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January, the first month of the year. Jumpers and jackets needed as it’s a cold month where we have mornings and evenings making January a dark moth for weather and for mood.

Just about half way through the year now we’re into moth six. June brings hopefully some warmer summer weather where jumpers and jackets are not required.

January to June, five full months from start of January to start of June. Just as a lot of days have passed in that time, so I’m sure a lot has happened in your life during that time. Joy or pain, delight or tears I’m sure we’ve each experienced it all.

Joy of a new year in January can often turn to fear as life events throw things at you that you don’t expect, and certainly don’t want. Just as the days of the year keep going by, so we must keep going, whatever life throws our way.

Just keep going, we can face whatever the rest of this year throws our way.

Reality, is there really such a thing?

Real people, living real lives, or are they?

Real life means we stumble and struggle with all life throws our way. Real life means we put on a front so those around us don’t see how much we’re struggling.

Regular life doesn’t necessarily exist anymore – we’re all so busy, expected to rush from one task to another, regardless of what else may be going on in our lives.

Real life can be tough these days. Realising when we’re struggling is a positive at an otherwise tough time.

Reaching out to others for help may not be something you’re comfortable with, but reaching out to God is something we can all do. Reaching out to God is free, there’s no conditions and He will freely welcome you with open arms, to hold and comfort you.

Real life, needs God, we need God.

 

In this last week I’ve spoken about ‘walking by faith’ a couple of times. When you are ‘walking by faith’ you need to have a strong determination to follow God’s plan, regardless what life throws your way.

God teaches us to trust him so he can do something bigger and better than we ever dreamed possible. He wants us to let go and trust him with our all – our heart, our soul, our life.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. ~ Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

We can do more and more through us if we simply trust Him each and every day. God is trying to make us into someone who can be his beacon of light and hope in a world which desperately needs to see Jesus.

No matter where we are in our journey of walking by faith, we must surrender our all to God. That way we can let God take our life, our pain, our loss and use them all for his glory. Pray to God, and ask Him to do amazing work in you so he can do an amazing work through you.

Have you been given a lot of information about something you’re not interested in and thought to yourself, “that’s instantly forgettable”?

Have you ever thought the same about a person? Someone you meet, or have a conversation with that didn’t say or do anything that made then stand out for you, so didn’t make themselves someone you felt you needed to remember.

Being an instantly forgettable person can’t be easy, as no-one remembers you. Sometimes someone may remember a few words you said or something you did, but I guarantee no-one will remember it was you who said or did those things!

In God’s eyes, none of us are forgettable at all. He loves each one of us regardless of who we are, what we do or what we say.

If God takes the time to remember each and every one of us, surely we should be able to remember those we meet or converse with. Let’s make sure we look after everyone and never forget someone just because they maybe don’t have the same interests or views as ourselves.

Lets make sure we make everyone instantly memorable rather than instantly forgettable.

Give people what they want and they will like you for now. Give people what the need and they will value you forever. ~ Simon Sinek

It seems these days that many do not understand the difference between what they want and what they actually need.

We need food, water, clothes and a roof over our head.

Anything over and above these things are just things we want.

I’m not saying there’s anything wrong in want something, but we do need to be careful that we don’t end up trying to acquire everything we want, and in turn, end up forgetting that there are those who don’t even have what they need.

When we help those who do not have everything they need, it is likely that they will be grateful for our help – they will value our help.

Words can be so hurtful. They can tear friendships and families apart. Sometimes because of a single word that has been misunderstood or misinterpreted by those to hear the words.

Words can be hurtful in their own right, but when added to by some form of physical attack as well, they can be devastating.

Whatever the form of attack, verbal and/or physical, it is an unnecessary and unacceptable feature of today’s world. That’s why I’m calling on each of us to help stop any form of verbal or physical attacks or abuse that we witness or are aware of.

Let’s stop verbal and physical abuse in their tracks now, today!

I’ve done a few Word Associations with you over the last while, and today it’s time for another one. So as usual I’m going to throw some words at you, and I want you to note down the first word that comes into your mind when you read each word.

So here goes…

  1. Breakfast
  2. Relationship
  3. Plant
  4. Box
  5. Slipper
  6. Box
  7. Vinyl
  8. Teapot
  9. Condemn
  10. Graphitewords

So how did you get on with those words? Did you find it easy? Did your answers surprise you or were they just as you expected?

Well here’s my responses to my questions:

  1. Cereal
  2. Friend
  3. Seed
  4. Delivery
  5. Winter
  6. Tick tock
  7. 78
  8. Yorkshire
  9. Fire
  10. Racket

I still believe that when we respond with the first words that come into our minds, our answers tell us a lot about our emotional state, and what’s important to us at that particular point in time.

Bearing all this in mind, review your answers, does my theory hold true?

By the way, if you want me to explain any of my answers, just ask!

They tell us that exercising and walking is good for us, and good for our physical health. I’m not going to dispute that advice, I am going to look at another time when we go for a walk…

We can sometimes feel as if God has deserted us, but how about we consider it from His perspective:

Very true isn’t it – God never deserts any of us, but we do desert Him when we think we can deal with life issues ourself, or that we know better than Him.

When will we learn, we should not go for a walk without God!

I spent a bit of time recently thinking about how I’ve got to where I am – Not in a work or career sense, but from a personal perspective.

I’m sure, like everyone else, there have certain individuals who have influenced you, taught you and directed you through your younger days. There will have been those who have encouraged you, looked out for you, become your confidants, and just generally been there for you whenever you’ve needed to talk.

There have been people in my life too you I put into each of those categories. Between them, they are the one who have helped make me the person I am today. However, I hope and pray that it is those who taught about God and the bible from an early age, who have influenced me most. Without their Christian influence on me I definitely wouldn’t be the person I am today. Without Christ in my life I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I therefore give thanks to God for all those who have taught me or influenced me along my Christian journey.

Who we are today is a direct result of those we spend time with, and those we trust and believe. My belief and trust is in God. How about you, are you trusting and believing in the right people?

It’s not only physical wounds that can cause great pain – Emotional hurts and wounds can be just as painful, and in some cases, can be longer lasting.

While physical wounds are often visible, the emotional ones are invisible. People walk around everyday with emotional pain that we never see, and therefore are not aware of.

To heal an emotional wound, it sometimes just takes someone to show compassion, An act of kindness towards someone can be the one thing that makes someones day, and help them put to one side, even just for a few minutes, their emotional pain.

So go on, make a kind gesture to someone today, you may just make their day!