Posts Tagged ‘hurt’

We all struggle with difficulties in life sometimes, but how do we treat others when we see they are struggling?

When we struggle that’s when we’re most in need of the love and support of our fellow Christians, but sadly, this is when many find their fellow Christians don’t seem interested in helping or supporting them, and in fact turn their back on them.

How sad is that? Is this how Christ would treat someone who was struggling? I really doubt that – He instead would hold out His arms and lovingly embrace them, wouldn’t he?

Just like anyone who is hurting, a Christian also needs the love and support of those around them. Surely it’s not unreasonable for them to expect their fellow Christians to love and support them, and pray for them. At these times, praying for the person isn’t enough – we must show them Christian love too.

I know from my own experience that when I’m hurting and life is overwhelming me, what I really need is someone just to give me a hug, show their support and reassure me all will be well.

Spread some Christian love today. Reach out and show some love to someone who is hurting…it could well mean the world to them!


I Need Love by Sonicflood

You know who I am inside
You know when I lie
You can tell when I’m amazed
You can see my faith
You know when I don’t believe
You know when I’m free
You can tell when I need love
You know I’m in need

Love, I need love
You are love
I need You
Love, You are love
I need love
I need You

You know of my deepest fear
You know when I’m scared
You can read my empty page
You can feel my rage
You’re aware of when I dream
You see when I bleed
You can tell when I need love
You know I’m in need

I know we need You, Father
Much more than any other
Your love brings us together
We need You, we need You

Love, we need love
You are love
We need You
Love, You are love
We need love
We need You I need You.

You know who I am inside…

Once again since Christmas, we’ve been trying to clear out the house a bit, as we seem to have accumulated things which either we’ve never used in years, or have forgotten we had bought, and therefore we don’t really need. Why is it that we hold onto so many things “just in case we need it”, because over all these years I could count on one hand the number of times that “just in case” moment has every happened!

It can be hard work to clearing out cupboards/wardrobes/attics of things we no longer need in our lives, sometimes made harder because we come across items which remind us of specific people, situations or events and that can cause us to reminisce and sometimes upset us and distract us from what we’re trying to do.

Maybe at the start of this new year, we need to not only clear out our physical belongs but also clear out our hearts and minds of hurts and disappointments that we are still holding onto. By holding onto hurts and disappointments and not giving them over to God, my guess would be that, if we’re honest with ourselves, they are probably still causing us more pain and hurt because we are still holding onto them.

So this new year why not clear out your emotional baggage as well as your physical belongs by giving them all to God and leaving them there, because in doing so you will feel as though a burden has been lifted from you.


Take all of these impurities
Giving You this wretched soul
I’m giving You these insecurities
Giving You all control

When someone says or does something that hurts you, how do you feel? Do you feel in a position to try to help others then, or is that the last thing on your mind?

I recently read the following quote from Joyce Meyer, which I found quite helpful:

I really believe that something happens on the inside of us – there’s a breakthrough for us – when we reach out to the hurting people…especially when we’re hurting ourselves.

I have found through my own experiences, that through my own suffering, and times of hurt, I understand better how others who are hurting feel, and therefore I’m in a far better position to actually reach out and help others who are hurting, simply because I understand how it feels to hurt.

I pray today that God will help me reach out to those who are hurting and offer them the support and help they need.

Do you think God is ever disappointed with what we say and do?

I am certain if we are honest with ourselves and with God, we are all guilty of disappointing God on many occasions.

What do you think disappoints God most?

I obviously can’t answer that questions, however I can say that as far as I’m concerned I find it very disappointing and annoying when people who say they are Christians so and do things either to another Christian or about other Christians which hurt and upset them…after all aren’t we Christians supposed to be working together against wrong, to tell the world about Jesus and what He can do for them!

Let’s make sure we support and encourage one another rather than hurt and upset each other, as we need to save our energy to spread God’s message to the world.


The last few days my blog posts have focused on bereavement, and how, even when coping with that situation, we can do so with hope, knowing we will see our loved ones again in heaven.

But for each of us, how do they help people who are hurting either due to bereavement or other events?

Firstly some words from the bible:

Remember those who are suffering, as though you were suffering as they are ~ Hebrews 13:3 (Good News Translation)

Is that the key, to try to understand the pain and hurt the person is feeling?

I’d say yes, as without trying to understand how and why the person is feeling pain, there is no way we can truly understand how they are feeling. So does that mean unless we’ve been in that same situation as the person, we can’t possibly understand their pain?

No, with God‘s help we can be the support and strength the person requires to get through their darkest moments. We may not have been in the situation the person’s currently in, but God can give us the words and actions to provide the comfort and strength needed for those who are hurting.

 Your children!

There are plenty of people who would love to have children but for one reason or another are unable to.

There are loads of people who have children but because of family circumstances they never see or have contact with their children.

There are those who have sadly lost their children…I’m sure they think of their children daily.

Isn’t it sad that there can be so many people around us who are grieving in some way for children; whether that be a child that has died, a child they have lost contact with, or indeed a child they have never even had!

Isn’t it even sadder that we hear and see so many stories in the news of people who have physically or emotionally abused a child…a child who in many instances, probably trusted that adult to look after and care for them, but instead did unspeakable thing to them which the child will never fully recover from.

It’s because of this that I urge you to never ever take your children for granted…by “your children” I of course am not just talking about any children you are the parent of, but also any children who is in your care at any time!

Children should be able to trust adults to look after and care for them, and teach/show them only what is good, it’s therefore down to us to make sure we do all we can to make sure we do all we can for the children.

