Posts Tagged ‘listen’

Following on from yesterday’s blog post, I like to tell you about some other qualities you will find in a good listener:

  1. They carefully listen to the words used by the speaker, to get a better understanding of how the speaker is feeling. e.g. anger, hurt, despair, delight.
  2. They understand that everyone has different communication styles, and adjust their listening style to correspond to the speaker’s communication style. e.g. If the speaker is shy, they will try to draw the person out; but if they are talkative, they will interject more.
  3. They love people., and making a connection with them. They understand that there is simply no substitute for genuine affection for other people.
  4. They do not unreasonably question the motives of the speaker and assume the speaker is trying to communicate clearly and truthfully.
  5. They understand that sometimes they have to tell the speaker that they cannot listen to them as what they are saying or talking about is wicked or dangerous or goes against their beliefs. i.e. They use their common sense.
  6. They don’t equate listening with silence, so will contribute to the conversation in order to further it.
  7. They will work hard to understand what the speaker is trying to tell them both through their words and their nonverbal communication.
  8. They actually value the contributions of other people and don’t want to be the one talking all the time.
  9. They understand their own listening qualities and limits.
  10. They understand that there is a reason or meaning behind every communication and therefore know that different situations call for different kinds of listening.

Now you’ve read yesterday’s and today’s list of qualities, do you recognise yourself or other’s around you?

”Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19).


I’ve recently talked a lot about listening, and talked about the best listener I know, God, so now let’s think about the qualities you find in a good listener:

  1. They understand that careful listening equips you to disagree well, because by listening you understand more clearly what it is that you disagree with.
  2. They don’t make hasty judgments but instead they’ll think things through.
  3. They ask questions to clarify and inform, not to embarrass or belittle.
  4. They interrupt sometimes, but in a gentle, understanding way.
  5. They don’t mind not being in control of the conversation.
  6. They don’t feel uncomfortable if there are silences in the conversation, as they are happy to let the speaker talk in their own time.
  7. They listen to something even if when it’s hard to hear. i.e. They don’t stop listening as soon as they become offended or turned off by the speaker, and can be told off without feeling rebuked.
  8. They understand the importance of listening in every relationship, so are continually trying to improve their listening skills.
  9. They remind themselves that you can learn from anyone, so understand that even the most educated person can  still learn from a little child.
  10. They “listen” to nonverbal communication as well as verbal communication, but count both as equally important.

Do you recognise yourself by any of these listening qualities?

”Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19).


There are people who are confident speakers; There are people who are great at giving advice; There are people who are great at just listening when others need to talk.

There is one person who is better at listening than anyone else, because He is always ready and available to listen…



With your heart

Posted: January 30, 2017 in heart, life, music, quotes, Relationships, religion
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Have you noticed that a when some people speak, your more inclined to listen than you are when others speak?

What some people tell us can be more meaningful and helpful to us than what others say. If we listen to everyone how do know/identify who is giving us the information we need?


When our heart gets involved we know we’re hearing someone worth listening to, so make sure your ears, and your heart and open and ready to listen when God speaks to you.


We can be too busy to notice what’s going on round about us at times. We can even be too busy to notice that those around us are struggling and in need of your support.

Are we too busy find time to talk to God?

No matter how busy we are, we must always make time to talk to Him because He is the One who  will provide all we need.

1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)

This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.


How does that image make to feel? Does it look like you feel sometimes?

I’m sure we’ve all had times when we just don’t want to listen to what anyone has to say, maybe because we just want peace and quiet, maybe because we’ve made up our mind about something so don’t want anyone else’s input.

Ever thought that this picture may show how we react when God tries to talk to us?

I pray that I will always be open and ready to listen when God talks to me, and ready and will to act on what he requests of me.

When we get stressed or worried, I think we become less likely to listen and heed what other tell or suggest to us – do you agree?


We need to learn to listen not only to one another, but to God, because no matter what situation we find ourselves in, God will always guide and protect us…but we must listen to Him.

We’re told that those we keep company with, influence our words and our actions…but have you ever considered whether that includes yourself?


We can be quick to dismiss or accept other people’s advice to us, but we need to be careful we give ourselves the right advise too!

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Listen to your body

Everybody is unique so we all like different foods, different foods like us, we enjoy different activities, we’re sensitive to different things, and we each have different tolerance levels.


Therefore, even if a friend highly recommends something to you but it doesn’t feel right for you, don’t to it! You and you alone are the only person who knows what works for you and what doesn’t, so listen to your body – If it tells you something isn’t right, listen to it!



Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be invisible?

Playing pranks on your friends and family or listening in on meetings or conversations that you weren’t meant to hear, or maybe gaining an advantage from getting some insider knowledge about something prior to an event or exam…

All sounds good doesn’t it, but would there be a downside to being invisible?

Ever heard the saying “Out of sight, out of mind”?

My gut feeling would be that while initially it might be great to be invisible, but it wouldn’t take long before being forgotten. i.e. Out of sight, out of mind.

Just as I’ve mentioned in a couple of recent blog posts, Missing and Missed, it is important that everyone feels needed, and are missed when they fail to attend something for whatever reason. So don’t let people fall out of your life because they are out of sight and therefore out of mind.