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Do you keep putting off doing specific things because you’re waiting from that ‘perfect moment’?

The problem with waiting for that ‘perfect moment’ is it may never come. Could it be that you’re waiting for certain conditions to be met which you know will never happen before you do that ‘thing’?

I’ve been reminded too often in this last while of how fragile life can be, so if you really want to do something, just do it, don’t keep waiting until the conditions are right, you’re life is in order, or you’re in the location you’d prefer, just do! We don’t know how much time we have on this earth, today may be our last, or we may have another 20, 30, …, 70 etc years left here.

Are you willing to take a chance that you’ll still get the time to say or do what you want to do in that ‘perfect moment’? I’m not, so just cease the moment and say or do it now, otherwise that moment may never happen.

In the run up to Christmas each year millions of pounds are spent on gifts. So in the last few weeks I, like many of you will have started to think about what gifts to buy my family and friends for Christmas this year. So out of curiosity I wondered how much on average we spend on Christmas presents each year, in the UK. It turns out that the figure varies dramatically depending on who you ask or where you look, but the average seems to range from between £350 to just under £1000!

Whether we are planning on spending anything like those amounts of money on gifts this year, or our budget is much less, the gifts we buy can still be fantastic and memorable for the receiver.

The most meaningful presents we receive might not come wrapped in shiny paper or frilly ribbons. They are often the ones that lift your spirit, brighten your day or trigger your imagination or memories. So I wonder what was the most memorable or best gift you have ever received for Christmas?

I decided to ask some of friends what was the best gift they ever received for Christmas. Here’s some of the answers I got.

  1. I would say for me it has to be between the laptop I got last year or the ps4 I got two years ago.
  2. I was given a gift bag filled with little stuff (a cd, stud earrings, a little book etc) that probably wasn’t worth much to anyone else. But each gift had a little post it note explaining why they’d brought that or what it was about the thing that had made them think of me. It was so thoughtful and made me feel special.
  3. A Levi red tab denim jacket I got when I was 12.  We didn’t buy or wear “things that had labels”. I remember sleeping in it in case my parents decided to return it. We also didn’t have masses of money and I had an idea that it must have been quite expensive. Honestly, best present ever – I still have it and I’m now 40! My nieces now fight over who gets to wear it as it’s now ‘vintage’.
  4. The huge big teddy bear I got when I was 7 – it was almost bigger than me – I still have him.
  5. A few years ago in my last job I had a really tough year because of a serious health problem but carried on working when I could. When I was in the office some of the guys would put bits of paper on my desk with positive quotes, and I loved that. Then that Christmas, one of them sent me a Happy Box – It’s a box containing lots of bits of paper with lots of positive quotes. So now whenever I am feeling low, I just open the box and take out one of the. And yes, it’s not solving my health problems but at least I always end up with a smile on my face.

Have you thought of the best Christmas gift you’ve ever received?

The real message of Christmas is not the gifts that we give to each other. Instead it is a reminder of the gift that God has given to each of us, the gift of Jesus. There is one final ‘best gift’ story from a friends that I want to share with you

  • My mother-in-law gave my family a stocking with the name “JESUS” written across it. Each year on Christmas morning my family writes a letter to Jesus and puts it into the stocking.
  • This is a tradition my husband and his family have been doing since he was little. They have yet to open and read any of these letters, but they are a constant reminder each year as we begin to decorate our tree and wrap our presents, that the greatest gift we have is Jesus.
  • This gift has guaranteed my family will take time to focus on the Lord during the festive season.

I was really touched this – the way they start each festive season by focusing on Jesus is such a great way to ensure they never forget the reason we celebrate Christmas.

2 Corinthians 9:15 (TPT)

Praise God for his astonishing gift, which is far too great for words!

The best Christmas gift we will ever receive isn’t a gift someone placed under a Christmas tree for us, but was a gift of great sacrifice, the best gift from God, of His Son, Jesus Christ, who came into this world in the simplest and humblest of surroundings.

Romans 6:23 (NIV)

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

1 John 5:11 (NIV)

This is the true testimony: that God has given us eternal life, and this life has its source in his Son.

