Posts Tagged ‘mental health’

Ever felt like this?

We’ve probably all had days like this. I guess this usually happens when  there’s something or someone on our mind which causes our mind to focus on that/them rather than on where and what we’re meant to be doing.

Have you ever been caught out during one of these times? Maybe someone asked you a question which you didn’t really hear because your mind was elsewhere, but you were aware you’ve been asked something!

Sometimes we probably should not be where we physically are, as we should be with the person or situation our thought are focused on, as they are obviously in need of us. Make sure you make the right decisions to be where and with who you need to be, forget where or what other expect you to do, do what you need to do.

They say it only takes us a few seconds when first meet someone, to form an opinion on them.

This got me thinking about how when we see people on the TV or in photos, even although we can only see a small part or percentage off that person, we jump straight in there and make some very big assumptions about both their physical and their emotional wellbeing.

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In turn this reminds me that even although we can be standing right beside someone, able to see them physically, we cannot see the whole of them, so we really have no idea how they are really feeling either physically or emotionally as many of us “put on a public face” so that those around us never really “see” how we are actually feeling.

So don’t go jumping in there making assumptions about those around you, based on what you see/hear, as we never really know what they are feeling do we?

In Relationships #1#2, #3, #4 and #5, I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.i-love-you
  2. Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.
  3. Love doesn’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and messing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
  4. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own.  Don’t waste your time on jealousy.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
  5. Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
  6. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will.  Stay in touch.
  7. If you love someone, tell them.  Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous.  What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.
  8. Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
  9. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  10. When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back.  It’s one of
    the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.

My personal favourite is #8, because often those small seemingly insignificant acts of kindness and be the huge significant act of love that someone was needing to life their spirits.

I hope that whatever loses you may have faced, you have become stronger for them and have been able to move forward with your life.

We lead very busy and stressful lives these days, but it’s how we handle the stresses and strains we face, that determines how well we cope with life. So today I thought I’d share will you a few tips I read somewhere recently about how to identify you stresses and reduce the impact they have on you:

  1. StressTry to identify what has made to feel stressed.
  2. Share your problems with a friend or family member, as talking about problems will help reduce your stress levels.
  3. Your friends and family will be the people who can help you through stressful times, so make sure you take the time to nourish and build these relationships.
  4. When you’re feeling stressed, don’t just sit back or hide and hope that the stress will pass. Instead, take control of the situation, as by doing this, you will feel more in control of the situation.
  5. Try some relaxation exercises as these may help focus your mind so that you can relax and take control of your stress triggers.

There are counsellors who specialise in help people who area suffering from stress, so it may be worth considering seeing a counsellor to discuss your stress with them.

Stress can often affect your physical well-being as well as your mental well-being, so if you feel your stress is affecting your physical or mental health adversely, please seek medical help from your doctor.

You can find lots of information about counselling at www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk

Following on from yesterday when I spoke about how it’s important not to give up just because we fail, today it’s about whether we actually do anything at all.

How many times have you not bothered doing something because you know someone else would do it plus a lot more? But how do we ever learn or grow if we never try to do a little more than we feel we are capable of?

Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could only do a little ~ Burke

Sometimes it can seem pointless to put in the effort to do something when you know you can only do very little, however imagine the boost it would give you if you managed to do that small amount plus a little bit more! What a mistake that would have been if you’d never put in the effort to your little bit!

Don’t make a mistake by doing nothing when you know you can do something. After all, every little helps doesn’t it?

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drowning2It’s great how we all try to help one another through difficult or troubling situations, however we must be willing to recognise when we are out of our depth.

The person in difficulty may be troubled by something we know nothing about or have no personal experience of.

It’s ok to tell someone that you want to help them but feel their problem is out with your knowledge or expertise to help them. Always offer to introduce them though to someone else who you know can help them better than you could.

Never leave someone in need thinking they are on their own and no-one understands their situation or how they feel, as reassurance I something that is always welcomed by those in need.

In Relationships #1#2, #3 and #4, I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling.  And even more beautiful is knowing that you
    are the reason behind it.i-love-you
  2. The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and
    accepts you at your worst.
  3. If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down. Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
  4. A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.
  5. You don’t really need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.
  6. Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.
  7. To the world, you might be just one person. But to one person, you might be the world.
  8. True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.
  9. The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to move forward is the happiest.
  10. True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.

My personal favourite is #6, simply because of where I am just now and how I’m feeling.

I hope that whatever loses you may have faced, you have become stronger for them and have been able to move forward with your life.

In the past when talking about personal improvement, we used to talk about our strengths and weaknesses. However more recently the terminology has change, so that we now talk about “strengths” and “areas for improvement”.

So bearing this in mind, what are your weaknesses or areas for improvement in your life?

To be strong you must realise your human weakness and have the courage to ask for help from God and your fellow human beings

As the above statement implies, half the battle is actually recognising your own weaknesses, and being strong enough to realise when you need help from someone else to improve yourself. Therefore make sure you not only identify your weaknesses, but also be willing to ask for help, especially from God, to help you improve yourself as a person and achieve all you are capable of achieving.

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I’ve been asked several times in the last week why I sometimes blog about such personal things like my feelings and emotions. Well there is a simple answer, I do it because I think it is important that others going through similar experiences, know they are not alone.

tearsI know from my own experiences that when we are facing difficult situations, it can often seem like no-one else really knows or understands how you feel. I found it such a relief on several occasions when others privately told me they had experienced, or were currently experiencing what I was – It was simply good to know I wasn’t alone.

Our feelings and emotions or if you like, our mental health, are often things which people shy away from, and are almost embarrassed or ashamed to talk about. However, again from personal experience, I’ve found that it can often amaze you when certain people who you never ever would have though faced difficulties/struggles in their life, confide in you.

My aim in my blog posts when I’ve shared some of the struggles (e.g. in my recent post My Struggle – Faith of Family Members) I’ve been facing in my life with my emotions, has been to reassure those of you facing similar struggles, that you are not alone, and your experiences are not unique.

My hope is by sharing some of my experiences I can offer even a little bit of help and reassurance to someone who is struggling with all life has thrown their way.

In Relationships #1#2 and  #3 I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.i-love-you
  2.  Some relationships are like glass.  It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.
  3. Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.
  4. Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.
  5. As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
  6. No relationship is a waste of time.  The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.
  7. Don’t try to be everything to everyone. Be everything to someone.
  8. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  9. Be the friend that you want to have.
  10. Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right.  We do not always need an intelligent mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.

My personal favourites are #7 and #9 – #7 just because it is so special to have someone there for you, just when you need it most, and #9 because I think that’s an excellent reminder to us that if we wouldn’t be friends with ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to want to be friends with us?!

So be someone’s everything by being the kind of friend to them that you yourself would love to have.