Posts Tagged ‘memory’

When you lay clothes down on the bed for two minutes while you do something else, why does the cat always find them and lie on them?

Why do we always think the grass always greener on the other side?

When you have a power cut, why is it that the torch you see every day in the cupboard, suddenly isn’t where it#s meant to be!

Why does the cat always decide to go sleep on the bed just before you’re going to bed?

When you drop your toast, why does it always land butter side down?

Why does the weather always seem to be better (i.e. drier), when we’re working, and then pouring when we’re not!

When you’re tired and just want to go to bed, why is it the phone always goes and it’s someone who wants to talk for ages!

Is there always a right way and a wrong way to do everything, or just a right way and an even better way?

Why does the car only ever break down on wet days?

No matter how much ironing we do, why does the ironing mountain never seem to shrink?

Why do we keep clothes that are now too small for us, just in case they fit us again some day!

When we forget something and struggle to remember it, why do we always remember it ages later when we’re not even thinking about it any more?

It’s often said that we always have our memories even after the occasion or event has finished or the people involved have left us. However I’ve come to realise more and more in the last few weeks that this really isn’t true for all of us.

Confused?

I’m thinking about dementia and Alzheimer sufferers.

As many of you will know my Dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia a number of months ago, plus one of my aunt’s who suffers from Alzheimer’s, now lives in a care house. Initially my Dad just had trouble remembering people names and some events from a while ago, however over the last few months Mum, hubby, Dad’s doctor and me have already noticed a huge deterioration in my Dad.

To be honest Mum has told me all the things Dad’s been doing or not doing because of his condition, however because I’ve spent a lot more time with them in the last few weeks while I’ve been off work, I’ve realised jut how bad he is. Take a couple of days ago for example, we were going out to get some shopping and stop for a coffee while we were out, however before we went out, I had to help Dad zip up his jacket as he didn’t know how to fasten it anymore – That really upset me.

A few days ago, Mum got in the morning to find dad wasn’t in bed…she found him downstairs in the living room, looking out the window…he was watching for Mum coming home. Dad thought it was the middle of the day and Mum was out somewhere!

Mum’s having to do just about everything for Dad these days and we’re having to explain everything over and over again to him as after letting him something he still doesn’t remember. It’s getting to a stage now that Mum’s getting more and more reluctant to leave Dad on his own in the house while she’s out, as she’s frightened he’ll feel dizzy and have an accident when she’s not around.

So where am I going with this? Well all I wanted to say is, don’t take your memory and/or your friends/family for granted, as you never know how quickly you may lose the ability to remember your past or even your friends/family.

Life is precious, so make the most of every minute you have, especially those you spend with your friends and family.

Firstly let me ask you a couple of questions:

  • What is Dementia?
  • What is Alzheimer’s Disease?

Well in the last few months, for various reasons, I’ve found myself do a we bit of research into what dementia is and how that differs from Alzheimer’s.

Here’s one definition of Dementia that I found:

Dementia may be caused by a number of illnesses that affect the brain. Dementia typically leads to memory loss, inability to do everyday things, difficulty in communication, confusion, frustration, as well as personality and behaviour changes. People with dementia may also develop behavioural and psychological symptoms such as depression, aggression and wandering. (from http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/html/Dementia.html)

Personally I always thought that Dementia was a less severe form of Alzheimer’s, however I’ve now learned that I have in fact got this completely wrong, because Alzheimer’s is in fact on type of dementia!

There are in fact many different types of Dementia, including ((from http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/html/Dementia.html)):

  • Alzheimer’s disease is the most common type of dementia. Alzheimer’s disease changes the brain’s structure, which leads to the death of nerve cells. This disrupts the brain’s usual activity. People with Alzheimer’s disease also have a shortage of chemicals involved with the transmission of messages within the brain.
  • Vascular dementia is another common form of dementia and is triggered by blockages to the blood vessels (vascular system) in the brain. Not enough blood and oxygen reach the nerve cells so they die. Areas of brain tissue that have died in this way are called infarcts, so vascular dementia is also called multi-infarct dementia. It may be easier to think of vascular dementia as a series of strokes that result from other health problems such as high blood pressure.
  • Mixed dementia is when you have more than one type of dementia at the same time. A common combination is Alzheimer’s disease and vascular dementia.
  • Dementia with Lewy bodies (DLB) is a type of dementia caused by Lewy bodies, which are made from an abnormal build-up of a particular protein in the brain.
  • Dementia can also occur in the final stages of other conditions, such as Parkinson’s disease, AIDS and Creutzfeld-Jakob disease.

