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thought we were friends

I recent was kidding on one of my friends about posting a photo of them on Facebook, when they said to me, “And I thought you were my friend!” – They said this jokingly to me as were just having a laugh about a funny photo I’d found of them. However this got me thinking (always a bad thing!)….

How many time to we, without even realising it, do things which upset our friends?

And then, how often to do say or do things which disappoint Jesus?

Sometimes we can be so busy focusing on ourselves and our own desires that fail to consider whether our words and actions are pleasing to God. So let’s stay focused on him and transform our lives so our words and actions always reflect Christ.


After a fantastic inspirational weekend at the Salvation Army UK Territory’s congress in Glasgow, what else could I blog about tonight!

I watched the Saturday night and Sunday morning meetings from the comfort of my house via the live webcast, but I have to say I still felt as thought I was part of the meetings even though I wasn’t actually there in person. So well done to all involved in broadcasting the webcast.

On Sunday afternoon our band, Bellshill Salvation Army Band were playing from 2.30 – 3pm on stage in the Clyde Auditorium, so I was there for that and then stayed for the BugleTweetafternoon meeting.

The afternoon meeting was a whole new experience for me, as I wasn’t just there to listen, I was also there to Tweet! Martin Cordner, a Salvation Army Officer & brass band composer, created BugleTweet, on Twitter and Facebook, to post updates from SA band and other concerts from around the world. So it was a privilege to be asked by Martin to Tweet for BugleTweet. I just hope that I was able to give those following the tweets, a good feel for what was happening in the Sunday afternoon meeting, even though I lost signal for about 20 minutes at one point!

Back to the meetings themselves..All those who took part in the main meetings of the weekend as well as pre meetings in the foyer and main auditorium were great – the staff songsters, staff band, various corps bands and songsters, youth band and youth chorus, puppets and kids club – all were fantastic and I know blessed many through their message.

And then there was our leaders for the weekend, Commissioners Clive and Marianne Adams, what an inspiration! The recurring message throughout the weekend was transformation, challenging us to transform our world, our nation, our communities and ourselves! Quite a task, but as they said, if we let God start the transformation from within us, anything is possible! Thank you Commissioners Clive and Marianne you inspired so many of us to get out there and start the transformation.

Commissioners Clive and Marianne Adams

The congress is now over, so let’s make sure we keep the momentum going by getting this transformation going – Are you up for the challenge? I am!



I don’t know about you, but I just hate when some people “put on” fake enthusiasm and friendship when they talk to you. Personally if someone doesn’t like me or are not interested in having anything to do with me, that they were just honest and didn’t “fake” friendship.

Anyone who knows me will know I’m an honest and trustworthy person, so will understand when I say that “what you see, is what you get” with me. i.e. You’ll not get any “fake” enthusiasm from me when it comes to anything…you’ll soon know if I’m not happy!

So please don’t fake a friendship with anyone, because believe me the person will know and to be honest in my experience, someone who tries to fake a friendship with you is not someone you really want as a “friend”.Fake-Friend

Early this week I attended a hospital appointment at one of our local hospitals. As usual the clinic I was attending was running late so I ended up sitting in the waiting room, doing what I usual do, observing the other people as they came and went, wondering what they were there for, how long they’d been attending the clinic etc.

At one point about 20 minutes after my allocated appointment time, a girl and boy of probably about 18 or 19, came in together and sat down in the seats at ninety degrees to me. Almost as soon as they sat down, they both got their mobile phones out their pockets and proceeded to use their phone to send/receive messages for at least the next 10 minutes (I got called at that point), never uttering a word to one another, and never stopping to look up at either one another or anyone else in the waiting area.

conversationI’ve thought a lot about these two since my hospital appointment, and keep thinking about so many of those who have grown up with technology and social media a standard fixture in their life, seem to be unable to go without it for more than a few minutes at a time, and seem unwilling or unable to interact with people face to face. To be honest it wouldn’t surprise me if these two were actually messaging each other even though they were sitting next to each other!

Are we slow but surely losing the ability to hold a conversation with one another face to face? Is the availability of social media to everyone slowly killing the art of conversation?

I believe that social media has opened up a whole to world of possibilities to us, however I also believe that for many who have not known a world without social media, they will struggle to hold a “normal” conversation with others face to face, simply because they are not used to talking to a real person!

I hope I’m wrong, as where would we be if we can’t even talk to one another anymore?!

Yesterday in Outward Appearance I spoke about how we can often judge people based on what they look like. It’s said that when we meet someone, we have formed an opinion of them within  the first few minutes of meeting them.

I don’t know about you, but I find that quite scary, as I tend to be quite quiet when I first meet someone as I’m not particularly good at attempting to make conversion with people I don’t know. If you know me personally, I don’t know if that last statement surprises you or not – All I can say is that maybe I do a good job of hiding how much I feel “out of my comfort zone” when meeting new people, but believe me, I’m shaking and petrified inside!

The good news is God doesn’t go on His first impression of us, as He already know exactly who we are and what we are like, as He made us!

