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Carry on

Posted: January 19, 2016 in depression, life, love, music, quotes, religion, stress
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There can be days that are difficult to face.

There can be days you’re not sure how you’re going find the strength to get through them.

I am just glad that when I face days like those, I face them in the knowledge that God is with me, and He will give me the strength and courage to get through them.

Lord help me carry on

The last couple of days I’ve talked about times when you feel like you have nothing left to get yourself through a day, or to support someone else. Today though I want to look at this from a slightly different perspective…when you feel like that what do you actually need from those around you?

Here’s some suggestions:

  • Love
  • Compassion
  • A hug
  • Words of comfort
  • Someone to listen to your fears/worries

Do any of those things sound like things you’d appreciate if you are struggling to get through a day?

I can certainly say that for me, each of those things can be a huge help to me, although if I’m honest, sometimes just a hug is all I need.

What about you – when you’re feeling at your lowest and wonder how you’re going to get through the day, what helps you, and gives you the strength to carry on?

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Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Carry your spirit in your pocket

That probably sounds like a really bizarre suggestion, but let me explain how to do this:

Get some mall bits of paper and write a positive but reflective word on each one – words such as love, laugh, compassion, reflect, comfort etc. Put the bits of paper with the words on them, into a bag or container, and then each morning when you get up, take one bit of paper out the bag/container and put it in your pocket.

Then during the day, each time your hand touches that bit of paper in your pocket you’ll remember the word on it and in turn will remind you to bless others by expressing that word in your actions and through your conversations with others.

So consider you spirit words careful, as they will be the actions/feeling you need to exude to others on the days you choose them.

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Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Take hold of your negative thoughts

Have you noticed how destructive negative thoughts and negative thinking can be, they can be like a cancer, eating away at you, making you focus on things that you would normal consider unchristlike. So when you find yourself giving negative thoughts time in your life, stop yourself and put those thoughts out your mind by thinking positive thoughts.

Replace your negative thoughts with uplifting thoughts that bring you comfort and peace.

Thoughts of You by Barlowgirl

Thoughts of You
And how You’ve changed me, fill my mind
Without You where would I be?

So even though I’ve tried to express my thanks
It never comes out how I hoped
I want to say so much more
So with these simple words, I’ll try

I love You
My heart is Yours, only Yours
I long to give You all of me
My everything, my everything

God, I never could repay You
You gave everything
Without You where would I be?

You still loved me even when I
Pushed You away
You stood there and waited
Till the day I’d return

So even though I’ve tried to express my thanks
It never comes out
I want to say so much more
So with these simple words, I’ll try

I love You
My heart is Yours, only Yours Jesus
I want to give You all of me

I love You, I love You
My, my heart is Yours, only Yours
I long to give You all of me
My everything, my everything

Thoughts of You
And how You’ve changed me, fill my mind

 

How are you at offering comfort and support to others?

Some find it easy to reach out to others when they see someone upset or in need of help; others are reticent to “get involved”; others will simply turn away pretending not to have noticed – Which kind are you?

We may not be the best at trying to comfort others in their hour of need, but the important thing is that we at least try to help. God wants us to help our neighbours and our friends, after all if we don’t help the person in need may end up with no-one. We don’t have to be great speakers or trained to counsel others to reach out and help, as sometimes when someone is upset, just having someone there to give them a hug and a few words of support, is all they need.

So be a comforter today.

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When I’m struggling I go all quiet and don’t really want to talk to anyone. I also try not to look anyone directly in the eye for any more than a brief second at a time.

Comforting a friendWhy? Because I’m scared that if anyone looks me straight in the eyes for more than a second or two, they’ll see my deepest feelings and emotions, and therefore know exactly how I feel. That in turn will make me fall apart and that, you may remember if you’ve been reading my blog for a while, would be my worst nightmare…falling apart in public.

Many people I’ve spoken to about my fear of falling apart have told me it would be good for me just to “let go”…they really do not understand how scary a thought that is for me. To be honest I’ve always felt I’d rather sit in a room by myself for hours than fall apart in public, and despite being told repeatedly it would be good for me to “let go”, I will continue to do all I can to stop my nightmare coming true in public!

Just because I don’t fall apart in public does not mean I never “let go” because I do. However I do agree it might me nice if someone was there to give me a hug and reassure me when I do fall apart – But the thought of doing that in public it so scary for me I’ll be trying my best to make sure that doesn’t happen!

Comfortable is something I think we all wish to be, whether that be financially, emotionally, in our friendships or in your home. But have you ever considered using the word “comfortable” when it comes to your spiritual welfare?

Comfortable is not a word I think you’ll find many Christians using to describe their spiritual journey, as we all still experience difficulties in life whether we believe in Christ or not. Therefore I liked the following statement by Francis Chan:

But God doesn’t call us to be comfortable. He calls us to trust Him so completely that we are unafraid to put ourselves in situations where we will be in trouble if He doesn’t come through.

This is all backed up my scriptures where again we are reminded that we will face difficulties, but God will be there by our side, throughout these times, and guide us through.

Matthew 5:3-5 (NIV)

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

So just because you may have accepted Christ in your life, don’t expect your Christian journey to be a comfortable one. However be assured that God will always comfort you.

What can hurt someone, just as easily as can comfort them?

