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More than ever this world needs to know God.

Men and women, boys and girls, never knowing unconditional love, never feeling their future is secure.

Messages of turmoil, disasters, hatred fill our news and social media streams.

More than ever this world needs to know God.

Millions have turned from God thinking He doesn’t exist or doesn’t care for them.

Millions are wrong, God is always there for them, they just need to have faith to believe in God.

My prayer is that those of us who believe in God, do all we can to show those we come into contact with, that we are different, and live our lives differently, because we believe in God.

May we then be examples of Christ’s love to others, showing love and compassion to everyone.

Not everything that is good, happens as a result of an extraordinary event or unusual circumstances. What turns out to be a significant moment in our life, can often seem insignificant at the time, until we look back on it afterwards.

People can think what they want about me, but I know I am not the strong unemotional person many seem to think I am. Here’s why

And as I found the strength to face each day, I found a way to ‘put on’ a public face that gives the illusion that I’m a strong individual who is in control of their life and their emotions. If you remember nothing else, remember looks can be deceiving!

While writing yesterday’s blog post A Reason To Live, I Googled “A reason to live” – Here’s the results I got

It got wondering how many people have Googled exactly the same thing as me, but who have Googled that phrase because they are in dire need as they are considering suicide.

I then found the report for the Samaritans in Scotland in 2018 – Samaritans_Scotland_Impact_Report_2018

It is sober reading – So many lives lost to suicide, so many people in desperate need to someone to listen to them, and understand how they feel. What really touched me most was this statement

Research by Samaritans found that nearly 2 in 3 Scots have first-hand experience of suicide – whether through their own experience of suicidal thoughts or from supporting someone with suicidal feelings or the loss of a friend or family member.

That’s some statistic isn’t it! In a room of 6 people, 4 of them will have been affected by a suicide or considered suicide themselves. Multiplying that out, 400 out of every 600 people will have been affected by a suicide or considered suicide. I certainly wasn’t aware suicide affected so many lives.

I’m not quoting these figures to you just for affect but to highlight the scale of the problem.

The good news is suicide is preventable, and we can all help. So I encourage you to reach out to a friend, a neighbour, a family member who seems to be struggling with life, and just ask them if they are ok – Remember just because someone says they’re ok doesn’t mean they really are, so trust yourself when you feel there is something wrong – Just be there for someone when they are at their lowest point, and support them.

I did, at one point in my life, wonder if there really was any reason to carry on living. There seemed to be one problem or issue after another in every aspect of my life, that I just could see how I would ever get through that time.

Having got through that very difficult time, I realised that those days when I should have let God take full control of my life, were the days when I completely ignored God, because it seemed to me as if he had forgotten me. I really should have known better, after all I’d heard so many time before how God is always with us and has a plan for each of us. I forgot God’s timing wasn’t necessarily my desired timing, and so instead of trusting God, I turned away from him.

My faith is now stronger than ever as I know now I only got through those difficult days because God did not desert me. I also am now confident that God really does have a plan for me, and therefore I want to fulfil his plan for my life – I therefore have a reason to live because I believe in God.

So believe in God because He alone gives us a reason to live!

Kind words are short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. – Mother Teresa

In the last few days I’ve talked about how our words, and how we say them can impact other people’s lives, and not necessarily for the better!

Today’s thought is far more positive as you have hopefully realised by the quote from Mother Teresa I shared at the start of this post. It’s easy for us to kind, we only need to say a few words but those kind words may be the thing that makes a huge difference to the person we say them to.

For example, someone may be having a really difficult time, struggling with life or health issues, and may feel as if no one really cares about them or how they are feeling. So imagine the boost they will get when someone says a few kind words of encouragement to them.

We may never fully appreciate or realise the impact our words may have on someone, so let’s make sure the words we use and the way we say them, are ones of encouragement and support.

No matter what anyone else thinks, I truly believe that what we say and how we say it really does matter.

I suspect we’ve all been hurt at some time or another by what or how someone has said something to us. I know I have been guilty of saying things to others in a way that I shouldn’t and for that I am sorry – I pray daily that God will help me to be more understanding and patient towards others, so that I do not speak to others in a way that may hurt or offend them.

Just as we need to be careful what and how we speak to other adults, it’s just as important, if not more so, that we are extra careful what and how we speak to and in the presence of children. After all I’m sure we’ve all witnessed a child saying or doing something which they have copied from an adult or another child. Be careful what we say and how we talk to our children as this is how they will talk to others!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue. ~ Proverbs 18:21

Have you ever come across a quote or a picture, which you feel describes you perfectly? Well I came across this picture a few days ago, and it struck a chord with me – I know I have made mistakes in the past which I truly regret, and as I said Spotlight yesterday, I wish I could just delete some of these mistakes from my past, but I can’t.

I know there are those who do treat me in a way that suggests they still hold my past mistakes against me, even though some may have happened a number of years ago. In the last 15 years my life I have faced some life changing situations, and because of that my faith had become stronger than it’s ever been. And because of that I know I am a completely different person now than I was 15 years ago and most definitely a different person than I was 30 years ago. Maybe that’s why this picture struck a chord with me!

Time passes, people change, so forgive those who have hurt you or made mistakes that have affected you in the past. Have a look at yourself, I’m sure you’re not the same person today as you were 10 or 20 years ago, so I’m sure you wouldn’t want others to hold your past mistakes against you, so don’t hold other’s past mistakes against them, forgive and move on.

I shared some thoughts about how critical we are of ourselves a couple of week’s ago, in my blog post called Critic – please have a read of that too.

If someone put a spotlight on you and you had to give them details of every part of your life, would you be comfortable? Or would you be happier if you could delete or omit parts of your life that you’re not proud of, maybe because you’ve said/not said or done/not done something?

No matter how much we wish we could delete parts of our lives that we’re not proud of, we can’t! No matter what these things are, even though we may successfully ‘hide’ them from our others around us, we can never hide them from God.

God doesn’t care what we’ve done in our past, because be cares about us so much that he simply cares about our present and our future. Therefore if God can forgive us of our past indiscretions, we should forgive ourselves, and when we do that the burden of carrying those indiscretions/wrongs is lifted from us.

So let God’s spotlight fall on you, and leave your indiscretions with Him.

When we are in trouble or struggling with life, that’s when we are most in need of God. Sadly though, that is often the time when we’re most likely to think God has deserted us.

Why do we think during our most difficult times that God has deserted us when the rest of the time we fully believe God is always with us? Probably because we’re human, and during those times we’re most vulnerable, so the devil finds it easier to get into our lives and our minds.

Keep on believing in God, even through the difficult days.