Posts Tagged ‘Health’

As many of you will be aware I’ve been off work on sick leave for a number of weeks. As I’ve been unable to do very much I’ve found myself watching TV programmes which I wouldn’t normally watch. What I’ve noticed though in the last two or three weeks is that the focus of the adverts in between programmes has changed – Not only it is now adverts about Christmas, Black Friday deals and bargains but nearly every second advert is one highlighting either people or animals in need of our help by giving a donation to their charity.

While I understand that charities need the public to donate to them so they can continue their work, but really, does there need to be quite so many of these adverts on all day, it really is very depressing. Please don’t think I don’t care about these charities, as that’s not the case – it’s depressing for two reasons:

  • No matter how much I may want to give to each and every charity, there’s no way I can support them all, but they all have an uncanny way of making me feel guilty if I don’t donate!
  • The adverts highlight just how much need there is in this world, and how many awful people there are who are cruel or abusive to people and animals.

Each of these adverts show shocking images of children, adults and animals who’ve been abused or neglected – All designed to pull at our heart-strings and persuade us to donate to their cause. How I wish this world was a better place where no one is abused, homeless, alone, or hungry.

So while these charity adverts are a hard watch, and make me feel guilty, it does remind me of all those who are far less fortunate than I am.

If each of us could give what we can to the charities/causes that we feel are most in need of our help, we can make a difference, and help make this world a better place.

In Relationships #1#2, #3, #4, #5  and #6 I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. i-love-youRelationship is an art.  The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.  ~Don Miguel Ruiz
  2.  Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.  ~Miles Franklin
  3. Having someone wonder where you are when you don’t come home at night is a very old human need.  ~Margaret Mead
  4. Assumptions are the termites of relationships.  ~Henry Winkler
  5. Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.  ~Swedish proverb
  6. Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough.  ~Dinah Shore
  7. Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.  ~Emily Kimbrough
  8. There are days when you need someone who just wants to be your sunshine and not the air you breathe.  ~Robert Brault
  9. Sometimes it is the person closest to us who must travel the furthest distance to be our friend.  ~Robert Brault
  10. Never give up on someone you can’t go a day without thinking about.  ~Author unknown

My personal favourite is #8, because it’s a great reminder to us all that we all suffer trouble in our lives at some time, and when we do, we must try and help ourselves by sharing our troubles with those who love us as if they truly love us, they will give us the love and support we need.

I hope that whenever you suffer times of troubles, you have someone who loves you enough to share you troubles with them.

 ‘There are many rooms in my Father’s home, and I am going to prepare a place for you…..When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am'” ~ John 14:2-4

I can be difficult to cope when our loved ones pass away, however I believe that they pass away when God is ready for them to take their place with Him. Life is about living for Him, doing things He needs us to do in His time, and therefore it should be no great surprise that even death takes place in His time.

Shed a tear when your loved ones leave this world, that’s only natural, but be assured that God has prepared a place for them, with Him.


Some more thoughts for those who have lost loved ones in the Clutha bar tragedy last Friday…

You painted me a picture of tomorrow
A place where you and I walked hand in hand
A world without despair and without shadows
But things just didn’t turn out how we’d planned
Now you’re gone

And I believe that there is somewhere
Where the angels fill the sky
And I believe we’ll live forever
You and I, you and I
Will never die

I wonder if you knew that you were leaving
I thought that I saw something in your eyes
You painted me a picture of believing
I’ll see you there on the other side
And I’ll be there

And I believe that there is somewhere
Where the angels fill the sky
And I believe we’ll live forever
You and I, you and I
Will never die

Life may not have worked out as you expected in these last few days, but be assured that your loved ones who have passed away are looking down on you now. They will live forever in your hearts and minds.

We can live forever because of God, and that I pray will give you hope for today and for the future.

In Relationships #1#2, #3, #4 and #5, I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.i-love-you
  2. Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.
  3. Love doesn’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and messing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
  4. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own.  Don’t waste your time on jealousy.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
  5. Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
  6. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will.  Stay in touch.
  7. If you love someone, tell them.  Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous.  What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.
  8. Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
  9. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  10. When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back.  It’s one of
    the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.

My personal favourite is #8, because often those small seemingly insignificant acts of kindness and be the huge significant act of love that someone was needing to life their spirits.

I hope that whatever loses you may have faced, you have become stronger for them and have been able to move forward with your life.

We lead very busy and stressful lives these days, but it’s how we handle the stresses and strains we face, that determines how well we cope with life. So today I thought I’d share will you a few tips I read somewhere recently about how to identify you stresses and reduce the impact they have on you:

  1. StressTry to identify what has made to feel stressed.
  2. Share your problems with a friend or family member, as talking about problems will help reduce your stress levels.
  3. Your friends and family will be the people who can help you through stressful times, so make sure you take the time to nourish and build these relationships.
  4. When you’re feeling stressed, don’t just sit back or hide and hope that the stress will pass. Instead, take control of the situation, as by doing this, you will feel more in control of the situation.
  5. Try some relaxation exercises as these may help focus your mind so that you can relax and take control of your stress triggers.

