Posts Tagged ‘Forgive and Forget’

I’m not entirely sure why, but I’ve found myself thinking about my life now, and how that compares to what my life was like when I was much younger.

In doing that, I’ve wondered, if I was able to give my younger self some advice or information to help them, what would that be. So today I want to share with you another three bits of advise I’d want to give my younger self:

  1. Love, laugh and enjoy life – you only get one chance at it
  2. Spend as much time as possible with those you love, because you never know when it might be the last time you see or speak to them
  3. Forgive and forget as no good can come out of holding grudges

How about you, what advise would you give your younger self?

forgiveThis week at work I was on a recruitment training course and as part of that course we had to consider whether we would offer a post to an individual if specific circumstances existed. One of the examples was someone who had a spent  conviction for fraud – I have to say I was the only one in the group who said that if the person was the best candidate for the job, I would offer them the post as their conviction was spent, so they had served their time and their past should no longer be held against them.

The following illustrates this:

Don’t judge a person by their past. They don’t necessarily live there anymore.

In thinking about this, it got me thinking about God and how no matter what we may have done in our past, God can and will forgive us and welcome into His family with open arms. God doesn’t care about our past, He simply cares about our present and our future, so why should we think we know better than God and hold someone’s past against them.? After all, what someone has done in their past is not necessarily what they would do now or in the future.

Let’s give everyone a second, and third and a fourth chance, because if God is willing to do so, so should we!

I spoke yesterday (in Forgiveness) how it’s important to forgive those who hurt you and how I hope others are just as willing to forgive me when I do wrong. Well since posting yesterday’s blog post I read the following in someone’s Twitter feed:

Take ur hurt and rejection to Jesus. Forgive those who hurt and reject you.

It reinforces my sentiment that it is important to forgive those who hurt you. Equally important is the other thing stated in this quote, that it is just as important, if not more so, to take all our hurts and disappointments to Jesus.

Why is that important?

How can we ever hope to more on in our lives if we hold onto past hurts and disappointments, because they will eat away at us and never allow you to truly forgive and forget others past indiscretions.

Take all your hurt, all your fears, all your disappointments to Jesus and leave them with Him, as He will take away your pain.

Yesterday I asked what mercy was and then went on to give you several definitions of mercy. Today I ask you another question that I often find goes hand in hand with mercy, and that is what is forgiveness?

So here’s the dictionary definition of forgiveness:

  • the act of forgiving or the state of being forgiven
  • willingness to forgive

I also found some similes about forgiveness which I found helpful to increase my understanding:

  • Forgiving the unrepentant is like drawing pictures in water — Japanese proverb
  • (God) pardons like a mother who kisses away the repentant tears of her child — Henry Ward Beecher
  • Forgiving without forgetting is like loving without liking — Anon

Personally I liked the third simile best. i.e. Forgiving without forgetting is like loving without liking.

Forgiveness must come from the heart to be true, that’s why if it doesn’t come from the heart you will find you never truly can put it into the past and forget about it.

How many times have you heard someone say “I’ll regret that for the rest if my life”?

I’m sure that each one of us have done things we’re not proud of, said something we shouldn’t have or not said something when we should have.

Do not brood over your past mistakes or failures as this will fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future.

Swami Sivananda

Whatever events or situations we regret, we must not let them take over our present or indeed our future, after all whatever our regrets, they are about something in the past. i.e. Something which cannot be changed – Yes, we can take action to improve the current situation caused by the event, but we can never change the actual event itself because it is in the past.

So what should we do? Move on, accept our mistakes, learn from them, but most of all leave them in our past. After all I’m sure that’s what others would want us to do with any hurt they may previously have caused us too!

And how do we move on? As I said in yesterday’s blog post, No Regrets, by giving your life to Jesus – give Him all your problems, all your burdens, both past and present. By doing this God can help you turn your life around, so that you can live your life to the full, without regrets.

1 Peter 5:7 (Amplified Bible)

Casting the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully.

Laugh your heart out, dance in rain, cherish the moment, live, laugh, love, forgive and forget – life’s too short to be living with regrets.

Good advice, but not the easiest advice to put into practice is it?

Yes it sounds great and would be wonderful if we could all actually live without regrets, but unfortunately as humans, life itself can make it so very hard to laugh, love, forgive and forget.

So what can we do to try and live our life to the fullest, and live without any regrets? Give your life to Jesus – give Him all your problems, all your burdens, both past and present. By doing this God can help you turn your life around, so that you can live your life to the full by forgiving and forgetting and laughing and loving.

1 Peter 5:7 (New Living Translation)

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you

So give your heart to Jesus today and he will take all your cares away.

I Don’t Regret by Barlowgirl

They’re telling me they’re concerned for the way I am living
That I’ll miss it all why would I think that God is that trusting
I can’t explain all the words He has spoken to my heart
Why’d I want him more

I don’t regret choosing you
And I’m not ashamed
That it’s You who holds my heart

Why do we think if we trust God too much will fail us
Nothing has come when I chose its that in me I’d trust
Separate me You have called out to follow You blindly
I won’t fear You’re leading me

I don’t regret choosing You
And I’m not ashamed
That it’s You who holds my heart

You have shown my ever wondering heart what love is
What on earth is more important than to have all of you

I don’t regret choosing you
And I’m not ashamed
That it’s You who holds my heart