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Believe

Posted: April 13, 2019 in personnel characteristics, self improvement, words
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Is there anyone in your life that you truly believe in?

How about yourself? Do you believe you are capable of achieving all you want to achieve? We must believe in ourselves, that we can do all tasks we set before ourselves. After all if we don’t believe in ourselves, who will?

Have you ever looked back in your life, and wished you could relive a time in your life over again, but this time you’d say/act differently?

I have often thought about the person I used to be, and have often wished I could change the person I was into the person I am now. Don’t get me wrong, I’m far from perfect now, but I really don’t like the person I used to be.

Nicole Nordeman has a song called Dear Me, in which she sings about writing a letter to her younger self to help her younger self understand better the life they are leading. The main thing from this is, she finishes by saying, “But Jesus loves us, this I know, And there are no exceptions”.

So whatever stage of your life you’re in, never forget that Jesus loves you!

Dear Me by Nicole Nordeman

Dear Me
This is a letter to the girl I used to be
Dear Me
There are some things that you should know
It’s not my intention to embarrass or to shame you
What’s inside the rear-view mirror is closer than it appears
We do the best that we know how, with what we have been given
And the difference between you and I is, I’ve been given time
In time, you’ll seeDear Me
This is a letter to the girl I used to be
Some things are not as simple as we said
Remember when we thought there were a handful of some magic words to pray
A guarantee and a down payment on a mansion
Remember all the rules we made about the Body and the Blood
The hoops we made them jump through
Though He offers it to everyone
I’m so sorryDo you remember now the things I said I thought that I deserved
My flag, and safety, a place to learn
The things I know I didn’t earn
And bless their hearts, I’m sure it’s hard
But handouts don’t help anyone
And all the talk about the system
I sure hope someone can fix them
I said those things

Dear Me
This is a letter to the girl I used to be
You’ll see, you’re gonna take the long way
And there is nothing you could do or say to separate you
From the love of God who made you just exactly as He meant to
And you cannot imagine all the places you’ll see Jesus
But you’ll find Him everywhere you thought He wasn’t supposed to go
So, go!.. Go!..

And hold all the mothers, whose babies bleed from bullet holes
And feel all the hunger, the bellies and the bones
Shout for the prisoner, cry for justice, loud and long
And march with the victims, as Jesus marches on
And sit at all the tables, ’cause Jesus eats with everyone
And dance to the music, if you can’t sing its native tongue
And cry for the wombs, the mothers and the empty arms
And hold high the warriors, fighting now for freedoms’ song

And love, love, love, love
Like it’s your own blood
And love, love, love, love
As you have been loved
Love, love, love, love
Like it’s your own blood
Love, love, love, love
As you have been loved
Love, love, love, love, love
Like you have been
Love, love, love, love, love
It’s all about love!
Love, love, love, love, love
His name is love
Love, love, love, love, love

Dear Me
You did not learn this in a day or two or three
So ask a lot of questions
But Jesus loves us, this I know
And there are no exceptions

We live in a time where many believe there are no such things a miracles. However, you’ll still find people saying things such as

  • “It’s a miracle I got home in one piece”
  • “We need a miracle to get this job completed on time”

Those aren’t really real miracles that are being reference here are they, they are simply figures of speech.

There may be a lack of belief that miracles still happen these days, but I believe they do. For example

  • People who are terminally ill who not only don’t die, but find they have no trace of the terminal illness any more.
  • People who suffer from alcohol or drug abuse, but through the influence and guidance of someone who tries to help them, realise God loves them, and so turn their life around by giving their life to God.

The One who made the blind to see
Is moving here in front of me, moving here in front of me
The One who made the deaf to hear
Is silencing my every fear, silencing my every fear

The One who does impossible is
Reaching out to make me whole
The One who put death in its place
His life is flowing through my veins

These are just a couple of examples of true miracles. I’m sure you can see evidence of God performing miracles all around you.

I’m sure we all get caught up in everyday tasks, and in doing so can find ourselves complaining or moaning about things that we have to do, or things other people have or haven’t done. Does that sound familiar?

Have you ever found yourself moaning about trivial stuff that really is meaningless or pointless., but then felt very humble when you see or hear someone with much greater challenges that you, achieving or obtaining something which they thought was out of their reach?  For example, a homeless person’s gratitude when someone gives them some food or warm clothing; or a person who has walking difficulties successfully managing to walk (slowly) to their destination, which may only be a few steps from where they started.

It makes us feel humble and ashamed to have got annoyed or frustrated by the trivial problems in our lives doesn’t it. After all our problems are insignificant in comparison to the life or death situations other have to deal with on a daily basis.

So let’s try not to get caught up in the trivial things in life, as there’s so many huge issues in our world that we really should be focusing on.

How many times have you been on a training course or attended a conference, where at the end you are asked to complete a feedback form? These feedback forms often ask us to rate between 1 and 10, how useful we found the course/conference, or what part of the day we found most helpful, as well as what changes we think might improve the course for those who attend it in the future.