Words!

As I touched on in yesterday’s blog post Watch your Words, it can be so very easy to say things which to the listener can be hurtful, even though that wasn’t the intention.

At the opposite end of the scale, words can be full of love and affection and can offer the strength and encouragement to someone at a time of deepest need. Personally this week I’ve experienced so many of the later…words of comfort and encouragement.

Psalm 46:1 (NIV)

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.

It is wonderful when folk offer words of encouragement and support during a time of struggle and concern. Because of this I’ve been reminded of the wonderful piece of music entitled My Comfort and Strength, as it has been exactly what I’ve received from so many of you this week.

Thank you all for your support and prayers, it really is appreciated.

As always though, I know my biggest comforter and source of strength this week has been Jesus. I thank Him for always being with me and giving me the strength to get through each day and support my Mum during this difficult time.

I’m sure you will have heard this phrase many times:

Home is where the heart is

But what does that actually mean? Well here’s a great definition I came across a few days ago:

When I walk into my home I feel peace. I feel I am in the most safe environment that I could be in. There are no worries or problems within the walls of my home. It is the one place that I can truly be me. My family is here and love and comfort surrounds me. I am in my world where everything around is me. To know that this is the place where my family and myself have established together and that we all have our special space within our home and spaces where we can come together is why our home is where our hearts are.

How does that definition sound to you?

For me I still think of myself as having three homes…no we’re not really really rich and got two secret hideaways!

My current home is definitely here with my hubby of seventeen years. Just as the above definition says, my home is where my family (hubby) is and love and comfort surrounds me. What more could I ask for?!

So I have my current home with hubby, but a very close run second home to me is still my Mum and Dad’s house where I lived from aged 10 until I got married. Mum and Dad still live in that house and so again, just like the above definition says, it’s a place where my family are and we love and comfort one another. Once again, what more could I ask for?!

Finally, my third “home”…This one’s a bit different because it’s not a place I’ve every lived and is unlikely to ever be one where I would live, however it is still “home” to me. Confused? Let me explain…

I’m sure you’ve probably heard the expression “spiritual home”, well that’s what my third home is, it’s my spiritual home!

So where is my spiritual home? It’s not as you might think, my current church and place of worship. No, it’s Rutherglen Salvation Army, the corps I grew up in, and worshipped there until 2002 when I transferred to Bellshill Salvation Army. Does that surprise you? In some ways it still surprises me, however when I think about how much I learned as a Christian and all I participated in at Rutherglen, it shouldn’t really surprise me…I became a junior soldier, later a senior soldier of the Salvation Army there; I was a member of both the junior and senior bands and choirs; I was a member of the Corps Cadets; I was the YP Record Sargeant for many years; I was singing company and then songster accompanist; I was deputy songster leader and then songster leader; but most importantly I learned and grew as a Christian and Salvationist.

My Mum’s side of the family were some of the founding members of Rutherglen Salvation Army, I have a heritage at Rutherglen, my past, present and future were moulded there…Rutherglen Salvation Army is most definitely my spiritual home.

Take a few minutes out to consider the place or places you consider to be home, and why. These places have moulded you and made you the person you are today.

I thank God for allowing me to lucky enough to have three places I can call home.

Home by Nichole Nordeman

Bright are the stars that shine in somebody else’s sky
Green is the grass that grows some place different
More possibilities, more than You offered me
More than I care to see from a distance

I was certain that the truth would be
In a place that kept eluding me
But every stone turned and unturned again
Would only serve to prove
That I never had to move to find You

And You will always be
The only love I’ll ever know, home
And You have made for me
The only place I’ll ever go, home

God, for the shameless pride
The times when I rolled my eyes
To laugh at simplicity, show me mercy
Knowing what I know now it’s hard to imagine how
I could feel anything but unworthy

And the mystery of Your love for me
Is not as hidden as it seemed to be
Should have known then when You said to me
‘Seek and you will find’
It was right here all the time

And You will always be
The only love I’ll ever know, home
And You have made for me
The only place I’ll ever go, home

I believe in the quest and the journey
I believe that the answers come in time
And where we begin is where we arrive

And You will always be
The only love I’ll ever know, home
And You have made for me
The only place I’ll ever go, home

Glory To The King by Darlene Zschech

You’re the comforter to the lonely
The lifter of my head
I see You veiled in majesty
We cry glory, glory
We cry glory to the King

Lord,my heart cries out
Glory to the King
My greatest love in life
I hand You everything
Glory,glory
I hear the angels sing.

Open my ears
Let me hear Your voice
To know that sweet sound
Oh my soul rejoice
Glory,glory
I hear the angels sing

You’re the Father to the fatherless
The answer to my dreams
I see you crowned in righteousness
We cry glory to the King
Comforter to the lonely
The lifter of my head
I see You veiled in majesty
We cry glory,glory
We cry glory to the King

We cry glory glory
We cry glory to the King

God is there in the depth of our despair and in the heights of our joy – Who else is there like that?

God is there for the lonely and gives them comfort – Who else is there like that?

God loves us unconditionally – Who else is there like that?

So how should we repay Him? We should give Him glory…Glory to the King!

1 Timothy 1:17 (NIV)

Now to the King eternal, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honour and glory for ever and ever. Amen.