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Word Association #45

Posted: August 12, 2017 in blogging, car, Food, language, train, weather, words
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I’ve done a few Word Associations with you over the last while, and today it’s time for another one. So as usual I’m going to throw some words at you, and I want you to note down the first word that comes into your mind when you read each word.

So here goes…

  1. Cold
  2. Photo
  3. Candle
  4. Handbag
  5. Tyrewords
  6. Can
  7. Jelly
  8. Ticket
  9. Carriage
  10. Farm

So how did you get on with those words? Did you find it easy? Did your answers surprise you or were they just as you expected?

Well here’s my responses to my questions:

  1. Heater
  2. Memories
  3. Birthday
  4. Choice
  5. Flat
  6. Drink
  7. Jam
  8. Expensive
  9. Train
  10. Tractor

I still believe that when we respond with the first words that come into our minds, our answers tell us a lot about our emotional state, and what’s important to us at that particular point in time.

Bearing all this in mind, review your answers, does my theory hold true?

By the way, if you want me to explain any of my answers, just ask!

We’re all only here on earth for a short time, but when we’re gone, will we be remembered?

@FamousWomen: One day, you’ll be just a memory for some people. Do your best to be a good one.

We all have people who have had an impact on our life, good and bad. Some of those people may have passed away, but we still think about them and the example they were to us and the knowledge they imparted to us.

I simply pray that I will continue to do my best in all I do, so that I am a good memory for others.

I must admit I always feel a bit guilty about the fact that I am not very good at remembering verses from scripture or where to find specific verses. However in my defence I’m not very good at remembering things in general, and that’s why as those of you who know me will know, I write down everything I have to do, otherwise I know I will forget!

I’m not quite sure why I feel guilty because I can’t remember verses of scripture, other than from a young age I always thought those who could quote verse after verse of scripture were very holy and Christian. Now thinking about that, I realise that was a rather naïve, as being a Christian isn’t about being able to quote scripture is it!

live scripture not remember it

 

I’m sure we’ve all done something wrong on a number of occasions. I’m also sure that n at least some of those occasions, as soon as we’ve done something we shouldn’t have done, we’ve wished we hadn’t done it. I’m equally sure that when those incidents have resulted in us hurting someone, a friend or family member, we’ve said sorry and asked for forgiveness.

Sadly though, as soon as the words or action has taken place, the damage has been done. We can’t erase painful words from someone’s memory, nor can a murderer bring someone back from the dead and erase the grief their loved ones feel.

God doesn’t make light of sin and the harm it causes, and proved this by sacrificing His son so that He could give us the forgiveness, mercy and love he desires us to have. Are we worthy of that sacrifice? Are you worthy of that sacrifice?

God-Loves-You-This-Much

So tomorrow is February, and as the title of this blog post suggests, it’s a month I wish I could just miss out completely. To be honest it’s been a month that I haven’t looked forward to for a number of years now, but after last year, it’s now a month I just want to completely forget about.

Why does February make me feel like this?

Sad-memory21 years ago this February, my husband’s sister died – We weren’t married at the time. February would also have been her birthday, and this year  she would have been 50.

11 years ago this February my mother in law suffered her 2nd stroke and spent much of February that year in hospital before passing away on the 2nd March. February would also have been her birthday, and this year she would have been 80.

Last year my Dad was admitted to hospital on 4th January and on 1st February we were told there was nothing more they could do for Dad. On the 4th February Dad was transferred from hospital back to his nursing home on end of life care. He died several weeks later on 21st February and his funeral was on 27th February.

As you can see February holds lots of sad memories for me, and this year will be particularly difficult as it is the first anniversary of my Dad’s death. So if it’s possible, can I just miss out February this year please?

 

Are you afraid of the dark?

I’m definitely not afraid of the dark, however I am finding that when the darkness surrounds me when I’m lying in bed trying to sleep, it’s then my mind seems to want to do nothing but think about my Dad!

Don’t get me wrong it’s not that I don’t want to remember my Dad, because I will always remember him, but why every night when I go to bed? What makes it worse is that when I start thinking about Dad then, I get very emotional, get myself in a state and then can’t sleep!

