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Loneliness comes in all shapes and forms, it doesn’t care who you are or how weak or strong you are emotionally when the deep feeling of loneliness hits you.

For some loneliness comes because of certain life events, such as the loss of a partner or family member. That’s not the case for everyone though, as for some loneliness is something they live with on a daily basis, and not necessarily because they are actually alone – it may be they feel as is no-one truly understands them, or that they don’t fit in – all of which can cause deep feelings of loneliness.

If you’re lucky enough never to have experienced true loneliness, you will not know how difficult it can be to cope with. When loneliness takes over, we can build a protective wall around ourself, to try and stop those around us from seeing how we really feel.

Loneliness is real. Just because someone is always surrounded by lots of people, doesn’t mean they don’t experience loneliness. In fact I’d go as far as saying, one of the worst places to be when you suffer from loneliness is actually in a crowd.

So look out for those who exhibit signs of loneliness, because they need you – they need you just to reach out to them, and maybe give them a hug to reassure them you are always there for them.

It true isn’t it, we can each be our own worst enemy can’t we!

Why do we do that to ourselves? We make things so difficult for ourselves don’t we?

I know for myself, I can easily convince myself that a decision I make is wrong, even when it’s blatantly obvious it is the right one.

Why do we do that? For those of us who are Christians, it’s clear the person who makes us doubt our every decision, every belief, is the devil. He is the one who will do anything and everything he can to make us do and say things which we wouldn’t normally do, to make us turn away from and doubt God.

So beware our worst enemy can come from within.

Have you ever had something planned, and when the time comes for that event, you’re all good to go, but then something happens that completely changes your plans?

Well I’ve just had one of those weekends! I was meant to be going to Coventry with Bellshill Salvation Army Band, where we were leading worship there on Saturday night and Sunday morning and afternoon. I had been uncertain for a while whether I’d be well enough to go to the Coventry with the band, but decided a few weeks ago I should be well enough.

So I had to get up early on Saturday to get myself ready to go with the band. When we got up my husband mentioned he wasn’t feeling great. However it wasn’t until I had put all my stuff into my car and was almost ready to leave that I realised how unwell he was.

To cut a long story short, I realised I couldn’t go with the band. So I had to make a phone call I really hadn’t expected to have to make, at least I’d thought if I’d had to make that call, it would have been because I wasn’t well.

So what was going to be a very long and tiring weekend for me away with the band, turned out quite different for me. It was a really emotional weekend for me between my husband being unwell, plus I’d got myself worked up about going with the band as I hadn’t been 100% sure how well I would feel by the end of the weekend. I was really upset about missing the weekend, particularly as it had taken me a while to realise I’d be well enough to go, and then at the last minute, not being able to go. I prayed and prayed some more, I was struggling to cope with what was happening. Thankfully by Sunday my husband was feeling a bit better; the band had a fantastic weekend in Coventry – If you’re interested you can read reports of the weekend, and watch the meetings from our band Facebook page.

When unexpected things happen, we all react differently, and even that depends what has actually happened. After all not all unexpected events are bad ones!

So whenever you have to deal with something unexpected, pray and God will provide all you need.

Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. ~ Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV)

How can we expect other sot come to God, if they don’t see God in our actions?

People who don’t know God, don’t see us in church, they see how we act and talk outside of church, in our everyday lives. Our words and actions should be the same whether we are in church or not, but sadly for many they are like two different people.

I pray today that my life will be a reflection of Christ, regardless of whether I’m at church or elsewhere.

I’m not entirely sure why, but I’ve found myself thinking about my life now, and how that compares to what my life was like when I was much younger.

In doing that, I’ve wondered, if I was able to give my younger self some advice or information to help them, what would that be. So today I want to share with you another three bits of advise I’d want to give my younger self:

  1. Love, laugh and enjoy life – you only get one chance at it
  2. Spend as much time as possible with those you love, because you never know when it might be the last time you see or speak to them
  3. Forgive and forget as no good can come out of holding grudges

How about you, what advise would you give your younger self?

Other than going to work or school, is there anywhere else you go regularly? e.g. social club, church, fitness class etc.

If you fail to turn up at work or school without letting anyone know you’ll be absent, they get in touch to make sure you’re ok and find out why you failed to turn up when you were supposed to.

How about those other activities you do regularly – If you miss one of them, would anyone notice you weren’t there? Would they be concerned for your well-being? Would someone contact you to make sure you’re ok?

If no-one checks up on you when you don’t attend something you’re supposed to, it can leave you feeling alone and invisible. But let me reassure you, you are definitely not alone, because God is always with you, and He always cares about you.

I’m not entirely sure why, but I’ve found myself thinking about my life now, and how that compares to what my life was like when I was much younger.

In doing that, I’ve wondered, if I was able to give my younger self some advice or information to help them, what would that be. So today I want to share with you another three bits of advise I’d want to give my younger self:

  1. Don’t let work rule your life, there are far more important things in life.
  2. Don’t let others tell you what to do or say, they don’t own you or rule your life.
  3. Pray, pray and pray some more – even when it feels as if God has deserted you

How about you, what advise would you give your younger self?

What’s your trademark?

A trademark is normally a symbol, word, or words legally registered or established by use as representing a company or product. However imagine you could come up with a trademark for yourself.

I wonder whether the trademark you’d come up with would allow others to easily realise it was your trademark.

I pray the way I leave others feeling after any interaction or encounter with me, is a positive one. So I hope my trademark would show others first and foremost that I am a Christian and that I am therefore a trustworthy, compassionate and loving person.

Ever wondered what really matters in our relationships with others?

What counts is what we do today.
No one really remembers anything else.

Our most recent interaction with a person is the one that’ll be foremost in their mind, so make sure your interactions are always good ones – I’m sure we all want to leave a positive impression on others not a negative one!

I’m not entirely sure why, but I’ve found myself thinking about my life now, and how that compares to what my life was like when I was much younger.

In doing that, I’ve wondered, if I was able to give my younger self some advice or information to help them, what would that be. So today I want to share with you three bits of advise I’d want to give my younger self:

  1. Don’t be so concerned about showing your emotions, they show you’re human, and that you care!
  2. Hug those you love and tell them daily how much you love them, as tomorrow is not guaranteed.
  3. Trust God, no matter what situations you’re going through.

How about you, what advise would you give your younger self?