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Speak

Posted: October 6, 2017 in belief, depression, life, music, Relationships, religion, words
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God can make us new when He speaks to us. So listen to Him.

He can lighten your world with just one word.

I know we can’t actual make more time, but we can manage our time.

Have you noticed how regardless of how busy you are, if you really want to speak to someone, you will find time in your busy schedule? Others will do the same for you as well, won’t they?

If they don’t, I think you have to consider that you are not that important to them, and maybe they aren’t the kind of friend you thought, or wanted them to be.

If you care about someone, make sure you make time to be with them, talk to them and just as importantly listen to them.

We have 2 ears, but do we always use them to listen?

I’m sure we can all think of times when we’ve been talking to someone, but we are very aware that they aren’t really listening to us.

So what signs do they give out that tell us they’re not really listening? Looking around, but not looking at you; doing something else while you’re talking task such as typing an email, writing a note, or reading a document; saying ‘Yes’ or nodding agreement at random times without making eye contact with you.

When you are the one that’s talking, it can be annoying and frustrating when you know those you’re talking to aren’t really listening. That said, can we honestly say we always give our full attention to others when they are talking to us?

How about when you spend quiet time with God, do you listen completely to God, or are you distracted why things around you, or do your thoughts wander onto other people or things?

Just as it’s annoying tor us when others don’t listen to us when we’re talking, I’m sure God must get frustrated at us when we don’t focus 100% on Him.

So listen to others when they speak to you. Most importantly, listen to God.

When you call out to someone to get their attention, but they don’t hear you (or pretend not to hear you), it can be disappointing and/or frustrating. Similarly if you send a text/IM/email to someone, it can also be disappointing and/or frustrating if you receive no response.

I love the Lord, because He hears my voice and my prayers. I will call on Him as long as I live, because He has turned His ear to me. ~ Psalm 116:1-2 (NIV)

God never frustrates us, He is always with us, and always listens when we speak to Him. So call out to God and He will hear you, and will answer your prayers.

Following on from yesterday’s blog post, I like to tell you about some other qualities you will find in a good listener:

  1. They carefully listen to the words used by the speaker, to get a better understanding of how the speaker is feeling. e.g. anger, hurt, despair, delight.
  2. They understand that everyone has different communication styles, and adjust their listening style to correspond to the speaker’s communication style. e.g. If the speaker is shy, they will try to draw the person out; but if they are talkative, they will interject more.
  3. They love people., and making a connection with them. They understand that there is simply no substitute for genuine affection for other people.
  4. They do not unreasonably question the motives of the speaker and assume the speaker is trying to communicate clearly and truthfully.
  5. They understand that sometimes they have to tell the speaker that they cannot listen to them as what they are saying or talking about is wicked or dangerous or goes against their beliefs. i.e. They use their common sense.
  6. They don’t equate listening with silence, so will contribute to the conversation in order to further it.
  7. They will work hard to understand what the speaker is trying to tell them both through their words and their nonverbal communication.
  8. They actually value the contributions of other people and don’t want to be the one talking all the time.
  9. They understand their own listening qualities and limits.
  10. They understand that there is a reason or meaning behind every communication and therefore know that different situations call for different kinds of listening.

Now you’ve read yesterday’s and today’s list of qualities, do you recognise yourself or other’s around you?

”Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19).

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I’ve recently talked a lot about listening, and talked about the best listener I know, God, so now let’s think about the qualities you find in a good listener:

  1. They understand that careful listening equips you to disagree well, because by listening you understand more clearly what it is that you disagree with.
  2. They don’t make hasty judgments but instead they’ll think things through.
  3. They ask questions to clarify and inform, not to embarrass or belittle.
  4. They interrupt sometimes, but in a gentle, understanding way.
  5. They don’t mind not being in control of the conversation.
  6. They don’t feel uncomfortable if there are silences in the conversation, as they are happy to let the speaker talk in their own time.
  7. They listen to something even if when it’s hard to hear. i.e. They don’t stop listening as soon as they become offended or turned off by the speaker, and can be told off without feeling rebuked.
  8. They understand the importance of listening in every relationship, so are continually trying to improve their listening skills.
  9. They remind themselves that you can learn from anyone, so understand that even the most educated person can  still learn from a little child.
  10. They “listen” to nonverbal communication as well as verbal communication, but count both as equally important.

Do you recognise yourself by any of these listening qualities?

”Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19).

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There are people who are confident speakers; There are people who are great at giving advice; There are people who are great at just listening when others need to talk.

There is one person who is better at listening than anyone else, because He is always ready and available to listen…

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With your heart

Posted: January 30, 2017 in heart, life, music, quotes, Relationships, religion
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Have you noticed that a when some people speak, your more inclined to listen than you are when others speak?

What some people tell us can be more meaningful and helpful to us than what others say. If we listen to everyone how do know/identify who is giving us the information we need?

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When our heart gets involved we know we’re hearing someone worth listening to, so make sure your ears, and your heart and open and ready to listen when God speaks to you.

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We can be too busy to notice what’s going on round about us at times. We can even be too busy to notice that those around us are struggling and in need of your support.

Are we too busy find time to talk to God?

No matter how busy we are, we must always make time to talk to Him because He is the One who  will provide all we need.

1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)

This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.

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How does that image make to feel? Does it look like you feel sometimes?

I’m sure we’ve all had times when we just don’t want to listen to what anyone has to say, maybe because we just want peace and quiet, maybe because we’ve made up our mind about something so don’t want anyone else’s input.

Ever thought that this picture may show how we react when God tries to talk to us?

I pray that I will always be open and ready to listen when God talks to me, and ready and will to act on what he requests of me.