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True colours

Posted: September 9, 2019 in life, prayer, quotes, Relationships, religion
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If we show our true Christians colours, not only will Christ see them, but so will others. When others look at us or talk to us, if we live our lives as a true Christian, they will see something different in us – Hopefully that difference will be they see Christ!

I pray that I start each day by asking God to help me live my life as a true Christian. By doing that, I hope that others will see Christ through me, and see something that makes them want to seek Christ for themselves.

While writing yesterday’s blog post A Reason To Live, I Googled “A reason to live” – Here’s the results I got

It got wondering how many people have Googled exactly the same thing as me, but who have Googled that phrase because they are in dire need as they are considering suicide.

I then found the report for the Samaritans in Scotland in 2018 – Samaritans_Scotland_Impact_Report_2018

It is sober reading – So many lives lost to suicide, so many people in desperate need to someone to listen to them, and understand how they feel. What really touched me most was this statement

Research by Samaritans found that nearly 2 in 3 Scots have first-hand experience of suicide – whether through their own experience of suicidal thoughts or from supporting someone with suicidal feelings or the loss of a friend or family member.

That’s some statistic isn’t it! In a room of 6 people, 4 of them will have been affected by a suicide or considered suicide themselves. Multiplying that out, 400 out of every 600 people will have been affected by a suicide or considered suicide. I certainly wasn’t aware suicide affected so many lives.

I’m not quoting these figures to you just for affect but to highlight the scale of the problem.

The good news is suicide is preventable, and we can all help. So I encourage you to reach out to a friend, a neighbour, a family member who seems to be struggling with life, and just ask them if they are ok – Remember just because someone says they’re ok doesn’t mean they really are, so trust yourself when you feel there is something wrong – Just be there for someone when they are at their lowest point, and support them.

I did, at one point in my life, wonder if there really was any reason to carry on living. There seemed to be one problem or issue after another in every aspect of my life, that I just could see how I would ever get through that time.

Having got through that very difficult time, I realised that those days when I should have let God take full control of my life, were the days when I completely ignored God, because it seemed to me as if he had forgotten me. I really should have known better, after all I’d heard so many time before how God is always with us and has a plan for each of us. I forgot God’s timing wasn’t necessarily my desired timing, and so instead of trusting God, I turned away from him.

My faith is now stronger than ever as I know now I only got through those difficult days because God did not desert me. I also am now confident that God really does have a plan for me, and therefore I want to fulfil his plan for my life – I therefore have a reason to live because I believe in God.

So believe in God because He alone gives us a reason to live!

Do you have a purpose for living?

Many focus their attentions on making sure they have the biggest and newest items/posessions that money can buy. Others focus on the people in their lives and the community in which they live or work. Which kind of person are you?


Kind words are short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. – Mother Teresa

In the last few days I’ve talked about how our words, and how we say them can impact other people’s lives, and not necessarily for the better!

Today’s thought is far more positive as you have hopefully realised by the quote from Mother Teresa I shared at the start of this post. It’s easy for us to kind, we only need to say a few words but those kind words may be the thing that makes a huge difference to the person we say them to.

For example, someone may be having a really difficult time, struggling with life or health issues, and may feel as if no one really cares about them or how they are feeling. So imagine the boost they will get when someone says a few kind words of encouragement to them.

We may never fully appreciate or realise the impact our words may have on someone, so let’s make sure the words we use and the way we say them, are ones of encouragement and support.

No matter what anyone else thinks, I truly believe that what we say and how we say it really does matter.

I suspect we’ve all been hurt at some time or another by what or how someone has said something to us. I know I have been guilty of saying things to others in a way that I shouldn’t and for that I am sorry – I pray daily that God will help me to be more understanding and patient towards others, so that I do not speak to others in a way that may hurt or offend them.

Just as we need to be careful what and how we speak to other adults, it’s just as important, if not more so, that we are extra careful what and how we speak to and in the presence of children. After all I’m sure we’ve all witnessed a child saying or doing something which they have copied from an adult or another child. Be careful what we say and how we talk to our children as this is how they will talk to others!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue. ~ Proverbs 18:21

Have you ever come across a quote or a picture, which you feel describes you perfectly? Well I came across this picture a few days ago, and it struck a chord with me – I know I have made mistakes in the past which I truly regret, and as I said Spotlight yesterday, I wish I could just delete some of these mistakes from my past, but I can’t.

I know there are those who do treat me in a way that suggests they still hold my past mistakes against me, even though some may have happened a number of years ago. In the last 15 years my life I have faced some life changing situations, and because of that my faith had become stronger than it’s ever been. And because of that I know I am a completely different person now than I was 15 years ago and most definitely a different person than I was 30 years ago. Maybe that’s why this picture struck a chord with me!

Time passes, people change, so forgive those who have hurt you or made mistakes that have affected you in the past. Have a look at yourself, I’m sure you’re not the same person today as you were 10 or 20 years ago, so I’m sure you wouldn’t want others to hold your past mistakes against you, so don’t hold other’s past mistakes against them, forgive and move on.

I shared some thoughts about how critical we are of ourselves a couple of week’s ago, in my blog post called Critic – please have a read of that too.

Yesterday in Celebrate! I encouraged you to celebrate your own life, because you alone know the challenges and difficulties you’ve had to go through to get to where you are now.

Today I want to suggest that having celebrated our own lives yesterday, we celebrate God today, as he was the one who gave us life. Not only did he give us live, he lives each moment of it with us. He guides and directs us, He forgives us and comforts us, and provides everything we need.

Thank you God for giving us life.

Thank you for sacrificing your only son.

Thank you for loving us unconditionally.

Thank you for forgiving us.

Thank you for being the one we can always rely on to help and guide us in every situation.

Help us to be who you made us to be.

Help us to praise you and to celebrate your love for us so that others will always see you in us.

Thank you God for everything.

When you look at others can you see all the challenges and problems they have had to endure in their life?

Look in the mirror at yourself…you may be able to see the worry or stress lines in your face that remind you of specific times/events that you’ve had to face in your life. You may have physical or emotional scars that you can see when you look in the mirror.

Remember, you and you alone know every challenge, every stress or struggle you have had to go through  in your life, and may still be going though. No-one can look at another person and possibly have any real understanding or knowledge of the life that person has led. That is why we should celebrate our lives, and what we’ve achieved, here’s why

There are those who always try want to be in the company of those with influence or power, possibly because they think they will benefit from that person.

There are those who will always make time to be with those who are need of some kind of support, and they will do so without a second thought for themselves.

Of those two types of people, who do you think are the richer?

The first type of person may rise through the ranks of employment/career and earn huge sums of money as they do so. However for me, I’d rather be the the second type of person, because aren’t they the kind of person you’d want to have if you ever find yourself in need of help or support from someone?

Let’s sit with the broken, and support the needy, as doing that is what Christ would do, and that’s what we should each be striving to do.