Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’



I don’t know about you, but I just hate when some people “put on” fake enthusiasm and friendship when they talk to you. Personally if someone doesn’t like me or are not interested in having anything to do with me, that they were just honest and didn’t “fake” friendship.

Anyone who knows me will know I’m an honest and trustworthy person, so will understand when I say that “what you see, is what you get” with me. i.e. You’ll not get any “fake” enthusiasm from me when it comes to anything…you’ll soon know if I’m not happy!

So please don’t fake a friendship with anyone, because believe me the person will know and to be honest in my experience, someone who tries to fake a friendship with you is not someone you really want as a “friend”.Fake-Friend

I’ve written a few blog posts in the last while where I’ve asked you whether you had ever noticed how there are some things which happen in films which never ever happen in real life – today it’s time for some more examples of this!


  1. Creepy music  coming from a graveyard should always be closely investigated on your own
  2. You should always go out alone a car in a thunderstorm, especially if you’re looking for someone
  3. Cars will explode instantly when struck by a single bullet
  4. Prostitutes always look like Julia Roberts or Jamie Lee Curtis
  5. No matter how savagely a spaceship is attacked, its internal gravity system is never damaged
  6. All food shopping will include the purchase of at least one French loaf which will be carried in open brown paper bag
  7. Prostitutes always have expensive clothes and a nice flat/house, but no pimps
  8. If being chased through a city you can usually take cover in a passing parade – no matter what time of year it is, there’s always a parade!
  9. Megalomaniacs always use complicated devices incorporating fuses, pulleys, deadly gases, lasers or man-eating sharks
  10. Prostitutes are friendly with the shopkeepers in their neighbourhood who don’t mind at all what they do for a living.

Any of these sound familiar?

Obviously these are complete generalisations because not every film follows the above rules, but I’m sure you’ll agree, you can think of a lot which do!

We exist to make a big deal out of God.

It’s not about you. It’s not about me. It’s all about Him!

When everything in our life is centred around God, our life is full of love for others and for God.

All About Love by Steven Curtis Chapman

We’ve got CDs, tapes and videos, radios and TV shows
Conferences, retreats and seminars
We’ve got books and magazines to read on everything from A to Z
And a web to surf from anywhere we are
But I hope with all this information buzzing through our brains
That we will not let our hearts forget the most important thing is

 Love love love love love …it’s all about
 Love love love love love
Everything else comes down to this
Nothing any higher on the list than love
It’s all about love

Now they’re fighting in the Middle East and they’re fighting down on 7th street
And there are fights in my own house on given days
It’s like something’s lurking deep inside that can’t seem to be satisfied
But life was not meant to be lived this way
‘Cause it’s true for every man and woman, every boy and girl
That our only hope for living here together in this world is …

 Love love love love love …it’s all about
 Love love love love love
Everything else comes down to this
Nothing any higher on the list than love

This is the reason we were made
To know the love of our creator
And to give the love He’s given us away
Yeah, the Maker and the Father and the God of everything
He says to …

 Love love love … He says love love love
 Love love love … ’cause after all it’s all about love
God says …

 Love love love love love …it’s all about
 Love love love love love
Everything else comes down to this
Nothing any higher on the list than love
’cause after all it’s all about love

Being sad with the right people is better than being happy with the wrong ones ~ Philippos

So true.

If you’re sad or upset, you need people around you who will support you and care for you. Sadly however I’m sure we’ve all found ourselves with people who don’t seem to care about us when we’re most in need of support. But have you realised these are not the people you should be calling “true friends”?

Therefore make sure those you call true friends are people you know and trust will be there for you in your times of need, because if they’re not, don’t leave it until you need a friend most, to find out they don’t really care for you.

True friends will be there for you during your lowest times as well as during your happiest moments, I hope you’ve found some true friends!

Testify To Love by Avalon

All the colours of the rainbow
All of voices of the wind
Every dream that reaches out
That reaches out to find where love begins
Every word of every story
Every star in every sky
Every corner of creation lives to testify
For as long as I shall live
I will testify to love
I’ll be a witness in the silences when words are not enough
With every breath I take I will give thanks to God above
For as long as I shall live
I will testify to love
From the mountains to the valleys
From the rivers to the sea
Every hand that reaches out
Every hand that reaches out to offer peace
Every simple act of mercy
Every step to kingdom come
All the Hope in every heart will speak what love has done.

How about you, will you testify to love for as long as you live?

I will do my best to testify for God for the rest of my live, but I know I will only be able to achieve this with God’s help. That is why I pray each day that He will continue to help and guide me each day.

Here are five things you probably didn’t know or never really thought about:Love

  1. At least five people in this world love you so much they would die for you.
  2. If not for you, someone may not be living.
  3. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.
  4.  A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
  5. You are special and unique.

I particularly like #5 as this reminds us of exactly how God considers us…special and unique, just the way He made us!

So following on from my blog post a few days ago Hard Hearted, where I spoke about how we must not let negativity take us over, I want to remind you that how we feel inside is reflected in our actions. I.e. if we’re feeling angry inside our actions reflect our anger. Likewise if we’re happy inside and feel loved, we will show love to those we meet.

Therefore no matter what’s going on in your life, give it to God and leave it with Him so that you may feel inward peace and love, and thus your actions will be those of a loving person.

How we think shows through in how we act. Attitudes are mirrors of the mind. They reflect thinking ~ David Joseph Schwartz

No matter how much we try to always say and do only what God would want us to say and do, during times of great stress or anger we can all be guilty of saying something which the second we say it, we regret it…and those can often be the fatal words in a relationship.

I read the following statement on Twitter recently:

Be careful with your words. Once they are spoken, they can only be forgiven, not forgotten!

Doesn’t that just sum up perfectly what I was saying? Yes we should be very careful about what we say, particularly in moments of frustration or anger, as those are the words most likely to hurt or upset  the person they are aimed at, and in turn leave a lasting pain which they may forgive, but they will never forget!

Ever come across someone who appears to listen to you but later shows they really haven’t listened to a single word you’ve said?

I would guess we all know someone like that! I would also guess that they are not particularly caring people when it comes to others, am I right?

J Clarke once said

One who cares is one who listens.

and that kind of sums up what I was saying doesn’t it.

Of course there is one person who we can all talk to who I guarantee will always listen to every word you say, and will show is love and compassion for you on a daily basis. Do you know who I’m talking about?


Don’t ever stop caring about others. Be Christ-like and listen to what others say to you and saw you care about them.

Why is it that some people just seem to lie freely without a second thought?

Why is it that some people tell us lies without even realising what they are saying can’t possibly be true?

Why do people tell us lies about others in the knowledge that the other person they are talking about is a friend and therefore respected by us, so we’ll obviously find out they have lied about them?

And the worst of all it when the person actually says things to you about yourself which you know are total lies!

Lying can be hurtful and can destroy relationships so why do some people think it’s ok to do it?

For me I think a lot has to do with how the person lying, feels about themself. i.e. are they insecure, trying to show their power or influence over others, or simply showing off?!

Whatever the reason, there is really no justifiable reason for lying to someone. I recently lost all respect for someone because they said I had said and done specific things which quite frankly, if they knew me at all, would know, they were things I would never ever do!

Some people just aren’t worth getting hot and bothered about, as any problem that exists is obviously with them. So don’t let those in your life who lie to you, rule your life, to make to form inaccurate views of yourself or others.

Believe in yourself and try not to be wrongly influenced by those who would seek to give you false information.