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How many time has someone said to something like, “You wouldn’t know what it’s like to suffer, as you’re a Christian”? Just because we believe in God, doesn’t mean we are immune from facing problems or difficulties in our lives. In fact, we’re just the same as everyone else, we can experience hurt, bereavement, ill-health, depression, abuse etc.

For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him ~ Philippians 1:29 (NIV)

Just because we’re Christians, doesn’t mean we’ll have an easy life where every relationship will be great, or our health will never fail us, or others won’t hurt us. But, because we believe in God, we are assured that we never have to face any problem on our own, because He will give us the strength to get through every difficulty we face.

Wounds can cause severe pain. When they start to heal the pain normally tends to subside. However that is normally only true for physical wounds.

Not everyone suffers severe physical wounds during their lifetime, but everyone suffers severe emotional or psychological trauma during their lifetime. Its those wounds which often never really heal – The severe pain may dull over time, but the emotional distress or trauma never really goes away.

Many physical wounds or the consequences of them can be seen by others in the way someone walks or moves. However emotional wounds are often not visible to others, and often not even known by others. We can all be good at putting on our public face, and ‘hiding’ how we really feel from others. In doing so that can often stop our emotional wounds from healing, as often sharing our pain or wounds with others, can help us – It never stops the wounds from hurting, but just knowing someone else knows how we feels, and cares about us, can be enough to help our emotional wounds heal just a little bit.

What is the purpose or aim of our time here on earth?

Are we here to simply get by, or only do things which we can see will benefit ourselves?

I hope and pray that I can be the kind of person described in this picture

Let’s all try and add value to every situation we find ourselves in by being or doing just what those around you need you to be.

The most meaningful presents we receive might not come wrapped in shiny paper or frilly ribbons. They are often the ones that lift your spirit, brighten your day or trigger your imagination.

I’ve been curious what others consider to be their ‘best gift’ so have been looking at other people’s stories about their ‘best gifts’, so here’s one I want to share with you.

My first-grade teacher, Mr. Applebaum, noticed that I liked to draw more than the typical 7-year-old, so one day he gave me a blue three-ring binder full of blank loose-leaf paper. It was the first sketchbook I ever owned. More than 30 years later, I’ve filled hundreds of them. Sure, it was just a bunch of paper, but what he really gave me was the idea that my passion for drawing was worth pursuing. I’m a cartoonist today, and I might not have been without that encouragement. Thanks, Mr. Applebaum, wherever you are.  ~ Dan Meth (illustrator)

Sometimes a gift may be a just what you need to start you on what ultimately becomes your career. When that happens, you know your gift has come from someone special!

There are certain situations where you have to put your full trust in someone because your life depends on it. Here’s a very examples of varying levels of severity

  • Flying – we put our trust in the pilots that they have been trained well, and are competent at their job.
  • Climbing – we rely on those at the other end of the rope to hold tight in case you lose your footing.
  • Surgeons – when we need an operation, regardless of how minor it is, we put our trust in the surgeon and the theatre staff to take care of you and make sure you get through your operation without any complications.

Each of these situations could end on tragedy if the person you’ve put your trust in is not 100% competent in the job they are doing.

It can be difficult sometimes to know who to trust, particularly when we’re in a stressful or life-threatening situation. But be reassured, there is always one person you can trust to be there for you in every situation – God will always be right there with you because He has promised to never let go of us. So let Him help you be strong, whatever happens.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging. ~ Psalm 46:1-3 (NIV)

You won’t let go by Michael W. Smith

No shadow comes without the light making a way
No raging storm can ever defy one word of faith
My heart remains sure in the wind, sure in the waves

You are the anchor for my soul
You won’t let go
You won’t let go
No matter what may come I know
You won’t let go

No valley low, changes the truth
So I’m not afraid
You hold me close
You lead me through and light up the way

You are the anchor for my soul
You won’t let go
You won’t let go
No matter what may come I know
You won’t let go
You won’t let go

Neither life, neither death,
The highest high, the deepest depth
Nothing can
Nothing can separate
Neither tears, neither trials
Certain as the sun will rise
Nothing can
Nothing can separate

You are the anchor for my soul
You won’t let go
You won’t let go
No matter what may come I know
You won’t let go

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

James 1:19-20 NIV

We seem to live life at 100 miles an hour these days. We get up in the morning, rush to get ready and out the house, then rush from one place to another, from one task to another, until we reach the end of the day and finally lay down to sleep.

Maybe it’s because we rush around so much, that it feels like we no longer want to stop and listen to what others say, but instead we’re quick to pass judgement on others without knowing the facts.

It’s time to slow down. It’s time to make time for others.

It’s time to listen to what others want to say – you may be the only person they feel they can confide in.

It’s time to listen to what God wants to say to you – He’s been trying to talk to you but you’ve been too busy to listen.

It’s time to speak words of comfort and encourage to others – they may be just the words someone needs to hear to make feel their life is worth living.

It’s time to keep our temper, and not get angry or annoyed with others, just because they don’t say or do what you expect or want.

Be patience, be understanding, be who and what God desires.

If you see someone in need, do you stop and help or do you walk past, or look the other way and keep walking?

Maybe you feel you’re too busy to stop and help others, but what if we all consider ourselves ‘too busy’ to help? We can’t assume someone else will take the time to stop and help, so we need to make the time to help.

Stopping to help someone doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to have to give up loads of your time, as it can be the simple act of asking someone if they’re ok that helps someone; or carrying a bag of shopping to for an older person, to their car; or giving a homeless person a sandwich and a hot drink.

We need to stop rushing around at 100 miles an hour, and take time out to look around ourselves, and really see those who are in need. We can then take time to make a difference, by helping those who need help.

Have you ever thought someone was avoiding you? Or maybe you’ve been the person that’s avoiding others?

Well maybe this might help you understand what might be going on.

I’d say I could say “Yes, that’s me”, to each of the 5 scenarios in this quote – Although some seem to have been full-time for a while.

The bottom line is, we never really know what others are going through, so don’t assume you know why someone is acting the way they are. Instead ask them if they’re ok, and when they tell you they’re fine, ask them again is they are ok. If they still tell you they’re fine, tell them you want to help them and ask them again if they’re ok.

Admitting openly to someone that you’re struggling, if often the hardest thing, even although you could do with the emotional support others may be able to offer you.

I’ve heard the word grace used a number of times when describing several individuals recently. You may think that’s a strange word to use, but if you knew the people concerned I’m sure you’d agree that they are great examples of God’s grace.

Maybe you don’t know what I mean by that, well let me explain.

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” ~ Ephesians 2:8-10

These verses from the bible describe God’s grace better than I could ever define it. Those who possess God’s grace have the following qualities

  • humble
  • always available and willing to help those in need
  • forgives without question
  • shares their love of God with others
  • supports and encourages others
  • expects nothing in return from anyone
  • show real love to everyone unconditionally

I’m sure there are plenty of other words/phrases you can think of to describe someone you know who are filled with God’s grace.

I pray that I may try to gain some of these characteristics, and in doing so can be become a great example of God’s grace working in someone’s life.

Verbal sunshine

Posted: June 21, 2019 in heart, quotes, Relationships, weather
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“Verbal sunshine”, what a wonderful expression! But it does really give you a picture of how great words spoken as “verbal sunshine”, make someone feel.

Share some sunshine with those you meet by sharing some “verbal sunshine”, encouraging others and warming their hearts.