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In days when there seems to be almost daily reports of man deliberately killing their fellow-man, it can be difficult to remember that in amongst all these events, God is still here.

It’s therefore our responsibility of those of us who confess to being Christians, to continue to remind the world that God is still here, and that despite the evil that man continues to inflict on others, good can still overcome evil.

There is still hope!

Ten thousand years may pass away
And bring the dawning of a cosmic day;
Age after age, time after time hold its sway:
Man walks alone, amidst uncertainty,
Only one thing can still make him strong;
In the pain, in the doubt, in the loneliness.
In the struggle of right against wrong:
Somewhere amidst the confusion,
There will be hope, there will be love, there will be God

All time will pass into eternity
And man must venture on a life unknown:
Journey alone, each to his own destiny:
In life or death, amidst uncertainty,
Only one thing can still make him strong:
In the pain, in the doubt, in the loneliness,
In the struggle of right against wrong:
Somewhere amidst the confusion,
There will be hope, there will be love, there will be God

If God called you home today, do you think you’d be ready to go?

I guess for many, regardless of when we are ultimately called to be with our Maker, it may always feel just a little bit too soon for us. e.g. Maybe we don’t want to leave our family, maybe there are tasks we still want to achieve, or some other things we want to still do.

I wonder if Jesus felt it was too soon for Him to be going home that first Easter – Whether he wished he could have stayed longer. Even if Jesus would have preferred to have stayed on earth longer, He still willingly went to the cross because he knew it was His time. It was His time to save the world!

Just as when Jesus died that first Easter, it was the ‘right time’ for Him, it will be the ‘right time’ for us when we are called, because it’ll be God who has called us home.

I love the following song, Ready To Go Home, here performed by Morten Harket, which is about being ready to go home to God.

Ready To Go Home

On the street below these walls
Where I used to walk
Now I can barely crawl
All this darkness rising tall

Lord, shine a light for me
I’m waiting to be called

I’m ready to go home
I’m ready to receive
Forgiveness for my sins
I’m ready to begin

Take this river to the sea
Where the delta flows
The tide is washing over me
Take this soul to heaven’s door

Show me where tomorrow lies
I’m waiting to be born

I’m ready to lay down
I’m ready now to sleep
A promise I must keep
I’m ready to go home

So tired, I lay down with these
Memories
I breathe shallow deep inside of me
If time has run its course with me…

I’m ready to go home
I’m ready to receive
Forgiveness for my sins
I’m ready to begin

I’m ready to lay down
I’m ready now to sleep
A promise I must keep
I’m ready to go home

In the UK, today is Mother’s Day, so for many today is day to say thank you to our Mum’s for all they have done/do for us, and just generally spoil them for at least today!

For those of us whose mother’s have passed away, the lead up to Mother’s Day with all the adverts on TV can be difficult, nevermind Mother’s Day itself when all around there are people celebrating with their Mums. It can also be a difficult day for those who have wanted children but who for whatever result, have been unable to have children.

A couple of months ago we went to the Liv On concert with Amy Sky, Beth Nielsen Chapman, and Olivia Newton-John. Here’s some of what their website tells us about this project:

The LIV ON Project and CD came to fruition the way many of the best collaborations do…via a series of conversations between friends about what matters most in life: Love, loss, hope and healing.

All three had endured profound, life-altering losses and yet each remained committed to one thing: a desire to transform individual grief into healing via music… for all.

This very special collection of songs will help lift the hearts of others going through their own hardship, whatever the cause.

The songs on the “LIV ON” CD take the listener on a journey of remembrance, toward one of inspiration and hope.

As well, the three mega-stars have created several brand new songs, including the title track, “Live On,” which born of their own exploration into the pain of loss, the growth that follows and eventually, the journey toward renewed joy.

