Archive for the ‘self improvement’ Category

You see your neighbours out in their garden, or in the street. You see your work colleagues in the office. You see your friends in your house or theirs. But do you really know any of them?

We can all be very judgemental of others at times simply because of what we see when we look at them. However what we see of people in public is often just a small part of them, so remember what you see of someone is probably not the “real” person.

Sometimes the strongest people are the ones who love beyond all faults, cry behind closed doors and fight battles that nobody knows about. ~ Nicky Gumbel

Struggles in life can be hard at the time, but they definitely make us stronger people, and make us the people we are today. Don’t judge someone by what you see, as they may be fighting a battle behind closed doors that you know nothing about.

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At a time when many have just received their school exam results, this quote from Nicky Gumbel seems particularly applicable:

Your age doesn’t define your maturity; your grades don’t define your ability; and what people say about you doesn’t define who you are.

So if you or your children or friends have received your exam results i these last few weeks, please remember that no matter how good, or bad, those results are, they will not define who you are today or the person you will become in the future.

Your exam results may have been exactly what you wanted and that is great. But if they weren’t, it’s not a disaster, it simply means you may need to make a few changes to how you want your future to unfold, but you can do it, and you can achieve exactly what you want to achieve.

When you’re in love it doesn’t mean the rest of your life will be full of happiness all the time. Life will be just the same, with ups and downs, however it does mean you’ll have someone you love to share all those times with.

Yesterday I spoke about the postcards we used to send our family and friends when we went on holiday, and how many times they would tell them “wish you were here”.

There are of course other times when we say “wish you were here”, and sadly at those times, that wish will never come true. When someone we love dies, it is of course a very emotional and difficult time, and so we may find ourselves saying we wish they were still here with us.

While we may wish those we love and care about will be with us forever, in reality it isn’t going to happen, because the only certain thing about life is that we will all die at some point. I don’t mean to make this a really morbid post, so I simply want to remind you that even through the hurt and heartache of losing someone we love, we must hold onto the precious moments we have spent with them. It won’t take away our heartache, but it will help you remember them just the way you loved them.

So yes, we wish our loved ones were still here with us, but if we keep focused on our memories, when we close our eyes, they will almost be here with us again.

How many times when you were younger did your parents shout to you, “Are you ready to go?”

Throughout our lives we have to get ourselves ready for time for specific events or meetings. Are you the kind of person who likes to be ready on time, or are you someone who rushes around at the last minutes, or are you the person who always turns up a few minutes late?

When I was younger I used to always be running at the last-minute to get to events or meetings, but these days I’m the complete opposite as I always try to be early for everything I’m expected to attend.

However, just because I like to be ready in time for events, doesn’t always mean I’m fully prepared! I might have got myself to the events or meeting place on time, but it doesn’t mean I’ve done all the preparatory work I should have done. When this happens, I never quite get out the event or meeting what I hoped, and that is the lesson I’ve learned…that I need to make sure I’m fully prepared.

It seems like only a few weeks ago it was Christmas 2017 and we were heading into 2018, so how are we nearly half-way through August already!

I know some say that time seems to pass quicker the older we get.

I’m not sure I necessarily agree with that, as I think it’s just that everyone is so busy these days that our days go by much quicker than they used to.

In a time where technology allows us to communicate with others 24/7, keep up to date with news and events both home and abroad throughout the day and night, is it any wonder we all find ourselves living busy lives?

It’s always at the back of my mind though that there are so many people who don’t have any family or friends to call on, or talk to.

Isolated, alone and feeling like no-one cares about them.

Isn’t it time we start to care about everyone in the community?

It’s our responsibility as neighbours, colleagues, friends, to look out for those who have no-one else.

I therefore challenge you today to be the person who makes a positive difference in someone else’s life today – Will you take up my challenge?

Is today, “Just another day” for you?

Can I suggest that everyday should never be “Just another day”.

Maybe we go through the same routine everyday. e.g. get up, breakfast, shower, get dressed, drive to work, work, drive home, make dinner, watch tv, go to bed and then repeat. But just because every day we do the same things, still doesn’t make every day “Just another day”.

While we may do the same routine each day, those we meet and interact with may vary, and even if some of them are the same, how each of those people feel each day, may vary widely, and that’s what make every day, not just another day.

Each day we must consider those around us, how they are feeling, what issues they may be dealing with which we know nothing about. So be considerate and compassionate at all times, because we do not know what anyone else is going through.

Today I want to share another post I shared with my Facebook friends a few days ago.

If you’re struggling with some issues, crying all the time, but people just keep telling you to “stop crying”, you’ll understand that these suggestions would be far more helpful!

If you have a family member or friend who’s going through a tough time, and you find they are crying all the time, here’s some suggestions of what to say to them instead of just telling them to “stop crying”.

I shared the following on Facebook a few days ago, but I wanted to share it with you in my blog, as it’s something that I’m sure many of us can relate to. I’ve edited the text about sharing this on Facebook, but I would still like you all to share this with your friends through whatever means you have:

❤️👌 How many of you have had a night out planned, or arranged coffee with friends and suddenly the 4 walls you inhabit seem the only safe haven because it’s the only place you don’t have to pretend you are ok, so you cancel. Or when you are invited out you tell them how terribly sorry you are but you’re already booked up that weekend, when you are actually just really busy holding it together in your safe box. And so the first problem starts, all by itself. People stop asking you and the isolation that at first wasn’t true becomes your only truth.
Please don’t give up on your friends. Ring them, go round, even when they don’t want you to. Because they really do they just don’t know how to say it.
I’m going to make a bet, without being pessimistic, that less than 5 will take the time to share this, to help raise awareness of, and for those who have mental health difficulties. You just have to copy it from here and then paste it into whatever social media platform, email or text you want to share it on.
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Prayer is an important part of every Christian’s life.

We must put aside quality time each day to not only talk to God, but listen to him as well. However for many when life is going well, their prayer life can become less of a necessity, and more of a chore, meaning we end up missing our prayer time more and more.

But when life is tough, isn’t that when we often turn to God to plead with him to help us? Yes, prayer time can come easily when life is difficult, but that shouldn’t be the case.

Prayer must be first and last and everything in between, each and every day, no matter how well or how badly we are finding daily life.