Posts Tagged ‘Judgement’

Have you ever thought someone was avoiding you? Or maybe you’ve been the person that’s avoiding others?

Well maybe this might help you understand what might be going on.

I’d say I could say “Yes, that’s me”, to each of the 5 scenarios in this quote – Although some seem to have been full-time for a while.

The bottom line is, we never really know what others are going through, so don’t assume you know why someone is acting the way they are. Instead ask them if they’re ok, and when they tell you they’re fine, ask them again is they are ok. If they still tell you they’re fine, tell them you want to help them and ask them again if they’re ok.

Admitting openly to someone that you’re struggling, if often the hardest thing, even although you could do with the emotional support others may be able to offer you.

Are you the type of person who holds onto past hurts and continues to let these hurts upset us?

Are you the type of person who thinks about your past mistakes and continues to wishes you had made different choices even though it’s far to late to change the choice you made?

Do you continue to try to make some relationships more than they will ever be?

Do you feel others make judgements of you without actually getting to know you or hearing your side of a story?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, you are just like me, and need to let go the past, and move on, forgive those who’ve hurt you, forgive yourself for past mistakes, let go of relationships which were never meant to be and forget situations where others have in your opinion, misjudged you.

It’s not easy to do any of these things, however if we don’t let go of these things, they will eat away at us, and destroy us and our relationships.

So join me today in letting go of things from the past that we cannot change, and move on and make new relationships/friendships.

Letting-Go

It takes at least two people to have conversation.

There are two sides to every disagreement.

There are two sides to every argument.

So, given we know all the above, why do we have a tendency to still feel they don’t need to hear both sides of a disagreement before “taking sides”?

Why do people who are not involved in something, and not even present during a private conversation, automatically take one side in things when there’s a disagreement?

Why do we as human,s feel it’s our place to judge and label others because of their opinions?

Why do we think we really know and understand others when in reality, if we actually thought about it properly, we really know very little about most people as we only know them in a particular setting (e.g. sports club, socially, work, church, school etc), and in fact know very little or nothing at all about that person’s private life.

Think about how you’d feel if you found out someone thought certain things about you just because someone who hardly knows you has told them their opinion of you…you’d be hurt and upset wouldn’t you?

So don’t go taking sides in a disagreement/argument unless you’ve been present during it and have heard both sides of the disagreement from those involved. If you don’t, you’re in real danger of misjudging someone and therefore being unfair towards them and that can be fatal in many relationships.

So in conclusion, remember there are two sides to every disagreement or argument so don’t judge or take sides without hearing both sides from those who were actually involved.

don't jump to conclusions

I’ve spoken before about how we are all, at times, guilty of judging others by their appearance or their looks, without even taking the time to get to know the person – Other posts I’ve written on this subject include Don’t Judge Me and Judgement.

So when I came across the following statement, I wanted to share this with you, as it reminds us that although we humans are all guilty of judging others, often unfairly, God judges us on what’s important…what’s in our hearts!

Human beings judge one another by their external actions. God judges them by their moral choices.

Can you imagine a world where everyone judged themselves and not each other?

I’ve spoken before about how at times, we are all guilty of judging others based on either what we see or the little bit of their life that we know about. So can you imagine what life would really be like if no-one judged anyone else? It would be wonderful wouldn’t it?

I know that what I’m about to say, may sound simply like words that I’m just saying, rather than reality. However what I’m about to say is in fact the absolute truth, so don’t judge me! I’ve found myself in the last while, more and more aware of all my failings, and more aware of the times when I judge others unfairly or unnecessarily. I have being praying a lot that God will help me not to judge others, and I feel the very fact that I am able to identify these occasions shows God is working in me…I now just need His help to stop myself from actually judging others in the first place!

Even though God knows every little things about us, He still doesn’t judge us. So we must try to do the same. i.e. love everyone, and do not judge them.

I pray today that we will all look inside ourselves and judge ourselves before we even consider judging someone else, as we all have plenty of things in our own lives which we can greatly improve.

How many times have you found yourself judging someone because of what they have said or done?

Why do we do that?

…because we’re human!

However that doesn’t change the fact that judging others is wrong. As a Christian I believe that unless we are faultless ourselves we must not judge others, and as every single one of us is far from perfect in God‘s eyes, we should not judge others.

Having said that, as a Christian, it’s still difficult to refrain from judging others at times, but that still doesn’t make it ok to do so.

So what do we do? Like all our other human imperfections, it’s something we must ask God to help us with. Ask Him to help us to be better Christians. Christians who see the good in others rather than the imperfections. God can help us to help both ourselves and others to be more like Jesus.