Posts Tagged ‘struggle’

We all have times in our life when we face challenges. e.g. the death of a loved one, unemployment, serious illness. Based on some of the things I’ve learned about myself and from talking to others, I want to share with you some things to think about when you’re facing some tough situations. I hope you find this helpful:

Admit you’re struggling

You may not realise just how much you’re struggling. However I’m sure your family or friends will have noticed a difference in you. So if someone asks you if you’re ok, don’t just say ‘yes’ really look at yourself, and be honest with yourself. After all, if you don’t know you’re struggling or in trouble, how can you start to help yourself?

Don’t hide

When you’re struggling you’ll probably feel like you want to hide away from everyone in a darkened room or in a corner. That is one of the worst things you could do! The best way to keep your emotions under control when you’re struggling is actually to keep busy. When you’re busy there’s more chance you’ll focus on the task in hand instead of continually thinking about all your problems, as that will bring you down even more.

Say ‘No’

Are you the kind of person who always says ‘yes’ when someone asks you to do something? If you are, this one might be very difficult for you, but please consider it as I believe it really is quite uplifting to say ‘No’ sometimes. You may be struggling to do everything you’re already trying to do. So remember you do not need to do everything you’re asked to do. So say ‘No’, and use that extra time to take control of your life and your emotions.

Help

You probably think I’m just suggesting you seek help for yourself from either a friend or a help care professional, however I’m also suggesting you also help others too. One of the times I was struggling, I discovered a friend was also going through a really tough time and I definitely found that by talking with them, and trying to help them, it helped me focus on someone else’s problems instead of my own. Being able to offer support and help to someone else raised my spirits, as it showed me I was still useful and helpful to someone. So speak to others about how you’re feeling, as you may be surprised to find they too may be going through a difficult time and would be grateful for your support too.

Trust

This may be my final suggestion, but it is in fact the most important one – Trust God! God is with us all the time even when we ignore him or forget him. God will always answer your prayers – Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he’ll answer them. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected, but he will answer your prayer. So trust Him! Believe in God!

Reality, is there really such a thing?

Real people, living real lives, or are they?

Real life means we stumble and struggle with all life throws our way. Real life means we put on a front so those around us don’t see how much we’re struggling.

Regular life doesn’t necessarily exist anymore – we’re all so busy, expected to rush from one task to another, regardless of what else may be going on in our lives.

Real life can be tough these days. Realising when we’re struggling is a positive at an otherwise tough time.

Reaching out to others for help may not be something you’re comfortable with, but reaching out to God is something we can all do. Reaching out to God is free, there’s no conditions and He will freely welcome you with open arms, to hold and comfort you.

Real life, needs God, we need God.

 

Just because you are struggling does not mean you are failing. Every great success requires some kind of struggle to get there.

Nothing in life is easily achieved, so when you’re struggling, remember that it’s only through difficult times that we learn and grow as individuals. So don’t be afraid to admit that you’re struggling and need help, because it’s not a sign of failure, it just shows what a strong and determined individual you are.

 

depression

Maybe we all need to stop for a minute and look at those around us properly…are they struggling…do they look like they need a hug…do they need someone to talk to?

Often people will not ask for help when they really need it, so it’s up to the rest of us to look out for them and look after them.

Have you ever had a day when it was a real struggle either physically or emotionally to get out of bed?

Have you ever had a day when it took ever ounce of inner strength you possessed to get yourself showered and dressed?

Have you ever had a day when you struggled to keep your public face on so no-one could see how you really felt?

So you’re not having a great day, you’ve struggled to get yourself our of bed, dressed and out into the big bad world and you find others are judging you based on what they see…devastating, and potentially just that one extra thing to make you wonder why you bother, to question if anyone would really care if you didn’t turn up, if you never turned up…

STOP! Read this:

dont judge

 

Let the storms of today make you stronger for tomorrow

When you’re struggling to get through a day and everything seems to be going against you it can be hard to accept that something good can come out of today can’t it?

Just as our bodies can only build immunity against illnesses by fighting against those bugs/illnesses, we gain strength to face tomorrow by learning from the difficulties we face in life. So stay strong, because you can face whatever tomorrow brings, head on.

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Connect with others

We shouldn’t need a reason to ask our friends and acquaintances how they are, so today’s suggestion to brighten your day, is to simply ask others how they are!

Let this simple act of asking others how they are, remind you that this small act could be the huge lift that person may be needing today. We never truly know how those we see or talk to each day, really are – some may be facing health problems, depression, have financial concerns, worried about family members or lonely – so by simply asking them how they are, will prove to them that someone loves them and cares for them, and that is a powerful message.

Brighten your day by brightening someone else’s day!

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Don’t let stress take over your sleep

I know this blog post is about brightening your day and my suggestion for today is about the middle of the night, but technically that is part of your day!

I’m sure we’ve all had a few nights when either we’ve struggled to fall asleep in the first place, or we’ve slept for a few hours and then woken up and been unable to get back to sleep again because our minds are focusing on all the stresses and strains of life, which in turn makes it impossible for our minds to be at rest so we can sleep. So instead of letting those stressing thoughts take over our minds when we can’t sleep, why not get up and make better use of your sleepless time, by reading, meditating or praying. i.e. do some of the things you struggle to find time to do during the daytime.

If you’re awake during the night, make good use of the time instead of stressing about things which, in the cold light of day, will not seem nearly as bad.

Always-remember-that-striving

A great little reminder isn’t it? Is it just coincidence that Striving and Struggle precede Success even in the dictionary…I don’t think so.

So when you are struggling or striving to achieve something which seems unreachable, remember, success is just a little bit further along your pathway.

I was recently reminded of the following words from Peter 5:7

You can throw the whole weight of your anxieties on Him, for you are His personal concern! ~ J.B. Phillips

When we’re in trouble, God is there.

When we’re struggling to cope, God is there.

At all times, God is there, and will accept all your problems and worries if you just take them to Him.

What a fantastic remind that when everything seems to be going against as, we simply have to kneel before God and leave all our troubles at His feet.