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Mental health is gradually becoming a less taboo subject than it used to be, which has to be a good thing.

When you first face the diagnosis of a mental health issue, it can be scary, as you’ll feel like you’re on your own and no-one understands or knows what you’re going through. The thing is, when we actually open up to others, you’ll gradually discover that in face even those you’d never have ever though would suffer from a mental health issue, have at some time, faced the same struggle you currently face.

You may be surprised by the support they offer you and the reassurance you feel, as you’ll suddenly realised what you’re feeling is perfectly normal, and you’re definitely not the only person who has ever felt that way. That does not of course mean I am in anyway am dismissing how someone with a mental health issue feels, as I myself have been there, have felt entirely on my own, where no-one understood how I felt, so I really do understand.

In my experience talking to someone really does help, so if you can talk to someone, as talking really i the best medicine.

In a recent conversation with someone we were talking about our frustrations at trying to get some specific tasks completed. During that conversation the person spoke about how they had agreed to take on the task because they felt they would be able to make a difference in other people’s lives by doing so.

Unfortunately that person has now found out that there are so many constraints on what they’re allowed to do, that they’re now questioning their decision agree to do the task. I felt so sorry for this person as you could see the passion and drive that they had when they first agreed to do the task, had slowly been drained from them. They were now questioning why they were still even trying to do the task.

The sad thing is, I know this person would, and could make a huge difference in others lives if they were allowed to get on with the task in hand without others unjustly putting obstacles in their way. Oh how the devil likes to wear us down doesn’t he?

We can be stronger than the devil when we’re challenged or frustrated by putting our trust firmly in God. If we give God all our frustrations, and all our challenges, God will help us get His work done by guiding us through those difficult times.

The couple of weeks ago, we spent most of a day going through desks and cupboards clearing out things that were no longer needed. This is the second time within a reasonably short period of time that we’ve done this. However we still found that many of the documents we’d kept the last time because we thought they were still required, were now not needed or of any use anymore.

This got me thinking about my own life and the past hurts and sorrows which I’m still hanging onto, even although I tell myself they don’t matter anymore. The only way to truly clear out those past hurts from our lives is to take them to God and leave them with him.

I’m sure we wouldn’t want to have to carry a huge pile of documents around with us all day every day if they were no longer useful, so why carry around hurts and disappointment each day which can eat away at us, when if we give them to God, our load will be lightened.

Have you ever been told you’re not good enough, or that you’re a nobody? It hurts doesn’t it?

Imagine you are continually told those things by someone who others think love you or care for you, by someone who should have your best interests at heart.

You’re never alone and you really do matter!

The song Fear is a liar by Zach Williams was co-written by Jonathan Smith. Zach stated that “Fear is a Liar” is a declaration of encouragement and some scriptural reality that he wanted to communicate to fans.  He explained what the song for about

We were calling out the devil for who he is, and reminding him that he was a liar, and that he has already been defeated. That was the idea for that song. I wanted something that people would relate to, and find hope in.

For anybody who was struggling with fear or going through something, I hope this song gives them hope, to call the devil out.

So if you’re frightened or scared, don’t give up, turn to God because he does care about you.

Fear Is a Liar

When he told you you’re not good enough
When he told you you’re not right
When he told you you’re not strong enough
To put up a good fight
When he told you you’re not worthy
When he told you you’re not loved
When he told you you’re not beautiful
That you’ll never be enough

Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
Cause fear he is a liar

When he told you were troubled
You’ll forever be alone
When he told you you should run away
You’ll never find a home
When he told you you were dirty
And you should be ashamed
When he told you you could be the one
That grace could never change

Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
Cause fear he is a liar

Let Your fire fall and cast out all my fears
Let Your fire fall Your love is all I feel

Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
Cause fear he is a liar

I saw this on Facebook a few days ago, and it stuck with me, so decided to share it with you.

The name of my blog site isn’t a coincidence, I acknowledge that we are all different, both physically and in our characteristics. There is therefore no point in trying to compare ourselves with others, because we will never be the same as anyone else, as we are all individuals, unique and distinct, just the way God made us.

I’m sure I’ve told you before, but for those who haven’t been reading my blog for long, I am a perfectionist. As such, no matter how well or otherwise, I do something, I always think I could do better. I know it’s always good to challenge ourselves to improve ourselves, however it is important to always remind ourselves that we are not perfect, and never will be!