Image if we had to fill in a feedback form every time God did something for us, or he taught us something! We’d end up spending all our lives filling in feedback forms!

The point is not really the feedback forms, it’s about our reaction to what God does for us on a daily basis – Do we give him feedback? Do we pray? Do we thank him for all he does for us?

We may not fill in a feedback form each day for all God does for us, but we can pray daily and tell him how grateful we are, even when he doesn’t answer our prayers in the way we hoped – He always answers our prayers, and he answers them in the way he knows is best for us.

As some of you will know, I’m a big football fan, so if I’m home and there’s football in the telly, you’ll find I usually watch it. Well as few days ago I was watching a match involving Manchester City, and part way through the second half they made a substitution, where they brought on Gabriel Jesus. When Jesus came onto the park, the commentator said, “Maybe Jesus can change the fortunes of City tonight”.

This caught my attention as it reminded that just as Manchester City hoped Gabriel Jesus could help change the fortunes of their team when they brought him onto the pitch, so we can change our fortunes if we accept Jesus Christ into our lives.

Over the last few months I’ve been walking around my local area quite a lot. While doing this, I have noticed, even when walking predominantly along the main roads, I have seen very few other people walking!

It doesn’t seem that long ago that when walking along those same streets, you would see a number of other people also walking. I guess it’s another sign of how dependent we all are on our cars or public transport, and just, dare I say it, how lazy many of us have become.

Yes it’s easy these days, when we’re so busy all the time, to jump in our car and drive for less than 5 minutes to our next location, rather than take a few additional minutes to just walk that short distant. At a time when we’re being told that obesity is a major contributory factor to serious health problems, should we not be walking between locations, rather than taking our car?

If we walk rather than drive, not only will it aid our own health, it will also be better for the environment, and our carbon footprint.

We all have times in our life when we face challenges. e.g. the death of a loved one, unemployment, serious illness. Based on some of the things I’ve learned about myself and from talking to others, I want to share with you some things to think about when you’re facing some tough situations. I hope you find this helpful:

Admit you’re struggling

You may not realise just how much you’re struggling. However I’m sure your family or friends will have noticed a difference in you. So if someone asks you if you’re ok, don’t just say ‘yes’ really look at yourself, and be honest with yourself. After all, if you don’t know you’re struggling or in trouble, how can you start to help yourself?

Don’t hide

When you’re struggling you’ll probably feel like you want to hide away from everyone in a darkened room or in a corner. That is one of the worst things you could do! The best way to keep your emotions under control when you’re struggling is actually to keep busy. When you’re busy there’s more chance you’ll focus on the task in hand instead of continually thinking about all your problems, as that will bring you down even more.

Say ‘No’

Are you the kind of person who always says ‘yes’ when someone asks you to do something? If you are, this one might be very difficult for you, but please consider it as I believe it really is quite uplifting to say ‘No’ sometimes. You may be struggling to do everything you’re already trying to do. So remember you do not need to do everything you’re asked to do. So say ‘No’, and use that extra time to take control of your life and your emotions.

Help

You probably think I’m just suggesting you seek help for yourself from either a friend or a help care professional, however I’m also suggesting you also help others too. One of the times I was struggling, I discovered a friend was also going through a really tough time and I definitely found that by talking with them, and trying to help them, it helped me focus on someone else’s problems instead of my own. Being able to offer support and help to someone else raised my spirits, as it showed me I was still useful and helpful to someone. So speak to others about how you’re feeling, as you may be surprised to find they too may be going through a difficult time and would be grateful for your support too.

Trust

This may be my final suggestion, but it is in fact the most important one – Trust God! God is with us all the time even when we ignore him or forget him. God will always answer your prayers – Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he’ll answer them. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected, but he will answer your prayer. So trust Him! Believe in God!

In the last week, I’ve noticed on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram that number of friends have taken on the ’10 year challenge’ which requires the person to post a photo themselves as they are now, and one from 10 years ago. It’s been interesting to see the difference (or not) between the two photographs, but it also got me thinking about how when we think of ageing and the changes it brings to us, we tend to think about the external or visible changes, rather than how the person has changed on the inside.

When I look back at myself 10 years ago, I see a different person looking back at me from the one I see in the mirror today – The difference is not just in how I look but in who I am today. I’ve experienced many different events and emotions over the last 10 years which have changed my perspective on life, and also the kind of person I am.

How about you, how have you changed over the last 10 years? Are you more loving, empathetic, relaxed, positive or more grumpy, cynical, critical, negative?

I simply pray today that we don’t concentrate so much on our outward appearance that we forget to see the beauty within ourselves and others.

This week I’ve provided several descriptions of a Christian, and the qualities you’d expect them to have.

Descriptions are all well and good, but in reality none of us ever truly live up to what is expected of a Christian. In fact none of us ever live up to God’s expectations of us. And this is all because we are human, imperfect.

The good news is God knows we’re not perfect, accepts us as we are, and is willing to help us be the best we can be – It’s simply a learning process.