Posts Tagged ‘Crying’

Today I want to share another post I shared with my Facebook friends a few days ago.

If you’re struggling with some issues, crying all the time, but people just keep telling you to “stop crying”, you’ll understand that these suggestions would be far more helpful!

If you have a family member or friend who’s going through a tough time, and you find they are crying all the time, here’s some suggestions of what to say to them instead of just telling them to “stop crying”.

When I’m struggling I go all quiet and don’t really want to talk to anyone. I also try not to look anyone directly in the eye for any more than a brief second at a time.

Comforting a friendWhy? Because I’m scared that if anyone looks me straight in the eyes for more than a second or two, they’ll see my deepest feelings and emotions, and therefore know exactly how I feel. That in turn will make me fall apart and that, you may remember if you’ve been reading my blog for a while, would be my worst nightmare…falling apart in public.

Many people I’ve spoken to about my fear of falling apart have told me it would be good for me just to “let go”…they really do not understand how scary a thought that is for me. To be honest I’ve always felt I’d rather sit in a room by myself for hours than fall apart in public, and despite being told repeatedly it would be good for me to “let go”, I will continue to do all I can to stop my nightmare coming true in public!

Just because I don’t fall apart in public does not mean I never “let go” because I do. However I do agree it might me nice if someone was there to give me a hug and reassure me when I do fall apart – But the thought of doing that in public it so scary for me I’ll be trying my best to make sure that doesn’t happen!

Today I would simply like to ask you, if you are a praying kind of person, to pray for my Mum and Dad, particularly tomorrow and during the week ahead.

Why?

As I’ve mentioned before my Dad has vascular dementia and over the couple of years as very rapidly declined, so much so that he now has to be cared for 24/7. My Mum has always said she’d look after Dad at home for as long as possible, and to date that’s exactly what she has been doing.

However over the last few months, my Mum’s struggled more and more to care for my Dad and despite originally being adamant that she didn’t want Dad to go in anyways, even for a few days, she finally agreed to this in August.

Mum having agreed to respite care for Dad I thought and hoped something would be sorted quickly, however social work were unable to offer a place for Dad until w/b 31st October, i.e. tomorrow.

Personally, I never ever wanted Mum or Dad to have to go into a care home, however I know how much Mum is struggling to cope with looking after Dad these days, so in that sense I’m glad Dad is going for respite care tomorrow. That said, tomorrow is going to be a tough day taking Dad to the care home and leaving him there for a whole week.

What’s going to make tomorrow even tougher is that Dad hasn’t been too well the last couple of days, so we’ve been spending a lot of time just sitting with him, so the thought of leaving him…

Also in the last few months, Dad’s been prone to bursting into tears for no apparent reason, and that’s heartwrenching…and I suspect we will probably experience this tomorrow when we take him to the care home, as he’ll not understand where he is or what’s going on…I’m really not looking forward to it at all.

On the plus side, Mum will get a chance to do what she wants, when she wants for a whole week! I’ve taken the week off work so I can spend the time with Mum so she’s not on her own. I know Mum’s looking forward to some time of her own however I know she’ll miss Dad, despite how much work he gives her these days.

I would therefore appreciate it if you could pray for Mum and Dad this week – I know Mum would appreciate your prayers too.

Thank you and God bless.  .x

We’re in His Hands,
We’re in His hands,
Whatever the future holds,
We’re in His hands.

Tears of joy or tears of happiness, each happen for a reason, and each can touch the hearts of not just the person who is shedding the tears but those around them.

So what makes you cry?

A few years ago I would have told you that very little makes me cry, however over the last few years I’ve found that many things seems to start my tears flowing. Even in the last few weeks I’ve shed tears for a number of reasons, here’s just a few of them:

  • My Dad’s deteriorating health
  • Mum re how she’s coping with Dad
  • Death of my Uncle Michael
  • Murder of a 19 year old boy (who turned out to be the nephew of one of my managers at work)
  • Health concerns for my hubby
  • My own health concerns
  • Listening to specific pieces of music
  • Just being fed up with how life is going at present

So most of my reasons for crying recently have been because I’ve been upset about something, but why is it that sometimes we cry when good things happened too? (you can read more about some of these situations in my blog post from last Friday entitled A Black Friday).

Whether it’s something that’s upset us or something which makes us extremely happy, our emotions are stirred and that’s what causes us to cry. That’s why after crying, and releasing some of our built up emotions, we often feel better – though this is not always the case.

How do you feel when you see someone else crying?

Personally I often find myself getting emotional when I see someone else crying, even if I have no idea why they are upset. Is it just the empathy we feel for other’s pain that makes me do that? Probably.

Whatever makes you shed a tear for either your own or someone else’s situation or circumstances, take it to the God – He can ease your pain. God knows and understands how we feel and knows and can provide what we need to help us through the situation.