How are you at being told what to do?
I guess it depends who it is that’s telling you what to do, and probably more importantly how they are telling you. i.e. are they telling you in an informative instructional way, or are they they aggressively telling you that you must do something. If I can’t remember something, continually telling me that I must remember is not going to make me suddenly remember the situation in question. And if I’m honest, the more times I’m asked, the less I will try and remember.
How about if you’re told that you must understand instructions someone has given you?
That might seem like an odd question, but if I tell you that I’ve recently been told by someone multiple times that I ‘must understand what they meant, because [they] explained it perfectly’! I don’t know about you, but I know for a fact that no matter how good or bad someone thinks they have explained something to me, I am ultimately the only one who can decide whether I understand their instructions or not! imagine my disbelief when despite explaining to the person that I alone can determine if I understand what they want me to do, that they become aggressive and confrontational, implying that I am deliberately ‘claiming’ I don’t understand just to be unhelpful!
What is it about some people who think they know us better than we know ourselves, even though we’ve known ourselves far longer than they have!
Some people just seem to think that when I question something or seek clarification about things, I’m only doing so to be awkward or unhelpful. And because they think that they prove to me, that they really do not know me very well, as that’s just not the kind of person I am.
In conclusion, if you’re one of those people who does insist others must remember something, or insist that others must understand your instructions, stop and reread this blog post – Only the person concerned can truly say if they actually remember something, or whether they understand your instructions!