Posts Tagged ‘Self-esteem’

Everyone is different; Everyone has different hopes and dreams; Everyone reacts differently to every situation and feels different emotions.

Just as we are all different, so are the reasons people feel lonely.

alone2When our circumstances change – e.g. move to a new area, start a family, divorce, bereavement, unemployment – some find it exciting and positive while others will find it painful, emotional and very lonely.

If your partner or job boosted your self-esteem and made your life meaningful is suddenly no longer there, everything, you may find life feels hopeless and futile.

While we can be in control of some of our circumstances, others are just part of life – it’s these circumstances that can contribute to feelings of loneliness. As I mentioned yesterday, identifying the real cause of your loneliness is the first step to you overcoming it, and that is true if the cause of your loneliness is your circumstances.

Good luck!

In yesterday’s blog post Helping Isn’t Always Easy I spoke about a situation I’ve been in recently where I been finding it quite difficult to help someone in need. So I wondered, was it just coincidence that today I came across the following quote?

Stop talking about what everybody has done to you and start talking about what you can do for somebody else.

Life isn’t about the past and what has happened in it, it’s about living in the present and looking to the future. Therefore forgive those who have hurt you in the past, move on, and find things you can do to help others. After all there are so many people in need in this world it’s not difficult to find someone who needs your help!

Helping isn’t always easy however there are plenty of people in this world in need of help so don’t be put off just because some may not react in the manner you’d expect when you try to help them.

Having watched and listened to a lot of coverage of the riots in England in the last few days, I’ve come to the conclusion that many youngsters, and in some cases, their parents, just do not understand the meaning of the word respect.

I’ve heard several interviews where individuals have said they were upset that “the police and politicians don’t respect them”! What was obvious from what these people were saying was that they did not comprehend that respect is something they must earn, not something you should automatically gain.

Here are some definitions of respect that I’ve found in various dictionaries:

  • the condition of being honored
  • an attitude of admiration or esteem
  • a courteous expression (by word or deed) of esteem or regard
  • behavior intended to please your parents
  • a feeling of friendship and esteem
  • courteous regard for people’s feelings
  • regard highly; think much of

How can people expect to be respected if they don’t treat other people, their property’s and their belonging, with respect!

I really don’t want to get into the whole discussion about why the recent riots took place, but I feel I had to mention the lack of respect that has been shown by so many. Many were youngsters who obviously had never been taught how to respect and treat others or their belongings. That really saddened and upset me, as it just seems to show how much the world and the way families and communities interact these days has broken down over the past few years.

Come folks, let’s get back to basics and teach our children right from wrong, respect from disregard…