Posts Tagged ‘influence’

From the moment we are born, we learn words and actions from those around us. That trend continues throughout our lives, our thoughts and feels are moulded by how the people around us react to situations.

That’s why we need to be careful that we surround ourselves with those who are good influences on us. Otherwise we will get into the habit of saying or doing things which we would normally not want to do or say. So be careful what you see and hear, because they will influence who are become.

Do you ever find yourself talking to yourself?

I have, so I suspect many of us have done this at one time or another.

So think back to times when you’ve been talking to yourself, did you really listen to what you were telling yourself? Were your own ‘words of wisdom’ really words of wisdom or were they really thoughts that you don’t really want to be having?

So be careful what you listen to, including the words you say to yourself, because they may influence you in a way you don’t want.

Make your words to others, and to yourself, positive and helpful, otherwise neither others or yourself will want to come to you for help.

I don’t know about you, but I often feel that I am not a positive influence on others. I’d even go as far as saying that there are times when my actions/reactions shock me in, as if I’m honest, they can only be described as unchristian like…and that more than anything disappoints and upsets me.

I consider myself a Christian and as such I do try to live a Christlike life, as I’m sure you’ll agree, life can throw situations our way that test us and stretch our resolve to the limits.

positive influencesSo imagine my surprised and privilege recently, when someone I least expected, came to me privately and asked me for some help and guidance “because they trusted and respected me because I am a Christian and attend the Salvation Army“. I felt truly humbled to have been thought of in this way.

I can only hope that God gave me the right words for them at that time as although I see that person many times, I have no idea whether I will ever know whether our discussion helped in any way, so I can only hope and pray that if the situation arises again, I will, through God’s help, be able to give the support and guidance required.

I have prayed many times since then for that person and their family, and although I can’t share any more of the details of this situation with you publicly, I would ask you to pray for this person and their family.

We may think our words and actions go unnoticed, but my recent experience just goes to prove that people do notice us for the right reasons when we try our best to live as Christ wants us to live. So please keep on believing that you can be a positive influence in other lives, because I’ve proved that even I can be a positive influence on others, therefore so can you!

I’m sure like me, at various points in your life, you have had different people you would looked up to, people you considered to be your role model. Maybe one of the following:

Any of those suggestions triggering any memories, distant or recent, for you?

I remember when I was in my early teenage years, sitting in one of our Sunday services, I obviously wasn’t paying attention (oops!) to what was actually going on in the service as I was looking round those there identifying those who I felt had influenced my life in some way – and yes there were a few. Now thinking back on that occasion I find it quite scary to realise that I am now about the same age as some of those people I identified that day as influences on me!

Why do I find that scary? Well there may be some youngster sitting somewhere doing what I was doing that Sunday, and it scare me to think that they may be identifying me as their role model  – what a huge responsibility!

Am I a good role model? What can I do to ensure I am a good role model? All questions that have now been going through my mind. My answer – continue to trust God to guide me and prayer that others may see a little of Him through me.

We can all be role model for God today and everyday – you may be someone else role model and never know it, so be all you can be for God.

I read somewhere a few days ago that watching or listening to one hour of news each day adds up to us taking in 15 full days of negative information in a year.

Wow – 15 days of your life lost every year to negative information, just by listening/watching one hour of news each day.

So that’s accounted for one hour of each of your day, but what about the rest of your day, how much negative information do you take in during the rest of your day?

What are you allowing to influence you?

It can be difficult at times to ensure that we only allow positive people to surround us and influence us. Sometimes it can be members of our family, neighbours or work mates who bring us down.

So what can we do to stop the negative people influencing us?

Unfortunately I don’t have a magic answer to this question. All I can say is that we must try and not let the negativity from these folk get into our hearts. In other words we must try to stay positive no matter what others say or do.

I know it’s not easy to do that all the time, but with God‘s help we can stay strong and stay positive no matter what those around us are saying or doing.

Those who are parents or work with children, have an awesome responsibility to teach the children all they need to have a fantastic future. Doesn’t this all fit in with what I’ve been talking about the last few days…influence! We must ensure we are a positive influence on our children, and make sure we teach them right from wrong, good from evil.

God can and will teach us how and what to teach our children. Through God’s help not only can we be sure we are teaching well in life’s ways but also in God’s ways.

