Posts Tagged ‘Advice’

In my previous Relationships posts #1 – 7,  I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.i-love-you
  2. Eventually, if you’re lucky in life, you find someone with the same chemical imbalance you have. ~Robert Brault
  3. Good company upon the road is the shortest cut. ~Author Unknown
  4. Never neglect the people who are most important to you simply because you think they will always be there. Because one morning you might wake up and realize you lost the moon while counting the stars.
  5. Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.
  6. Today, befriend a stranger, or if you feel up to more of a challenge, befriend a loved one. ~Robert Brault
  7. Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you’re really strangers. ~Mary Tyler Moore
  8. You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. ~Wayne W. Dyer
  9. Once you find someone to share your ups and downs, downs are almost as good as ups. ~Robert Brault
  10. Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future.

My personal favourite is #4 as it’s a reminder that we should never takes our closest friends and family for granted. Instead we must tell them regularly how much they mean to us, otherwise they may never know just what they mean to you.

I hope you never take your closest relationships for granted as suddenly finding these people no longer in your life one day will cause you heartache and pain, so look after your relationships by telling those you love just how much they mean to you.

struggle3I spoke recently about how even if we got to church regularly, that doesn’t make us a Christian (in Going To Church). Today I’d like you to consider whether you are ready and willing to help those around you in their hour of need.

I’m not talking about our close friends and family, but just those who maybe attend the same church, or who work in the same office or live in the same neighbourhood…are you there for them, or are you missing in action when they need a friendly, supportive friend, a Christian friend, to help and support them?

As Christians we must be ready to reach out to those around us when we see them struggling and in need or support – That support may simply be to give them a hug, offer them words of reassurance, listen to their concerns and fears, give them practical advice or even give them some practical help with tasks that they need done.

You may think you will not know what to say or do to help someone in their hour of need, but I know from experience that if we trust in God, He will guide us and direct us so that we are able to offer the love and support the person in need, requires. I therefore hope and pray that you are not found to be missing in action when someone around you needs help and support.

In Relationships #1#2, #3, #4, #5  and #6 I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. i-love-youRelationship is an art.  The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.  ~Don Miguel Ruiz
  2.  Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.  ~Miles Franklin
  3. Having someone wonder where you are when you don’t come home at night is a very old human need.  ~Margaret Mead
  4. Assumptions are the termites of relationships.  ~Henry Winkler
  5. Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.  ~Swedish proverb
  6. Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough.  ~Dinah Shore
  7. Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.  ~Emily Kimbrough
  8. There are days when you need someone who just wants to be your sunshine and not the air you breathe.  ~Robert Brault
  9. Sometimes it is the person closest to us who must travel the furthest distance to be our friend.  ~Robert Brault
  10. Never give up on someone you can’t go a day without thinking about.  ~Author unknown

My personal favourite is #8, because it’s a great reminder to us all that we all suffer trouble in our lives at some time, and when we do, we must try and help ourselves by sharing our troubles with those who love us as if they truly love us, they will give us the love and support we need.

I hope that whenever you suffer times of troubles, you have someone who loves you enough to share you troubles with them.

In Relationships #1#2, #3, #4 and #5, I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.i-love-you
  2. Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.
  3. Love doesn’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and messing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
  4. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own.  Don’t waste your time on jealousy.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
  5. Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
  6. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will.  Stay in touch.
  7. If you love someone, tell them.  Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous.  What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.
  8. Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
  9. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  10. When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back.  It’s one of
    the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.

My personal favourite is #8, because often those small seemingly insignificant acts of kindness and be the huge significant act of love that someone was needing to life their spirits.

I hope that whatever loses you may have faced, you have become stronger for them and have been able to move forward with your life.

In Relationships #1#2, #3 and #4, I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling.  And even more beautiful is knowing that you
    are the reason behind it.i-love-you
  2. The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and
    accepts you at your worst.
  3. If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down. Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
  4. A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.
  5. You don’t really need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.
  6. Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.
  7. To the world, you might be just one person. But to one person, you might be the world.
  8. True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.
  9. The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to move forward is the happiest.
  10. True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.

My personal favourite is #6, simply because of where I am just now and how I’m feeling.

I hope that whatever loses you may have faced, you have become stronger for them and have been able to move forward with your life.

