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I came across the following on Twitter a few days ago, and it struck me how apt it was, give recent events. We’ve seen the emergency services work continuously in horrendous circumstances, for hours and days. We’ve seen communities working together despite their differences, and despite the difficult circumstances they themselves may be facing.

Strong people do what’s right and show up to help others. They may be tired and going through a tough time, but they find a way to be there.

When it comes down to it, I believe that in the worst of circumstances that is when the best of us will show itself. What would you do if you found yourself in the midst of some kind of disaster, such as those that have happened in the UK in the last few weeks?

What kind of world do you want to live in?

Do you want to live in a world where:

  • We shut ourselves away from friends and neighbours because we too frightened to go outside;
  • We would rather cross the road and ignore someone in need, rather than reach out and them because we don’t want to get involved;
  • Men kill other men simply because of the colour of their skin, their nationality or their religion;
  • God has been forgotten, and only the minority still believe in Him.

Or do you want to live in a world where:

  • Where everyone automatically reaches out to help others in need, without a second thought for themselves;
  • Everyone lives in peace, tolerant of other’s beliefs – where we all get on with one another, regardless of the colour of their skin, their nationality or their religion;
  • We feel safe to be out of our homes, on our own, no matter the time of day or night;
  • War and conflict are words from a past life, and are no longer needed in the world we now live in;
  • Everyone believes in God’s existence and there is hope for the future of this world.

I’m sure the second scenario is much more appealing to us all than the first one, but what can we do to make the second scenario become reality?

In 1 Chronicles 1:18 we read

Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done.

So it’s up to us folks, we need to proclaim His name so that we tell everyone we meet how great God is; how much He loves and cares for each of us; how we can always rely on God to be with us, even through very tough times.

That moment when after waiting for weeks for your school or university exam results, the postman finally delivers them, but you’re too scared to open them!

Yes that was me when I was waiting for my school and university exam results. On each occasion I had convinced myself I had done really badly, even though at the time I knew I had studied well, and on the days of the exams, I’d understood and remembered most of what I needed to on the day.

But when you’ve had weeks to reflect on the questions asked in the exams and consider how you answered each question, I found I convinced myself each time that I had failed to provide critical information or made incorrect calculations for each questions, which in turn got me really doubting whether I had done enough to pass each exam.

When the letters finally popped through the door – each time several hours after some of my friends had received theirs and already contacted me to tell me how they had done – I insisted on taking the letter up to my bedroom. I then sat on my bed staring at it for what at the time seemed like ages, before I finally plucked up the courage to open it. I think I was so scared to open the letter for two reasons, firstly, I knew I should have passed, as out with exam conditions I knew I would have done more than enough to pass; Secondly, I knew my Mum and Dad would be disappointed if I didn’t do well – Not that they wouldn’t have been supportive regardless of what my results were, but I knew they expected me to do well based on my performance during the school/university year.

So when I finally did open the letters, I needn’t have worried, I had done ok – On a couple of exams, maybe not as well as I’d hoped, but the results still satisfied the grades I required each time.

My panic over opening these letters was unfounded. Sadly since then I can think of a number of situations where I’ve convinced myself I’ve not done well at something, and got all stressed and worried, only to find again that my fears were unfounded. I’m obviously just a worrier!

That moment when you’ve gone out somewhere, look down at your feet and realised, you’ve got two different shoes on!

Have you ever done that? I have! A number of years ago I went to work with two different shoes on – I only realised as I was getting out my car after I parked the car at work. The stupidest thing about it was they were different colours, different styles and had different sizes of heels, so how on earth did I not notice they were different when I put them on! I remember I felt so stupid and immediate jumped straight back into the car, imagining ‘everyone’ had noticed.

Needless to say I don’t think anyone actually noticed even although there were a few others around, getting out their cars and heading into the nearby offices. Of course me being me, I couldn’t possibly go into the office with two different shoes on could I?

Well you’re right, I didn’t go into the office with two different shoes on…but what did I do? Well I realised I had a pair of old tatty shoes in the boot of my car, which I’d taken out the office a number of weeks beforehand. The choice was two different shoes, or a pair of tatty worn shoes…I went for the tatty old shoes as at least they were a matching pair!