Raising Children For The Lord by M.S.Lowndes

It’s such an awesome privilege
And a big responsibility
God has given to us as parents
This wonderful opportunity
To raise our precious children
And instil into their lives
The wonder and amazement
of the love of Jesus Christ
So they will learn to trust in Him
And worship and to pray
To love others with the love of God
And to honour and obey
As parents we’ve been entrusted
To raise them in God’s love
To be there to encourage them
When they feel like giving up
And to be there just to listen
When life deals some painful blows
And comfort them when they feel afraid
And when tears begin to flow
To share with them those joyful times
The precious moments in their lives
When doors begin to open up
And opportunities arise
Through everything they face in life
Let’s be there cheering them on
For we only have one chance at this
For childhood soon is gone
So let’s rely on Father God
To raise them to become
Men or Women who trust in Him
And in His precious Son.


A beautiful song, one of my favourites by Kathryn Scott entitled Child of God fits in perfectly with my thoughts today:

We’ve been thinking about influences the last few days (Looking or Not and Your Influence), but today I want to focus your thoughts on those who have influenced you.

Who have been or are your biggest influences?

For each person you’ve identified as an influence in your life, consider the following:

  • Do they know how much they have influenced you? (don’t assume anything!)
  • Are they a positive or negative influence?

Positive Influencers

Positive influencers can be many things. Here’s a few examples:

  • make you feel happy
  • help you grow spiritually
  • mentor you in a work capacity

If they’ve been a good influence on you:

  • Have you told them that?
  • Have you thanked them?

Go on, tell them the next time you’re speaking to them, it may well make their day!

Negative Influencers

Negative influencers can be many things. Here’s a few examples:

  • make you feel worthless/useless
  • encourage you to do/say things that you don’t agree with
  • continually mood or talk negatively

How long have you know they are a negative influence you? Or have I just focused your thoughts so you could identify them for the first time?

Take control of your live! Don’t let negative influences continue to influence you. I don’t mean you have to stop talking to the people you feel are negative influences on you – I just think it’s more about you taking control of your life, and deciding for yourself what and who influences you. I have people in my life who are bad influences on me, so I know I need to take my own advice and not let these people influence me in this way any longer.

The Change by Steven Curtis Chapman:

C’mon, together we can overcome our negative influencers and be more positive people!

Your Influence

Posted: April 13, 2010 in life
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Following on from yesterday’s blog post (Looking or Not), I’ve been think about “influence”, and in particular who we influence.

Firstly, what is the dictionary definition of influence:

  • an effect of one person or thing on another
  • the power of a person or thing to have such an effect
  • power or sway resulting from ability, wealth, position, etc.
  • a person or thing having influence

So who do we influence?

The most obvious people who we influence are those we see and talk to each day. E.g. Our family, friends, work colleagues. Although that does not mean they are the only people we have an opportunity to influence. We have the opportunity and ability to influence everyone we meet in person and those who read any documentation or blogs etc that we write.

Have you ever noticed how if you spend a lot of time with someone, we pick up sayings or phrases that that particular person uses a lot, and start using them in our own conversations! So influence doesn’t need to be something we intentionally pass on to someone. In contrast when with children, you find most will intentionally try to influence the child by trying to teach/educate them, or show them new things.

Have you been a positive or negative influence on others?

So we all have the opportunity and ability to influence many people in our lifetime, but are we a positive or negative influence on them? Have a think about those you come into contact with and how you act/react, write, talk with them. Take note of those you think you have influence and take special note of those you feel you have influence in a negative way – Can you do anything to change that? If so, make a commitment to do something about it.

Be a positive influence on everyone you meet today, and every day!

This is a message every adult should read because children are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say. 


Who does so much for others, but thinks that no-one ever sees? Each of us – parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher, friend  – influences the life of a child. 

How will you touch the life of someone today? 

Just by reading this you will probably at least think about the influence you have on others, and by passing on the link to this post today, you get someone else thinking about if they influence others. 

  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I knew that there is a God I could always talk to, and I learned to trust in Him.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing, and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don’t.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it, and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn’t feel good, and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it’s all right to cry.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw that you cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I learned most of life’s lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.
  • When you thought I wasn’t looking, I looked at you and wanted to say,’Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking.’ 

Little eyes see a lot.

Live simply.

Love generously.

Care deeply.

Speak kindly.

Leave the rest to God.