Posts Tagged ‘alone’

Will everything be ok?

How many times have you asked yourself that? How many times have you asked God that?

When we’re children and we fall and hurt ourselves, our mothers or fathers will pick us up, cuddle us, and we feel better. These days who do you turn to when you need someone to just hold you?

It’s great when we have someone who will ‘just hold us’ when we need the reassurance of a hug, isn’t it.? But spare a thought for those who have no-one they can turn to for a hug, when they need someone to be there for them.

Maybe we each need to be that person that others can turn to when they need someone to just hold them. Maybe we can take those opportunities to tell them that God is more than just enough for them, as He will hold them safe in His arms forever.

What does Christmas Day look like for you?

Well over the years, like many my Christmas Day has changed dramatically. When I was young Santa came to our house twice on Christmas Day – one in the morning when it was just Mum, Dad and me, and then later after dinner with all the family (including gran, aunts, uncles, cousins and great aunts), when we’d all exchange Christmas gifts. We’d then spend the evening playing games, watching a bit tv, and eating!

The next big change was when my cousins got a bit older and had their own families, so while the first part of the day remained the same, it was then just Mum, Dad, gran, my Aunt Mae and my great aunts for dinner. My cousins and their families would then come later in the evening, so Santa waited to make his second appearance of the day until they arrived.

When I got married Christmas became a day of eating even more, as we’d spend the first half of the day with my husband’s Mum and the second half of the day with a few of my family – Mum, Dad and Aunt Mae. Santa came three times then – in the morning for my husband and me, at my mother-in-laws and then again at my Mum and Dad’s!

Then we come to now…these days Christmas is just me and my husband, so we have a quiet Christmas by ourselves.

My Christmases may not be the busy days I used to have with lots of family around, but at least I have someone to share my Christmas Day with.

Sadly there many who will spend Christmas Day as they do every other day, alone. Sadly there are many who will spend the day thinking of past Christmases with loved ones who have passed away or who have moved away.

Can I ask that you take a few minutes out of your busy Christmas Day to either phone or pop and see someone you know who may be lonely this Christmas, or feeling sad because those they love are no longer with them. They will be finding Christmas Day extra difficult, so you could just make someone’s Christmas if you take the time to speak to or visit someone.

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I wonder how many people have ever googled, “What to do when you feel lonely?” – When they feel those deep pangs of loneliness and don’t know how they can cope.

lonelinessWhen we go to the doctors, we don’t expect them to give us a prescription before we even tell them our symptoms do we, so why do we hope for help when we ask a generic question about loneliness without first trying to establish why we feel lonely?

Instead of randomly trying things, hoping a generic one solution fits all will suddenly solve our problems, and then losing further hope and feeling worse when it doesn’t work, it’s better to identify what is causing you to feel lonely first. For example

  • If you used to be happy in your own company, what’s changed?
  • Do your friends make you feel lonely?
  • Do you feel isolated or alone at work or in your daily surrounding?

Once you identify the real cause of your loneliness it will help you find a way to take appropriate action and find a solution.

Good luck!


A slow and painful death.

All alone. Just Jesus and his heavenly Father.


Jesus died at Calvary for you and for me, but despite sacrificing himself for us, he died alone. Don’t let Christ’s lonely death be for nothing, kneel before his cross this Easter and let Him into your heart.


What is Christmas Day like in your house?

I guess for those who have children Christmas Day probably means an extra early rise, as the children will be so excited to see what Santa has left for them. How about the rest of the day? Do you have a full household, or go and spend the day with others in your family…maybe you actually have Christmas twice as you spend some of the time with your family and the rest with your partner’s family.

I’m sure you’ve created an image in your head by now of what you think (and hope!) your Christmas Day will be like – Did it resemble any of those Christmas Day’s I’ve just described?

Sadly those images of Christmas Day couldn’t be further from how some will spend Christmas Day, as for many it can be a very difficult time as they will spend Christmas Day either by themselves, or will spend the day thinking of past Christmases spent with loved ones who have passed away or who have moved away.

Do you know anyone who may be on their own this Christmas or who will find Christmas Day particularly difficult because a loved ne has recently passed away? I know Christmas Day can be a very hectic day for many of us, however can I ask that you take a few minutes out of your busy Christmas Day to either phone or pop and see someone you know who may be lonely this Christmas and therefore finding it extra difficult. By doing this you really could quite literally make someone’s Christmas!

