Archive for the ‘self improvement’ Category

Who do you stand up for? Yourself, your beliefs, your friends and family?

I hope you stand up for yourself, but I also hope you stand up for your friends and family, your beliefs, and also those you don’t know, but who are being mistreated.

Strong people stand up for themselves, but stronger people stand up for others. ~ Nicky Gumbel

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. ~ Deuteronomy 31:7 (NIV)

Wouldn’t it be great if, no matter what was happening in our life, we could be 100% sure what the outcome would be?

Well, while we may not know exactly how events will turn out, we can be sure that Christ is there with us.

Words are not one of my strong points (you may have noticed this!) – I struggle to find the right words sometimes to express how I feel or how to comfort or encourage others or even myself! However I have found that even when I can’t find any words, music can often comfort and encourage me, so I’m sure finding the right music can help anyone in whatever situation or circumstances they find themselves.

Here’s one of my ‘go to’ songs when I need some encouragement:

Once again news of another shooting in America hit the news headlines on Sunday night. Just about the time I heard of this latest atrocity, I read the following by Nicky Gumbel, and never did these words seem more appropriate:

You are never more like God than when you are helping hurting people, lifting up the fallen and restoring the broken.

Please join me in praying for the family and friends of all those caught up in the events at the First Baptist Church of Sutherland Springs in Texas last night.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ~ Psalm 34:18

When someone hurts you, is it easy to forgive them?

Sometimes it can be easy to forgive someone when it’s obvious they are genuinely sorry for whatever they have said or done to hurt you.

What about when the person who hurt you isn’t sorry?

God forgives us when we do or say things which hurt Him, and so must we – be the bigger person and forgive those who hurt you.

Even though we know God can take care of us much better than we ever could, we still think we can do better on our own sometimes.

How stubborn we can be!

God can help us through the bad times as well as the good ones, we just need to trust Him that He knows best.

The last couple of days I’ve been talking about the fear of failure that affects so many people. Having talked about why some fear failure, I now want to focus on some possible ways to help overcome a fear of failure.

It’s all about goals and targets!

Start by setting small achievable goals that will help you build your confidence. Having set a goal, start thinking about all the possible outcomes, positive and negative, and rationally consider what may happen, developing contingency plans as you go. As you go through these possible outcomes you’ll hopefully find answers/solutions to all possible negative scenarios, in turn helping you thinking positively.

Repeat these steps by setting another goal, and then another goal. By moving forward slowly and steadily, you’ll begin to overcome your fear of failure.

Good luck!

Fear of failure – A scary feeling, but what causes us to be scared of failing?

There can be multiple reasons why we feel afraid of failure – Some may be because of something thing which happened in our childhood, or maybe an event which has happened more recently, in our adult life.

Is there something in your past that you can identify as your trigger which has subsequently caused you to be afraid of failure? There may not be a single event, but a series of events or situations that together cause you to fear failure.

Whatever our mistakes in our past that have triggered these feelings in us, we need to move on, wipe the slate clean, and remember we can make a new future full of positivity and confidence. We can choose to be afraid, or we can choose not to be.

Nicky Gumbel recently shared this photo on social media:

I think in all the running around we do these days, going from one task to another, we can easily forget we’re here for a reason – God placed you just where you are to make an impact.

Matthew 5:16 ~ Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

No matter what happens in life be kind to people. Being kind to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind. ~ Nicky Gumbel

It doesn’t cost us anything to be kind to someone, so no matter how others treat you, be kind.

What a fantastic legacy to leave behind when we leave this world, kindness.