A couple of weeks ago I spoke a few times about how people like to put labels on things…objects and people!

In this last week I become all to aware once again that people are very quick to put labels on others. What has become very visible to me is that people tend to put labels of others that they know very little about. In other words, it’s as if the impression they get of someone is based on nothing more than what they see or hear, rather than on actually getting to know and understand the person in question.

As I said in Labels Can Stick, once people put a label on you, it can be difficult to get rid of it, not least because the person who gave you that label already has a preconceived idea of who/what you are and can often be unwilling to consider their initial thoughts are incorrect, and that can really hurt deeply.

So what do you do when you find out you have been mislabeled?

The first thing I would say is, does it matter that you’ve been mislabeled?

Secondly, does it matter to you that a particular person has mislabeled you?

Whatever your answer to these questions, you’ve got a difficult job ahead, trying to change someone’s opinion of you. Having said that though, if the label was definitely inaccurate, the real you should shine through and show that person that they got you wrong – Please note, this make take some time!

In conclusion, can I urge you not to label others, particularly those you know very little about other than in a specific situation. e.g. member of a sports club, work, school, church etc. We must never judge others, so please join me in trying to stop mislabeling!

The last few days I’ve spoken about the value of friendships and the wonderful feeling it can give you when you find a true friendship particularly when that friendship turns out to be a lasting friendship.

How about those friendship which end, how do they make you feel? We often feel upset, hurt and let down when friendships end, and none of these feelings are very pleasant are they.

Personally I’ve been there, got the t-shirt etc, I’ve had friendships that have end. Some I’ve got over very quickly others although the relationship broke down a while ago, still hurt when I think about them. I’ve even got one friendship which is still very painful whenever I see the person(s) concerned as they are quite simply rude and seem to want to continue to hurt me, and this was a person(s) that was a very good and close friend for many years.

Have you had this awful experience too, or have you experience something worse?

Whatever our experiences of broken friendships, I think we would all agree that it hurts when a friendship fails.

All I can say to you is stick in there, there are plenty of people out there who could be a true friend to you, as those “friends” you’ve lost were sadly not meant to be you friend for life.

So who else is there that we can always rely on as a friend who will never let you down or hurt you..


In the last couple of days I’ve looked at things that cause us to shed a tear (in Tears) and at how words can cause great hurt and upset but can also be a source of great comfort (in The Power of Words. So words are an important means of communication to us, they can comfort, encourage, teach, direct, advise. We must use them wisely.

The Bible is God‘s means of communicating with us through the medium of the written word, and as such should be a source of great inspiration, direction anc comfort for every Christian.

I read the following recently:

There are things to see in the Word of God that our eyes can only see through the lens of tears – John Piper

When I first read this statement it confused me, and so I spent some time thinking about what it actually meant – I may not have understood this sentence in the manner intended by the writer, however he’s what I took out of this statement:

Much of what we read in the bible can be interpreted and understood at any time, whenever it is read, however there are some parts of the bible that we can only truly understand when we have actually experienced specific situations/events. i.e. We have to have been there, got the t-shirt. In other words we must have felt those same emotions and shed some tears, to truly understand God’s message.

Let your emotions allow you to feel and understand God’s message to you today. Take a fresh look at the Bible and experience it through your own life experiences.

You Write The Words by FFH

I don’t know what to say
That hasn’t already been said
I don’t know what to write
That hasn’t already been read
I don’t know what to play
That You haven’t already heard
So here’s my song, You write the words
Here’s my heart, You write the words

Amazing Grace has already been written
Jesus saves has been done before
And the Hallelujah Chorus
Has been sung a million times or more
So who am I to make any difference
Tell me why I pour out my heart
And struggle for the words
That I know might not go very far


There are days when I sing for the masses
When my songs get repeated back to me by thousands
And there are days when I know
That the only one who hears me is You
So what do I do – when


here’s my life you write the words

Child Abuse

Posted: April 18, 2010 in Health, life
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I find it very difficult to comprehend how anyone could ever want to intentionally hurt a child – they are small defenceless human being who trust those around them for all they need.

Food, water, milk, warmth, shelter, protection and most of all love – these are just a few of the essential things every child needs.

I’ve been asked a few times, why God allows people to abuse children, and I find it very difficult to answer that simply because it such a sensitive topic – My answer to this question is God does not allow people to abuse children, people make their own decision to abuse children. God cannot stop people from doing what they want, but He can use you and me to try to reach out to the world and help those in need: the children in danger, those who hurt their children.

If you know of any child in danger, please help that child by calling the authorities – You could save their life!

Silent Cries
Lord can you hear the silent cries
Of a soul that’s been abused?
Do you see the bleeding wound
Of one that’s battered and bruised?
Do you see the wounded spirit
Broken by someone’s lust?
Now finding it hard to function at all
Bearing scars of broken trust
Do you see the child that faces
Ridicule and hurtful words?
Being told they’re useless and unworthy
Is all that some have heard
Often all these things that happen
Lie buried deep inside
Where nobody hears the silent crying
Nor sees the pain they hide
We often ask through anger and hurt
And through tears the questions ‘Why’
And where was God in the midst of this?
Did He hear my cry?
And why Lord did you not respond
And stop the evil done?
Did your heart break in two
Like it must have for your Son?
I guess we may never know
Why we go through so much pain
All we can be really sure of Lord
Is your love remains the same
I’m sure it must have hurt you Lord
To see your child suffer
And to see them still dealing with
The inflicted sin of another
Lord I pray they’d be released
And wholeness be restored
And that they’ll know fullness of life
That comes from you O Lord
By M.S.Lowndes