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When you look in the mirror, who or what do you see? A loving caring person your love or someone you hardly recognise that you’re not particularly fond of?

We all have feeling and opinions about others, as well as about ourselves. Sadly for many of us, we are more likely to be harder on ourselves, or less positive about ourselves, than we are about other people. Why is that, when we know ourselves much better than we know others?

I know for myself as a perfectionist, I do set my expectations of myself higher, because if I can’t meet my  targets/expectations, how can I expect others to?

I came across this quote recently, and it is a great reminder that we really shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves, but instead be positive about what we do achieve, just as we would (or should do) with other’s achievements.

I often listen to music in my car from on usb drive. It’s got thousands of music tracks on it, and I tend to just play things randomly so I never really can predict what I’m going to hear next.

Last week on my way to work the song The best is yet to come by Mike and the Mechanics, came on, and although it’s not a Christian song, I felt as though the words of the song were God himself talking to me. It’s an upbeat song, and as it was on my way to work I heard this, I found it actually raised my spirits and really set me up for the day.

I hope you too will find the song and these words uplifting – Just listen to the song and imagine God is speaking the words to you.

Are there days when you’re feeling
Days when you’re feeling down?
And you’re looking for hope but
Hope can not that be found?
Are there nights when you’re falling
Nights when you’re falling fast?
Can you take a hold of my hand
Let go of the past?
Can I take a hold of your heart?
That’s all I ask

And if you say yeah
You give it one more chance
You see, the best is yet to come
And if you say yeah
The future’s in your hands
The best is yet to come

If there’re times you’re the winner
Times you’re the loser too
Are there times when you question
Everything you knew?
I don’t want you to give up
Don’t you give up now
Gotta keep your feet on the ground
And your head in the clouds
Can you just be true to yourself
And make me proud?

And if you say yeah
You give it one more chance
You see, the best is yet to come
And if you say yeah
The future’s in your hands
The best is yet to come

We all have times in our life when we face challenges. e.g. the death of a loved one, unemployment, serious illness. Based on some of the things I’ve learned about myself and from talking to others, I want to share with you some things to think about when you’re facing some tough situations. I hope you find this helpful:

Admit you’re struggling

You may not realise just how much you’re struggling. However I’m sure your family or friends will have noticed a difference in you. So if someone asks you if you’re ok, don’t just say ‘yes’ really look at yourself, and be honest with yourself. After all, if you don’t know you’re struggling or in trouble, how can you start to help yourself?

Don’t hide

When you’re struggling you’ll probably feel like you want to hide away from everyone in a darkened room or in a corner. That is one of the worst things you could do! The best way to keep your emotions under control when you’re struggling is actually to keep busy. When you’re busy there’s more chance you’ll focus on the task in hand instead of continually thinking about all your problems, as that will bring you down even more.

Say ‘No’

Are you the kind of person who always says ‘yes’ when someone asks you to do something? If you are, this one might be very difficult for you, but please consider it as I believe it really is quite uplifting to say ‘No’ sometimes. You may be struggling to do everything you’re already trying to do. So remember you do not need to do everything you’re asked to do. So say ‘No’, and use that extra time to take control of your life and your emotions.

Help

You probably think I’m just suggesting you seek help for yourself from either a friend or a help care professional, however I’m also suggesting you also help others too. One of the times I was struggling, I discovered a friend was also going through a really tough time and I definitely found that by talking with them, and trying to help them, it helped me focus on someone else’s problems instead of my own. Being able to offer support and help to someone else raised my spirits, as it showed me I was still useful and helpful to someone. So speak to others about how you’re feeling, as you may be surprised to find they too may be going through a difficult time and would be grateful for your support too.

Trust

This may be my final suggestion, but it is in fact the most important one – Trust God! God is with us all the time even when we ignore him or forget him. God will always answer your prayers – Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he’ll answer them. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected, but he will answer your prayer. So trust Him! Believe in God!

In order to play a musical instrument, you must practice. By practicing you improve and gain experience. In a work environment you gain experience and knowledge by learning from those around you and being put in situations where you learn.

Life is similar – To learning how to get through life you must experience a difficult situation so that you learn from them. They then give you the strength and encouragement to know that you can face any difficult situation in the future, and you will get through it.

So even if you’re experiencing an earthquake in your life just now, be strong, and remember God is with you through it all and will help make you stronger.

There are things we all fear, but there are also things specific to each of us, that we fear. For example:

  • fear of failure;
  • fear of growing old;
  • fear of making a fool of yourself;
  • fear of being alone.

Whatever your specific fears, don’t let them overwhelm you! Instead focus on your dreams, and believe you can achieve them. Positive thoughts, make positive results, so be led by the dreams in your heart.

Can you change the way you think? Of course you can!

If you go into a task thinking you can’t do it, you won’t. However, if you go in to every task with a positive attitude, believing you can do it, it increases your chances of success sevenfold.

So change your I can’ts into I cans, and you can achieve so much more!

Be positive! I can’t. I can.

It’s Monday, so as we start another week, I urge you to remember that whatever you may have had to deal with last week, is now in the past, and this is now a new week. So whether we had a great week or a rotten week last week, be assured that this is a new week and so we have the opportunity to try again.

Make the most of your second chance, as that can make the difference between this new week being an OK week and a great week.

Do you consider yourself to be a survivor?

Life can be tough, and life can make us get to a point where we feel like victims. That’s why where we are rescued by God (as I spoke about yesterday in Rescuer), we become a survivor.

If you’ve ever been a bit nervous about a task you’ve to do, but then manage to do the task successfully, I’m sure you feel relieved, and possibly want to tell others how you survived your experience.

Well it should be no different when it comes to surviving a difficult time in your life, you should tell others about that too, because God was at the root of your survival.

This is the sound of surviving
This is my farewell to fear
This is my whole heart deciding
I’m still here, I’m still here
And I’m not done fighting
This is the sound of surviving

Sometimes we just need to a reminder of how awesome you are, so here’s your reminder:

So please take those words to heart, and be awesome!

No this blog post has nothing to do with Brexit – which I hope you find reassuring.

Instead it’s about how to improve yourself – As the following words remind us, if we keep on doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different outcome, nothing will change – In other words the outcome will be consistent.

However, if after trying something and finding it doesn’t work, you do something differently the next time, it may work out as you want, but it might now – but even then, you stop and have a rethink before having another go, changing what you’re doing again. and so you carry on like this until you succeed – That is called being persistent, and that is how you can improve yourself, by being persistent.