Are you one of these people who, when asked to do something, always says ‘Yes’?
There was a long time in my life when that was exactly what I did, I would say ‘Yes’ before really considering any of the following:
- did I have time to prepare?
- did I have the free time to attend?
- was it something/somewhere I wanted to do/be?
- was I or anyone else going to gain from me doing the task?
- was it going to push me into something I didn’t want to do?
For me, it was usually my time that was the issue, as I was out the house most nights of the week and sometimes the weekends too, doing one thing or another, so need really had much free time to fit anything else into.
I did come to a realisation at one point in my life though that I should stop and consider requests from now on, before giving my answer. And what a difference that made! Yes, I have felt incredibly guilty sometimes for saying ‘No’ to some requests, even though I’ve seriously evaluated whether it is sensibly and practical for me to undertake them, before saying ‘No’.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t say ‘No’ to every task I’m asked to do, but I do think I make better decisions about what tasks are the right ones for me to undertake at that time.