Posts Tagged ‘experience’

Do you ever look around at others and think, they’re all moving forward/gaining experience much quicker than you?

Don’t be afraid of growing slowly; only be afraid of standing still.

So even if life seems to be moving slower for you than everyone around you, it doesn’t matter, as long as you are still moving forward.



The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths ~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

What makes a person beautiful? Their looks, their knowledge, their experience, their life experiences, their faults and failures?

I guess all these things together make someone beautiful, because beauty isn’t necessarily about looks, but is about the person themselves, their character and their personality, but also their life-experiences.

Having been on a lot of work related training courses over the years, I realised very early on in my career that when a training course is led by someone who has simply read the books and remembered the theory, but has no workplace experience in the area they are teaching, they struggle to be able to give any kind of helpful advice about real-life situations. In other words, it’s best to learn from those who have experienced real-life than those who know the theory, as it’s only through actually experiencing particular circumstances you truly understand the situation and the feelings/emotions those involved will be going through.

So learn from those who have real-life experiences, as they truly understand the do’s and don’ts because they have been there themselves.

knowledge is experience

I’ve been asked several times in the last week why I sometimes blog about such personal things like my feelings and emotions. Well there is a simple answer, I do it because I think it is important that others going through similar experiences, know they are not alone.

tearsI know from my own experiences that when we are facing difficult situations, it can often seem like no-one else really knows or understands how you feel. I found it such a relief on several occasions when others privately told me they had experienced, or were currently experiencing what I was – It was simply good to know I wasn’t alone.

Our feelings and emotions or if you like, our mental health, are often things which people shy away from, and are almost embarrassed or ashamed to talk about. However, again from personal experience, I’ve found that it can often amaze you when certain people who you never ever would have though faced difficulties/struggles in their life, confide in you.

My aim in my blog posts when I’ve shared some of the struggles (e.g. in my recent post My Struggle – Faith of Family Members) I’ve been facing in my life with my emotions, has been to reassure those of you facing similar struggles, that you are not alone, and your experiences are not unique.

My hope is by sharing some of my experiences I can offer even a little bit of help and reassurance to someone who is struggling with all life has thrown their way.

The last few days I’ve spoken about how we let our emotions rule our lives sometimes and also about how it’s through living through tough situations that we grow as people and as Christians.

I’m sure you’ll all agree with me, when I say that we’re all guilty of continually thinking about negative or difficult events that have happened in our life, especially when the outcome or impact of those events was not a positive one or one we hoped for.

The longer you think about the wrong things, the harder it will be to get rid of them. – Joyce Meyer

We really do need to take control of our lives by giving all those things to God, and leaving them there, along with our emotions and our hurts. Only then will we be able to learn from those experiences, and move on without letting those things have a negative impact on us.


When you read the title of my blog post today, what did you think about? A meeting that never happened because the other person didn’t turn up; A date when you were stood-up; A time when a close friend failed you and you felt let down.

Well, the last example above was actually what I was thinking of when I wrote the title of this blog post. It’s a real horrible and empty feeling you get when someone you love and trust lets you down, no matter the way in which they let you down – Shared something with others that you shared with them in confidence; Weren’t there for you when you needed them most; etc.

Being let down is something I hope you never have to experience as it really can be very heartbreaking. However I can recommend a friend to you who will never let you down, who is trustworthy and honest, and who will always be faithful to youGod!

Looking forward isn’t just about the future, it’s also about the past!

I know that sounds a bit bizarre, but it is true, the future is as much about things that have not happened yet as they are about the things we’ve already experienced.

Is it making more sense now? How we cope with/handle the events and circumstances that will happen tomorrow is often about the experiences we’ve already had. i.e. Our life experiences help us become the person we are today, as well as making us the person we will become tomorrow. If our life was a bed of roses and we didn’t face any challenges, we would struggle to cope when life did go wrong for us.

When we face new challenges in life, we draw on our other life experiences to cope. However sometimes even that isn’t enough, so how are we supposed to cope?

In a word…pray!

God expects us to learn from our experiences but that doesn’t mean He expects us just to get on with things and forget about Him. The complete opposite is the case, He expects the more we learn about life and about Him, that we will rely on and trust Him more each day for all we need.


When we take about wounds, I personally tend to think of soldiers and their battle scars. However soldiers are far from being the only people who have “battle-scars” – Yes, it’s true the majority of us have never fought in a war or conflict, however I’m sure we’ve all had our fair share of battle-scars, maybe just a few of us with physical scars, but I’m sure we’ve all got loads of emotional scars.

Think about some of your own scars, I’m sure regardless of whether you are thinking about a physical or an emotional scar, they were very painful at the time you received them…and I’m sure some of them are still very raw and painful even now.

Imagine you had never received any of those scars, would your life still be the same today?

I’m sure that if I hadn’t experienced the physical and emotional scars I carry today, my life would be very different – I think if your honest, you’d agree with me on this one.

Every experience we go through, physical and emotional, makes us the person we are today. Every experience we go through builds or breaks our faith in God. I pray that your life experiences have brought you closer to God. If they haven’t, give God another chance, as He can make your every experience a God-filled one.

He’s Been Here

Posted: November 15, 2009 in religion
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God sent His son to earth so that He could experience all that we experience. He went one step further than we will ever have to go though, because He sent His son here to earth to die on a cross, just so we would be forgiven of all our sins.

Don’t think because you’re finding life difficult or your struggling to carry on, that Jesus doesn’t understand how you feel, He does. Jesus understands, He’s been here and He’s had those same feelings you are experiencing now.

So trust Jesus, trust God, because He’s with you all the time.

I Have Been There by Mark Schultz
In a room without a view, a new mother smiles and holds
her tiny fingers on her brand new baby girl.
Her husband takes her by the hand, so unsure about the future
and no money can they make it in this world?

And they pray, Lord all we have to give is love
and they heard a gentle voice like an echo from above,
I have been there. I know what fear is all about.
Yes, I have been there and I’m standing with you now.
I have been there
And I came to build the bridge oh so this road could lead you home.
Oh I have been there.

He’s been a pastor twenty years
but tonight he sits alone and broken hearted in the corner of the church
He tried to change a fallen world
with his words and with his wisdom but it seems like it is only getting worse
And he cries, Oh Lord I just don’t understand
Then he felt the hand of grace, and he heard a voice that said

I have been there, I know what pain is all about
yes I have been there, and I’m standing with you now
I have been there, and I came to build a bridge
oh so this road could lead you home
oh i have been there.

An older man up on a hill
holding flowers but he can’t hold back the tears.
oh he has come to say goodbye.
he thinks about the life she lived,
thinks about how hard it’s been to live without her
sixty years right by his side
and he cries, oh Lord i loved her till the end
and he heard a gentle voice say you’ll see her once again

I have been there
I know what sorrow’s all about
yes i have been there and I’m standing with you now
i have been there, and i came to build a bridge
oh so this road could lead her home, the road could lead her home
oh i have been there, You know I overcame the cross, yes i have been there
so her life would not be lost
oh i have been there, and i came to build
a bridge so this road could lead you home
the road could lead you home

Oh I have been there
Yes I have been there

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