Posts Tagged ‘friend’

Yesterday, in Only One, I asked you if you how many brothers or sisters, and then spoke about relationships with our family and siblings.

A similar question today – Do you consider your Christian friends to be your brothers and sisters in Christ?

If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?
And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their Christian brothers and sisters. (1 John 4:20-21)

If we truly love God, we must not make up any reasons why we cannot love our brothers and sisters in Christ. Having said that, we are only human, so we do find it difficult to love everyone. We must therefore ask God to give us understanding and patience in all our relationships so that we can be the kind of person He wants us to be – The kind of person who loves everyone, even those who would do their best to be our enemies.

How many are there in your immediate family?

Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Well, as some of will know, I don’t have any brothers or sisters so I’m an only child. I therefore have no idea what it’s like to have grown up with brothers or sisters – to play with, fight with, confide in and of course love.

When I was growing up, nearly all my friends had brothers or sisters. So I felt different because I never experienced the same childhood relationships with siblings that my friends did. These days I still sometimes wish I had brothers or sisters so I had someone to confide in, someone to talk to, particularly now my Mum and Dad are no longer here.

As I have no brothers or sisters, I’m also never going to be an aunt to anyone – I would have loved that, as I know from my own experience with my Aunt Mae, how special a relationship an aunt can have with their niece or nephew.

So for those of you who do have brothers or sisters, remember how lucky you are – even although you may argue and fight with your siblings and you may lead very different lives from your siblings – they are still your family so I’m sure you all still love one another, even if you wouldn’t openly say that to one another!

1 Timothy 5:5 (NIV)

If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

The love between you and your brothers and sisters should be everlasting, because they are your family!

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7 NIV)

We are reminded in the above scripture passage that no matter what situation we find ourselves in, we must pray.

It sounds so easy doesn’t it, whether going through some tough times or everything in your life is going great, spend time each day in prayer to God. Sadly though, when things get tough instead of turning to prayer as our first resort, we can often find ourselves spending less and less time in prayer.

We really do need to remind ourselves daily that “the peace of God…will guard your hearts and minds”, so why should we fear anything!



Is there a heart o’er-bound by sorrow?
Is there a life weighed down by care?
Come to the cross–each burden bearing,
All your anxiety–leave it there.

All your anxiety, all your care,
Bring to the mercy seat–leave it there;
Never a burden He cannot bear,
Never a friend like Jesus.

No other friend so keen to help you,
No other friend so quick to hear;
No other place to leave your burden,
No other one to hear your prayer.

Come then at once–delay no longer!
Heed His entreaty kind and sweet;
You need not fear a disappointment–
You shall find peace at the mercy seat.

Your Grace Still Amazes Me performed here by the International Staff Songsters of the Salvation Army

My faithful Father, enduring friend Your-Grace-Still-Amazes-Me
Your tender mercy is like a river with no wind
It overwhelms me covers my sin
Each time I come into your presence I stand in wonder once again
Your grace still amazes me
Your love is still a mystery
Each day I fall on my knees
’cause your grace still amazes me
Your grace still amazes me

Oh patient saviour, you make me whole
You are the author and the healer of my soul
What can I give you lord what can I say
I know there’s no way to repay you only to offer you my praise 

Your grace still amazes me
Your love is still a mystery
Each day I fall on my knees
Cause your grace still amazes me
Your grace still amazes me

Its deeper, it’s wider, it’s stronger, it’s higher
Its deeper, it’s wider, it’s stronger, it’s higher
Than anything my eyes can see

Your grace still amazes me
Your love is still a mystery
Each day I fall on my knees
Cause your grace still amazes me
Your grace still amazes me

Does God’s grace still amaze you?

If not, it’s time to fall on your knees and ask Him to help you rediscover His grace.

If His grace does still amaze you, it’s time to fall on your knees and praise Him.

A common answer to my questions regardless of where you are in your Christian experience…kneel down before God.