There are counsellors who specialise in help people who area suffering from stress, so it may be worth considering seeing a counsellor to discuss your stress with them.

Stress can often affect your physical well-being as well as your mental well-being, so if you feel your stress is affecting your physical or mental health adversely, please seek medical help from your doctor.

You can find lots of information about counselling at

dementia-handsI was disappointed and saddened a few days ago to hear someone who said they had experience of a family member suffering from dementia, say that dementia was simply about memory loss. Yes, it is about memory loss, but it’s also about so much more than that!

While there are still people who consider dementia just to be about memory loss, I don’t think it’ll ever be considered as a serious life-changing and life-threatening illness – We all forget things sometimes, so to me, talking about dementia as simply memory loss, almost seems to trivialise it as we tend to think of those instances when we ourselves have temporarily forgotten something.

From personal experience dementia is so much more than just forgetting things, it’s about the change in their personality – those who have been mild mannered and caring may become aggressive and angry; it’s about no longer being able to care for and look after yourself; it’s about no longer understanding that you have to eat and drink to live.

For me one of the worst things was seeing the fear in their eyes of my Dad and Aunt Mae as they realised what is happening to them, knowing they could do nothing to stop the illness take over their lives. Forget a few thing doesn’t do that to anyone, dementia does, and it’s heart wrenching.

Here’s just some of the symptoms dementia suffers may experience, not all suffers experience all these symptoms but they will definitively experience some…you can see at a glance it’s more than just about forgetting things!

  • increasing difficulties with tasks and activities that require concentration and planning
  • memory loss
  • depression
  • changes in personality and mood e.g. A person who was previously withdrawn may become very outgoing, or vice versa; a quite mild mannered person my become loud and aggressive.
  • periods of mental confusion
  • wandering during the night
  • aggression
  • low attention span
  • believing in things that are not true
  • slower movement,
  • shaking and trembling of arms and legs
  • shuffling while walking,
  • problems sleeping
  • visual hallucinations
  • compulsive behaviour,
  • speaking far less than usual, or not speaking at all,
  • having problems finding the right words to express themselves

I hope you never have to cope with anyone in your family or any friends suffer from dementia because it really is a cruel illness – I’ve been there and witnessed it first hand with several very close family members, and therefore have seen first hand how it affects not only the sufferer but their family and friends too…it’s awful.

Please always remember, dementia is  not just about forgetting a few things, it’s about so much more!

Following on from yesterday when I spoke about how it’s important not to give up just because we fail, today it’s about whether we actually do anything at all.

How many times have you not bothered doing something because you know someone else would do it plus a lot more? But how do we ever learn or grow if we never try to do a little more than we feel we are capable of?

Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could only do a little ~ Burke

Sometimes it can seem pointless to put in the effort to do something when you know you can only do very little, however imagine the boost it would give you if you managed to do that small amount plus a little bit more! What a mistake that would have been if you’d never put in the effort to your little bit!

Don’t make a mistake by doing nothing when you know you can do something. After all, every little helps doesn’t it?


Regardless of whether we mean to or not, I’m sure we are all sometimes guilty of judging others based on their appearance.

Why is that though? Is it because we live in an ages when so many seem to value their physical appearance? Is it because we can’t see past people s’ outward appearance and see what’s within them?

Thankfully, God doesn’t judge us by what we look like, as he sees cares about what’s within our heart.

How about you, do you take the time to see what’s within a person’s heart before you judge them, or do you simply go on someone’s outward appearance?


Less Like Scars by Sara Groves

It’s been a hard year
But I’m climbing out of the rubble
These lessons are hard
Healing changes are subtle
But every day it’s

Less like tearing, more like building
Less like captive, more like willing
Less like breakdown, more like surrender
Less like haunting, more like remember

And I feel you here
And you’re picking up the pieces
Forever faithful
It seemed out of my hands, a bad situation
But you are able
And in your hands the pain and hurt
Look less like scars and more like character

Less like a prison, more like my room
It’s less like a casket, more like a womb
Less like dying, more like transcending
Less like fear, less like an ending

And I feel you here
And you’re picking up the pieces
Forever faithful
It seemed out of my hands, a bad situation
But you are able
And in your hands the pain and hurt
Look less like scars

Just a little while ago
I couldn’t feel the power or the hope
I couldn’t cope, I couldn’t feel a thing
Just a little while back
I was desperate, broken, laid out, hoping
You would come

And I need you
And I want you here
And I feel you

And I know you’re here
And you’re picking up the pieces
Forever faithful
It seemed out of my hands, a bad, bad situation
But you are able

And in your hands the pain and hurt
 Look less like scars [x3]

And more like character

Yes, as the above song says, it’s been a tough year for me. Having said that, it is getting a little easier, although I most definitely still have some very tough days, when I feel as if my world has fallen apart, not just because of the death of both my Dad and my Aunt Mae, but also because other events and developments this year.

What keeps me going? Sometimes, if I’m honest, I don’t really know what gets me through each day. Other times I am sure it’s because of those around me. I know that know matter what kind of day I’m having, and what kind of challenges I’m facing, God is with me and helping me, and help to heal my wounds.

If your life seems full of open wounds, turn to God, He can help heal your wounds.