Posts Tagged ‘emotion’

Loneliness comes in all shapes and forms, it doesn’t care who you are or how weak or strong you are emotionally when the deep feeling of loneliness hits you.

For some loneliness comes because of certain life events, such as the loss of a partner or family member. That’s not the case for everyone though, as for some loneliness is something they live with on a daily basis, and not necessarily because they are actually alone – it may be they feel as is no-one truly understands them, or that they don’t fit in – all of which can cause deep feelings of loneliness.

If you’re lucky enough never to have experienced true loneliness, you will not know how difficult it can be to cope with. When loneliness takes over, we can build a protective wall around ourself, to try and stop those around us from seeing how we really feel.

Loneliness is real. Just because someone is always surrounded by lots of people, doesn’t mean they don’t experience loneliness. In fact I’d go as far as saying, one of the worst places to be when you suffer from loneliness is actually in a crowd.

So look out for those who exhibit signs of loneliness, because they need you – they need you just to reach out to them, and maybe give them a hug to reassure them you are always there for them.

I’m not entirely sure why, but I’ve found myself thinking about my life now, and how that compares to what my life was like when I was much younger.

In doing that, I’ve wondered, if I was able to give my younger self some advice or information to help them, what would that be. So today I want to share with you three bits of advise I’d want to give my younger self:

  1. Don’t be so concerned about showing your emotions, they show you’re human, and that you care!
  2. Hug those you love and tell them daily how much you love them, as tomorrow is not guaranteed.
  3. Trust God, no matter what situations you’re going through.

How about you, what advise would you give your younger self?

A common new year resolution that I’m sure we’ve either made for this year, or have made in the past, is to go on a diet.

I’m sure have read my last sentence you’ve immediately thought about food, haven’t you!

Well consider the following picture, which reminds us that our diet is not just about what food we eat or what physical exercise we do.

How you as a person feel physically, emotionally and spiritually is based on everything you experience via all your senses, and how strong your relationship is with God. So take care of your whole self, as your physical well-being is important, but so is your emotional and spiritual well-being.

We are all individuals. We are all unique. We all have different experiences. We all experience emotions when we go through life, however the emotions we feel in each circumstance are individual to us. Therefore just because you know how you feel when you experience a particular situation, doesn’t mean that is how others feel.

Remember we are unique, no-one else know how we truly feel, so don’t ever think you know exactly how someone else feels, unless they tell you!

That’s something I need to remind myself of often! We can get so caught up in the events, relationships, emotions that go with every day life, that we can be guilty of looking our focus. Our focus must always be on God, and not on ourselves.

Are you focusing on the right person?

You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can change is how you react to it ~ Nicky Gumbel

When people treat you badly, say things about you or to you which are hurtful or untrue, it can be so very easy to react in anger.

When you’re emotions get the better of you, we can all be guilty of saying or doing things we regret, either immediately or later once we’ve calmed down. However it’s usually more helpful to both ourselves and the others involved if we all just take a few moments to calm down and reassess the situation before you get dragged into a shouting or slagging match.

So be the bigger person, stay calm and stay in control of your emotions and your reaction, and more than anything, think before you respond.

A strange phrase isn’t it, so what does it mean?

It means you are very open about your emotions. Imagine in your mind’s eye the heart, the source of all your feelings and emotions, being worn on the sleeve, your deepest inner feelings displayed outside you for all to see.

Does that description send a shiver down your spine, or just make you think, “yeah ok”?

For me it’s definitely the former, as I am not someone who ever likes to let people see my deepest emotions, it makes me feel very vulnerable, and that’s not something I’m comfortable with.

Are you happy wearing your heart on your sleeve?



Many people find it much easier to put up walls to keep their feelings/emotions and difficulties to themselves, and in doing this they keep others from seeing or knowing how they really feel.

For those who feel alone or no-one cares about them, they may even subconsciously build up walls to hide their feelings/emotions, just to test and see if anyone cares enough about them to try to break though their wall.

Even if you build walls to keep your deeps feelings to yourself, God will break down those walls because He always care more than just enough about you!


Music has the ability to lift our spirits and bring us closer to God, but is it just the music that touches our hearts or is there more to it than that?

musicYou can get the best musicians in the world to play a piece of music which means nothing to them and they’ll play it note perfect, but will it convey the story and the message behind the music?

Sometimes it might, but I’d suggest that when playing christian music, the true message behind the music will cannot truly be conveyed by the musicians unless they themselves have a real relationship with God. Only then can the full message and the emotions related to God’s sacrifice and love for us, really be portrayed by the musician.

Music is simply a series notes which together can evoke images and emotions held deep within us. When it is music that’s been inspired by God, it can stir our hearts and bring us closer to God. So listen to God’s music, but open your heart, and let God stir your emotions.

In the last few week I’ve found myself listening to the song Through It All – The music and words always evoke huge emotion for me, as God always seems so close to me when I hear it:

Though the future seems uncertain

Though the fear erodes my peace

Though the circumstance seems hopeless

And the doubting will not cease

I will claim what He has promised

For my heart must recognise

Mine is not to question

But keep focused on the prize.


Through it all I choose to serve the saviour

Through it all I claim Christ as my friend

Through it all my faith will never waver

Till He calls me home or comes again


This path now set before me

Is not my route of choice

Yet I must keep moving forward

Listening to His still small voice

This step along this journey

He reminds me I’m His own

And through the cold dark loneliness

I’m aware I’m not alone


Through it all I choose to serve the saviour

Through it all I claim Christ as my friend

Through it all my faith will never waver

Till He calls me home or comes again

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Make your own music

As I said in #44 in this series, music is a powerful thing that can have a tremendous effect upon both our spirit and our heart, bringing healing, peace, inspiration, joy and hope but it can also make us feel sad and emotional, and I encouraged you to listen to your favourite music.

But today my suggestion is still about music, but this time I’m going to suggest you make your own music – Whether you’re a singer, played a musical instrument many years ago but not played in a while, or always wanted to learn to play an instrument, it’s time to take action today and just do it! Join a choir, start refresher music lessons, book a teacher to start you on your journey of making music.

Music is an art like no other as it helps give expression to the deep emotions that we may be feeling but are unable to vocalise or express in any other way. So take up that art by making your own music as again, I can assure you that in doing so it will brighten your day.

Music-brightens your day