Dementia of any form can be difficult to deal with both by the sufferer as well as their friends and family. It can be frustrating and frightening time as the sufferer starts to have some or all of the following symptoms:

  • increasing difficulties with tasks and activities that require concentration and planning
  • memory loss
  • depression
  • changes in personality and mood
  • periods of mental confusion
  • wandering during the night
  • aggression
  • low attention span
  • believing in things that are not true
  • slower movement,
  • shaking and trembling of arms and legs
  • shuffling while walking,
  • problems sleeping
  • visual hallucinations
  • compulsive behaviour,
  • personality changes. e.g. A person who was previously withdrawn may become very outgoing, or vice versa.
  • speaking far less than usual, or not speaking at all,
  • having problems finding the right words to express themselves

If you or a member of your family suffer from any form of dementia, or you think they may be in the early stages of dementia, I’d encourage you to seek medical advice. The sooner you seek medical advice and get a firm diagnosis, the sooner you and your friends/family can start to get some help and advice.

Time passes by us so quickly that when we get the time to stop and think, it’s a shock to us when we realise how much time has passed.

Have you ever promised to keep in touch with folk you met on holiday? Did you? If you didn’t you’re not alone, it’s very common for people to find friends on holiday, but when they get home, they quickly forget about them, either intentionally or unintentionally – many times it’s simply because we realise all we actually had in common with them was the choice of holiday destination!

It can also be a shock to us when our parents who have always been there for us, full of life and no health issues, to find they are not as fit and healthy as they used to be and that they are in fact facing old age. It can be difficult to cope with when ill-health hits them and we have to cope with all the stress and worry that brings with it.

Since last year my Dad’s health has deteriorated significantly and has put added stress and worry on my Mum particularly. My Dad is definitely not too well, but so far no diagnosis has been given. One of the hardest parts of it all, for both my Mum and I, is that Dad’s memory has become very bad and he’s been doing some very strange things too – All of which can be stressful and distressing for all of us.

I have wandered slightly from what I was intending to say, sorry – I was simply going to stress how important it is that we don’t let time pass without taking time to be with those we love and who love us. In other words, take time collecting your memories, as those we love will not be with us here on earth for ever.

Sorry to be so morbid tonight, but due to the situation with my Dad I’ve found myself thinking more and more about our own mortality.

Catch your memories each day, they will be priceless to you in the future!

Enjoy the music Memory played by Bellshill Band of the Salvation Army:

When we’re young we are taught to say “please” and “thank you”. I remember a number of occassions being prevented from getting whatever it was I’d asked for, because I’d not said “the magic word”! Do you have similar memories?
All those times have done their job though, as I’d say I definitely say “please” and “thank you” whenever I’m asking someone for something, or I’m given something.
But wait a minute, do I really always say “please” and “thank you”? Well I do always say thank you to those around me, but now I stop and think about it, there is one person I very often take for granted and never say “thank you” to, although I often say “please” to them as I’m often asking for so much from them…and who is that?
I’m sure you’ve realised by now I’m talking about God. How many times today have you said “thank you” to God? What about this week, how many time have you thanked God for all He does for you?
Now count how many times you’ve said “please” to God today when you’ve been asking Him for something? And what about in the last week, how many times have you asked God for something?

If you’re anything like me, you’ll probably find the “please’s” far outnumber the “thank you’s”!

Do something about that now, say “thank you God” for all God has done for you, and for all He continues to do for you.

Give God the Glory He truly deserves.


My Tribute (To God be the Glory) – Sissel and the Oslo Gospel Choir
How can I say thanks
For the things you have done for me
Things so undeserved
Yet You gave to prove your love for me
The voices of a million angels
Could not express my gratitude
All that I am and ever hope to be
I owe it all to thee

To God be the glory, to God be the glory
To God be the glory,
For the things He has done
With His blood He has saved me
With His power He has raised me
To God be the glory,
For the things He has done

Just let me live my life
And let it be pleasing Lord to thee
And should I gain any praise
Let it go to Calvary

With His blood He has saved me
With His power He has raised me
To God be the glory
For the things He has done

To God be the glory, to God be the glory
To God be the glory,
For the things He has done
With His blood He has saved me
With His power He has raised me
To God be the glory,
For the things He has done