“We found that any time we shared a vulnerable part of us, we felt such an overwhelming feeling of kinship and relief… that we were not alone with our pain. We hope these songs that came from the depths of us, will offer a place of comfort to others.” ~ Olivia Newton-John

I found the words and the music of all the songs presented at the concert very inspiring, so I just wanted to share with you today the title track from the Liv On CD, entitled Live On:

Live On by Amy, Olivia and Beth

I’m waking up this morning
Grateful for the gift of one more day
The light of hope is dawning
It fills my heart and lifts my fears away
Sometimes there’s a miracle just beyond the pain
When you can see the rainbow in the rain

Live on, live on
Brighter skies will come again
Cry the tears you cry and then live on, live on
Love is all we leave when we are gone live on

We’ve shared so much together
Think of all the mountains we have climbed
Sorrow joy and laughter
Woven through the tapestry of time
Even as we’re letting go we will not lose faith
All the precious memories we make

Live on, live on
In the hearts of those we touch
All the dreams inside of us live on, live on
Love is all we leave when we are gone live on

Live on, live on
More than just survive my friend
We learn how to thrive and then live on, live on
Shining like the words inside this song, live on

Love is all we leave when we are gone live on
In every heart of those we touch
In every dream that means so much
Yes I believe that all of us live on

2016 is almost over – For me for a change it’s been a year of no specific highs or lows!

Let’s have a look back over this year:

As far world events are concerned there’s been a lot of major tragedies, with many losing their lives. There have also been many celebrities from the world of tv/film and music who have passed away, causing much comment around the world about the number of celebs that 2016 has lost. For me it is sad how many celebs have died, but I’m not quite getting the huge outcry about it, as there are many friends and family who have also been devastated by the death of loved ones, and so my heart goes out to everyone who this year have lost a loved one.

What about from a spiritual perspective, how has 2016 been for you?

  • Relationship_with_GodHas it been a year where your relationship with God has grown or declined?
  • Have you prayed regularly?
  • Have you listened to what God has to say to you in this last year?
  • Have you said “yes” to all God has asked you to do this year?
  • When difficult times have come along during, did you turn to God for help immediately, or wait until turning to God was your last resort?
  • Have you done your best to tell others about Jesus?
  • Has God been at the centre of all you’ve done in 2016?
  • If you’ve answered “Yes” to all of the above questions, well done, you’re obviously doing the best you can to be a good example of Christ to those you encounter.

Sadly, I guess if we’re honest with ourselves, many of us, including me, will find we did not answer “Yes” to all those questions, but answered either “No” or “Sometimes” to at least one or two of these questions.

The good news is, no matter what we answered to those questions, we can make 2017 the year we answer “Yes” to all these questions by simply by trusting God to help us in every part of our life, not just the parts we’re choose to let Him into.

So as 2017 draws near, draw closer to God and let Him into every part of your life.

You’re all I want
You’re all I’ve ever needed
You’re all I want
Help me know you are near

Different time

Posted: December 19, 2016 in bereavement, Christmas, family, Health, hope, life, music, religion
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Last week in one of my posts I talked about how Christmas can be a particularly difficult time for those who are missing someone. There’s one Christmas song which has always touched me because of how it talks about the ones we miss at this time of year, and that’s Mark Schultz song A Different Kind of Christmas which he wrote in honour of his father-in-law who passed away four years ago.

I hope you find this as beautiful and moving as I do:

I read the following story recently, and while it made it laugh, it also made me stop and think…are there things I am saying or doing that are incorrect or wrong, which other might copy or imitate?

Just after Christmas Father Michael, was walking along the pavement in front of his church when he heard the intoning of a prayer that nearly made his collar wilt. Apparently, his 5-year-old son, Rory, and his playmates had found a dead robin. Feeling that proper burial should be performed, they had secured a small box and some cotton wool, then dug a hole and made ready for the disposal of the deceased.

Rory, the minister’s son was chosen to say the appropriate prayers and with sonorous dignity intoned his version of what he thought his father always said, ‘Glory be unto the Faaather, and unto the Sonnn, and into the hole he goooes.’

Take a look at your words and actions, do they reflect God, or have you lost your focus on Him?

This time of year can be difficult for so many, as it reminds them of family and friends who are no longer here. For some it will mean they are on their own for the first time this Christmas, and that can be particularly difficult.

While listening to music in my car the other day, the following song by Delta Goodrem came on, and it really touched me.

If you’re missing someone this Christmas, I pray you will find some joy in your memories of past Christmas, but also make the best of this Christmas as your loved ones would want you to try to have a happy time.

