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The last couple of days I’ve been talking about the fear of failure that affects so many people. Having talked about why some fear failure, I now want to focus on some possible ways to help overcome a fear of failure.

It’s all about goals and targets!

Start by setting small achievable goals that will help you build your confidence. Having set a goal, start thinking about all the possible outcomes, positive and negative, and rationally consider what may happen, developing contingency plans as you go. As you go through these possible outcomes you’ll hopefully find answers/solutions to all possible negative scenarios, in turn helping you thinking positively.

Repeat these steps by setting another goal, and then another goal. By moving forward slowly and steadily, you’ll begin to overcome your fear of failure.

Good luck!

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Don’t fear failure

I’m guilty of fearing failure but I do try my best to stop myself from being scared of failing. It can be difficult fearing failure. That’s why it’s important that we redefine failure as feedback, and regard it was a natural part of having a successful life.

Michael Jordan once said:

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games, 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

So this is why we must use every failure as a valuable lesson by asking ourselves each time we suffer failure, what can I learn from this?

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Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Remember your successes

 

We are all guilty at times of focusing on situations/events when things didn’t quite go as we’d hoped or planned. While it’s good to review these times and learn from them, it is just as important to remind ourselves of our successes and all the handwork and effort we put into achieving those successes.

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Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Compare yourself only with yourself                                                                                                                                              

Today’s suggestion follows on from last week’s where I suggested it was not a good idea to compare yourself with others.

As I said before, comparing yourself with others can really kill your motivation, as there are always others who will be ahead of you in something.  Therefore just focus on yourself and how you can go about improving yourself.

Look back over past failures and evaluate where you went wrong and focus on the those areas so you can avoid similar mistakes/failures in the future. While you’re look back, take note of where you were and compare this to where you are now, you’ll probably amaze yourself about how far you’ve already come, and that will be great motivation for you.

Look-How-far

 

scotland-v-poland-football-uefa-euro-2016-qualifier_3361112If there’s one thing Scotland supporters have had to get used to over the years, it’s failing even when it seemed we had succeeded!

In the last couple of weeks we suffered two glorious failures again when both our football team failed to qualify for next year’s European championships finals despite being 2-1 up against Poland with just seconds to go, we conceded a very late goal which meant there was no chance of us to qualify for the finals.

Then a few days later our ruby team faced Australia in the quarter finals of the rugby world cup. At the start of the game the odds were firmly stacked against Scotland to beat Australia, but with less than 2 minutes to go Scotland were 2 points up and looking good to win the game…but then we failed to win our own line out and then disaster, the referee scotland v australia rugby world cup quarter final 2015awarded Australia a controversial penalty which they duly converted just before the final whistle sounded.

Another two disappointments for Scottish football and rugby fans. We’re all gutted we’ve missed out, but next time round we’ll be behind the teams once again, cheering them on, regardless of how well or otherwise they do.

So c’mon Scotland, let’s not be so close and then fail again, let’s be successful and qualify!

life's failures

 

When you look back on your life, can you think of any times when you gave up on something, when actually looking back at it now, you were probably so very close to success?

If you answered “yes” to that question, I bet you feel disappointed with yourself for giving up when you did. Just as I said in yesterday’s blog post Breakdown, I guess it’s at times when we are about to give up, that if we just force ourselves to keep going just for a little longer, we may just make that ultimate breakthrough, and gain success in whatever we were trying to achieve.

So when you feel like giving up, and giving in to failure, keep going just for a little longer, as you never know that little extra effort may be the difference between success and failure!

It’s simple

Posted: November 2, 2014 in life, love, planning, quotes, Relationships, religion
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It still amazes me when I think of all the things I’ve done and do wrong in my life, yet God still loves me. Not only does He still love me, but because I’ve put my faith in Him, He helps me become a better person.

Let God turn your life around, by giving Him your all today.

 

Has anyone every told you that they “believe in you”?

What does that even mean? It means someone believes in your capability to complete a task or set of tasks, normally when the pressure is on.

Whether anyone has ever actually said these words to you or not, I’m sure you can understand that someone stating that to you may either give you confidence and spur you on, or terrify you and make you scared that you’ll fail.

If you are scared of failing, doesn’t that make it more likely that you will fail?

Don’ t we have to have confidence in ourselves and our own abilities to achieve difficult or pressurised tasks? Having said that, one of the worst things you could do  is be over-confident in your abilities, as just like not being confident at all, over confidence is just as likely to be your downfall when the pressure is on.

So be realistic about your abilities and be confident in them, because you can achieve your goals, and the goals set for you by others, if you have confidence in your ability.

Believe in yourself!

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Have you ever attempted something and then because you fail on your first attempt, you give up and don’t try again?

I think we’ve all done that at some time or another!

Winston Churchill once said

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts

and it’s so true isn’t it – just because we fail at something doesn’t mean we should give up; just because we are successful at something doesn’t mean it will last; and finally when we have the strength and courage to try again or simply carry on, that is what really counts.

Courage

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts. ~ Winston Churchill

So often in life when we fail, we stop and give up, however we should always treat our failures as lessons. Lessons that we learn from, as by doing this we will become stronger people, ready to face whatever challenges we may face in the future.

Be strong, don’t let failure stop you trying to achieve your dreams.

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