There are many people all over the world, children and adults, who do not consider themselves to have any friends. Then there are many who consider themselves to have friends, but those friendships are build purely on lies or control, and so are false friendships.

How those people crave for real friends – friends they can rely on in times of need; friends they can talk to when they need a listening ear; friends they can trust with the darkest secrets.

Therefore those of us who are lucky enough to have friends, true friends, don’t ever take them for granted – tell them what they mean to you, don’t just assume they know; love them and care for them as you would want them to love/care for you; be honest and trustworthy with them and don’t ever let them down.

In summary, don’t ever take your friends for granted, cherish and nurture them always.

We all have family, some we’ve met other’s we don’t even know about. However as a follower of God, we are part of an even bigger family…God’s family!

Are you part of God’s family?

In my blog post yesterday Respite Prayer Request, I asked those who pray, pray for my Mum and Dad this coming week as my Dad goes for a week’s respite care, and as always, I was amazed by the response I got from you all – lots of you contacted me and told me you would pray for my family just as I’d asked. But what always amazes me even more, is that many of you who have never met me or my family, yet when asked to pray for us, you readily agree.

…that’s the power of being part of God’s family, and knowing the power of God’s love.

Matthew 5:9 (The Message)

You’re blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That’s when you discover who you really are, and your place in God’s family.


Thank you all for your support in prayer.


The last few days I’ve spoken about the value of friendships and the wonderful feeling it can give you when you find a true friendship particularly when that friendship turns out to be a lasting friendship.

How about those friendship which end, how do they make you feel? We often feel upset, hurt and let down when friendships end, and none of these feelings are very pleasant are they.

Personally I’ve been there, got the t-shirt etc, I’ve had friendships that have end. Some I’ve got over very quickly others although the relationship broke down a while ago, still hurt when I think about them. I’ve even got one friendship which is still very painful whenever I see the person(s) concerned as they are quite simply rude and seem to want to continue to hurt me, and this was a person(s) that was a very good and close friend for many years.

Have you had this awful experience too, or have you experience something worse?

Whatever our experiences of broken friendships, I think we would all agree that it hurts when a friendship fails.

All I can say to you is stick in there, there are plenty of people out there who could be a true friend to you, as those “friends” you’ve lost were sadly not meant to be you friend for life.

So who else is there that we can always rely on as a friend who will never let you down or hurt you..


What do consider the best thing you can do for a friend?

I recently read the following which got me thinking about the above question:

The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend – Henry David Thoreau

Yes this statement is good, but personally I don’t believe being someone’s friend is the best thing I can do for a friend. In my opinion, the best thing I can ever do for a friend, is pray for them.

This might seem like a really daft answer to many of you, but for me as a Christian, I truly believe there is only one person who can be all we all need each and every day, and that is God. Therefore for my friends, praying for them is the best I can do for them, because God is the best friend of all.

Over the last week or so I’ve posted a number of blog posts about angels and friendship:

If you’ve read all the above blog posts you’ll probably have realised that I really do believe that God sends us angels to give us help and support. So here’s my question for you?


Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)

One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

I hope that you may have the joy of experiencing an angel in your life, as although God may have sent you the angel during a difficult time in your life, it will be truly a wonderful experience for you as they will uplift you and give you the love, support and friendship you may be in need of.

Friendships are things we should cherish, because you never know when you may be in need of a real friend. Look after your friends, pray for them, pray for your friendships.

I hope you enjoy the following song He Sends Me An Angel sung here by The Three Sopranos:

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. (Elisabeth Foley)
When you have a true friend, have you noticed that you can go for days, even weeks on end without speaking to one another, but when you next speak/meet, it’s as if you’ve never been apart. That truly is a sign a of good friendship.
Do you have any friendships like this?
I hope you don’t take these friendships for granted as some people are not as fortunately as us to have someone they can call a true friend in their life.
Pray for your friends regularly, pray for your friendships/relationships with them, because if God is part of your friendship it will be a friendship to cherish forever.