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Do you attend church regularly?

If so, do you go with family or close friends?

Take a few minutes to consider how you would feel if you had no family or close friends there with you..

Would it make a difference to your worship experience? Would it stop you getting involved in or attending events because you were on your own? Would anyone even notice if you weren’t there for one week…two weeks…or even longer?

I would love to be able to say that it not having any family or close friends to share in worship doesn’t matter; I would love to say that not having family or close friends to attend events with doesn’t matter; I would love to say that when missing for one event/worship meeting, other contact you to check you are ok…can you tell there is a “but” coming in this sentence? Sadly for many, each of these things can be the difference between going to a specific church and not going to church at all.

I personally find that quite sad, as going to church is not about individual people, families or friendships, it’s about God, and our relationship with Him!

I do however completely understand and accept that having family and close friends worshiping with you, can add to your experience. However I do know that when you have no family or close friends at your place of worship, it can be difficult at times to attend events on your own. I also agree that when you’re a regular attender at church and you miss a week but no-one contacts you to check if you are ok, it can make you wonder if anyone even noticed you weren’t there, and so can make you feel so alone; you may even wonder whether if you never went back, whether anyone would even notice.

However, maybe we just need to remember who is always there for us, so we are never alone…

Here is the International Staff Songsters of the Salvation Army singing the beautiful song Whom Have I.


First resort

Posted: August 27, 2014 in bible, life, love, music, pray, prayer, quotes, Relationships, religion
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It has been said that,

Seven days without prayer, makes one weak.

Sometimes you hear someone say, “We’ve done all we can. The only thing we can do now is pray.” However prayer really should be our first resort rather than our last resort.

Jesus himself often went off to pray alone, setting an example for us to do the same. In Matthew 14:23 (KJV) it says,

And when He had sent the multitudes away, He went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when the evening was come, he was there alone.

If Jesus needed to go off and pray alone sometimes, how much more do we need to?

Praying should not be something we do out of duty or routine. It should be something we do because we truly believe it will make a difference because it is about talking and listening to our loving, all knowing, heavenly Father.

So don’t fall into the common trap of praying when there’s nothing else left to do, make prayer your first resort not your last resort!

You make my life a prayer to You
I wanna do what You want me to
No empty words and no white lies
No token prayers no compromise

I wanna shine the light You gave
Through Your Son You sent to save us
From ourselves and our despair
It comforts me to know You’re really there

Well I wanna thank You now for being patient with me
Oh it’s so hard to see, when my eyes are on me
I guess I’ll have the trust and just believe what You say
Oh You’re coming again, You’re coming to take me away

I wanna die and let You give Your life to me, so I might live
And share the hope You gave to me, the love that set me free
I wanna tell the world out there, You’re not some fable or fairy tale
That I’ve made up inside my head, You’re God the Son
You’ve risen from the dead

You may feel alone, you may feel forgotten, but God is there for you.

You may be desperate, you may be in real need, don’t despair, God is always there for you.


Here’s the International Staff Songsters of the Salvation Army singing Always There which reinforces the above statements:

I’m sure we’ve all had times in our life when we’ve fell as though we’re completely on our own, as no-one seems to care or understand how we feel or what we’re going through. The good news is that we never really are completely on our own, because no matter how alone we feel, God is always only a prayer away.

Isn’t that so reassuring? I guess for non believers that just sounds like a stupid statement to make that “God is always only a prayer away”, however for Christians the knowledge and belief that God really is only a prayer away is the difference between having the strength to carry on and face another day and having no hope at all and giving up.

No matter how alone you feel, God is always only a prayer away.

struggleHave you ever been really struggling with life and expected or wanted someone you thought was a friend, to phone, email or text you to check you’re ok…and waited…and waited?

Funny isn’t it how friends who tell you they will always be there for you, are nowhere to be seen when you’re struggling and in need of a friend. How has it made you feel when you’ve been in that situation? When this has happened to me, I’ve gone through a range of emotions, from hurt, to despair, from anger to resignation that I’ll just need to go it alone.

Funny isn’t it how in these darkest of time we seem to turn to God almost as a last resort, when in fact He should be the first person we turn to in our hour of need.

In the Love of Jesus there is all I need,
While I follow closely where my Lord may lead;
By his grace forgiven,
In his presence blest,
In the love of Jesus,
In the love of Jesus, is perfect rest.