In Relationships #1#2 and  #3 I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.i-love-you
  2.  Some relationships are like glass.  It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.
  3. Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.
  4. Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.
  5. As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
  6. No relationship is a waste of time.  The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.
  7. Don’t try to be everything to everyone. Be everything to someone.
  8. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  9. Be the friend that you want to have.
  10. Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right.  We do not always need an intelligent mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.

My personal favourites are #7 and #9 – #7 just because it is so special to have someone there for you, just when you need it most, and #9 because I think that’s an excellent reminder to us that if we wouldn’t be friends with ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to want to be friends with us?!

So be someone’s everything by being the kind of friend to them that you yourself would love to have.

In Relationships #1 and Relationship #2 I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful.i-love-you
  2. If you speak when you are very angry, you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
  3. Respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained, and loyalty is returned.
  4. A real person is not perfect, and a perfect person is not real.
  5. Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.
  6. If a friend is in trouble, don’t bother them by asking if there is anything you can do. Think of something appropriate and do it.
  7. There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family.  Both sets of people are priceless.
  8. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation.  Don’t bring up the past.
  9. Don’t try to be everything to everyone.  Be everything to someone.
  10. Never waste a moment, it may be the last with someone you love.

My personal favourite is #10 as sadly I know from experience that it can be heartbreaking when you lose someone close to you, when you realise how long it is since you last told them you love them. So never take those you love for granted, as you never know the last time you will see/speak to those you love.

In Relationships #1, I indicated that during my wandering through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So today I’d like to share some more of ones I particularly liked:

  1. Don’t wait for the right person to come into your life.  Rather, be the right person to come to someone’s life.i-love-you
  2. Just because one person doesn’t seem to care for you, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who does.
  3. It is okay to be angry.  It is never okay to be cruel.
  4. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
  5. Choose your relationships wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
  6. Silence is often the loudest cry.  Pay attention to those you care about.
  7. We don’t always need advice.  Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.
  8. Good relationships don’t just happen; they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be together.
  9. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority.  Loyalty is everything.
  10. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.

My personal favourite is #4, as from experience, I know just how valuable a simple smile, kind word, listening ear, or small act of kindness can mean, when you are at your lowest point. So never under-estimate the power you have to make a huge difference in someone’s life.

Do you consider yourself to be a follower or a leader? Or are you a follower and a leader?

Yes it is possible to follow but also lead – How?

We can all be followers of God, and as a follower of God we can also be responsible for leading others to God, or guiding others in their Christian journey.

That’s all well and good, but do we always follow God and lead others, or are we guilty of trying to lead/direct God and follow others?

I think if we’re all honest we have all tried to direct God in some way at some time, whether it be trying to persuade Him that our way is best, or that He should let us do a particular task etc. I also think that we we’ve probably all been led astray from God plan for our life at some point, because we’ve been too busy following others and taking their advice or guidance, that we’ve forgotten about God.

In conclusion, make sure you are following God, and leading others to Him and not the other way around!

So what do you think I’m referring to when I talk about “The Inner Darkness”?

Well, from personal experience, I can say that one feeling/emotion that I’ve found which can be truly destructive to person with the feeling/emotion, is jealousy.

Jealousy is sometime referred to as a “green-eyed monster” and I can truly understand why!

So what exactly is jealousy:

  • envy
  • resentment
  • covetousness
  • possessiveness
  • spite
  • malice
  • obsessive

As you can see from the defineition of jealously, it is not a nice way to feel about someone else, or indeed to be the object of someone else’s jealousy.

As a Christian, I know jealousy is a feeling/emotion which God does not want me to have for someone else, so why do I still find myself feeling jealous of others?

Probably because I’m human!

It can be very hard being human sometimes. We can do our utmost to be the person God wants us to be, however when we care or love someone, we can find all sense of perspective and forget how we belive God wants us to be. We hurt God when we are jealous of others, so we find ourselves becoming obsessive about someone we care about to the extent that we find ourselves becoming upset/jealous when we see them with others…it’s time to stop, pray to God for forgiveness and ask Him to help us keep our friendship/relationship on an acceptable level.

The longer we let jealousy simmer within us, the more it will eat away at us – The more our jealousy eats away at us, the harder it will be for the relationship in question to grow and flourish.

If you are jealous of anyone, take your jealousy to God and leave it in His hands, so you can allow your relationship to grow once more.