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The last couple of days I’ve been talking about the fear of failure that affects so many people. Having talked about why some fear failure, I now want to focus on some possible ways to help overcome a fear of failure.

It’s all about goals and targets!

Start by setting small achievable goals that will help you build your confidence. Having set a goal, start thinking about all the possible outcomes, positive and negative, and rationally consider what may happen, developing contingency plans as you go. As you go through these possible outcomes you’ll hopefully find answers/solutions to all possible negative scenarios, in turn helping you thinking positively.

Repeat these steps by setting another goal, and then another goal. By moving forward slowly and steadily, you’ll begin to overcome your fear of failure.

Good luck!

Do you realise you are capable to perform a miracle today and every day?

Today I’m following up on from Saturday’s blog post (Volunteers) where I asked you to support and encourage those who volunteer in our communities and churches.

Everyone in a leadership role in our communities or churches, whether volunteering or employed, have to make decisions about the group or community they are responsible for. That in itself can be difficult, as just like in any walk of life, not everyone will agree with decisions they make. However that doesn’t give us the right to challenge or confront the leader, as just as I said on Saturday, they are the one that has been approved to have the leadership role, and therefore their decisions should be respected.

For example when it comes to leadership of a music group, the leader may want the group to sing/play a piece of music at a faster or slower speed than the music indicates, or maybe they want it played quieter or louder than the music states – Does that make the leader wrong?

Of course it doesn’t! The leader hasn’t simply decided to lead the piece of music in a particular way for no reason, they feel their interpretation of the music will add to the performance, and therefore their the group should accept their leader’s guidance.

Respect your leaders, regardless of whether they are paid or volunteers, because they do a difficult job, and therefore need your support and encouragement.

In so many areas of life we find people who freely give up their own personal time and talents to help others, expecting nothing in return except the knowledge that they’ve helped others.

Whether it running a kids’ football team, working in a charity shop, taking on a position within your church, helping those with disabilities, helping to educate others by leading evening classes, or some other voluntary act, people do these things voluntarily, and that is what others need to remember.

We can all be quick to make derogatory comments about the ability of the person who has volunteered. Many will think they can do better than the person who is in charge, but can they?

From experience, probably not! Even if we were capable of doing a job better than the person who has volunteered, we should be supportive and helpful towards the person, after all they have given of their time and talents freely, while we haven’t! They may not be perfect at the job they have undertaken, but they are doing their best – They wouldn’t have been given the job if those in charge didn’t think they were capable of doing a good job.

Volunteers aren’t in it for their own glorification, but are there to help others, so if you find yourself putting your trust in volunteers to lead, help, train or educate you or your family, don’t put them down or tell others you could do better.  Instead, always give them your support and encouragement.

So which of these steps are you on?

Have you got ‘stuck’ on your current step?

When you haven’t reached even the 1st step, it can seem like there’s no point it trying to start climbing the stairs. However once you start to learn and are able to take another new step, you gain confidence; with confidence comes optimism; with optimism comes targets and goals and when you have targets/goals you aim higher and higher until you reach the top of the stairs, your goal.

So don’t feel dejected if you’ve not started onto that 1st step yet, but have confidence in your ability, and you can achieve great things.

When you face choices in your life, do you:

  1. Think things through on your own before making a decision
  2. Talk the choices though with your family and make a joint decision
  3. Take the situation to God, and wait for Him to direct you

We probably all try to do a bit of all these options if we’re honest, but as Christians we must always go for option 3. Remember God will never ask you to do something you’re not capable of – You may just not realise you are capable of it before you start!

So leave your life choices to God, and He will do the best for you.

You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can change is how you react to it ~ Nicky Gumbel

When people treat you badly, say things about you or to you which are hurtful or untrue, it can be so very easy to react in anger.

When you’re emotions get the better of you, we can all be guilty of saying or doing things we regret, either immediately or later once we’ve calmed down. However it’s usually more helpful to both ourselves and the others involved if we all just take a few moments to calm down and reassess the situation before you get dragged into a shouting or slagging match.

So be the bigger person, stay calm and stay in control of your emotions and your reaction, and more than anything, think before you respond.

Why do opportunities not come with big signs on them, so it’s obvious they are opportunities!

Opportunities don’t just fall into our laps, we have to identify them and then put the work in to grab the opportunity, even if that means we have to work hard to achieve it.

Learning lessons is a little like reaching maturity. You’re not suddenly more happy, wealthy, or powerful, but you understand the world around you better, and you’re at peace with yourself. Learning life’s lessons is not about making your life perfect, but about seeing life as it was meant to be.

~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Are you still trying to make your life perfect?

Have you accepted your life for what it is?

God has planned out our lives long before we were even born, so learn your life lessons from Him, and accept the plan He has made just for you.

Whether you are trying to get fit, lose weight, starting a new hobby, learning a new language or skill, or trying to make some other change in your life, I’m sure we’ve all found ourselves wondering where to start.

It can sometimes be so overwhelming wondering where or how to start that we can actually completely put ourselves off, and end up not starting anywhere at all!

I think there’s probably two reasons why we don’t achieve our targets:

  1. We try to do too many things at the same time; or
  2. We don’t even try to get started because we feel so overwhelmed

So how do we get started with things when we feel overwhelmed?

I’ve found the best thing to do is just to focus on one thing. To identify that one thing, it’s best to identify several tasks and then choose the simplest to start with, that way you’ll quickly feel you’ve achieved something, and will find it easier to move forward as you tackle the remaining tasks.

Good luck!