Wishing you were here by Delta Goodrem

I’ve been knock, knock, knocking at the thought of your door
But you’re not, not, not here anymore
I ring, ring, ring you’re every phone in my head
But I can’t get through, the connection is dead

I want, want to tell you about the news today
But you wouldn’t believe me, you’d laugh it away
There’s a ghost standing at the foot of my bed
And it’s you, it’s you, it’s you

It was you they told me who was in trouble
I couldn’t breathe on the other side of the world
And there was nothing I could do to help you
And it’s true today would be your birthday
It would’ve been your 27th year
And I miss you in the earth’s atmosphere
I wish you were here

I go back, back, back in every memory of there
But the clock ticks over every minute we shared
On my knees begging for it not to be true
But it was you, it was you, it was you

It was you they told me who was in trouble
I couldn’t breathe on the other side of the world
And there was nothing I could do to help you
And it’s true today would be your birthday
It would’ve been your 27th year
And I miss you in the earth’s atmosphere
I wish you were here

Instead of just in my dreams and in my imagination
Confusing me completely from another dimension
Can you see the beauty from a new beginning somewhere
Cause I feel like I won’t repair with time

It was you, it was you, it was you

It was you they told me who was in trouble
I couldn’t breathe on the other side of the world
And there was nothing I could do to help you
And it’s true today would be your birthday
It would’ve been your 27th year
And I miss you in the earth’s atmosphere
I wish you were here

I wish you were here

I recently came across the following and it really struck a chord with me, so had to share it with you…

The Train

At birth we boarded the train and met our parents, and we believe they will always travel by our side. As time goes by, other people will board the train; and they will be significant i.e. our siblings, friends, children, and even the love of your life. However, at some station our parents will step down from the train, leaving us on this journey alone. Others will step down over time and leave a permanent vacuum. Some, however, will go so unnoticed that we don’t realize they vacated their seats.

This train ride will be full of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, goodbyes, and farewells. Success consists of having a good relationship with all passengers requiring that we give the best of ourselves.

The mystery to everyone is: We do not know at which station we ourselves will step down. So, we must live in the best way, love, forgive, and offer the best of who we are. It is important to do this because when the time comes for us to step down and leave our seat empty we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who will continue to travel on the train of life.

I wish you all a joyful journey.

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Grief comes in one size, Extra Large.

If we tuck it away in the bottom drawer

where it never sees the light of day,

it remains exactly the same.

On the other hand, 

if we wear it, feel it, talk about it,

and share it with others,

it is likely that it will become faded, shrunk and worn,

or will simply no longer fit.

When grief has served its purpose,

we are able to recognize the many gifts we have gained.

Grief is something which we all cope with differently

Yes, everyone copes with grief differently – some fall apart struggling to find the energy to get out of bed, while others seem to have unending strength being able to carry on with life as if nothing as happened.

So just while someone may not show their grief for a loved one in a way you’d expect, do not think they are not grieving, as we all cope differently, and surely whatever helps us to cope in these circumstances must be good!

Grief

There is strength within the sorrow
There is beauty in our tears
And You meet us in our mourning
With a love that casts out fear
You are working in our waiting
You’re sanctifying us
When beyond our understanding
You’re teaching us to trust

Your plans are still to prosper
You have not forgotten us
You’re with us in the fire and the flood
You’re faithful forever
Perfect in love
You are sovereign over us

You are wisdom unimagined
Who could understand Your ways
Reigning high above the Heavens
Reaching down in endless grace
You’re the lifter of the lowly
Compassionate and kind
You surround and You uphold me
And Your promises are my delight

Your plans are still to prosper
You have not forgotten us
You’re with us in the fire and the flood
You’re faithful forever
Perfect in love
You are sovereign over us

Even what the enemy means for evil
You turn it for our good
You turn it for our good and for Your glory
Even in the valley, You are faithful
You’re working for our good
You’re working for our good and for Your glory

Your plans are still to prosper
You have not forgotten us
You’re with us in the fire and the flood
You’re faithful forever
Perfect in love
You are sovereign over us

You’re faithful forever
Perfect in love
You are sovereign over us

It can feel at times as if our troubles are unending. That’s when we must remember that God is faithful and will be with us always.

When we suffer sorrows and pain it can seem unbearable. During these times God can be our comfort and our strength.

God is faithful to us always, but are you always faithful to Him?