This year as we look forward to opening the gifts we’ve received from our friends and family on Christmas morning, remember that no matter how great or meaningful those gifts may be, they will never be comparable to the best gift we can ever receive – God’s gift to us of his Son. So next time you’re asked what the greatest gift you’ve ever received is, I hope like me your answer is

‘Tis the Lord, O wondrous story!
‘Tis the Lord, the King of glory;
at his feet, we humbly fall,
crown him, crown him Lord of all!

Can you imagine what it must be like to not have any food in your house – Not because you haven’t had time to do the shopping yet, but because you haven’t go any money to buy food?

Sadly for many, that is exactly what life is like for them every day, which is so sad this day and age in the UK. In just under a week a general election will be held here in the UK, but as this news item on the BBC website yesterday, it’s clear that those who struggle to put food on their table, are completely fed up of all the promises the various political parties have made year after year that they will tackle poverty in this country and ensure everyone has a roof over their head and food to eat.

Here’s the BBC news article: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/election-2019-50663879/general-election-2019-how-do-grimsby-s-food-bank-users-want-to-vote

The election next year however seems to be focusing so much on Brexit that it’s not really any surprise that those who struggle to put food on their table, are struggling to decide if they should bother to vote, and if they do, who they should vote for.

In this day and age, no-one should have to make choices about whether they heat their home, or eat each day. It’s not just the politicians that need to do something to help end poverty in this country, each of us who can afford to eat each day and heat our homes, can reach out and help those less fortunate than ourselves. We can make a different in so many peoples’ lives if we all just help one person!

Praying our way through the day is equally as important as devoting set-apart time to prayer. I believe God wants us to offer up acknowledgments of Him, make requests, and offer thanksgivings throughout each day. Learn to let prayer be as comfortable as breathing!

~ Joyce Meyer Ministries

Praying shouldn’t be a chore, in fact it should be the complete opposite – It should be something we do naturally because we want to, rather than something we do just when we can fit it in to our busy lives.

Just as we always want to talk to our friends and family, so we should want to talk to God whenever we can. So pray each day about everything and anything, whenever and wherever you are. God hear every one of your prayers.

Homeless

Posted: December 3, 2019 in Christmas, family, Glasgow, homeless, poverty, prayer
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Can you imagine what it would feel like to lose all your possessions in the space of a few hours?

Well for some families in Glasgow a few weeks ago, this nightmare became reality for them.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-50379853

I can’t imagine how those families must have felt, losing all their possessions, but at least everyone got our safely.

I’ve no idea how those folks will start to rebuild their lives, their family homes, or how long it will take them. It will no doubt be particularly hard for them at this time of year they may have lost presents they have already bought, they have probably lost precious sentimental items that can never be replaced.

I pray these families will receive all the help they need to help them rebuild their lives and get settled in new homes.

Do you have people in your life who, no matter how much you try to like them, seem to always do things which make it so difficult for you to like them?

We all make snap judgements about others within the first few seconds of meeting them, however those initial judgements are based on nothing more than looks and what others have told us. That’s probably why it can be hard to like someone when our initial impression of them is not a favourable one.

Having said that, basic courtesy tells me that we should be pleasant to others even if we don’t know them, or we do know them but are not friends with them. It can be particularly difficult to like someone when you continually try to be friendly toward them, maybe smiling at them when you see them or saying ‘good morning’ or just ‘hi’ when you meet them.

So when someone continually ignores your efforts to be pleasant or courteous towards them, it can be very frustrating. So much so we can question ourselves, and why we even bother to be pleasant to these people, but how long should we keep trying?

My answer – forever!

Forever is a long time, so you’re probably wondering why you should try for that long! Remember you have no idea what may be going on in those peoples’ lives just now, just as they don’t know what’s going on in yours. They may be going through a tough time so are focusing all their efforts on trying to ‘keep it together’ in public. So no matter how frustrating it might be to continue being pleasant and welcoming towards someone who continually ignores or blanks you, keep smiling at them, and keep saying ‘good morning’ or ‘hi’. By doing so, you may just convince them that they do matter, and so you may yet get an acknowledgement or response from them, one day!

Some people will always try to do their best at everything they do both at work and in their personal life.

Some will make sure they adhere to the policies and procedures of their employer.

Some people will always do all they can to do as little work as they possibly can, and in doing so will stretch policies and procedures to their limit.

Some people see sickness absence as additional days holiday that they are entitled to each year, even if they aren’t unwell.

Do those that try and do as little work as possible realise the impact their lack of application has on their colleagues?