It took me a lot of years before I came to realise this, and then started being kinder to myself, in the knowledge that just because I don’t do something perfectly, doesn’t make me a failure.

In fact it’s only when I accepted that I can never be perfect I realised that it is actually ok not to be perfect, because even when I do fail, God will take care of me.

We’re not perfect, so if like me, you’re a perfectionist, remind yourself that it is in fact ok not to be perfect. God loves us just the way we are, and when we seek his guidance, he will help us improve ourselves. We will never be perfect, but that’s ok because God accepts us just the way we are.

When we’re not confident about ourselves, our looks, our personality, our ability to do our job etc we can let the most innocent of comments really affect us.

Sometimes we even let those comments nag at us until we can blow the comment out of proportion and let it make us feel worthless.

As I said in yesterday’s blog post, remember you are amazing!

God made each one of us. He planned our life before us. He planned how we look, our personality, our abilities, our spiritual gifts. So never listen to those who doubt you, because God knows what he’s doing, and has made you the amazing individual you are today.

Believe in God, and believe in his plan for you.

Cos we are amazing
If only we could believe that it’s all in His hands
We’re a part of a plan that’s much bigger than us
Yes we are amazing
There’s nothing we can’t achieve
and we don’t need to change
So I’m gonna stay, just the way God made me

When did you last look in the mirror and think, “I’m happy being the person I am”?

We can all be guilty of wishing we were better at this, or looked more like that person; had family or friends like the next person, or had achieved what person a had managed.

But what good does it do us? We are who we are, and so can never be those other people. Imagine how boring a world we’d live in if we were all the same, we all looked the same, acted the same, had the same family and friendship circles.

So take a moment to remind yourself of this you are amazing – Yes, we’re all different, with different personalities and that’s because God created each one of us individually. He gave us amazing personalities and amazing prospects for our future, so be amazing for God each and every day!

Cos we are amazing
If only we could believe that it’s all in His hands
We’re a part of a plan that’s much bigger than us
Yes we are amazing
There’s nothing we can’t achieve
and we don’t need to change
So I’m gonna stay, just the way God made me

I am amazing by Philippa Hanna

I don’t wanna waste anymore time in the mirror
Watching my face never change I don’t feel beautiful today
I don’t waste anymore hard earned cash on these ‘miracles’
That never change the way I feel, don’t make me beautiful today
How long can I hide-away beneath this disguise?
And what drastic measure do I have to take to realise…

That I am amazing, in spite of what I can see,
When I look at myself wishing I could be anyone other than me
Cos I was created
With everything I could ever need
So I’m not gonna change
I’m gonna stay just the way God made me

I’m not gonna take
Anymore of these lies they’ve been feeding me
Not gonna listen to the voices of my enemies today
With my feet on solid ground
I’m gonna turn it all around
Because it’s time I realised I’m truly beautiful inside
How long can I hide-away beneath this disguise?
And what drastic measure do I have to take to realise…

That I am amazing, in spite of what I can see,
When I look at myself wishing I could be anyone other than me
Cos I was created
With everything I could ever need
So I’m not gonna change
I’m gonna stay just the way God made me

And who am I to say that I could do a better job than him?

Cos we are amazing
If only we could believe that it’s all in His hands
We’re a part of a plan that’s much bigger than us
Yes we are amazing
There’s nothing we can’t achieve
and we don’t need to change
So I’m gonna stay, just the way God made me

Not gonna listen to the voices of my enemies today

In yesterday’s blog post (New world), I spoke about how God has our future under control, because He’s already planned our future.

But how to reach that new world, that future place? If we trust God, he will direct and guide us along the path he has planned for us. As we follow God’s plan for our lives, we need to share God’s message of love and hope for tomorrow, with those we come into contact with. If we each do that, more people will hear and see God’s message in action, and hopefully feel God’s presence in their lives. The more who accept God as Lord, the better place this world will become.

So help God make this world a new and better world to live in, by sharing your story, and sharing your faith with others.

Life and eternity

Posted: September 13, 2019 in faith, life, prayer, quotes, religion, self improvement
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Are you too busy trying to live each day, that you’re not preparing for your future?

Life is only too short if we haven’t prepared ourselves for eternity. I want to send eternity with God, therefore I have given my life to God. I pray that each day I live here on tis earth, that I will do my best, with God’s help, to lead the life He wants me to live.

Are you preparing for your eternal life with God, or are you too busy living your life here on earth? Enjoy life, but don’t leave it too late to sort our your eternity