 

Have you ever gone out anywhere wearing different shoes? If so when did you realise and what did you do?

Crisis! A word that strikes fear and alarm when we hear it.

However as this quote from JFK states, even in a crisis, we need to remember that there is still time for opportunity.

So whenever you face a crisis in your life, be alert, stay safe, but also remember to reach out and grab the opportunity that the crisis presents to you.

 

When we’re faced with lots of choice, it can be difficult to make a decision sometimes. However imagine you’ve been facing difficult situation after difficult situation, and you’ve just had to keep going, no matter how you feel…Have you ever considered that maybe you didn’t have a choice?

You simply had to be strong because it was your only option!

So don’t put yourself down when you’re facing difficult times, because I’m sure if you stop and truly look at yourself, you’ll see just how strong you’ve had to be to get this far!

Be kind to yourself because you are stronger than you think you are!

When we’re asked a question, we can often give elaborate answers which really tell the questioner nothing. So for the following questions I’m looking for single word answers only :

  1. Do you feel you are missing thing in your life?
  2. Are you missing someone in your life?
  3. What do you worry about most?
  4. When did you last do a random act of kindness?
  5. When was the last time you told someone you love them?

Whatever your answers, did you answer honestly or did you give the answers you think you should be giving?

If you didn’t answer honestly, can I suggest you try again, but this time be honest with yourself, because if you are, you might get an insight into the ares of your life you need to change.

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Start again!

Those are probably some of the words you least want to hear when you feel broken. However if you turn around, you’ll find God is right by your side, ready to help you start over.

When Life Gets Broken by Sandi Patty

Hands reaching out with no one to hold
You’ve been abandoned with no place to go
Wounded and wanting, such desperate times

Cold bitter tears are filling your eyes

Get a glimpse of Jesus for He is right there with you
He knows just what you need

‘Cause when life gets broken, when you’re in despair
He’ll carry your burden when it’s too much to bear
It’s down in the valley where He’ll give you strength
And there is nothing you have lost that He can’t replace
He’ll help you start all over again
When life gets broken

You hoped God would heal it, but the storm raged and raged
Now it’s hard to imagine how you’ll make it through the day
Weeks turn to years, time’s passing you by
But you’re still holding on to the how’s and the why’s

So get a glimpse of Jesus for He is right there with you
He knows just what you need

‘Cause when life gets broken, when you’re in despair
He’ll carry your burden when it’s too much to bear
It’s down in the valley where He’ll give you strength
And there is nothing you have lost that He can’t replace
He’ll help you start all over again
When life gets broken

Healing waters heal our troubled souls
Jesus, sweet Jesus will cleanse and make us whole

When life gets broken, when you’re in despair
He’ll carry your burden when it’s too much to bear
It’s down in the valley where He’ll give you strength
And there is nothing you have lost that He can’t replace
He’ll help you start all over again
He’ll help you start all over again
He’ll help you start all over again
He’ll help you start all over again
When life gets broken

In Colossians 1:17 (NIV) we read, “He is before all things, and in him all things hold together”.

I’ve read this verse a number of times over the years, and have turned back to it each time have had “one of those days” when everything just seems to go wrong. Those words just remind me that no matter how bad my day may be, God is there with me, and will get me through it.

Whenever you have “one of those days”, what do you do and who do you turn to?

I pray that no matter what your day may bring you, you will always believe and trust that God is there with you, through it all.

 

Ever get fed up having to wait for others to complete their tasks so you can start your? Ever get fed up having to rely on others to deliver goods or services you’ve ordered?

It can be frustrating at times having to rely on others, but consider this, does God get fed up waiting for us to do His, does He give up on us when we struggle to do His will? No he doesn’t!

Therefore when we think it’s easier for us to go solo and not have to wait for, or rely on others, remember God never gives up on us, and even when we delay things that God wants us to do, He still is there for us, and never considers ‘going solo’ just because we frustrate Him.

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