Stretching policies and procedures to their limits, results in the policies and procedures being tightened so means the majority who haven’t abused the system, end up being penalised.

Taking sickness absence when not unwell or claiming to be more unwell or unfit for work than you actually are again impacts on your work colleagues.

What makes all these things worse, is when those concerned

  • are oblivious to the impact their actions have on their colleagues;
  • have no shame it openly lying about their circumstances or the severity of their illness;
  • make no attempt to try and return to work;

Let’s be honest, we all know or have known people who take advantage of rules/regulations or policies/procedures. It can be very annoying for those who have not abused the system, and find themselves watching while those with much lesser need lie and stretch the rules just so they can claim all the non-working time or sickness absence they possibly can.

It’s sad when people feel they it’s ok to exaggerate the truth (i.e. lie) just so they can personally benefit. But have you noticed how it’s always these people who always feel they’ve been hard done by, and have been victimised? They are definitely not the victims

  • those who have to pick up the work of those who fail to do their job are the victims.
  • the victims are those who end up not getting paid leave in the future, because policies and procedures are changed because a small number of people abuse the rules.
  • their work colleagues are the victims as ultimately your organisation may be unable to meet work deadlines because of absences, so they end up having to make people redundant.

If you are one of those who have abused the rules, I hope this post makes you stop and think about the impact your actions have on yourself and your organisation. Your actions can cost jobs and demotivates your colleagues.

 

Mental health is gradually becoming a less taboo subject than it used to be, which has to be a good thing.

When you first face the diagnosis of a mental health issue, it can be scary, as you’ll feel like you’re on your own and no-one understands or knows what you’re going through. The thing is, when we actually open up to others, you’ll gradually discover that in face even those you’d never have ever though would suffer from a mental health issue, have at some time, faced the same struggle you currently face.

You may be surprised by the support they offer you and the reassurance you feel, as you’ll suddenly realised what you’re feeling is perfectly normal, and you’re definitely not the only person who has ever felt that way. That does not of course mean I am in anyway am dismissing how someone with a mental health issue feels, as I myself have been there, have felt entirely on my own, where no-one understood how I felt, so I really do understand.

In my experience talking to someone really does help, so if you can talk to someone, as talking really i the best medicine.

Imagine your life was in real danger, and just when you thought all hope of survival had gone, someone found you and rescued you from the danger you faced. You would be grateful to the person or people who saved you wouldn’t you?

It’s not just when your life is in physical danger that we can be in need of a rescuer, because let’s face it, life can get on top of us these days. I have been there. I’ve had some very dark times and felt I couldn’t face another day physically or emotionally, but someone kept telling me to keep going. God kept telling me to hang on because he was there for me, through it all. I may be in a better place these days, but I still have days when I find it physically and emotionally difficult, but the difference now is I have no doubts that God is with me. I know he is my rescuer and has saved me.

Came to My Rescue
Falling on my knees in worship
Giving all I am to seek Your face
Lord all I am is is Yours

My whole life
I place in Your hands
God of mercy
Humbled I bow down
In your presence at Your throne

I called You answered
And You came to my rescue and I
I wanna be where You are

In my life be lifted high
In our world be lifted high
In our love be lifted high

What do you do when either you realise someone is struggling or going through a difficult time, or they tell you they’re finding life difficult?

I hope you don’t try and make a quick escape, but instead, speak to the person, and try and reassure them they are not on their own. The person may or may not be willing and/or able to speak to you about what is troubling them, but if they are, we need to be able to recognise when we’re out of our depth.

While we must be willing and able to offer our support to those in difficulty, we must be aware that if we try to give help or advice about something we have little or know knowledge of, we can actually do more harm than good. So be willing to recognise when you are out of our depth – maybe the person is troubled by something we know nothing about or have no personal experience of. In those circumstances, don’t just tell the person you can’t help and then walk off and leave them, instead reassure them that you want to help them but feel you don’t have the knowledge or expertise required to help them. Always either introduce the person  to someone else who you know might be able can help them, or direct them to an organisation or company that can help them. Never leave them thinking they are on their own and no-one cares or understands their situation or how they feel. Remember reassurance and suggested sources of help, are always welcomed by those who are in need of help.

Never let someone drown in their own difficulties, instead help them and reassure them, even if that means you need to direct them to someone else to give them the help they need.