Posts Tagged ‘forgive’

Have you ever come across a quote or a picture, which you feel describes you perfectly? Well I came across this picture a few days ago, and it struck a chord with me – I know I have made mistakes in the past which I truly regret, and as I said Spotlight yesterday, I wish I could just delete some of these mistakes from my past, but I can’t.

I know there are those who do treat me in a way that suggests they still hold my past mistakes against me, even though some may have happened a number of years ago. In the last 15 years my life I have faced some life changing situations, and because of that my faith had become stronger than it’s ever been. And because of that I know I am a completely different person now than I was 15 years ago and most definitely a different person than I was 30 years ago. Maybe that’s why this picture struck a chord with me!

Time passes, people change, so forgive those who have hurt you or made mistakes that have affected you in the past. Have a look at yourself, I’m sure you’re not the same person today as you were 10 or 20 years ago, so I’m sure you wouldn’t want others to hold your past mistakes against you, so don’t hold other’s past mistakes against them, forgive and move on.

I shared some thoughts about how critical we are of ourselves a couple of week’s ago, in my blog post called Critic – please have a read of that too.

If someone put a spotlight on you and you had to give them details of every part of your life, would you be comfortable? Or would you be happier if you could delete or omit parts of your life that you’re not proud of, maybe because you’ve said/not said or done/not done something?

No matter how much we wish we could delete parts of our lives that we’re not proud of, we can’t! No matter what these things are, even though we may successfully ‘hide’ them from our others around us, we can never hide them from God.

God doesn’t care what we’ve done in our past, because be cares about us so much that he simply cares about our present and our future. Therefore if God can forgive us of our past indiscretions, we should forgive ourselves, and when we do that the burden of carrying those indiscretions/wrongs is lifted from us.

So let God’s spotlight fall on you, and leave your indiscretions with Him.

We often talk talk about how, as Christians, we must forgive others when they hurt or upset us.

Colossians 3:13 (The Passion Translation)

Tolerate the weaknesses of those in the family of faith, forgiving one another in the same way you have been graciously forgiven by Jesus Christ. If you find fault with someone, release this same gift of forgiveness to them.

But forgiveness isn’t just something we need to offer to others. It can sometimes be easier to forgive others for what they do/say, than for us to forgive ourselves for our mistakes. It’s probably just because we feel we should be more in control of ourselves, our words and our actions, that we have higher expectations of ourselves. However we must treat ourselves just as well as we treat other, by showing ourselves forgiveness.

 

I’ve heard the word grace used a number of times when describing several individuals recently. You may think that’s a strange word to use, but if you knew the people concerned I’m sure you’d agree that they are great examples of God’s grace.

Maybe you don’t know what I mean by that, well let me explain.

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” ~ Ephesians 2:8-10

These verses from the bible describe God’s grace better than I could ever define it. Those who possess God’s grace have the following qualities

  • humble
  • always available and willing to help those in need
  • forgives without question
  • shares their love of God with others
  • supports and encourages others
  • expects nothing in return from anyone
  • show real love to everyone unconditionally

I’m sure there are plenty of other words/phrases you can think of to describe someone you know who are filled with God’s grace.

I pray that I may try to gain some of these characteristics, and in doing so can be become a great example of God’s grace working in someone’s life.

Some things are easy to say, but difficult to put into practice. For me, the statement in this picture are some of those.

There is one part of this statement that I find far more difficult than the rest – can you guess which part that is?

I suspect you’ll not be surprised when I tell you, “A heart that forgives the worst” is what I find the most difficult. I’m human, have many flaws, and yes, when someone really hurts me or those I love, it can be very difficult to forgive them. However I believe forgiving them is what I must do, and so I do try to forgive, though if I’m honest, I do still struggle with this at times.

I pray that we may each be able to say the above prayer sincerely, knowing that God will help us to achieve the goals stated in this prayer.

God forgives us no matter what we’ve done. If God can forgive us of anything, why can we not forgive others when they hurt us?

That makes it sound as if it should be really easy to forgive others, doesn’t? But in reality when someone hurts us really badly it can take incredible strength and character to forgive them and move on or that you can trust them again.

How do we gain that strength and character to be that person? By being a true Christian, after all Jesus told us to:

Jesus said, “Forsake the habit of criticizing and judging others, and then you will not be criticized and judged in return. Don’t look at others and pronounce them guilty, and you will not experience guilty accusations yourself. Forgive over and over and you will be forgiven over and over.” ~ Luke 6:37 (The Passion Translation)

I pray today that God will help each of us to do as Jesus told us, to stop judging and criticising others, but instead forgive them.

“And when you pray, make sure you forgive the faults of others so that your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you withhold forgiveness from others, your Father withholds forgiveness from you.”

Matthew 6:14-15 (The Passion Translation)

In Again and Again yesterday I told you how God forgives us over and over again when we hurt him. But as the above extract from Matthew’s gospel we are reminded that although God is willing to forgive us over and over again, we must give Him something in return – We must also be willing to forgive those who hurt us, even though that can be one of the most difficult things we ever do.

When we forgive others, we act more like Christ, and so we show God that we want to be more like Him. So remember, to be forgiven we must also forgive.

Boldly

Posted: May 20, 2018 in life, music, religion, words
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When we do something boldly, we do it without fear, but with confidence and courage, showing a willingness to take risks.

We know God has forgiven us of all our sins, so I think we have the right to be able to boldly approach Him because of that.

This is the art of celebration
Knowing we’re free from condemnation
Oh praise the One, praise the One
Who made an end to all my sin

So let’s be bold today, and be welcomed into God’s open arms.

Do you believe we can affect the future?

If regret over the past leads us to prayer in the present, then the future will be changed. ~ Susan Lenzkes

Prayer can change the future, because when we pray for forgiveness for our past words or behaviour, it changes who we are. This in turn can change who we are, meaning we can change the future.

So let’s make the future a better place to live, by seeking God’s forgiveness for our sins, so that we can become the people God wants us to be.

When someone hurts you, is it easy to forgive them?

Sometimes it can be easy to forgive someone when it’s obvious they are genuinely sorry for whatever they have said or done to hurt you.

What about when the person who hurt you isn’t sorry?

God forgives us when we do or say things which hurt Him, and so must we – be the bigger person and forgive those who hurt you.