Unfortunately unlike God, we don’t know what others are like until we meet them, however we can make sure that no matter what our first impression of someone is, we are willing and able to get to know and understand what someone is really like, as first impressions, aren’t necessarily accurate!first-impression

I’m sure having read the title of this post you’ve already had a dark depressing image come into you mind. So just to be sure you image is what I want, here’s the full phrase

Dark and cheerless is the morn

Dark heavy black skies, rain, thunder, windy… all words that come to my mind on reading those words.

But I’m sure your image will change when I tell you the next part of the phrase

Dark and cheerless is the morn unaccompanied by Thee

Wow, the image is so much brighter now isn’t it? By adding one line to the words, the image is so much brighter. Similarly, our lives may be difficult and stressful, however by adding one thing, God, our life, although it may not be any less stressful or difficult, will be easier because God will walk beside us through everything life throws our way.

Without God in our life, our lives may well be “dark and cheerless”, so let God brighten your life by being the centre of your life.

I get those fleeting, beautiful moments of inner peace and stillness – and then the other 23 hours and 45 minutes of the day, I’m a human trying to make it through in this world. ~ Ellen DeGeneres

StruggleYep, I know what she means!

I’ve been finding these last few weeks and months increasingly difficult, and yes, each day is a challenge – A challenge to get through and a challenge to keep myself well occupied all day so I don’t have too long to dwell on some of the events that are affecting me and my family.

Don’t get me wrong, every day I try my best to “put on my public face” and face another day, and many days I manage this with no problem at all. I’m actually quite sure that the majority of those I encounter during my day, they are completely unaware of my struggle, just to get through each day…but if I’m honest, that’s how I like it. I’m not the kind of person who likes lots of attention, nor am I the kind of person who doesn’t mind showing my emotions in public…in fact this is one of my worst nightmares!

I’m being open about this today, as I know I am certainly not alone in feeling like this. We all have things that bring us down: bereavement, illness, unemployment, financial concerns etc etc. So today my message is simply to say, it’s ok to find each day a struggle, because it happens to us all sometimes!

Being sad with the right people is better than being happy with the wrong ones ~ Philippos

So true.

If you’re sad or upset, you need people around you who will support you and care for you. Sadly however I’m sure we’ve all found ourselves with people who don’t seem to care about us when we’re most in need of support. But have you realised these are not the people you should be calling “true friends”?

Therefore make sure those you call true friends are people you know and trust will be there for you in your times of need, because if they’re not, don’t leave it until you need a friend most, to find out they don’t really care for you.

True friends will be there for you during your lowest times as well as during your happiest moments, I hope you’ve found some true friends!

I had a bit of a rant on Thursday night on Twitter and Facebook after reading several posts some Christian friends had posted in their timeline on Facebook. I ended up apologising later for my comments as I receiving several private messages from others who accused me of dismissing things which others felt were important to them, just because I felt they weren’t important – this couldn’t have been further from the truth or further from the reason for my rant in the first place!


I do know and do understand that we all consider different things to be important and meaningful to us and this wasn’t the part that annoyed me about the original posts. What annoyed me was actually the wording of the posts, where they described what can only be considered to be standard life events and therefore, in my opinion, their comments were very over the top.

Had you not read the whole posts made by these people, you would have thought they had received some life threatening or life altering news, when in fact, the events referred to were only ones which, would affect their lives…but only to the extent of giving them a little more work to do on a daily basis and would require a bit more planning from them, not the significant life changing impact implied by their pleads for our thoughts/prayers for them.

Sorry this all sounds a bit cryptic, but I obviously don’t want to be too specific about the posts I’m referring to as I certainly do not want to upset/annoy anyone anymore than I may already have done.

gods_planMy main objection to their posts was actually that they wanted us to pray for a specific outcome to an event as any other outcome would make things very difficult for them. I should explain that the posts I’m referring to were made by Christians, and therefore I have to question why were they asking us to pray for an outcome they wanted to a specific event? i.e. Was the outcome they desired actually God’s plan for their lives or simply their own plans/desires, because the outcome they wanted would make their life easier?

Maybe I just found all this annoying because I’m feeling so emotional and sensitive just now as I’m still trying to come to terms with the bereavement of two close family members since the end of February, plus several other major issues/concerns. Yes, I maybe shouldn’t have reacted as I did in such a public forum, but the posts just seem to be such a kick in the teeth to the many people we all know of, who are having to cope with major life changing or life threatening events in their lives…and what about all those in this world who find it a daily struggle to feed, clothe and put a roof over the heads of those they love!

The bottom line is, choose your words carefully when you are looking for support from others, as pleading for prayerful support for situations where God’s plan in your life seems to have been completely forgotten or ignored, is not the way prayer should be utilised. Pray for God’s will to be done in your life, not plead with God to allow your desires to be granted.

Let’s make sure we talk to God about His plans for our lives, accept His plans and not plead with Him to chance His plans just because it suits us better.