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Everyone struggles with loneliness at some point. Whether you are going through something hard that you don’t think anyone else understands or you are facing a change in life where you just feel alone, God’s Word provides hope and strength. There is someone who is closer than a brother and is always with You – Jesus Christ is our friend and comforter!

This is backed up by what we’re told in the bible. In Deuteronomy 31:6 we read:

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Words of comfort, words to reassure us of God’s presence, even when we feel everyone has deserted us.

I’ve done a few Word Associations with you over the last while, and today it’s time for another one – This time with a theme, Music!

So as usual I’m going to throw some words at you, and I want you to note down the first word that comes into your mind when you read each word.

So here goes…

  1. Vase
  2. Grave
  3. Hospital
  4. Head
  5. Mask
  6. Bed
  7. Heart
  8. Moustache
  9. Balloon
  10. Bus

wordsSo how did you get on with those words? Did you find it easy? Did your answers surprise you or were they just as you expected?

Well here’s my responses to my questions:

  1. Flowers
  2. Grief
  3. Appointment
  4. Sore
  5. Disguise
  6. Sleep
  7. Surgery
  8. Beard
  9. Bang!
  10. Band

I still believe that when we respond with the first words that come into our minds, our answers tell us a lot about our emotional state, and what’s important to us at that particular point in time.

Bearing all this in mind, review your answers, does my theory hold true?

By the way, if you want me to explain any of my answers, just ask!

Have a look around you. Look at the people you see. How many are on their phones, not necessarily talking to anyone, but simply on some social media site ‘chatting’ with friends or family?

Next time you’re outside, do the same, look around and see what many around are doing. Again I suspect you’ll find the majority are probably using their mobile phone.

We’re probably all guilty of being ‘on’ our phones far more these days than we should be, so I’m sure we all make sure we never get into a situation where we get the dreaded ‘low battery’ message.

But consider this

We try to do so much these days, running around from one thing to another, keeping going because we don’t want to let anyone down. We put on a ‘public face’ so others won’t see how much we’re struggling with life, even when we’re exhausted and find we’ve no energy to carry on with life.

We’re guilty of taking better care of our phones than we do ourselves sometimes, aren’t we? So please stop, have a think about what percentage you’d say your own personal battery would register at. If you’d say your battery would say ‘low battery’, it’s time for you to take a time out from life, and look after yourself, your health and your well-being, because you need a break.

When we shout, people hear.

When people hear you shout, do they understand why you are shouting? Do you they respond to your shouts, or do they turn away and pretend they haven’t heard you?

As I’ve said in earlier posts this week, being in a crowd when you feel alone, can be one of the loneliest places in the world – No matter how loud you shout, no-one hears you; No matter how friendly everyone seems, you feel isolated and alone.

When you hear someone cry for help, no matter how loud or how quiet, listen and act as someone needs you. Someone needs you to be the true friend they are desperately in need of.

Have you every felt completely alone? If you have you will probably be able to relate to the this

If you’ve never felt lonely, you probably do not understand how anyone can possibly feel even lonelier when other people engage in conversation with them. Just because someone talks to you, it doesn’t mean they have realised how lonely you feel, or that to you, their words seem empty because all you really need is a friend, someone who sees your struggle and just holds you to help reassure you that all will be ok.

Will everything be ok?

How many times have you asked yourself that? How many times have you asked God that?

When we’re children and we fall and hurt ourselves, our mothers or fathers will pick us up, cuddle us, and we feel better. These days who do you turn to when you need someone to just hold you?

It’s great when we have someone who will ‘just hold us’ when we need the reassurance of a hug, isn’t it.? But spare a thought for those who have no-one they can turn to for a hug, when they need someone to be there for them.

Maybe we each need to be that person that others can turn to when they need someone to just hold them. Maybe we can take those opportunities to tell them that God is more than just enough for them, as He will hold them safe in His arms forever.

When you’re really struggling because you’ve hit rock bottom, have you noticed that many either don’t notice you’re struggling, or pretend they haven’t noticed and just walk by you?

It’s at those times you discover, if you have any real friends, and if so, who they are. Take care of your friends.

I’ve been reminded how great it is when we support those around us, and help them in their time of need.

God needs us to reach out and help those in need find Him. He is the answer to everything we need, so we must reach out and help our fellow man find God.

Sinner, reach out your hands!
Children in Christ you stand!
Sinner, reach out your hands!
Children in Christ you stand!
And all Your children will stretch out their hands
And pick up the crippled man
Father, we will lead them home
Father, we will lead them home

Loneliness comes in all shapes and forms, it doesn’t care who you are or how weak or strong you are emotionally when the deep feeling of loneliness hits you.

For some loneliness comes because of certain life events, such as the loss of a partner or family member. That’s not the case for everyone though, as for some loneliness is something they live with on a daily basis, and not necessarily because they are actually alone – it may be they feel as is no-one truly understands them, or that they don’t fit in – all of which can cause deep feelings of loneliness.

If you’re lucky enough never to have experienced true loneliness, you will not know how difficult it can be to cope with. When loneliness takes over, we can build a protective wall around ourself, to try and stop those around us from seeing how we really feel.

Loneliness is real. Just because someone is always surrounded by lots of people, doesn’t mean they don’t experience loneliness. In fact I’d go as far as saying, one of the worst places to be when you suffer from loneliness is actually in a crowd.

So look out for those who exhibit signs of loneliness, because they need you – they need you just to reach out to them, and maybe give them a hug to reassure them you are always there for them.

What is faith?

This quote from Charles Surgeon, pretty much sums it up I think.

When everything is going well, it can be easy to trust God. However when we’re challenged or face difficult situations, we can be guilty of turning away from God because we think he doesn’t care or isn’t there for us any more. However during those difficult times, that is when we should trust God more than ever.

When we do trust God through no matter what situations we face, our faith will keep us strong and keep us believing God will get us through whatever we’re facing.