Thank you for loving us unconditionally.

Thank you for forgiving us.

Thank you for being the one we can always rely on to help and guide us in every situation.

Help us to be who you made us to be.

Help us to praise you and to celebrate your love for us so that others will always see you in us.

Thank you God for everything.

When you look at others can you see all the challenges and problems they have had to endure in their life?

Look in the mirror at yourself…you may be able to see the worry or stress lines in your face that remind you of specific times/events that you’ve had to face in your life. You may have physical or emotional scars that you can see when you look in the mirror.

Remember, you and you alone know every challenge, every stress or struggle you have had to go through  in your life, and may still be going though. No-one can look at another person and possibly have any real understanding or knowledge of the life that person has led. That is why we should celebrate our lives, and what we’ve achieved, here’s why

There are those who always try want to be in the company of those with influence or power, possibly because they think they will benefit from that person.

There are those who will always make time to be with those who are need of some kind of support, and they will do so without a second thought for themselves.

Of those two types of people, who do you think are the richer?

The first type of person may rise through the ranks of employment/career and earn huge sums of money as they do so. However for me, I’d rather be the the second type of person, because aren’t they the kind of person you’d want to have if you ever find yourself in need of help or support from someone?

Let’s sit with the broken, and support the needy, as doing that is what Christ would do, and that’s what we should each be striving to do.

We can all be critics sometimes can’t we? We’re all have opinions about what is good or bad, right or wrong for someone to do or say in specific situations or circumstances.

When it comes to our own lives, our thoughts and actions, are we as critical of ourselves as we are of others? I guess that depends on the type of person we are – I’m sure I’ve mentioned it before, but I’m a perfectionist, and so I admit it, I am my own worst critic. I expect myself to do and say everything to the high standards I expect of myself, however in reality my expectations of myself are usually far too high, and so I end up giving myself a hard time because in my eyes I have failed.

 

Why am I my worst critic? I know I set my expectations of myself way to high – That in itself is fine as it’s great to aim high, however I know I shouldn’t give myself such a hard time when I don’t live up to my own expectations.

If I don’t live up to my own expectations of myself, how can I ever live up to God’s expectations! The difference is God is realistic about what I can do and will only expect we to do what He knows I’m capable of with His help.

If like me you’re you own worst critic, give yourself some slack, you’re human, you’re not perfect. However if we put our faith and trust in God, He can help us become more like Him, and in doing so we will become better people.

Questions and uncertainty

It can sometimes feel like we’re inundated with questions and uncertainty day after day. So in these circumstances where do you turn? Who do you turn to?

If your questions are about a specific subject or topic, I’m sure there are experts around who can assist. For example if you have a problem with your laptop or mobile phone, there are many shops and companies around who have technical experts who can help solve your technology issue.

If you questions are about life’s problems, maybe you turns to your parents or other family or friends.

If you feel your future is uncertain and you’re struggling to know how to see a positive outcome, who better to turn to than God. In fact, whether you have questions about life in general, problems with life, or feel life is getting on top of you, God is the the one to turn to. He alone can give you direction and guidance which always has your best interests at heart.

There’s no need to stress about your future, instead take all your questions or concerns to God, and He will answer your questions and guide you into the best future for you.