So while I’ll not afraid of the dark, I don’t particularly look forward to lying in bed trying to sleep, as these days that seems to mean lots of tears and lack of sleep.

insomnia

death of a loved oneIn the last couple of weeks since my Dad passed away, I’ve found myself saying a number of times, “The last time I was here/did this, Dad was here”. Some of those memories have been ones I’ve smiled at other have been ones where I’ve shed a tear because even in these memories Dad’s illness was taking hold of him and turning him into a shell of the person he used to be.

These are the memories that will remain with me forever, and I’m sure in the coming days and weeks, many more memories of my Dad will come flooding back to me.

The Dad I knew and loved left us a few years ago as his vascular dementia took over his life. That however hasn’t made it any easier to cope with the death of Dad, as although he was not the Dad I knew, physically, it still looked like him, even right to the end.

Memories are all I have of my Dad now, but my love for him will live on, forever.

I mentioned the other day in Managing Grief #1, that I would be doing a series of blog posts giving some ideas on how to manage grief.  Today it’s about remembering your loved one…

Just because your loved one is gone doesn’t mean you should try to remove any thought of their passing from your mind. It’s important to be realistic about your loss, and not try to hide from the fact that there is an empty space in your life that they once filled.

I’m not saying we should immortalise them and never move on with your life, simply that you need to give yourself time to grieve – That in turn leads to the question of the how long is appropriate for us to grieve. The answer to this questions in itself is unknown as we are all different and all cope with grief differently, so grieve for as long as you need to.

When your with family and friends, don’t be afraid to talk about your loved one by sharing your memories of them, because in doing so you are helping you, and in turn showing your family and friends that it is actually ok to speak about the person.

I hope none of this sounds cold and dismissive, it is not intended to be. I simply feel that it is worthwhile to remember the person who has died and talk about them. i.e. It should not be taboo to talk about someone because they’ve died, but instead it should be good to share memories.

When you lay clothes down on the bed for two minutes while you do something else, why does the cat always find them and lie on them?

Why do we always think the grass always greener on the other side?

When you have a power cut, why is it that the torch you see every day in the cupboard, suddenly isn’t where it#s meant to be!

Why does the cat always decide to go sleep on the bed just before you’re going to bed?

When you drop your toast, why does it always land butter side down?

Why does the weather always seem to be better (i.e. drier), when we’re working, and then pouring when we’re not!

When you’re tired and just want to go to bed, why is it the phone always goes and it’s someone who wants to talk for ages!

Is there always a right way and a wrong way to do everything, or just a right way and an even better way?

Why does the car only ever break down on wet days?

No matter how much ironing we do, why does the ironing mountain never seem to shrink?

Why do we keep clothes that are now too small for us, just in case they fit us again some day!

When we forget something and struggle to remember it, why do we always remember it ages later when we’re not even thinking about it any more?

It’s often said that we always have our memories even after the occasion or event has finished or the people involved have left us. However I’ve come to realise more and more in the last few weeks that this really isn’t true for all of us.

Confused?

I’m thinking about dementia and Alzheimer sufferers.

As many of you will know my Dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia a number of months ago, plus one of my aunt’s who suffers from Alzheimer’s, now lives in a care house. Initially my Dad just had trouble remembering people names and some events from a while ago, however over the last few months Mum, hubby, Dad’s doctor and me have already noticed a huge deterioration in my Dad.

To be honest Mum has told me all the things Dad’s been doing or not doing because of his condition, however because I’ve spent a lot more time with them in the last few weeks while I’ve been off work, I’ve realised jut how bad he is. Take a couple of days ago for example, we were going out to get some shopping and stop for a coffee while we were out, however before we went out, I had to help Dad zip up his jacket as he didn’t know how to fasten it anymore – That really upset me.

A few days ago, Mum got in the morning to find dad wasn’t in bed…she found him downstairs in the living room, looking out the window…he was watching for Mum coming home. Dad thought it was the middle of the day and Mum was out somewhere!

Mum’s having to do just about everything for Dad these days and we’re having to explain everything over and over again to him as after letting him something he still doesn’t remember. It’s getting to a stage now that Mum’s getting more and more reluctant to leave Dad on his own in the house while she’s out, as she’s frightened he’ll feel dizzy and have an accident when she’s not around.

So where am I going with this? Well all I wanted to say is, don’t take your memory and/or your friends/family for granted, as you never know how quickly you may lose the ability to remember your past or even your friends/family.

Life is precious, so make the most of every minute you have, especially those you spend with your friends and family.